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Post by ovenrack on Sept 18, 2017 6:39:53 GMT -6
Here's a check in for all of our TTC, pregnant, partnered to someone pregnant, or uterine-throbbing family expansion considerations. Adoption thoughts, surrogacy, on-the-fence, and other situations welcome.
And of course, lurkers.
How is everyone doing?
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Post by ovenrack on Sept 18, 2017 6:40:32 GMT -6
(I was trying to be inclusive so I hope I didn't screw up too badly...)
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Post by rugger on Sept 18, 2017 7:30:17 GMT -6
Well my uterus wishes it had a baby inside. It's prob never happening again and I'm kinda sad about it.
Do we have anyone in here that has adopted or is going through the process or who was adopted as a child? I'm curious about it.
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Post by Dramaphile on Sept 18, 2017 7:57:30 GMT -6
Not pregnant after a "scare" last month when my body decided to skip a period for the first time since I got my period back 18 months ago. I'm definitely getting the baby bug and thinking I was pregnant brought it to the forefront for me, but J is not there yet so we're still benched, probably at least till November or December.
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Post by niko8083 on Sept 18, 2017 8:17:08 GMT -6
I'm 22 weeks tomorrow. I wish I had a fast forward button to just get to January. This pregnancy hasn't been very kind this time around. And to top things off, we've been hit with some sort of stomach bug, ugh. I'm keeping fingers and toes crossed that B doesn't get it from DH and me.
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Post by piccyami on Sept 18, 2017 8:17:19 GMT -6
We're working on the paperwork for a transfer cycle in January at our RE's temporary clinic.
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Post by sarenu on Sept 18, 2017 8:18:47 GMT -6
38 weeks here. BH are kicking in hard. Bad enough that I thought I might actually be in early labor Saturday night.
I don't know if I'm going to make it to next weekend.
I have my fingers crossed that I will get two more work days to finish things off.
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Post by nikkipal on Sept 18, 2017 8:21:40 GMT -6
I'm TTC, it's the dreaded TWW, and I wish I could just turn off my brain for the next few days (at least as far as thinking about pregnancy). It's been a little bit rough bc J seems to go back and forth about what he really wants. I think he'd be ok being OAD, but he knows how much I want another one, so he's cooperating. He's worried if it's the right time, if we can afford it, etc., which I get, but I'm already AMA, and I don't know if it's ever just right.
He's also really anxious about my health, since I really freaked him out while M was being born (passed out, had to be resuscitated). I had a pre-conception visit with high risk OB, and they gave me the go-ahead to try again. I understand his anxiety, though.
I'm an only child, and I really overwhelmingly want another child. I really want M to be a big sister.
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Post by pbandj714 on Sept 18, 2017 8:39:23 GMT -6
H has "never been so sure about anything in his life" about being done.
I want to try again in a year or so. I just can't imagine being done.
So that's where we are...
P.S. We're keeping all the baby stuff.
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Post by charlotte on Sept 18, 2017 9:12:27 GMT -6
Here I sit on the fence. I mean, I want another really badly. But I know that I don't handle stress well, and now that I'm working (I wasn't for the first 2 yrs with DS) I worry that I can't mentally handle two little kids plus a job with MH's travel schedule.
I think that's the same reason he seems "meh" on another right now. We have somewhat decided that if we aren't pregnant by the time DS is 5, we will either go for it then or just be OAD. I am very content with DS but at the same time, I always wanted like 4 kids so I can't imagine ultimately having just 1.
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Post by sarenu on Sept 18, 2017 9:16:01 GMT -6
Here I sit on the fence. I mean, I want another really badly. But I know that I don't handle stress well, and now that I'm working (I wasn't for the first 2 yrs with DS) I worry that I can't mentally handle two little kids plus a job with MH's travel schedule. I think that's the same reason he seems "meh" on another right now. We have somewhat decided that if we aren't pregnant by the time DS is 5, we will either go for it then or just be OAD. I am very content with DS but at the same time, I always wanted like 4 kids so I can't imagine ultimately having just 1. 4/5 is a nice age, E is now really independent and helpful with her brother (most of the time). Kindergarten schedules are demanding, but we are adjusting. |
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Post by piccyami on Sept 18, 2017 9:28:56 GMT -6
H has "never been so sure about anything in his life" about being done. I want to try again in a year or so. I just can't imagine being done. So that's where we are... P.S. We're keeping all the baby stuff. I never imagined having twins, and I always imagined having more than one pregnancy. H panics every once in a while and asks why we want more. I just can't imagine being done now. We've agreed to no more retrievals, but I want the chance to try to use our remaining embryos. |
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Post by sassyq on Sept 18, 2017 10:32:27 GMT -6
I'm 22 weeks but feel like Im 35 weeks. It's crazy. I'm definitely nervous about 4 more months of pregnancy, but also know with Christmas in the mix things will go faster haha. I just have so many physical struggles starting so early this time, and it can get overwhelming really quickly, especially with A, who is so strong willed and still doesn't sleep through the night. L is a pretty big help most of the time, so I'm very thankful for that! I know she will be awesome help when her baby brother comes. A will probably hate him lol. She gets super jealous even if L tries to sit on my lap.
