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Post by tgrimes on Oct 10, 2017 22:08:23 GMT -6
I’m attempting sleep training S while H is in the room tonight. Pray for me. God speed.
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cagoldi
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Post by cagoldi on Oct 10, 2017 22:21:00 GMT -6
I’m attempting sleep training S while H is in the room tonight. Pray for me. You're very brave.
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vino
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Post by vino on Oct 10, 2017 22:38:01 GMT -6
Right, but I'm pretty sure she didn't ACTUALLY mean she wouldn't want work for a boss who doesn't drink wine. This board does a lot of talking and joking about wine. It's all in good fun, or so I thought. Sometimes the vibe/tone is that you’re abnormal if you don’t drink. While I think it’s fine to talk about drinking if that’s your thing, implying that because someone else doesn’t that something is wrong with them isn’t cool. I know there are a few people on the board that don’t drink for various reasons and I would never want them to feel bad/weird/whatever. Ok. First of all, I love you. Second, this is very vague. We've been together too long to throw this into a place where clearly it was a joke. Now, *if* it set off a trigger for someone, then speak up and people will remember and take note. The last thing that anyone wants to do here is hurt someone with their words.
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Post by xolastunicornxo on Oct 10, 2017 22:46:12 GMT -6
Thinking of you @margarrytyrell! Hope baby stays put for a few more weeks!
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Post by nam2013 on Oct 10, 2017 23:11:37 GMT -6
trtlcrzy I'm sorry if I came of insensitive, off course I was kidding! I really don't care if someone doesn't drink, whatever reason they might have.
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Post by nam2013 on Oct 10, 2017 23:14:29 GMT -6
margaerytyrell hi! Wishing you a good last four weeks! Re going out: I love going out with the kids, less mess in the house, less tantrums etc. Plus they're so happy when they're out and about, it's fun to see! cagoldi good luck, sleep training sucks, I hope it works quickly.
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Post by wedding on Oct 11, 2017 3:52:03 GMT -6
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Post by wedding on Oct 11, 2017 3:54:25 GMT -6
klong11 we have had an on again off again issue with C sucking on his fingers. A girls at school does it and he picked it up there. When I see him do it I stop everything until he stops- so pause the tv, stop playing, no talking. Usually in a couple days he stops. Then every few months he tried again. I'll even watch him on the monitor and turn off the light remotely if I see him doing it in bed.
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trtlcrzy
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Post by trtlcrzy on Oct 11, 2017 7:08:33 GMT -6
Sometimes the vibe/tone is that you’re abnormal if you don’t drink. While I think it’s fine to talk about drinking if that’s your thing, implying that because someone else doesn’t that something is wrong with them isn’t cool. I know there are a few people on the board that don’t drink for various reasons and I would never want them to feel bad/weird/whatever. Ok. First of all, I love you. Second, this is very vague. We've been together too long to throw this into a place where clearly it was a joke. Now, *if* it set off a trigger for someone, then speak up and people will remember and take note. The last thing that anyone wants to do here is hurt someone with their words. Thanks. I mean it’s not super vague. I didn’t name any names because no one said anything to me and I don’t think they want to be called out. I know of at least 3 people on the board who don’t drink for various reasons. And jokes can still cause harm even if it’s “all in fun”. Not that this is the same at all but people get hurt by nazi jokes or dead baby jokes. nam2013 I wasn’t trying to start a fight or anything, just bring attention to the situation.
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vino
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Post by vino on Oct 11, 2017 7:20:10 GMT -6
I really dont want to drag this on but there is wine talk all the time on this board, just seems weird that you wanted to bring the issue forward on a very clear joke trtlcrzyAnd yes, it is vague when it's a comment about being aware what one says because 'someone' may get offended. If someone is offended then send a PM or speak up about ALL the drinking talk. Tale as old as time, there is always something on the board that people have to click out of, it's happened to all of us.
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Post by wedding on Oct 11, 2017 7:22:37 GMT -6
FTR I am not offended in the least by the drinking talk. Drink up ladies!
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Post by trtlcrzy on Oct 11, 2017 7:29:20 GMT -6
I really dont want to drag this on but there is wine talk all the time on this board, just seems weird that you wanted to bring the issue forward on a very clear joke trtlcrzyAnd yes, it is vague when it's a comment about being aware what one says because 'someone' may get offended. If someone is offended then send a PM or speak up about ALL the drinking talk. Tale as old as time, there is always something on the board that people have to click out of, it's happened to all of us. It’s not about drinking. Talk about wine and drinking all you want, that’s not what I was talking about at all. She made it sound like T’s boss was abnormal/weird/wrong for NOT drinking. I guess it’s shaming talk, I just didn’t use that word. For some reason yesterday it hit a nerve for me, so obviously I’m speaking up about being offended. Can I not be?
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Post by vino on Oct 11, 2017 7:50:31 GMT -6
I mean 'Can i not be'....
Ok. Cool.
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Post by klong11 on Oct 11, 2017 7:53:39 GMT -6
I don't drink. I usually just skim the wine talk because I have no clue what y'all are even talking about.
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Post by tgrimes on Oct 11, 2017 7:58:09 GMT -6
I don't drink. I usually just skim the wine talk because I have no clue what y'all are even talking about. So are you going to try martinis with me at the meetup? I know we talked about the different flavored ones a couple years ago.
