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Post by mimsy on Oct 11, 2017 8:32:08 GMT -6
I'm resurrecting this. I feel like given the state some of us are in mentally, physically and/or emotionally; we could use a pick me up or just a place for self care ideas.
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Post by stringy on Oct 11, 2017 10:23:13 GMT -6
Deleting fb from my phone was great. I haven't added it back. Or tapa - but I've come on here on a computer. Which means I'll be scarce when not at work. I really should be scarce when at work, though.
I've survived P spending a night away from me. I'll go get her in a few hours.
Honestly, for anyone contemplating it, therapy is amazing. I've been going for about two months and only now am actually trusting and really opening up - but damn connecting the dots of things is pretty powerful. So its also scary and painful - but if nothing else you have someone listen to you talk about you and your complaints and worries and thoughts - which doesn't happen at length in regular life.
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Post by mimsy on Oct 11, 2017 11:10:08 GMT -6
A and I had gotten into the habit of doing shots on the weekend. As these things go, the number increased and it was getting to the point of me not remembering parts of what we were doing in the evenings after S went to sleep. So I decided that I wouldn't be drinking like that on the weekend anymore. It's not safe, it's not healthy and I don't want to put myself in that position anymore.
It's one thing to enjoy a drink or have a fun bit of drinking every now and again; but it was getting out of hand and I needed to scale back.
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Post by stringy on Oct 11, 2017 11:33:41 GMT -6
A and I had gotten into the habit of doing shots on the weekend. As these things go, the number increased and it was getting to the point of me not remembering parts of what we were doing in the evenings after S went to sleep. So I decided that I wouldn't be drinking like that on the weekend anymore. It's not safe, it's not healthy and I don't want to put myself in that position anymore. It's one thing to enjoy a drink or have a fun bit of drinking every now and again; but it was getting out of hand and I needed to scale back. Is A scaling back too or is he going to be encouraging?
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Post by Speedy on Oct 11, 2017 11:38:55 GMT -6
I think I mentioned that I started seeing a psychologist last week? He had recommended an app called Insight Timer. I haven't explored too much, but it's got guided meditation and relaxation. I found one that works for me for now and I've been listening to it and I know some people might think it's new agey, but I'm not sure when the last time was that I felt that relaxed.
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Post by stringy on Oct 11, 2017 11:53:31 GMT -6
I think I mentioned that I started seeing a psychologist last week? He had recommended an app called Insight Timer. I haven't explored too much, but it's got guided meditation and relaxation. I found one that works for me for now and I've been listening to it and I know some people might think it's new agey, but I'm not sure when the last time was that I felt that relaxed. lol, mine totally recommended that app too. I downloaded it a while ago but haven't used it once. whoops.
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Post by Speedy on Oct 11, 2017 12:00:03 GMT -6
I think I mentioned that I started seeing a psychologist last week? He had recommended an app called Insight Timer. I haven't explored too much, but it's got guided meditation and relaxation. I found one that works for me for now and I've been listening to it and I know some people might think it's new agey, but I'm not sure when the last time was that I felt that relaxed. lol, mine totally recommended that app too. I downloaded it a while ago but haven't used it once. whoops. Lol. I used it at work a couple of times. For some reason when I have to serve snack at night my anxiety gets super bad and I get irrationality angry at everything. So I popped an ativan and turned on some meditation and it calmed me down a lot sooner than I would have otherwise.
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Post by sassyq on Oct 11, 2017 12:35:44 GMT -6
I made myself a spread in my bullet journal to write one thing I did just for me each day this month. So far I've only filled in two days, and both were a shower in the evening. I wanted it to be a bath, but I couldn't bring myself to ask dh to handle the kids while I did something as frivolous as take a bath. I can't seem to figure out how to take care of myself. I've also accomplished almost nothing this month. It's frustrating.
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Post by milano on Oct 11, 2017 12:49:50 GMT -6
Exercising regularly has helped my mental state a little bit. It's not really a break from the kids, because a majority of the time one or both of them are watching/"helping" me. But the consistency and feeling of sticking to a schedule is helpful.
Next week I'm getting my hair done, out of town, so that will be a fun "me" day. I'll drop J off at preschool and let MH handle the kids the rest of the day.
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Post by mintyblueair on Oct 11, 2017 12:50:10 GMT -6
I'd like to start seeing a therapist or psychologist to help me cope with stress. I saw two different people a few months ago after I talked to my doctor about possible depression. I went to a free service and you basically see a different person each time. I didn't like that, and I also didn't like the two people I saw. I guess I just didn't feel like I was listened to by either one and they were treating me like a "type".
How did you guys who see a therapist find one you liked? If I start paying out of pocket I can see myself wasting a lot of money just trying to find one person I have some rapport with. The money aspect makes me reluctant to start looking.
