FFFC 9.22

[calendula]

I'm starting this today because I have a few. Let's gooooo

[calendula]

I'm doing my weekly grocery shop at Trader Joe's so I can have the wine tasting. That thimble full of wine is the best part of my Fridays.

I blew off Back to School night and went to SoulCycle with my friends instead. I don't need to sit in the school gym for the third year running and listen to the PTA Sanctimommy speech about how I should be volunteering more. And I've already met DS's teacher because, um, I got called in to talk about his behavior during the first week of school.

And finally, I am sooooort of entertaining the idea of not nursing at all. I had such a bad go of it with DS, and stuck it out for so long, and I really regret the stress I put on myself to make it work when I should have been enjoying my baby. I had always thought that I would give it a go with #2, and if it worked then great, and if not, I wouldn't stress. But I was daydreaming the other day about the moment she is born, and getting to hold her, and it occurred to me that I would probably have to try to nurse her right away, and the thought actually made me cringe with dread. I realized I have more negative associations with nursing than maybe I thought. IDK. I have a lot of time to think about it.

[cornpop]

calendula, I didn't attempt to BF with my first at all and I'm not planning with this one either. I just knew it wasn't something I would enjoy and I was/still am 100% certain I would have gotten PPD if I tried. No shame/regrets.

[calendula]

Sept 22, 2017 8:02:29 GMT -6 cornpop said:

calendula , I didn't attempt to BF with my first at all and I'm not planning with this one either. I just knew it wasn't something I would enjoy and I was/still am 100% certain I would have gotten PPD if I tried. No shame/regrets.

Thanks for this! Its not something that is common in my circle but the more I think about it, the more I consider it. 


Plus....after going through so many years of IF and treatments, I feel like for a long time my body hasn't felt like my own. That I could have control over my body in 6 months or so is pretty significant. 

[ArielMermaid]

I have zero judgement about nursing vs not. You do you and I'll fight anyone who says different.

[mattsgirl2004]

I'm not nursing this time either. I attempted with my 3 other children and it wasn't the best experience any time. I'm envious if those who truly enjoy it and have an awesome bonding experience. It's never been that way for me. This is my last take home baby. I really just want to enjoy him and not stress this time.

Just to add, I'm pro-whatever is best for you and your baby. No judgement with whatever anyone chooses to do.

My confession is that my kids have had nothing but crap this week for dinner (corn dogs, frozen pizzas, chicken nuggets, etc). I'm just so worn out by that time of the day and I have no desire to cook big meals or fight them to eat healthier. They had corn dogs and chips 2 days in a row. 😳

#momoftheyear

[auri]

calendula, I exclusively pumped for DD1. We tried bfing at the hospital but we never got the latch right and I didn't really like it enough to try to fix it. I was able to pump 4 months, and I drove myself crazy trying to get my supply up. When I finally threw in the towel, I was producing so little milk that I was able to just quit cold turkey and I had no problems with leaking or engourment. I'm considering no bothering with pumping at all this time too. I would much rather enjoy my baby than drive myself crazy again.
I guess this is my long way of saying that it's not flameful to want to formula feed your child. As long as the baby is healthy and fed, it shouldn't matter.

[mattsgirl2004]

My other one is that I've peed myself a few times this week. My allergies are bad and I've been sneezing a lot. With the big sneezes, I pee a little. It's a good thing I stay at home and can change my clothes. Otherwise, so embarrassing.

[calendula]

Sept 22, 2017 8:17:24 GMT -6 mattsgirl2004 said:

My other one is that I've peed myself a few times this week. My allergies are bad and I've been sneezing a lot. With the big sneezes, I pee a little. It's a good thing I stay at home and can change myself. Otherwise, so embarrassing.

I sneezed last weekend and peed myself. ::solidarity fist bump::

[yianna]

I'm on #teamfeedyourbaby and also #teamhappymom

I couldn't nurse my first - I had no supply, and chewed nips. I cried when I gave him formula because I felt like a failure. For me, I decided I would do whatever I could to nurse my second, and we did.. for nearly 3 years. My third, I just nursed, and my supply tanked around 6 months, and she went on formula. No guilt. She needed food, I didn't have it. Done.

So this time? I'll nurse, and supplement as I need to. It's whatever works for you, and your baby. The BF nazis can F off as far as I'm concerned.

[auri]

My ffc is that I should call my obgyn again and for some reason I'm dragging my feet. I called Monday asking for a different med because zofran isn't really working for me with all the vomiting I've been doing. She gave me a different med that I took on Tuesday, but I took one pill and it knocked me out for 4 hours. That's not something that will work with my DD running around.

[yianna]

auri is it diclegis? If so, you need to take two at night, and at least one in the AM. You'll get over the knocked out feeling in a couple of days.

If not diclegis, I dunno. But I hope you can function without feeling sick!

[alwayscheese]

Also peeing myself when I sneeze. I got some ben wa balls cause I really need to do kegals, but I don't think they're the right ones for me.

And seriously "Fed is Best"! Breast feeding is important to me and I really hope I'm able to. From a medical standpoint it is better for baby, but hell no to shaming people that can't or won't. It's not that much of a benefit if it's going to cause that much stress to make it work. Happy mama, happy baby is our goal, not following someone else's ideals.