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Post by brandiewine11 on Sept 18, 2017 10:32:29 GMT -6
I don't know if this is the right place for this, but R1 is having his vasectomy next week. I was sure I was done after being so sick last pregnancy but it's still a little sad to think we can never change our minds. (Another pregnancy is a very bad idea for me medically speaking). So now I've started thinking a little about foster care sometime down the road. Maybe. I dunno. rugger we have not done it but I have some experience with family adoption and a couple of very close friends that are in various points in the process. If there is some basic stuff I can help you with I will. |
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Post by mc13 on Sept 18, 2017 10:40:04 GMT -6
H has "never been so sure about anything in his life" about being done. I want to try again in a year or so. I just can't imagine being done. So that's where we are... P.S. We're keeping all the baby stuff. My husband has said similar. Yet, he hasn't scheduled or even gone for a consult for his vasectomy... But I'm not going to lie, I also said the same thing and totally gave away 95% of our baby stuff. But now that the girls are 1 and mostly sleeping well I'm feeling very much like I'm not done. I just can't imagine being done with this part of my life either. |
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Post by charlotte on Sept 18, 2017 10:40:37 GMT -6
brandiewine11 I have always been interested in foster care, but for us that would probably be a very far in the future thing, like 10+ years. I have a friend from college who fosters and also has two young kids and is currently pregnant. Some placements have been short-term, but right now they've had a baby for a while. She's a very positive person and they have had a very good experience so far. I don't think they are trying to adopt out of the foster system, but just to be the best foster parents they can to kids who need it.
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Post by mintyblueair on Sept 18, 2017 10:42:06 GMT -6
I'm 11 weeks. I had some mild morning sickness for a few weeks but it seems to have subsided at this point. My dating ultrasound a couple of weeks ago confirmed my estimated due date of April 7, so that was cool!
I'm starting to get bouts of nervousness about what life will be like with two littles. Luckily my H is completely unflappable and his total calmness about it is reassuring to me.
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Post by Speedy on Sept 18, 2017 10:56:47 GMT -6
I got my IUD out on Thursday so we're officially TTC again after being on the bench for 3 years. Just wasn't in a place mentally to try before this. Of course, I got AF starting on Saturday lol, so just waiting on that to be done and then it's on!
I'm a little nervous since my doctor is treating me for MTHFR, which means I'll have to inject myself with heparin every day until 36 weeks, but I'm definitely up for it, and the way H and I were moving around this morning getting breakfast ready just made me so happy and excited because I know we're going to be so in sync when a little joins us =)
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Post by mintyblueair on Sept 18, 2017 10:59:53 GMT -6
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Post by rugger on Sept 18, 2017 11:00:17 GMT -6
I don't know if this is the right place for this, but R1 is having his vasectomy next week. I was sure I was done after being so sick last pregnancy but it's still a little sad to think we can never change our minds. (Another pregnancy is a very bad idea for me medically speaking). So now I've started thinking a little about foster care sometime down the road. Maybe. I dunno. rugger we have not done it but I have some experience with family adoption and a couple of very close friends that are in various points in the process. If there is some basic stuff I can help you with I will. Thanks! We always thought we'd do international adoption b/c we heard all the scary stories of domestic adoption and custody battles from random bio-family-members ... But then the international process seems overwhelming, and I was recently reading positive things about domestic/open adoption. So now I'm just kinda curious about the whole process and what things we need to consider we might not necessarily think about at first. |
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Post by mintyblueair on Sept 18, 2017 11:01:46 GMT -6
nikkipal, the TWW is so hard. My fingers are crossed for you!
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Post by niko8083 on Sept 18, 2017 11:05:19 GMT -6
DH has also said he is getting a vasectomy after this one is born. He is 100% sure we are done having kids. This pregnancy has been harder than the last one, so in a way I agree I am done being pregnant. It's just so final. What if 2 years I start to think maybe we could have another? I guess there is always adoption, like others have said.
