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Post by babyhopes on Oct 23, 2017 18:20:15 GMT -6
Welcome to the IVF check-in for October 23! Check-ins will be every Monday (babyhopes) and Thursday (bonzo). If we've left you off the check-in, or if you'd like to be added or removed, please let us know! This is a check-in for those who are doing IVF or FET. Please don’t hesitate to use this check-in for IVF/FET info and support even if you’re not currently cycling. If you are interested in joining, please fill us in on your cycle. Everyone is welcome. Also, please update us along the way! Asterisks will appear by your name if you do not update us in a check-in. After four consecutive asterisks (2 weeks), you will be removed from the list. Don’t fret if you are removed from the list, check in again and we will add you back. Once you get a strong repeat beta, congrats! We eagerly await your 3TIF Grad Check-In posts! We encourage you to intro on PAIF, and while here in the meantime, please consistently use warning tags in posts and siggies, and be mindful of your status, especially on 3TIF outside this check-in. To hide content behind a spoiler tag use (without the spaces) [ spoiler = Spoiler ] Hidden content here! [ / spoiler ] QOTW: What is your favorite fall activity? Autumn Squirrel Image: BFP! Congratulations! birch113, So many congrats! <3 BFN ((Hugs)) PUPO! Congratulations! Rooting for all of you! Cycle Complete (ER only/testing) Between ER and ET jense927, GL tomorrow. Stimming/FET Main Prep bananas22, Yay! Hope your transfer goes well. happyin14, FX your follies keep growing. Hang in there. Waiting to Cycle fikafairy, Hope you're doing well. skidevil87, Good luck starting Lupron. bonzo, GL with your appointment Friday. hoosiermama76, Hope you had an amazing vacation. GL with baseline Friday. twohopes, Hope you're doing well. babyhopes, prepping for biopsy Wednesday |
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Post by babyhopes on Oct 23, 2017 18:21:21 GMT -6
Nothing new here. Going for my ERA Wednesday. After that, I'll wait for AF and then start patches again.
Anyone want to take over the Monday check-in?
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Post by skidevil87 on Oct 23, 2017 18:43:37 GMT -6
I gave myself my first lupron injection tonight. I used an ice pack, but I think within the next couple of days I'll be able to discontinue use of the ice pack. I couldn't even feel the injection. I was pleasantly surprised!
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Post by twohopes on Oct 23, 2017 19:01:02 GMT -6
Not much happening here. Losing weight, waiting on hysteroscopy on Nov 10.
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Post by happyin14 on Oct 23, 2017 20:11:58 GMT -6
Hi! Back for monitoring tomorrow and reeeeaaaaalllly hoping they say it’s time to trigger.
QOTW: apple picking! And cider donuts.
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Post by happyin14 on Oct 23, 2017 20:13:09 GMT -6
I gave myself my first lupron injection tonight. I used an ice pack, but I think within the next couple of days I'll be able to discontinue use of the ice pack. I couldn't even feel the injection. I was pleasantly surprised! I was so scared of injections but they really aren’t bad at all. I have now given myself injections in a restaurant bathroom and my car. Which is SHOCKING to me. I used to be terrified of needles. |
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Post by happyin14 on Oct 24, 2017 5:53:10 GMT -6
No trigger today but “probably” tomorrow. Oy.
I’m gonna put all energy into growing follies for the next 24 hours. And assume a retrieval on either my son’s bday or his party (sob) is a good sign.
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Post by fikafairy on Oct 24, 2017 7:14:07 GMT -6
nothing new here, except the wedding this weekend was a disaster. {trigger - lost DD mentioned}BIL had a portion of the ceremony where lost family members were all mentioned by name, and even had a memory table with photos.
DD was not mentioned, she was not on the table. We were obviously very upset but didn't want to make a scene at the wedding, so we left after dinner. BIL didn't say goodbye to us, only brand-new SIL did. DH told his dad why we were upset and leaving as we were walking out, and he said essentially nothing. We were then mostly ignored at breakfast the following morning, and NOTHING was said by anyone.
I'm so angry. It's feeling pretty deliberate that she was left off at this point, and everyone is such a coward that they won't say anything to us.
I'm not going to allow my DD to not be remembered, and if she doesn't matter enough to DH's family to be counted or remembered with everyone else - either by accident or on purpose - then I'm done. She's just as much my child as DS is, and any other children we bring home in the future. According to DH we are skipping holidays with them this year (again... not the first time they have turned into giant jerks) and won't be going back until someone in his family grows a pair and apologizes.
