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Post by tinydancer on May 31, 2017 19:48:33 GMT -6
I was always told that the IUD shouldn't make sex hurt but I had a similar issue and was so glad to get rid of that damn thing. I swear I could feel it in certain positions. Do you have other options you can consider and get the IUD out? Oh yeah that wasn't clear... The iud has been out for 6 years. Sex has been painful for 7 ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ‘¿ðŸ˜¶ Agreed that this is something to ask your doctor about. This doesn't seem like something you should have to live with.
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Post by kcrkcs on May 31, 2017 20:06:08 GMT -6
I was always told that the IUD shouldn't make sex hurt but I had a similar issue and was so glad to get rid of that damn thing. I swear I could feel it in certain positions. Do you have other options you can consider and get the IUD out? Oh yeah that wasn't clear... The iud has been out for 6 years. Sex has been painful for 7 ðŸ˜ðŸ˜ðŸ‘¿ðŸ˜¶ Interesting... I have never heard of this. Off to google. ETA the pelvic floor specialist is what I am off to google because apparently i quotd myself. I think I need to quit the internet for tonight because apparently it's beyond my capacity.
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Post by tez on Jun 1, 2017 5:09:47 GMT -6
Just catching up on this thread and baby started crying so I want to at least say thank you all for opening up. I am right there with you. From what I've read, I'm going to try to suck it up and "just do it". Sure it will feel like a chore, but way less work than being a single parent.
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Post by pinktartan9 on Jun 1, 2017 5:19:58 GMT -6
Hi ladies,
I also want to say thanks for opening up. I think everyone in this group is amazing. I only have DD and we are trying for #2 and my cycle has been a little erratic so sex EOD, hubs is not complaining. That said, sometimes I am too tired as well and just don't want to turn it on so I can only imagine how hard it must be with more than 1 child.
One thing that I find helps with my body issues (as well as I guess helps with the "mood") is lingerie. H says it's a waste of money but I know deep down he likes it and for me, it helps lift the girls and sort of covers a few problem areas but def makes me feel better and sexier.
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Post by lollipop on Jun 1, 2017 10:26:52 GMT -6
pinktartan I find the opposite with lingerie. It tends to make me feel even fatter. I think partly because there aren't many places around here that sell lingerie for someone bigger.
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Post by dizzycooks on Jun 1, 2017 12:48:09 GMT -6
pinktartan9 I just threw out several pieces of lingerie. When am I going to wear that? So much easier to explain sweats to a child than the flimsy clothes left about my room...maybe my theory is wrong. I am planning on buying a dress or two, a cute lingerie item and possibly a swim suit, for our upcoming vacation. I told dh I want to wear things I can't when the kids are with us (I'm looking at you sundresses) and I want to feel like an adult. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by crimsonandclover on Jun 6, 2017 3:22:03 GMT -6
dizzycooks, I only wear lingerie for about 30 min beforehand. Then before going to bed I change into regular pajamas for the night. But dd1 did see them hanging in my closet once and said, "mama, these dresses are so pretty! You should wear them!" Lol And another thing I've realized is that I'm definitely more in the mood the few days before ovulating. Usually it's not possible to take advantage of that during the week (DH working late or I have to get up at 5 the next morning), but when it's on the weekends I try to make use of the hormones Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk
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Post by pinktartan9 on Jun 6, 2017 5:10:41 GMT -6
crimsonandclover same here.. I'm not sleeping in that stuff. Too constricting. dizzycooks I hear you on that... if I don't put stuff away, DD is for sure going to notice it and play with it. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by scorpioscuba on Jun 6, 2017 9:37:46 GMT -6
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Post by lollipop on Jun 6, 2017 10:21:12 GMT -6
H doesn't care about fancy lingerie. As long as I'm showing a bit of skin he's happy lol. I wear baggy t-shirts to bed for the most part, but I also have a couple of shorts and tank top sets that I find comfy and H finds sexy. And they're not so skimpy that I can't wear them around the house.
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Post by copperboom on Jun 7, 2017 23:06:52 GMT -6
Hi ladies, I'm FKA Gizmo.
I agree that marriage after kids is hard as hell. We hit a low, packing bags to leave point before DD2 was in the plans. I will say that knowing what to expect has helped isince DD2. We know when we struggle most and that it usually passes.
I'm also going to be the odd one out in that I am the one in my marriage who wants more than I am getting, and it has been that way since long before kids. I want to say, all of the things you do to try to make it work are amazing and hopefully it is something that's going to smooth out over time. Not feeling wanted by my husband has been the most difficult aspect of our marriage. I finally told him that a sexless marriage is a deal breaker for me. Years of talking around that point had let him avoid or minimize the issue. In the last year things have gotten better, but we have 8 years of damage to work through and i still am not at a place where I will initiate sex because I cannot handle the rejection if he's not up for it.
Just keep working on your marriage, tell your h what you're feeling, make sure he knows it isn't him.
God, what a post to come back on.
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Post by theoprah on Jun 16, 2017 13:17:23 GMT -6
Hello! It's me, 14joa31 ! I'm sitting in our new home office, which is basically full of unpacked boxes ... but I'm here!
DH's love language is physical touch so we have sex once or twice a week - usually Friday and Saturday night. I am extremely Type A so I need to plan it in advance and I HATE spontaneous sex - lol! DH is on board with scheduling it, Thank God! It sounds like you ladies are finding out what works best for you!
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