Help! Diaper change discipline problems

[jewel]

Hi! Help please. LO is 19 months old and an absolute monster on the changing table. Otherwise she is actually a pretty good listener, etc and we haven't had too many issues/ the solution seems obvious with discipline. But I can't not change her diaper...

She clearly hates having her diaper changed, particularly poop. She runs away from me when she knows she needs a change. when I get her on the table she screams, cries, tries to roll off, tries to flip, kicks violently... basically attempts to get us both covered in poop.

Distraction sometimes works (holding something she really wants) but not always and generally not for the duration of the change. We do hope to attempt potty training semi-soon, but I don't think she is quite ready yet.

Any suggestions?

[jillywilly]

My kid went through this phase, and it sucks. First - I rarely change him on a surface, I just put a mat on the floor, so it's easier if he rolls away. Second, I gave him my phone with a PBS Kid's video on it. That's the only thing that worked for us. Luckily, now that he's getting a little older, he hates the feeling of poop, so when he poops, he'll run to us yelling "POOOOOP!" and then stay still until I tell him "all clean!" Peeing/pee diapers is still another battle...

[billyhorrible]

3 ideas

1) Does she like singing? At that stage, I would have a special changing song, that would occupy the boys while I changed them. With LBB it was "I've been working on the railroad." I got a little smarter and picked a longer song with BH, "Alouette." By the time the song was done, the change was done.

2)Balloons. Blow up a balloon and hand it to her during the diaper change.

3) Bribery. "Let's do this quickly, so we can (go outside, make pancakes, do something fun.)

I'm the opposite of most people in that I found it easier to keep them on the changing mat on the dresser, because they didn't want to fall off either, which meant they couldn't roll and run.

[sheilathetank]

jewel , I see, once again, we have the same K. lol.

Things I have tried:
favorite show on my phone or tablet
singing
giving her a book
Tummy bubbles (give her a raspberry on her belly)
Ask a question (where is your nose? Can you point to your eyes? Do you know what this is?)
Put a poster above the changing table and point to it. Ask her questions about it. Tell a story involving whatever is in it. Ours is star wars. I name the characters and she repeats the names. At daycare they have one from The Good Dinosaur
physical restraint (because sometimes I'm in the middle of a parking lot and need to change her in the backseat and no, no you will not roll over and get shit all over my car)

hugs. Diaper changes have been a real challenge for the last few months because she does not want to stop moving long enough to get changed.

ETA: because of this I also involve H in almost every change when he is around. My ILs wondered why it took two of us to change her almost every time, until I had them change her one day and then they understood. 

[jewel]

Thanks! Some good things to try in here!

[Deleted]

DD went through this phase and still does this some. I change her on the floor mostly and I think that helps. If it's just a wet diaper, I will sometimes change her standing up. A toy sometimes works as distraction or if it really needs to be done and she's really fighting it, I give her my phone.