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Post by smores on Sept 12, 2017 10:49:40 GMT -6
How's your Tuesday going?
DD was a little clingy this morning at her second day of preschool drop off, which they warned us could happen. I just hope she has another great day! And a question. I have a couple employees at work that report directly to me. I was planning to send them an email announcing my pregnancy and letting them know the dates of my leave, who they will report while I am out, etc. BUT now I'm second guessing myself. I don't want to be impersonal, but I also don't like to spring news like this to people in person, as I'm sensitive to the fact that everyone will react differently to news like this (IME, especially after my loss). Email is fine right? Did you tell anyone at work via email, in person, other? I'm NOT doing an office wide announcement - they will figure it out when my belly gets huge, haha - just the people who my leave will directly effect. My boss already knows.
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Post by pinkcat on Sept 12, 2017 11:00:52 GMT -6
I think email is definitely fine smores, especially in a work environment. At my office, news like that over email is definitely the norm and there is no expectation that it needs to be in person. I know what you mean about telling people in person- I feel the same way and am not comfortable doing that unless I have to!
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Post by maddisonrose on Sept 12, 2017 11:01:48 GMT -6
smores I sent out an email saying I'm on bedrest so don't bug me with stupid shit lol i wasn't planning on saying anything to them until I was very visibly pregnant and/or someone asks. IMO there will be enough time at the end to go over who will be standing in and covering my position when I leave so it's totally what your comfortable with
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Post by tiffbabey on Sept 12, 2017 11:13:45 GMT -6
I'm a teacher, and struggling with how to tell people as well. My principal knows, and I've told two other people in person, but I'm part of a new grade level team and don't know them super well, and feel very awkward announcing it at a team meeting. I was going to do it two different times, but then second guessed myself. I don't want to lie to a student if they ask me, but I think the teachers should know first. ( I'm the special ed teacher, so have students from different rooms)
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Post by amesie on Sept 12, 2017 11:15:54 GMT -6
Well my interview didn't happen. There was a small fire at the facility last night (everyone was fine... there's just water damage from the sprinklers). So they director of nursing is crazy busy dealing with that today so we had to postpone. Probably for the best, since out of all the places I applied to, that one is my last choice. I'm hoping that some of the other places will get back to me sooner rather than later now!!
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Post by smores on Sept 12, 2017 11:17:58 GMT -6
pinkcat Yes! I don't mind telling close friends/family in person, but anyone else makes me uncomfortable. I'm glad to hear that email is the norm. Surprisingly, in the 5+ years I've worked at this company there have only been 2 pregnancies (and one was mine with DD, haha), so there really isn't a "normal" way to announce here. I also wasn't in management when I was pregnant with DD so this is new territory to me! maddisonrose Honestly, my first plan was to let people just figure it out on their own when my belly started growing (aside from my boss). And really, that is still the plan for most of the office. I guess I just want my direct reports to feel like there is a solid plan and open line of communication so that they don't have to speculate about what's happening and when. I honestly could probably wait a couple more weeks, but I feel like at that point word will have already gotten around somehow (2 random people at work have already figured it out somehow and asked me) and I'd rather my employees hear it from me, I guess.
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Post by smores on Sept 12, 2017 11:20:51 GMT -6
I'm a teacher, and struggling with how to tell people as well. My principal knows, and I've told two other people in person, but I'm part of a new grade level team and don't know them super well, and feel very awkward announcing it at a team meeting. I was going to do it two different times, but then second guessed myself. I don't want to lie to a student if they ask me, but I think the teachers should know first. ( I'm the special ed teacher, so have students from different rooms) Yeah, I can understand the struggle. With DD I announced at a company lunch thing and it was super awkward for me. Personally, after telling your principal and the teachers you are closer with, I don't think I would have an issue with students finding out before some of the other teachers (especially if you're not close) and just letting word get around, but I know that is a personal preference!
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Post by smores on Sept 12, 2017 11:29:14 GMT -6
amesie How scary, glad everyone is ok. I hope the rescheduling delay gives enough time for some of the others to respond!
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Post by amesie on Sept 12, 2017 11:50:10 GMT -6
I wish I could take a nap. I'm waiting for DD's speech therapist to come by for her 6 month eval. I'm dropping services after today since DD is completely caught up with her speech now!
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Post by pippiann on Sept 12, 2017 13:47:23 GMT -6
I am obviously pregnant and 2 students have already mentioned it. I didn't tell the principal but I don't deal with her really at all. My host teacher knows and if people ask I will tell them but I am not the type to be like hey all I am pregnant but if I was actually working her I would probably tell more of the staff.
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Post by hedwig on Sept 12, 2017 14:27:58 GMT -6
So I suspect DS has an ear infection. He's been a little congested the last couple of days and now has a slight fever. We had his health, hearing, and vision screening through our school district today and the nurse detected some fluid in his right ear. When we got home he started feeling warm, so I took his temp and it was 100.1. He's acting fine though, just can't breathe well out of his nose.
Also, any recommendations for long maternity tight ankle yoga pants that don't attract every bit of fuzz within 10 miles and don't cost an arm and a leg? Do these exist?
