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Post by cythe on Oct 10, 2017 12:35:36 GMT -6
Taitai, awesome news about the TB test rachydc, I'm glad everything is checking out perfect. Sorry for long, boring day!
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Post by racegurl87 on Oct 10, 2017 12:56:25 GMT -6
Warning this is long...
Question for all of you: I’m not super close with my dad and I pretty much can’t stand his wife and they live literally right across the street from the hospital I’ll be delivering at. Well, today is my dad’s birthday and when I called to wish him a happy birthday he mentioned how calling people was going to work once I’m in labor and I said that no one but H and my mom (who will have DD) will know I’m in labor and I don’t want texts/phone calls constantly asking if he’s here yet. I didn’t tell anyone I was in labor with DD, so I’m not sure why it would change with #2...
He also brought up visiting after Sequel is born and I said I wasn’t sure I wanted visitors while I was in the hospital just based on how I felt after DD was delivered.... well he didn’t sound too excited about that and I don’t know what to do... Do I allow them to visit and have the nurse come and basically kick them out after 30-45min or stay strong and allow no visitors besides H and maybe DD?
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Post by cougarette on Oct 10, 2017 13:02:46 GMT -6
racegurl87 I say if it's important to you, stick to your original plan of no guests. Especially knowing you did it before and they survived, they can get over it. I wish we could get away with not having my in-laws there, but I do have to sacrifice my desires so I don't have to hear the passive aggressive bullshit for the next 30 years. It was bad enough telling them we wouldn't have guests until I was in the post partum room (you know, a delay of like 2 hours. Sigh). She literally asked if we didn't want them there. I mean, no I don't, but DH is more diplomatic than me.
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Post by cougarette on Oct 10, 2017 13:03:13 GMT -6
Sorry for my own vent, but seriously my in-laws suck.
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Post by trinitrotoluene on Oct 10, 2017 13:04:00 GMT -6
racegurl87, stay strong. Your dad has a long time to bond with your child. You deserve to take some to recover from a major medical experience. Because no matter how baby comes out, it's a big deal, and you deserve some respect while you heal.
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Post by racegurl87 on Oct 10, 2017 13:04:44 GMT -6
cougarette when I had DD we were living in another state so no one was around to come visit when she was born. My mom’s planned visit was a few days later and my in-laws came after that. My dad didn’t meet DD until she was 5mo old and I came back to where we’re living now to house hunt
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Post by racegurl87 on Oct 10, 2017 13:06:45 GMT -6
trinitrotoluene thanks... we never see him, the last time was on DD’s Birthday back in February... I honestly have no expectations that my kids will have a relationship with him because I barely have one.
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Post by trinitrotoluene on Oct 10, 2017 13:07:25 GMT -6
cougarette, i could have written your post myself. I want the hospital to be for us. Honestly if it was all up to me, it would be just me and the baby so i could sleep as much as the kid and medical staff will let me before i go home to my mommy monster toddler. But there is obviously no good way to tell the baby's father to stay away, and I'm struggling with him not being on board with my desires for everyone else.
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Post by trinitrotoluene on Oct 10, 2017 13:08:56 GMT -6
trinitrotoluene thanks... we never see him, the last time was on DD’s Birthday back in February... I honestly have no expectations that my kids will have a relationship with him because I barely have one. That would make me feel even more strongly that there is no reason for him to come to the hospital. You don't want to see my kids regularly, you don't need to come to the hospital while every part of me hurts, and the baby just wants to eat and sleep anyway. |
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Post by racegurl87 on Oct 10, 2017 13:12:34 GMT -6
I know I’m lucky because my in-laws live on the other side of the country and will get the okay to visit when we say so. I texted H and asked him what I should do and he supports me 100%... I should also mention that I’m having a smell & see at my mom’s next month (basically a sip & see with a Party Lite candle party as the focus and not me & Sequel) that he’ll be invited to...
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Post by curmudgeon on Oct 10, 2017 13:41:09 GMT -6
I need to vent about my photographer. We had maternity pics in August and she sent proofs, I chose some for editing and then nothing. I've been emailing her for over a month with no response, and she's supposed to do newborn pictures too. I've been texting her and she finally responded and says she emailed back a long time ago, did I check spam. Yes I did. And nothing is there from her. ....and that was the end. Now I'm like could you resend your email? Tell me via text what it said? Pick a date for newborn photos? Something? Everything has been paid for so I'm thisclose to filing a dispute to get my money back.
