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Sept 22, 2017 13:26:03 GMT -6
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Post by smilesp on Sept 22, 2017 13:26:03 GMT -6
Ok, I thought it was kind of normal if they couldn't find it to have you come back? I'm not one to make a big stink about things and just suffer internally. I might call and see if I can get my appt moved to Monday. She kind of made a big deal about telling me she might not find it and that would be ok at this point even before she tried. I'm just trying to remember that the odds are definitely in my favor since we saw a healthy baby 2 weeks ago. From my experience, this is absolutely abnormal.Β Especially since she is the one that suggested the doppler in the first place.Β You can't reliably and easily find a heartbeat with a doppler until around 13w and that's without a tilted uterus. I'm also IRL not the type to make a scene (hard to believe, I know), but I've learned that no one is going to stand up for me when it comes to my medical care and I need to be my own advocate.Β It's really easy to rage on the internet and a much different story to have to do in person, I understand.Β But you should know that you were completely due an ultrasound, right then, right there.Β Letting a mom go, even if you were told that they might not hear a heartbeat (why they would even try if they weren't confident is beyond me), so that she can fret and be anxious and stressed for nearly a week is without a doubt unacceptable in my book.Β I don't care what your history is or if you have a "legitimate reason" or not, you don't let a mom go for five days to deal with that shit on her own.Β That's bad fucking practice.Β Period. I understand what you're saying. I was caught off guard by the whole thing and I just went with her reassurance at the time. DH was at this appt and we were thinking about telling people after it but obviously now we're waiting until Wednesday at least.
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Post by Rama on Sept 22, 2017 13:31:42 GMT -6
From my experience, this is absolutely abnormal. Especially since she is the one that suggested the doppler in the first place. You can't reliably and easily find a heartbeat with a doppler until around 13w and that's without a tilted uterus. I'm also IRL not the type to make a scene (hard to believe, I know), but I've learned that no one is going to stand up for me when it comes to my medical care and I need to be my own advocate. It's really easy to rage on the internet and a much different story to have to do in person, I understand. But you should know that you were completely due an ultrasound, right then, right there. Letting a mom go, even if you were told that they might not hear a heartbeat (why they would even try if they weren't confident is beyond me), so that she can fret and be anxious and stressed for nearly a week is without a doubt unacceptable in my book. I don't care what your history is or if you have a "legitimate reason" or not, you don't let a mom go for five days to deal with that shit on her own. That's bad fucking practice. Period. I understand what you're saying. I was caught off guard by the whole thing and I just went with her reassurance at the time. DH was at this appt and we were thinking about telling people after it but obviously now we're waiting until Wednesday at least. I would at least call in and ask if they can get you in earlier. Maybe they can't. But the worst case scenario is that you have to wait until Wednesday. You'd only stand to benefit from asking for an earlier check. Even if it's only with a NP (I've done this), for five minutes. Peace of mind is paramount, this is my pregnancy motto forever. Also, please don't feel bad about not saying anything at the time. I really hope you don't feel judged or anything. You were just going with what your doctors told you, which is a completely normal way to react. You did nothing wrong. My fury is 1000% at their lack of compassion for you and YH. They never should have put you in this position.
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Post by rm2013 on Sept 22, 2017 13:51:33 GMT -6
leatherpants - all the FX that everything comes back normal!! π smilesp - I can't believe that! I'd call back on Monday and demand to be seen
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Post by ovenrack on Sept 22, 2017 13:55:43 GMT -6
Ok, I thought it was kind of normal if they couldn't find it to have you come back? I'm not one to make a big stink about things and just suffer internally. I might call and see if I can get my appt moved to Monday. She kind of made a big deal about telling me she might not find it and that would be ok at this point even before she tried. I'm just trying to remember that the odds are definitely in my favor since we saw a healthy baby 2 weeks ago. This is actually standard for my midwife's practice, too. They really don't do an ultrasound unless there's a problem - and wouldn't do it to find the heartbeat that early. The odds are WITHOUT A DOUBT in your favor, and my daughter's heartbeat was also hard to find. Hugs!
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Post by ovenrack on Sept 22, 2017 13:58:13 GMT -6
Oops, I just read through and I see that we are in the minority. Anyway, I'd definitely agree that asking to be seen on Monday is totally reasonable. Good luck!
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Sept 22, 2017 13:58:50 GMT -6
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Post by polson on Sept 22, 2017 13:58:50 GMT -6
leatherpants i'm sorry you are dealing with this extra stress. i'm glad the cvs wasn't too traumatic, hopefully you'll get some reassurance that all is well soon. we are here for you! sending all the positive vibes your way.
