How did you decide whether to find out or be team green?

[sammichcat]

How did you decided whether to find out or be team green?

[tincupchalice]

DH refuses to even discuss names until we know because it would be "too hard" to pick a boy name and a girl name. I don't feel that strongly so we find out.

[robot]

It’s never been a question to us. I’m all about the more info the better. If DH wanted a surprise I’d probably still have to find out because I think I’m physically incapable of not knowing.

[ajm]

Pretty much what robot said. I like to plan, so I would need to know even if DH didn't want to know.

[Lord Disick]

Oct 21, 2017 21:11:25 GMT -6 robot said:

It’s never been a question to us. I’m all about the more info the better. If DH wanted a surprise I’d probably still have to find out because I think I’m physically incapable of not knowing.

Same.

[MauLoaM0M]

I am a planner and I need to know all I can. For my first I couldn't imagine buying gender neutral things if I needed pink or blue things. For this one, I have all boy things but if this is a girl I need lots of purple and pink

[armpants]

I'm a major planner, but I really enjoyed being team green. I don't get into doing all girl stuff or all boy stuff. I already knew the nursery theme we would use or either sex. Kid had a ton of clothes. I actually still buy things for M from the girls section. He wore both not and girl items when he was a baby, I just have no fucks to give about that. I honestly can't think of a single thing we didn't have ready due to gender.

H was totally on-board, so that made it easier for sure. It was also fun to see people's reactions when we told them we didn't know. It was also nice that as what I had hoped for my labor disappeared we were still able to keep H telling me the sex.

[budders]

I am a planner, but I also feel like there is SO much that you know about the baby leading up to going to the birth. I like the idea of having something that’s unknown until the moment you meet the baby.

We ended up finding out for our first because H felt very strongly that knowing the sex would help him envision the baby and feel more connected, which I respected. This time around I am still pushing team green (H still really wants to know), but I’m actually the one feeling like I need something to connect me a little more this time around. So we may find out.

[jessila]

I'm a planner and felt that there was so much out of my control with having a baby. You know they are a tiny human but not much else. Knowing that O was a boy made me feel like I knew something tangible about him. We took quite awhile after to agree on his name.

H hates surprises so I knew he'd want to know.

Also, it was literally the first thing we saw at his A/S scan. I don't think that the tech could have hidden it. I knew he was a boy immediately.

So now we have all boy stuff (in the right season) and if we're having a girl I will need to buy many things with ruffle butts.

[leo91]

I am also a planner and have 0 patience for waiting so we will find out again. My OB does optional gender scans at 15 weeks so we will probably do that again since I don't have the patience to wait until the A/S. And it'll be right at Christmas time so that'll be a nice little gift!

[tinyjoys]

I'm a planner, but still bought lots of gender neutral with my oldest, just because we planned on having more kids. H & I talk names all the time anyway, as one catches our eye, pregnant or not. We just talk more seriously once the stick turns pink.

We have both already & we've found out both times before, so since this is the last, we're going team green. H wasn't totally sold initially, but he's come around & is excited to be the one to tell me.

[Speedy]

I'm horrible at waiting for surprises, and MH doesn't care, so we'll be finding out. However, outside of us and probably my BFF, no one else will know, if I can keep it from slipping out lol

[Deleted]

I want to be surprised. I need to plan and be in control of everything else, and I want to let go and just have one really cool surprise. It doesn’t affect anything but clothes and nursery decorations, and DS never slept in his until he was almost 9 months anyway.

[lily]

We found out the first time because I felt there were so many unknowns with a first baby it was nice to have one thing for sure.

Considering team green this time because I think it might make the moment of meeting baby earthside a little more special. But it’s not like it wasn’t special with DS so... yeah, undecided.

[jorkzy]

We found out the first 2 times because I am impatient and wanted to plan things - though in the end they both ended up with pretty neutral nurseries.