MIL will find a way to make it my fault we aren't going, but I don't even care anymore. rant over. tl;dr; spoiler - DH's family are all asshats, and we are done with them. |
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Post by jense927 on Oct 24, 2017 8:51:47 GMT -6
fikafairy ugh I am so so sorry that DH family acted that way. I don't understand how people can be so heartless. I mean it's one thing to not understand what you guys need but for his dad not to react after you laid it out there is something else. ((Hugs)) you do what is best for you and your family and if that is being done with them so be it. happyin14 I am rooting for your follies to speed it up! I hope you don't have to miss his party  skidevil87 glad the injections aren't so bad! I've gotten so used to them by now its like okay bring it on lets do this. When I first started I was so scared it took me 3 hours to work up the courage to do it. babyhopes good luck at the ERA. Transfer this morning went smoothly! Transferred a 3AA embryo. I have a picture and it looks nice and pretty. I am really really hoping this works because it looks like we may not have any other embryos left to freeze I am so disappointed. They are following 2 until tomorrow and will let us know but I just have a feeling they won't make it. All of this work and we may not be able to PGS any embryos. Ugh. I am trying so hard to stay positive for the one we transferred this morning but it is hard.
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Post by fikafairy on Oct 24, 2017 9:11:30 GMT -6
jense927, glad the transfer went well! I will keep my fingers crossed for your remaining embryos!
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Post by daisy818 on Oct 24, 2017 9:19:59 GMT -6
jense927, glad your transfer went well - FX so hard for you! And FX for your two that they are still watching.
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Post by birch113 on Oct 24, 2017 11:23:50 GMT -6
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Post by happyin14 on Oct 24, 2017 12:47:59 GMT -6
fikafairy, that’s awful. As you know, I get it. Lost children make people so uncomfortable and it’s dumb. Like i imagine a conversation about “what will people think? How will we answer?” And it becomes about them and not your daughter. I always cringe when things like this come up for me... I so, so want people to remember Jack. It really stings when they don’t. ❤️❤️
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Post by fikafairy on Oct 24, 2017 14:28:55 GMT -6
happyin14, exactly. I so, so want our family to remember and count Kristina as a family member, because she DID exist and she WAS here, just not for long. If they had the conversation ahead of time with us, I wouldn't be this upset. Similarly, if once they realized the omission made us that upset, they apologized for leaving her out (either unintentionally, or trying to avoid us being triggered) then it would be fine too. But either one of two things is happening now - either she was deliberately left out because BIL/SIL and everyone involved in the memory table didn't find her worth remembering and left her out intentionally because she doesn't "count", or they just don't care that it hurt us to have her left out. So until they apologize or at least acknowledge the effect it had on us, I'm done. They are very frequently inconsiderate and needlessly judgmental, and DH's relationship with most of them has been strained at one point or another, so them acting like this isn't a terrible shock to us sadly.
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Post by bananas22 on Oct 24, 2017 14:58:53 GMT -6
babyhopes, Hope your ERA goes smoothly on tomorrow skidevil87, Glad the Lupron shot wasn't as bad as you thought. All the shots scared me at first but I was amazed at how quickly I got used to them. twohopes, Good work! happyin14, I hope you trigger soon! I'm sorry the timing isn't working out well. fikafairy, I'm so sorry. It hurts because Kristina is and will always be your DD. I wish people would realize that it hurts more when our children aren't recognized even if it's hard. jense927, Yay! Glad it went well. FX for your little embie and that your others will make it to freeze. daisy818 and birch113, FX for good second betas for both of you! I'm PUPO! Transfer went smoothly this morning and we put back one hatching embryo. It was so crazy to watch the whole process. And I have a pretty sweet picture of my little embryo  .
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Post by happyin14 on Oct 24, 2017 19:31:10 GMT -6
fikafairy, this doesn’t help really.... but I’ll bet it was a decision about making others uncomfortable. And that’s crap. I hope they decide to talk to you and give you a chance to weigh in. Like they could have picked something symbolic. Or... just some way. Anyway, again. I’m sorry. You have every right to be upset.
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Post by birch113 on Oct 25, 2017 5:36:19 GMT -6
babyhopes good luck today!!! Have you heard about the letrozole protocol for FET? It was just discussed on a podcast I listen to. My understanding is it’s a newer protocol that helps to build a better lining. Disclaimer: I haven’t had a chance to research beyond the podcast.
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Post by bonzo on Oct 25, 2017 7:38:16 GMT -6
babyhopes, good luck today! skidevil87, glad the shots aren't too bad! twohopes, I hope you have some fun plans to help keep busy until November! The waiting goes by so much faster when there are other things to focus on. happyin14, FX you trigger tonight! fikafairy, I'm so sorry your ILs are so inconsiderate. I can't imagine how hard it must have been to sit through that portion of the ceremony. jense927, congrats on being PUPO! FX for the other embryos! bananas22, congrats on being PUPO! My sister left yesterday, so now it's back to regular life for a bit. H's birthday was Monday. It made me feel a bit sad, because he is 31 now and he had always talked about wanting to have our first kid before 30. Just another milestone in the journey of IF laughing at our plans. I'm glad I was distracted by fun activities all weekend so I couldn't dwell on the sad feelings!