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Sept 22, 2017 15:03:28 GMT -6
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Post by woodenshoes on Sept 22, 2017 15:03:28 GMT -6
leatherpants How stressful. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. I hope everything comes back okay next week.
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Sept 22, 2017 15:07:28 GMT -6
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Post by woodenshoes on Sept 22, 2017 15:07:28 GMT -6
smilesp I don't know what the standard practice at my OBs office is in your case. It took them awhile to find the heartbeat at my appointment Wed and I am almost 15 weeks. I hope you get some reassurance at your next appointment or sooner
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smilesp
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Sept 22, 2017 16:00:18 GMT -6
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Post by smilesp on Sept 22, 2017 16:00:18 GMT -6
I did call and got moved to Tuesday afternoon. They didn't have anything on Monday. I started crying on the phone on my way to work and now I just feel upset about it. My appt is at 240 on Tuesday and I'm supposed to be at work at 330 so I'm trying to have it covered or have someone on call who could go in for me.
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Post by Rama on Sept 22, 2017 16:06:53 GMT -6
I did call and got moved to Tuesday afternoon. They didn't have anything on Monday. I started crying on the phone on my way to work and now I just feel upset about it. My appt is at 240 on Tuesday and I'm supposed to be at work at 330 so I'm trying to have it covered or have someone on call who could go in for me.
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Post by alwayscheese on Sept 22, 2017 20:57:24 GMT -6
So.... random funny story: earlier in the week I went for a run with my dog. We're very rural so no leash and she ran into the corn field then came running back and kept barking at something that was moving in the corn. I never saw anything/anyone but from the waving corn I could tell there was something big in there. It was a little unsettling, but I planned to ask DH what in the world it could have been, figuring it would be one of those mysteries that are never solved. Totally forgot about it. Then today she was barking at something(she's usually quiet unless there really is someone or something there) and I went to see what it was. SIX BLACK PIGS roaming around our yard. We do not own pigs, neither do any of our close neighbors. I had to call a few people and drive down the road before I found out who owned them and that they usually are loose but stay close to home. They've been trying to get them out of the corn and back home for the last couple days. The guy never came to get them and they disappeared back into the corn. DH is hoping they show up again when he's home and he thinks he'll help himself to free meat lol.
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Post by gldnbearz on Sept 22, 2017 22:43:17 GMT -6
leatherpants, sending you good thoughts for CVS results that are not a problem.
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Post by gldnbearz on Sept 22, 2017 22:47:28 GMT -6
smilesp, I am irritated that your provider tried to use the Doppler knowing that they might not be able to find it and causing additional stress by having you wait to go back. That is unnecessary.
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Sept 23, 2017 1:51:56 GMT -6
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Post by cp3 on Sept 23, 2017 1:51:56 GMT -6
Sending positive thoughts and love your way leatherpants. I hope you get good news on Tuesday.
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Sept 23, 2017 1:57:57 GMT -6
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Post by cp3 on Sept 23, 2017 1:57:57 GMT -6
I started out being super grumpy about our trip but I'm finally getting over it. I'm glad MH has the patience to deal with my craziness. We finally got our luggage after being in Morocco for 3 days without it. We are heading out to another city and going on a 3 hour bus ride. I really hope my bladder cooperates with me since I've been needing to pee so much.
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Sept 23, 2017 4:16:40 GMT -6
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Post by leatherpants on Sept 23, 2017 4:16:40 GMT -6
I did call and got moved to Tuesday afternoon. They didn't have anything on Monday. I started crying on the phone on my way to work and now I just feel upset about it. My appt is at 240 on Tuesday and I'm supposed to be at work at 330 so I'm trying to have it covered or have someone on call who could go in for me. Big big big hugs. I'm sure that your baby is fine. I don't know if it's helpful for you, but I keep thinking back to this is a product of worry from technology than it is from anything else. Like, if we didn't have the technology we do, you and I wouldn't even know there was anything to worry about. Because the odds are really high there isn't anything the matter at all. So just keep breathing and Tuesday will get here. β€οΈβ€οΈ
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Sept 23, 2017 7:18:46 GMT -6
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Post by auri on Sept 23, 2017 7:18:46 GMT -6
cp3 I'm glad you finally got your luggage! DH and I went to Scotland in May and they lost our luggage. We finally got it on our 5th day. They delivered it to the hotel next door to our hotel. We stopped by there right before we got on a train to go to London. I think I cried every day when we'd go shopping for clothes.