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Post by aprilz81 on Sept 12, 2017 14:42:53 GMT -6
smores, I would send an announcement to your staff so they all hear it at once and from you (your email). You can follow up with your one-on-one meetings if you feel it is necessary. We are on day 2 of demo of our bathroom and so far no major issues but already the decision making is killing me. I'm a decisive person but my instinct is to always do the cheapest option (as long as all options are equally safe/legal) but I'm trying to make sure we make the SMART decision. Small things like how wide the door to the new laundry room will be (smaller saves money but makes storage area less accessible) are all of a sudden super important. lol So far I've not upped the budget too much and we've run into some lucky things that are saving us money, or should I say allowing us to shift money to other things I want. DH's cousin is visiting us from Denver and MIL warned me yesterday that she can't have kids and "recently" got the final word from the doctors. I'm super confused because this cousin is about 46 so I would have thought that door would have been closed a long time ago. I've been through IF testing and treatment so I'm going to be sympathetic, but I guess I'm confused as to why I'm supposed to be super duper extra sensitive about it. MIL almost gave me the impression that I shouldn't even mention the baby (cousin knows we are pregnant) but MIL does tend to overreact so who knows.
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Post by jessijean on Sept 12, 2017 14:43:54 GMT -6
Who was is who had a lap napping toddler? helloerrbody ? I'm having issues with transitioning back to crib naps and could use advice. I'm currently stuck under the 2 year old who wouldn't sleep more than 30 minutes in his crib today.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Sept 12, 2017 14:48:07 GMT -6
I'm behind and catching up but benandjerrys congrats on your good AS! Mine is tomorrow and of course I'm all of a sudden nervous. I'm glad it's at 8am so I'm not thinking about it all day tomorrow. I just ate an entire tub of Trader Joe's spinach and kale dip and I feel so gross. I don't know how that happened.
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Post by pinkcat on Sept 12, 2017 14:52:15 GMT -6
Good luck tomorrow rebeccabunch! And I say give yourself props- if you are eating an entire tub of dip at least it's spinach and kale! Can't get much healthier than that. Just say you were making sure baby had enough spinach
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Post by rebeccabunch on Sept 12, 2017 15:32:53 GMT -6
Good luck tomorrow rebeccabunch! And I say give yourself props- if you are eating an entire tub of dip at least it's spinach and kale! Can't get much healthier than that. Just say you were making sure baby had enough spinach You are right. It could've been worse. It could've been queso which is what I really wanted.
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Post by tiffrobot on Sept 12, 2017 15:59:15 GMT -6
DS had a consultation with a cranio pediatric surgeon today to take a better look at the submucous cleft he was diagnosed with last month and see what steps we need to take next.
The surgeon could see some physical signs of a cleft, but doesn't think they are severe enough to need surgery and thinks his speech will improve with therapy! So he's going to refer him to a therapist who specializes in cleft pallets to do a session or two with him and see where she wants him to go from there. Whether she thinks he should see the surgeon again sooner than later, or can find us a private therapist to work with more regularly then.
So he does tentatively have a follow up with the surgeon in 6 months to have another consultation, unless the speech therapists he sees before then are happy with his improvement and don't find it necessary for him to need that appointment. I'm feeling relieved, and at least happy where if he does need surgery down the road it's after when the baby gets here and I don't need to worry so much about a surgery/recovery date when my own dates by the end of this year/January are uncertain.
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Post by benandjerrys on Sept 12, 2017 17:37:38 GMT -6
Good luck tomorrow rebeccabunch! Btw I just started watching my crazy ex gf and figured out your name and avatar!
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Post by rebeccabunch on Sept 12, 2017 17:44:41 GMT -6
Good luck tomorrow rebeccabunch! Btw I just started watching my crazy ex gf and figured out your name and avatar! Oh you did! Yay! Paging pinkcatIt's a different show but it's worth sticking by. It's so smartly funny and I'm always happy after I watch it. Bonus is it gets better as it goes on!
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Post by benandjerrys on Sept 12, 2017 18:21:14 GMT -6
I've only watched I think 2 episodes so far so I'm excited to see more.
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Post by easternshoregirl on Sept 12, 2017 18:43:26 GMT -6
Add me to the club of just letting people figure it out... I did have a funny (to me) moment in class the other day. I have not mentioned the pregnancy to most classes. (I did tell one that is made up of mostly former students that I already have a relationship with.) I wore a loose shirt the first day and then a tighter one the second. On the second day, I saw a girl looking at me and then she got a look at my belly and her eyes got so big! But she didn't ever say anything. I was quite amused though.
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Post by pippiann on Sept 12, 2017 19:27:33 GMT -6
What network is this crazy ex girlfriend show on? I am always down for another show to watch! Ohh that reminds me to watch last night teen moms episode!
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Post by pippiann on Sept 12, 2017 19:27:58 GMT -6
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Post by benandjerrys on Sept 12, 2017 19:40:20 GMT -6
What network is this crazy ex girlfriend show on? I am always down for another show to watch! Ohh that reminds me to watch last night teen moms episode! I am watching on Netflix - I don't know if it is Netflix original?
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Post by rebeccabunch on Sept 12, 2017 20:37:51 GMT -6
What network is this crazy ex girlfriend show on? I am always down for another show to watch! Ohh that reminds me to watch last night teen moms episode! Season 1&2 are on Netflix now. It originally airs on the CW (season 3 premieres 10/13!) but they release the whole season on Netflix as soon as the season wraps on the CW. I'm going to watch it in realtime this season but I like binging it. It would be a great Mat leave binge show.
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