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Post by jense927 on Oct 25, 2017 7:57:40 GMT -6
The other two did not make it to freeze The thought of another fresh cycle is too much to think about right now. I just really hope this embryo takes... daisy818, if you don't mind me asking; Did your RE give any thoughts on why none of yours made it to freeze? I am sure I will have this conversation with my RE but I was just curious. |
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Post by happyin14 on Oct 25, 2017 9:19:39 GMT -6
The other two did not make it to freeze The thought of another fresh cycle is too much to think about right now. I just really hope this embryo takes... daisy818, if you don't mind me asking; Did your RE give any thoughts on why none of yours made it to freeze? I am sure I will have this conversation with my RE but I was just curious. [ Sorry. That sucks. I’m gonna REALLY hope you are set. |
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Post by happyin14 on Oct 25, 2017 9:20:42 GMT -6
I am NOT gonna trigger tonight. But, if my hormone levels hold even, i won’t trigger tomorrow either. Stubborn follicles won’t grow. I’m starting to get worried. Day 13 and they’d like me to go at least 2 more days...
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Post by jense927 on Oct 25, 2017 9:21:36 GMT -6
I am NOT gonna trigger tonight. But, if my hormone levels hold even, i won’t trigger tomorrow either. Stubborn follicles won’t grow. I’m starting to get worried. Day 13 and they’d like me to go at least 2 more days... Oh man...what range of sizes do you have right now? |
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Post by happyin14 on Oct 25, 2017 9:50:26 GMT -6
The one large one couldn’t be seen so he thinks maybe it wasn’t really a large one. We are mostly in the 14-16 range now. So baking 2 more days is a good idea, if hormones will hold.
I have one 18, I think. But the rest are all 14-16 or smaller, actually. On the right, a lot of 12’s.
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Post by daisy818 on Oct 25, 2017 9:54:57 GMT -6
jense927, I'm so so sorry that neither made it to freeze - it's such a terrible feeling. But I'm keeping my fingers crossed for your transfer to stick!! I haven't talked to the RE about it yet in detail about what happened with mine (I haven't actually seen him in person since the transfer) but the embryologist said that mine just started drastically slowing down after day 3; at day 3, I had 20 that looked great and were right on track, and even day 5 they were still watching 8-10 to possibly freeze on day 6. She said that it could really have been an egg issue (esp. the mitochondria, since it seemed like they just ran out of steam), a sperm issue, or an embryo issue (which is to say, she didn't much narrow it down). She did say that my estrogen numbers were somewhat low given how many eggs they got, and that they didn't actually expect to get that many based on my E2, so that may have played a role? I have an appointment next week with the RE and will hopefully get more of his thoughts on it.
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Post by jense927 on Oct 25, 2017 10:06:45 GMT -6
Thanks daisy818 that is very helpful. It's good to know there can be more at play than just an egg quality issue which is all I could think of. |
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Post by birch113 on Oct 25, 2017 12:13:29 GMT -6
bonzo (((hugs))) those milestones are so hard. jense927 I’m so sorry the other two didn’t make it. Fx for you. Are you beta or bust? happyin14 I’m sorry for the delay. That is so frustrating. Fx the extra time does the trick for you.
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Post by birch113 on Oct 25, 2017 12:21:38 GMT -6
AFM My Beta was 445.8, so it’s more than doubled. I’m thrilled, but given my loss history, I know this is also just the beginning. I understand at this point I have to step away, but it’s so hard. I don’t know that I could have gone through this process without all of your knowledge and support. You’ve been my sanity and have made me smile on my darker days. I’ll be stalking the crap out of all of you and cheering you all on. 💞 |
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Post by happyin14 on Oct 25, 2017 13:05:54 GMT -6
Update. I ovulated. Largest follicle was a follicle after all and it’s gone.
Estrogen down slightly. Progesterone up. Lining down which is fine because I’m not doing a fresh transfer.
We will do two more days of drugs and see what happens. But might have cycle canceled on Friday.
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Post by bananas22 on Oct 25, 2017 16:07:56 GMT -6
happyin14, I'm so sorry. I hope they can still retrieve the remaining follicles. I'm not very familiar of the impacts of ovulation on a ER cycle. jense927, I'm sorry the rest of your embryos didn't make it to freeze. Sending good thoughts that your little one is a fighter. birch113, Yay! So happy to hear your news! Congrats!
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Post by daisy818 on Oct 25, 2017 16:44:25 GMT -6
{Spoiler}Finally heard back about my second betas today - 3066, which is a few hundred better than where we needed them to be! Now that I have a second beta under my belt, I'll transition into lurking status, but I will be cheering you all on!! |
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