Only confession I have is I stayed in bed mostly sleeping till 11. Yesterday was a bad day so I feel much better now.

[auri]

Sept 22, 2017 9:43:14 GMT -6 yianna said:

auri is it diclegis? If so, you need to take two at night, and at least one in the AM. You'll get over the knocked out feeling in a couple of days.

If not diclegis, I dunno. But I hope you can function without feeling sick!

It's Promethazine. The directions are to take one tablet every 6 hours as needed.

[ArielMermaid]

I'm still deciding what I'll do this time around. With my daughter she and I struggled for weeks with my supply not coming in and her not latching right. Once we got it I felt so determined to keep going but I think my mental health suffered. I did not enjoy it at all. Her whole first year was such a struggle.
I think it will depend on if the baby and my boobs cooperate this time. We'll go from there. I probably won't do it as long. 13 months was forever.

[tinyjoys]

Sept 22, 2017 8:17:24 GMT -6 mattsgirl2004 said:

My other one is that I've peed myself a few times this week. My allergies are bad and I've been sneezing a lot. With the big sneezes, I pee a little. It's a good thing I stay at home and can change myself. Otherwise, so embarrassing.

I've lost count of the amount of times that I've thrown up & peed. Dignity is overrated.

[tinyjoys]

Last night, my big kid (6) asked if he could watch Fuller House this morning before going to school, since the new season was released. I told him no since we're watching tonight/tomorrow together.

Then I put him on the bus and started the first episode and proceeded to watch the rest of the season without him.

[tinyjoys]

Neither of my two have latched. Many pediatricians, lactation consultants, and nurses have no idea why outside of they're small and my boobs are too big. I exclusively pumped for about 6 months with the second. I'll attempt to feed this one, but will probably pump again. We'll see.

[yianna]

Sept 22, 2017 12:16:09 GMT -6 ArielMermaid said:

I'm still deciding what I'll do this time around. With my daughter she and I struggled for weeks with my supply not coming in and her not latching right. Once we got it I felt so determined to keep going but I think my mental health suffered. I did not enjoy it at all. Her whole first year was such a struggle.
I think it will depend on if the baby and my boobs cooperate this time. We'll go from there. I probably won't do it as long. 13 months was forever.

It is easier the second time around.  You kind of know what to do, and you know how to hold a baby pretty confidently, etc.  It's hard to explain, but really, it was easier. 

[ArielMermaid]

Sept 22, 2017 12:45:50 GMT -6 yianna said:

Sept 22, 2017 12:16:09 GMT -6 ArielMermaid said:

I'm still deciding what I'll do this time around. With my daughter she and I struggled for weeks with my supply not coming in and her not latching right. Once we got it I felt so determined to keep going but I think my mental health suffered. I did not enjoy it at all. Her whole first year was such a struggle.
I think it will depend on if the baby and my boobs cooperate this time. We'll go from there. I probably won't do it as long. 13 months was forever.

It is easier the second time around.  You kind of know what to do, and you know how to hold a baby pretty confidently, etc.  It's hard to explain, but really, it was easier. 

Thank you for this. I've been trying to stay out of my own head about it but I'm a worrier by nature.

[auri]

Sept 22, 2017 12:23:02 GMT -6 tinyjoys said:

Sept 22, 2017 8:17:24 GMT -6 mattsgirl2004 said:

My other one is that I've peed myself a few times this week. My allergies are bad and I've been sneezing a lot. With the big sneezes, I pee a little. It's a good thing I stay at home and can change myself. Otherwise, so embarrassing.

I've lost count of the amount of times that I've thrown up & peed. Dignity is overrated.

+1

[woodenshoes]

Sept 22, 2017 8:17:24 GMT -6 mattsgirl2004 said:

My other one is that I've peed myself a few times this week. My allergies are bad and I've been sneezing a lot. With the big sneezes, I pee a little. It's a good thing I stay at home and can change my clothes. Otherwise, so embarrassing.

I have peed myself a few times too while coughing, sneezing, or vomiting. It is definitely worse this time than with my 1st pregnancy.

[woodenshoes]

I am not sure if I will try nursing or not this time. I had a very low supply with DS and am not expecting it to be different. I tried pumping, fenugreek, etc to increase my supply but it didn't work. A weight was removed from my shoulder when I quit. I am with the fed is best crowd. Do what works for you.

[gldnbearz]

Breastfeeding did not go well with my first. Her latch seemed fine to the LC, but weighing before and after feeding showed no transfer. I switched to EPing and formula supplementation for the year. I struggled with supply and used fenugreek and ate all the oatmeal and rented hospital grade pumps and still got 50% of her daily intake at best.

It's the one aspect of infancy that I struggled with. I worry that having a toddler around means that I won't be able to to EP as well and that just sucks. I still don't know what to do.

[cp3]

+whatever on considering not nursing this time. I had a hard time with DD and we were supplementing when she was 2 days old because she dropped almost a pound and my milk took forever to come in. My supply was super low and it would take me forever to get 3 ounces when I would pump. I gave up completely when she was 6 months old. It caused so much stress on me and I want to avoid that this time around.