This time I feel strongly that I don't want to find out. I want that delivery room "It's a girl/boy!!" experience. I already have girl and boy clothes, a crib from before, and most gear. We'll need a new bucket seat and swing but those are generally neutral anyways.

[adeline]

For those of you having your third and you already have one of each, that’s the perfect team green scenario!

A friend just did this but totally saw the gender accidentally at the anatomy scan anyway so she pretty much knew it was a boy ha ha.

I’m finding out again because of the bonding factor. It felt wonderful to speak to DD and call her by her name (in private with DH) to bond with a real human. I feel like I need that even more this time around to make it feel real.

So excited to know so we can start picturing her/him and using the name occasionally (out of DD’s earshot!)

[sammichcat]

I wanted to be team green last time, but H really wanted to know. This time, H thinks he wants to do team green so I'm probably on board.

However, I'm extremely emotional when pregnant so I'm worried I'll be irrationally upset if a random nurse screws up our special Romantic plan.

[charliefox]

I'm with robot , I have to know. Luckily H does too. Mostly because I'm a planner, but I also think it helped us both bond with DS before he was born.

DS had a long and then traumatic entry into the world so there wouldn't have been a "magical" moment where we found out whether he was a boy or girl. It would have been lost in the chaos and I would have felt even worse having him whisked away to the NICU without even knowing what name to use. I know that's a total downer but it's reality.

[daffodilsandcoffee]

Oct 22, 2017 20:46:41 GMT -6 charliefox said:

I'm with robot , I have to know. Luckily H does too. Mostly because I'm a planner, but I also think it helped us both bond with DS before he was born.

DS had a long and then traumatic entry into the world so there wouldn't have been a "magical" moment where we found out whether he was a boy or girl. It would have been lost in the chaos and I would have felt even worse having him whisked away to the NICU without even knowing what name to use. I know that's a total downer but it's reality.

Mine is similar. Except I was the one whisked away to the icu. Im so glad I got to call him by name. I really thought I was going to die; being in that position without knowing who he was would have been excruciating.

[wineallthetime]

We love being tram green! I love finding out when they hold the baby up. We never really questioned if we'd find out.

[twoblackcats]

We were team green with our first...I just always knew I wanted that surprise. DH was on board.

This time around, I think I want to find out and I don't know if DH will or not.

[charliefox]

Oct 23, 2017 5:11:47 GMT -6 daffodilsandcoffee said:

Oct 22, 2017 20:46:41 GMT -6 charliefox said:

I'm with robot , I have to know. Luckily H does too. Mostly because I'm a planner, but I also think it helped us both bond with DS before he was born.

DS had a long and then traumatic entry into the world so there wouldn't have been a "magical" moment where we found out whether he was a boy or girl. It would have been lost in the chaos and I would have felt even worse having him whisked away to the NICU without even knowing what name to use. I know that's a total downer but it's reality.

Mine is similar. Except I was the one whisked away to the icu. Im so glad I got to call him by name. I really thought I was going to die; being in that position without knowing who he was would have been excruciating.

Hugs, daffodilsandcoffee, I know how tough it can be. It's one of the many things I'm jaded about now, I wouldn't wish an experience like that on anyone.

[fatpony]

I was always team green, but after trying for so long, we just want all the info.

[Risscaboobs]

I like to know for planning and bonding.

[kookie3631]

We were team green last time and will be again this time. I feel like it's one of life's biggest surprises and I just loved having DH tell me in the delivery room who our little one was when DD was born.

[daisy818]

It was never really a question - we both always knew we wanted to find out. Plus I think it's going to be a challenge to pick out a name, so I can't imagine trying to figure out two!

[cupcakecutiern]

We were team green with the first and will be with this one. I loved the surprise with the first. And we have two girls and not sure I want to deal with an potential gender disappointment if it’s a third girl from Dh. He’s totally ok with a third girl. I know he’d love a boy, but really is great with the girls. I just think that the disappointment would be short lived when holding the baby in your arms as opposed to thinking about it for months. It’s also one of the few true surprises we have left.