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Post by peachsmama on Oct 11, 2017 7:58:43 GMT -6
I don't drink. I usually just skim the wine talk because I have no clue what y'all are even talking about. +1 lol. My only reasoning is it tastes like crap.. Sorry wine lovers. It's just gross. I do like a mojito, although not many restaurants make them so I never have one.
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Post by tgrimes on Oct 11, 2017 7:59:34 GMT -6
I don't drink. I usually just skim the wine talk because I have no clue what y'all are even talking about. +1 lol. My only reasoning is it tastes like crap.. Sorry wine lovers. It's just gross. I do like a mojito, although not many restaurants make them so I never have one. Ha ha ha! Maybe you just haven't tried the right wine for you. We should have tastings at the get together next year.
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Post by klong11 on Oct 11, 2017 8:01:13 GMT -6
I don't drink. I usually just skim the wine talk because I have no clue what y'all are even talking about. So are you going to try martinis with me at the meetup? I know we talked about the different flavored ones a couple years ago. I don't even remember conversations from last week, let alone a couple years ago I'm not against drinking, I've just stopped since having Cadence. So, if Cadence does not attend the meetup(pretty sure she won't), then sure, we can try some.
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Post by peachsmama on Oct 11, 2017 8:02:38 GMT -6
+1 lol. My only reasoning is it tastes like crap.. Sorry wine lovers. It's just gross. I do like a mojito, although not many restaurants make them so I never have one. Ha ha ha! Maybe you just haven't tried the right wine for you. We should have tastings at the get together next year. That's what my SIL says lol. You all can laugh at my face as I try them.. Dh enjoys that lol.
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Post by peachsmama on Oct 11, 2017 8:03:05 GMT -6
And SIL always says "you can't even taste the alcohol in this one! Try it!" LIAR!
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Post by tgrimes on Oct 11, 2017 8:06:21 GMT -6
Ha ha ha! Maybe you just haven't tried the right wine for you. We should have tastings at the get together next year. That's what my SIL says lol. You all can laugh at my face as I try them.. Dh enjoys that lol.
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Post by lfig on Oct 11, 2017 8:09:31 GMT -6
peachsmama we might be the same person. Your feels are my feels. Lol. I do like strawberry daiquiri’s. And vodka and 7up. But that’s pretty much it for me. And I have a drink like once a year. Except for vacation last December in Mexico where I drank every day.
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Post by peachsmama on Oct 11, 2017 8:11:28 GMT -6
peachsmama we might be the same person. Your feels are my feels. Lol. I do like strawberry daiquiri’s. And vodka and 7up. But that’s pretty much it for me. And I have a drink like once a year. Except for vacation last December in Mexico where I drank every day. I love banana daiquiris! I got virgin ones in Mexico because I was pregnant lol.
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Post by vino on Oct 11, 2017 8:29:07 GMT -6
Lol to offense of a drinking comment then all the drink talk.
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Post by peachsmama on Oct 11, 2017 8:29:45 GMT -6
Lol to offense of a drinking comment then all the drink talk. Whoops..
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Post by trtlcrzy on Oct 11, 2017 8:33:48 GMT -6
Again. I’m not offended by talking about drinking. That’s perfectly fine with me. It’s shaming someone for not drinking that bothered me.
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Post by nam2013 on Oct 11, 2017 8:38:04 GMT -6
I'm sorry it's seemed like I posted and ran yesterday/today, not my intention, Wednesday is my day home with the kids and I had a lot of errands, plus I'm usually asleep when you girls are most active!
Again I really didn't want to be insensitive. I was really only joking, like I would with my friends irl. I sometimes forget that things can come across very different when put in writing.
Plus without stirring it up again, i really don't feel like I was 'shaming' anyone, I could have said the same about working for someone that doesn't like chocolate. It really was just a joke.
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Post by cagoldi on Oct 11, 2017 8:43:00 GMT -6
Lol to offense of a drinking comment then all the drink talk. Whoops.. Dying. N13, you girls slay me.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Oct 11, 2017 8:47:02 GMT -6
I'm sorry it's seemed like I posted and ran yesterday/today, not my intention, Wednesday is my day home with the kids and I had a lot of errands, plus I'm usually asleep when you girls are most active! Again I really didn't want to be insensitive. I was really only joking, like I would with my friends irl. I sometimes forget that things can come across very different when put in writing. Plus without stirring it up again, i really don't feel like I was 'shaming' anyone, I could have said the same about working for someone that doesn't like chocolate. I was just a joke. I know you were joking and I know you don’t want to stir it up but I can’t not comment. Chocolate and alcohol are not the same. Alcohol is an addictive substance that can ruin lives, chocolate is/can not. So comparing the two is apples to oranges. Something of the same caliber would be cigarettes, marijuana, cocaine, certain prescription drugs, etc. I don’t want to get into it but alcohol has affected my whole life in negative (and sometimes positive) ways so I’m a little touchy about it in certain ways.
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Post by nam2013 on Oct 11, 2017 9:01:17 GMT -6
trtlcrzy I'm sorry you had to deal with that kind of stuff. That must have been hard.
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