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Sept 23, 2017 8:04:26 GMT -6
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Sept 23, 2017 8:04:26 GMT -6
It's cold and cloudy here today. So, a perfect day to pull out my fall decor and decorate. I love this time of the year!
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Sept 23, 2017 8:15:42 GMT -6
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Post by woodenshoes on Sept 23, 2017 8:15:42 GMT -6
It's cold and cloudy here today. So, a perfect day to pull out my fall decor and decorate. I love this time of the year! The weathers where you are is the opposite of mine. We are having abnormally hot weather right now. It is going to be close to 90.
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Post by clementine on Sept 23, 2017 10:08:33 GMT -6
Yeah this weather is bananas. We're at my parents this weekend (which has no AC at the moment bc my dad's replacing the unit) and I didn't buy any maternity shorts bc I thought it would be fall before I'd grow out of my regular shorts. I was wrong. I'm dying. I don't even want to wear a bra.
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Post by whatsit on Sept 23, 2017 10:30:51 GMT -6
I'm jealous of you all with the warm weather. We had snow a couple days ago....
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Sept 23, 2017 11:25:30 GMT -6
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Post by cp3 on Sept 23, 2017 11:25:30 GMT -6
That sounds horrible auri! Luckily we had a few change of clothes in our carry on but they were casual clothes and we needed dress up clothes so we still had to buy some things. It was very stressful especially dealing with the airports here. They were not very helpful but we got them so I'm happy.
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Post by auri on Sept 23, 2017 14:58:41 GMT -6
whatsit, We can trade weather. I can't wait to not have 90+ degree temps.
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Sept 23, 2017 19:49:57 GMT -6
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Sept 23, 2017 19:49:57 GMT -6
Anyone ever have a tooth pulled during pregnancy? I was flossing tonight and a chunk of my very back upper tooth came out with the floss. I suspected that I had a cavity months ago, but kept putting off going to the dentist. Things just kept coming up. I'm regretting that now. π My tooth is starting to ache now. I know I need to get in and see the dentist, but is it safe to get the tooth pulled? I'll be 12 weeks on Monday.
I'm really embarrassed and mad at myself for letting myself go like this. I used to be so diligent and see my dentist every 6 months. With my youngest having health issues this past year and life overall getting in the way, I put my visits on the back burner. Ugh.
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Sept 23, 2017 19:51:15 GMT -6
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Sept 23, 2017 19:51:15 GMT -6
I'm jealous of you all with the warm weather. We had snow a couple days ago.... Definitely not ready for snow anytime soon!! Yikes. That would make for one long winter.
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Post by ovenrack on Sept 23, 2017 19:52:32 GMT -6
Mattsgirl, I didn't have a tooth pulled, but I had a root canal at 38 weeks pregnant. It's amazing what they can do on teeth when you're pregnant, in an emergency. Go in. They'll be able to help.
And HUGS. Don't beat yourself up. We all put things off. Blah.
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Sept 24, 2017 2:34:29 GMT -6
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Post by cp3 on Sept 24, 2017 2:34:29 GMT -6
mattsgirl2004 I haven't had a tooth pulled but had a filling done when I had a bad cavity last time I was pregnant. They knew I was pregnant and I think my OB had to send something to them stating the shots they were going to give me for numbness and pain were safe or he sent a list of what was safe I can't remember. I didn't feel a thing. I would ask if there is anything you can safely take after for the pain since a tooth pulling may be more painful.
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Sept 24, 2017 10:00:47 GMT -6
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Sept 24, 2017 10:00:47 GMT -6
Thank you cp3 and ovenrackI'm going to call first thing tomorrow morning hoping my dentist can get me in right away.
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Post by whatsit on Sept 24, 2017 12:01:23 GMT -6
I'm jealous of you all with the warm weather. We had snow a couple days ago.... Definitely not ready for snow anytime soon!! Yikes. That would make for one long winter. Ya. Luckily it melted after a day or so but still. I didn't want to see snow so early I hope you can get an appointment and your tooth fixed soon!
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Sept 24, 2017 14:55:40 GMT -6
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Post by cornpop on Sept 24, 2017 14:55:40 GMT -6
I thought the Diclegis was really helping but the past two days have been rough.
Today we did the Alzheimer's walk and 2/3 of it were legitimately like a hike through the woods. My H and Uncle had to carry my daughter's stroller half of the way. Plus it was 90 degrees out so it really was too much for me.
I laid down for 2 hours and still threw up everything.
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