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Post by pbandj714 on Sept 18, 2017 11:40:02 GMT -6
H has "never been so sure about anything in his life" about being done. I want to try again in a year or so. I just can't imagine being done. So that's where we are... P.S. We're keeping all the baby stuff. I never imagined having twins, and I always imagined having more than one pregnancy. H panics every once in a while and asks why we want more. I just can't imagine being done now. We've agreed to no more retrievals, but I want the chance to try to use our remaining embryos. That's a big part of it for me. I always imagined I'd experience more than one successful pregnancy and never imagined the 2-for-1. To be done just seems so final and I'm not ready for that. I've also always wanted more than 2 kids. Part of me is also fearful to add another because we got really lucky with these two both being relatively easy babies. I'm scared that the next one would not be so easy, but not scared enough to deter me. |
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Post by snowmoon on Sept 18, 2017 11:56:38 GMT -6
I'm 13 weeks and finally not feeling like a zombie anymore. It's been boring so far and I hope it stays that way.
We're definitely done after this one. H says he would like one or two more but I don't think we could handle it emotionally or financially.
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Post by piccyami on Sept 18, 2017 12:08:33 GMT -6
I never imagined having twins, and I always imagined having more than one pregnancy. H panics every once in a while and asks why we want more. I just can't imagine being done now. We've agreed to no more retrievals, but I want the chance to try to use our remaining embryos. That's a big part of it for me. I always imagined I'd experience more than one successful pregnancy and never imagined the 2-for-1. To be done just seems so final and I'm not ready for that. I've also always wanted more than 2 kids. Part of me is also fearful to add another because we got really lucky with these two both being relatively easy babies. I'm scared that the next one would not be so easy, but not scared enough to deter me. Yes. We really do have easy babies over here, too. I'm nervous that our next will be tough (my mom reminds me that my nephew was way more difficult than both of mine have been), but I'm still all for it. High risk pregnancies are so scary, and I spent a big chunk of mine worrying about z and her growth. |
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Post by ovenrack on Sept 18, 2017 13:01:46 GMT -6
15 weeks! Baby is the size of a pear.
I saw a friend today and she said nice things about how I look. Which is great because I'm in that horrible in-between stage.
Feeling bad off unisom/B6, so I'm still on. And I feel like it isn't as great as it previously was. But that's okay.
Coffee in the morning seems to ward off afternoon headaches.
Fatigue seems overwhelming. Isn't that supposed to go away?
Checkup tomorrow with my OB, who I don't adore as much as my midwife. But that's okay.
Feeling pretty okay!
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Post by brandiewine11 on Sept 18, 2017 16:54:34 GMT -6
15 weeks! Baby is the size of a pear. I saw a friend today and she said nice things about how I look. Which is great because I'm in that horrible in-between stage. Feeling bad off unisom/B6, so I'm still on. And I feel like it isn't as great as it previously was. But that's okay. Coffee in the morning seems to ward off afternoon headaches. Fatigue seems overwhelming. Isn't that supposed to go away? Checkup tomorrow with my OB, who I don't adore as much as my midwife. But that's okay. Feeling pretty okay! Ask for diclegis at your checkup. The unisom made me way more fatigued but the extended release of the diclegis did not. |
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Post by ovenrack on Sept 18, 2017 18:25:22 GMT -6
15 weeks! Baby is the size of a pear. I saw a friend today and she said nice things about how I look. Which is great because I'm in that horrible in-between stage. Feeling bad off unisom/B6, so I'm still on. And I feel like it isn't as great as it previously was. But that's okay. Coffee in the morning seems to ward off afternoon headaches. Fatigue seems overwhelming. Isn't that supposed to go away? Checkup tomorrow with my OB, who I don't adore as much as my midwife. But that's okay. Feeling pretty okay! Ask for diclegis at your checkup. The unisom made me way more fatigued but the extended release of the diclegis did not. I'm only taking a half tab of unisom at bedtime; but I suppose it could contribute! Thanks, I'll ask. |
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Post by violajack on Sept 18, 2017 18:38:36 GMT -6
My uterus has been recently vacated and is probably back down in my pelvis by now. The only thing likely to ever be in it again is an IUD. MH is pretty sure he'll go for a vasectomy for himself. I don't think I'm up for making anymore babies anyway, but I'm not ready to say we're done adding to our family. I'd love to foster in the future and MH will let me talk about it without shooting me down, but I'm not sure it's something we'll actually ever be able to do. But I love hearing about everyone else's journeys so I'll lurk in the bushes and cheer you on. And maybe I'll get to participate in a foster/adoption discussion in the future.
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Post by nikkipal on Sept 18, 2017 19:09:02 GMT -6
Speedy, I had to be on injections when I was pregnant with M (and will have to with future pregnancies), up until she was 12 weeks old. It was a drag, but she is definitely worth it. I had to do it for a history of a blood clot.
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