Intro and WWYD (TW: Miscarriages, living child, chromosomes)
Sept 7, 2017 12:34:05 GMT -6
Post by twohopes on Sept 7, 2017 12:34:05 GMT -6
Hi,
I was on the previous board and decided to join this one and try to find support, hope, and information, all three of which I desperately need. I will try to be brief with my background story, all the TW from the title apply
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In 2013, I got pregnant on the first month of trying and miscarried at 6 weeks and 4 days; that was an anembryonic pregnancy (blighted ovum). On the next cycle of trying, I had a chemical pregnancy that lasted 4 days. At that point, I freaked out, we saw an RE who found nothing concerning (but only tested me) and gave us the green light. That very same month, January 2014, I conceived my daughter naturally and she is about to turn 3. In the course of that pregnancy, during the screening we chose to do for her, a genetic counselor reviewed our family history on both sides and decided to order a karyotype for my husband due to his mother's 3 miscarriages and my 2 losses. As it turned out, he is a carrier for a Robertsonian translocation between chromosomes 13 and 14. Here is a brief entry someone on the Internet with the same diagnosis wrote explaining it: survivingbaby.wordpress.com/a-short-lesson-in-genetics-or-what-the-hell-is-wrong-with-me/
My daughter is here and we don't know her exact karyotype, but she is either like me or like my husband. She is a true miracle and we are beyond lucky that we were spared more losses before having her.
We have been wanting a second child since she was born, but life got in the way. I finished my PhD, had two gallbladder surgeries last spring and a bunch of complications, etc. I saw an RE twice, talking about IVF with PGS and they both gave us about the same chances for a take home baby from as we seem to have naturally, but with hopefully less loss. We decided to try the natural route, but my pregnancy that started in July of this year ended in a missed miscarriage after we saw a heartbeat at about 8 weeks. I had an MVA on August 26th and I am not waiting for my HCG to drop to zero and for my cycle to reset. We are also still waiting for the results from testing the tissue to see what the exact issue was. I turned 37 in July of this year. My last AMH done in January was at 2.02 and my AFC was about 9 or 10. I have Hashimoto's but I have always had that. Three years ago, I was able to have a normal pregnancy without complications, and it mostly seems like we just need to hot the genetic lottery one way or another.
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Now for the dilemma. Try naturally again or go to IVF? We appear to have some insurance coverage: 90% of 3 IVF Egg retrievals after meeting a fairly high deductible, 10K lifetime in meds. I have no idea how far that would actually stretch. PGS for our translocation might or might be covered, but it is 3K a cycle. I am a little intimidated by the process and unsure what to expect. I took the loss hard, but I am also kind of numb and can see myself going through it again, as horrible as that sounds, in order to have a chance to have a second child (I would rather not!). I am also above 20 lbs over the BMI required for IVF (I was 30, but have lost 10 in about 2 weeks of diet and exercise), so it will be at least two cycles before I can drop all that and get to stims. I just have no idea what to do. My husband keeps saying we will do what I want. Overall, I want a child, that's it. But that's about how much I know ...
Any thoughts will help me and thanks for listening.
I was on the previous board and decided to join this one and try to find support, hope, and information, all three of which I desperately need. I will try to be brief with my background story, all the TW from the title apply
****
In 2013, I got pregnant on the first month of trying and miscarried at 6 weeks and 4 days; that was an anembryonic pregnancy (blighted ovum). On the next cycle of trying, I had a chemical pregnancy that lasted 4 days. At that point, I freaked out, we saw an RE who found nothing concerning (but only tested me) and gave us the green light. That very same month, January 2014, I conceived my daughter naturally and she is about to turn 3. In the course of that pregnancy, during the screening we chose to do for her, a genetic counselor reviewed our family history on both sides and decided to order a karyotype for my husband due to his mother's 3 miscarriages and my 2 losses. As it turned out, he is a carrier for a Robertsonian translocation between chromosomes 13 and 14. Here is a brief entry someone on the Internet with the same diagnosis wrote explaining it: survivingbaby.wordpress.com/a-short-lesson-in-genetics-or-what-the-hell-is-wrong-with-me/
My daughter is here and we don't know her exact karyotype, but she is either like me or like my husband. She is a true miracle and we are beyond lucky that we were spared more losses before having her.
We have been wanting a second child since she was born, but life got in the way. I finished my PhD, had two gallbladder surgeries last spring and a bunch of complications, etc. I saw an RE twice, talking about IVF with PGS and they both gave us about the same chances for a take home baby from as we seem to have naturally, but with hopefully less loss. We decided to try the natural route, but my pregnancy that started in July of this year ended in a missed miscarriage after we saw a heartbeat at about 8 weeks. I had an MVA on August 26th and I am not waiting for my HCG to drop to zero and for my cycle to reset. We are also still waiting for the results from testing the tissue to see what the exact issue was. I turned 37 in July of this year. My last AMH done in January was at 2.02 and my AFC was about 9 or 10. I have Hashimoto's but I have always had that. Three years ago, I was able to have a normal pregnancy without complications, and it mostly seems like we just need to hot the genetic lottery one way or another.
****
Now for the dilemma. Try naturally again or go to IVF? We appear to have some insurance coverage: 90% of 3 IVF Egg retrievals after meeting a fairly high deductible, 10K lifetime in meds. I have no idea how far that would actually stretch. PGS for our translocation might or might be covered, but it is 3K a cycle. I am a little intimidated by the process and unsure what to expect. I took the loss hard, but I am also kind of numb and can see myself going through it again, as horrible as that sounds, in order to have a chance to have a second child (I would rather not!). I am also above 20 lbs over the BMI required for IVF (I was 30, but have lost 10 in about 2 weeks of diet and exercise), so it will be at least two cycles before I can drop all that and get to stims. I just have no idea what to do. My husband keeps saying we will do what I want. Overall, I want a child, that's it. But that's about how much I know ...
Any thoughts will help me and thanks for listening.