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Post by cougarette on Oct 10, 2017 13:58:45 GMT -6
Ugh, that's annoying curmudgeon. I hope you get a satisfactory resolution. |
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Post by cythe on Oct 10, 2017 14:14:02 GMT -6
Hmm curmudgeon, unless you're really partial to this photographer it sounds like maybe it's time to get your money back and find a new one for newborn photos. I really hope they get their shit together. |
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Post by curmudgeon on Oct 10, 2017 14:21:37 GMT -6
You're probably right. I've been trying to be patient bc of the storm/flood and I'm not sure if she was affected. I know she had to reschedule A LOT of sessions but geez communicate something with me.
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Post by caitost21 on Oct 10, 2017 14:30:42 GMT -6
racegurl87 so I have zero relationship with my father currently. I had the kind of relationship you’re describing with my dad when I gave birth to DS two years ago. I let him come to the hospital against my better judgement/wishes because it seemed important to him. Well it was such a disappointment and heart break. He was there for all of ten minutes and would only look at DS. I wish I stuck to my guns. This time I want the hospital for myself. Im debating whether even to have DS come or not (he’s 2). MH is pushing back but I’m of the firm belief that this is the one time I should get 100% of what I want.
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Post by parma986 on Oct 10, 2017 17:04:57 GMT -6
My doctor just called and moved my csection from 1:30 to 9:30. Happy I won't have to wait around all morning but sad I lose a few hours with DD1 in the morning. I'm getting really emotional when I think about leaving her tomorrow.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Oct 10, 2017 17:26:38 GMT -6
My doctor just called and moved my csection from 1:30 to 9:30. Happy I won't have to wait around all morning but sad I lose a few hours with DD1 in the morning. I'm getting really emotional when I think about leaving her tomorrow. This timing is better though from the not eating before perspective! |
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Post by rebeccabunch on Oct 10, 2017 17:29:33 GMT -6
I was tied up w work stuff today and I feel like a lot happened! I know it’s been covered but I’m so sorry about the rear end rachydc I hope the other driver felt just awful. I’m thinking about all our new moms. I’m going to head to the check in thread to see how everyone is doing! |
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Post by August Blooms on Oct 10, 2017 18:49:23 GMT -6
racegurl87 What cougarette said. Stick to your plan. He can meet the new baby another time. curmudgeon Commiseration like. Our old photographer was great but flakey as hell. We tolerated it even after she forgot the day of DD's first birthday shoot. She just had another baby so we switched to another photographer but still it totally sucks when they don't communicate. I don't know about where you live but the really good newborn photographers with reasonable prices get booked up so quickly. Hopefully she gets back to you soon and you can get things sorted out. parma986 Good luck tomorrow!
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Post by Taitai on Oct 10, 2017 19:31:00 GMT -6
trinitrotoluene and mommabakes Sorry you two are dealing with prodromal labor too. TNT - you are right - the emotional side is just as difficult as the physical pain of the contractions. It's so hard to always be like...is it for real this time? Mentally exhausting. rachydc So glad you went in. It's annoying to be hooked up for so long, but this late in the game it's better to be safe than sorry. racegurl87 Stick to your guns and your plan. It is totally your right not to have visitors if you don't want them, especially if you are not that close with your dad and you can't stand his wife. I never understand why people are so friggin pushy about this stuff - childbirth is a huge deal to recover from. Give us some space if we need it! @crumudgeon I would ask for my money back for the newborn session and see if that puts a spur under her saddle. Photographers can be the worst on this thing...it's like once they get too far behind, they just shut down. She can at least communicate with you.
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Post by cythe on Oct 10, 2017 22:18:31 GMT -6
I can't sleep.
Any chance insomnia is a sign of impending labor? ...no? Okay.
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Post by racegurl87 on Oct 11, 2017 3:14:34 GMT -6
I can't sleep. Any chance insomnia is a sign of impending labor? ...no? Okay. I can’t sleep either and I wish it was a sign of labor.... |
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