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Post by Dramaphile on Oct 11, 2017 12:59:44 GMT -6
I'd like to start seeing a therapist or psychologist to help me cope with stress. I saw two different people a few months ago after I talked to my doctor about possible depression. I went to a free service and you basically see a different person each time. I didn't like that, and I also didn't like the two people I saw. I guess I just didn't feel like I was listened to by either one and they were treating me like a "type". How did you guys who see a therapist find one you liked? If I start paying out of pocket I can see myself wasting a lot of money just trying to find one person I have some rapport with. The money aspect makes me reluctant to start looking. I started looking on Psychology.com's listings, therapists have profiles on there that give you an idea of their specialties. My husband's longtime therapist recommended I start there. Then I emailed one I thought would fit me and we emailed back and forth a few times and then set up an appointment.
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Post by mimsy on Oct 11, 2017 13:17:18 GMT -6
A and I had gotten into the habit of doing shots on the weekend. As these things go, the number increased and it was getting to the point of me not remembering parts of what we were doing in the evenings after S went to sleep. So I decided that I wouldn't be drinking like that on the weekend anymore. It's not safe, it's not healthy and I don't want to put myself in that position anymore. It's one thing to enjoy a drink or have a fun bit of drinking every now and again; but it was getting out of hand and I needed to scale back. Is A scaling back too or is he going to be encouraging? I think he will be scaling back too. I didn't ask him to specifically i said that I can't be doing this every weekend and left it at that. It's only been a week and a half.
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Post by charlotte on Oct 11, 2017 13:23:41 GMT -6
mintyblueair last time I was on the hunt for a therapist I was able to find reviews from other clients. But I originally started out on Psychology.com’s listings, like dramaphile suggested. My experience has been that you can have an email or phone exchange before you actually book an appointment.
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Post by charlotte on Oct 11, 2017 13:27:44 GMT -6
Work is the root of my stress/anxiety. The nature of my job requires me to be connected with work basically 24/7. I am leaving tomorrow morning for several days to visit family and friends, and this will be my first time in a few months being able to actually disconnect 100% from work. I absolutely can’t wait, and I hope I come back feeling centered & refreshed.
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Post by mintyblueair on Oct 11, 2017 13:30:08 GMT -6
Thanks charlotte and Dramaphile. I just checked psychology.com and it isn't pulling anything up for my city, but I'll try again on my computer later because it's giving an error message of sorts. It didn't occur to me that I could email a bit with someone before seeing them in person so I'll try to do that!
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Post by DGM on Oct 11, 2017 15:33:23 GMT -6
I made myself a spread in my bullet journal to write one thing I did just for me each day this month. So far I've only filled in two days, and both were a shower in the evening. I wanted it to be a bath, but I couldn't bring myself to ask dh to handle the kids while I did something as frivolous as take a bath. I can't seem to figure out how to take care of myself. I've also accomplished almost nothing this month. It's frustrating. Has YH said a bath is frivolous?
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Post by sassyq on Oct 11, 2017 15:36:42 GMT -6
I made myself a spread in my bullet journal to write one thing I did just for me each day this month. So far I've only filled in two days, and both were a shower in the evening. I wanted it to be a bath, but I couldn't bring myself to ask dh to handle the kids while I did something as frivolous as take a bath. I can't seem to figure out how to take care of myself. I've also accomplished almost nothing this month. It's frustrating. Has YH said a bath is frivolous? No, and depending on his mood he would probably encourage it. It's just that I feel guilty if anyone else, even my husband, has to take care of my kids for me to do anything other than work. I would wait until they were asleep, but by then I'm too tired lol
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Post by DGM on Oct 11, 2017 15:44:25 GMT -6
sassyq, girl, you take that bath and let go of the mom guilt!
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Post by Speedy on Oct 11, 2017 16:08:08 GMT -6
I'd like to start seeing a therapist or psychologist to help me cope with stress. I saw two different people a few months ago after I talked to my doctor about possible depression. I went to a free service and you basically see a different person each time. I didn't like that, and I also didn't like the two people I saw. I guess I just didn't feel like I was listened to by either one and they were treating me like a "type". How did you guys who see a therapist find one you liked? If I start paying out of pocket I can see myself wasting a lot of money just trying to find one person I have some rapport with. The money aspect makes me reluctant to start looking. My family doctor gave me a list of psychologists which gave me a little bit about their specialty. I noticed that a few of them worked at a group, so I called and gave the receptionist a bit about my issues and preferences and she matched me with someone. Not sure if that helps you at all <3
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Post by nikkipal on Oct 11, 2017 16:21:35 GMT -6
sassyq, girl, you take that bath and let go of the mom guilt!
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Post by mintyblueair on Oct 11, 2017 17:27:48 GMT -6
I'd like to start seeing a therapist or psychologist to help me cope with stress. I saw two different people a few months ago after I talked to my doctor about possible depression. I went to a free service and you basically see a different person each time. I didn't like that, and I also didn't like the two people I saw. I guess I just didn't feel like I was listened to by either one and they were treating me like a "type". How did you guys who see a therapist find one you liked? If I start paying out of pocket I can see myself wasting a lot of money just trying to find one person I have some rapport with. The money aspect makes me reluctant to start looking. My family doctor gave me a list of psychologists which gave me a little bit about their specialty. I noticed that a few of them worked at a group, so I called and gave the receptionist a bit about my issues and preferences and she matched me with someone. Not sure if that helps you at all <3 Thanks, it is helpful!
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