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Sept 22, 2017 9:15:05 GMT -6
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Post by katietopaz on Sept 22, 2017 9:15:05 GMT -6
I'm irrationally annoyed at my SIL. She commented on our FB pregnancy announcement that she had a dream that it's a boy. The boy gene runs extremely strong on H's dad's side of the family. SIL is the only girl in years and years - all the other cousins are boys, H's dad is one of three boys, his grandpa is one of three boys, etc.
So I've already sort of resigned myself to having another boy, even though we honestly really would like a girl. I'm just annoyed that if it is a boy, SIL will say "I knew it!" On top of my already over-sensitive feels.
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September!
Sept 22, 2017 9:17:14 GMT -6
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Post by leatherpants on Sept 22, 2017 9:17:14 GMT -6
Thanks, I'll take the hugs and love. I know it's somewhat common when you get to be old like me (ha) but it's stressful. I'm feeling pretty good it's nothing but at least we'll know.
The CVS was ok and I feel good. No spotting or anything and really minor and infrequent cramps yesterday. And it was sort of weird and cool to watch the little grabber thing go through on the ultrasound.
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September!
Sept 22, 2017 9:18:15 GMT -6
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Post by leatherpants on Sept 22, 2017 9:18:15 GMT -6
I'm irrationally annoyed at my SIL. She commented on our FB pregnancy announcement that she had a dream that it's a boy. The boy gene runs extremely strong on H's dad's side of the family. SIL is the only girl in years and years - all the other cousins are boys, H's dad is one of three boys, his grandpa is one of three boys, etc. So I've already sort of resigned myself to having another boy, even though we honestly really would like a girl. I'm just annoyed that if it is a boy, SIL will say "I knew it!" On top of my already over-sensitive feels. Yep. This would annoy me too. It's probably an over sensitive thing, but I'm right there with ya
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Post by cornpop on Sept 22, 2017 9:21:56 GMT -6
I'm glad the CVS was relatively easy leatherpants. I'll be thinking good thoughts for you and hope the test results come back good.
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Post by Rama on Sept 22, 2017 9:22:29 GMT -6
I'm irrationally annoyed at my SIL. She commented on our FB pregnancy announcement that she had a dream that it's a boy. The boy gene runs extremely strong on H's dad's side of the family. SIL is the only girl in years and years - all the other cousins are boys, H's dad is one of three boys, his grandpa is one of three boys, etc. So I've already sort of resigned myself to having another boy, even though we honestly really would like a girl. I'm just annoyed that if it is a boy, SIL will say "I knew it!" On top of my already over-sensitive feels. I feel like I'm going to get the label of scrapper on this BMB. Punch your SIL. Can people just mind their own g'damn business? 'Cause that'd be great.
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September!
Sept 22, 2017 9:33:19 GMT -6
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Post by katietopaz on Sept 22, 2017 9:33:19 GMT -6
I'm irrationally annoyed at my SIL. She commented on our FB pregnancy announcement that she had a dream that it's a boy. The boy gene runs extremely strong on H's dad's side of the family. SIL is the only girl in years and years - all the other cousins are boys, H's dad is one of three boys, his grandpa is one of three boys, etc. So I've already sort of resigned myself to having another boy, even though we honestly really would like a girl. I'm just annoyed that if it is a boy, SIL will say "I knew it!" On top of my already over-sensitive feels. I feel like I'm going to get the label of scrapper on this BMB. Punch your SIL. Can people just mind their own g'damn business? 'Cause that'd be great. El oh el to my SIL knowing how to mind her own business. It's taken me awhile to get used to her personality and communication style, and a comment like that is actually pretty tame, but GDI I already know it's likely this is another boy.
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Post by alwayscheese on Sept 22, 2017 9:49:46 GMT -6
leatherpants I hit like for seeing you post and the bra rec. I want to check them out. Then I read the rest of your post. T&P, we're here for you.
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Post by alwayscheese on Sept 22, 2017 9:50:18 GMT -6
Also on #teamsensitive over here
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September!
Sept 22, 2017 9:50:33 GMT -6
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Post by leatherpants on Sept 22, 2017 9:50:33 GMT -6
Those bras really are life changing. I really like the Betty Plunge.
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Post by smootiepie on Sept 22, 2017 10:02:46 GMT -6
leatherpants my risk w/ DS came back at 1 in 47, and he turned out just fine. It was the worst having to wait for the results, so you have have all my sorries and hair pats for the next week. ((hugs))
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Sept 22, 2017 10:04:08 GMT -6
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Post by smilesp on Sept 22, 2017 10:04:08 GMT -6
I had an appt this morning for an exam and bloodwork. She couldn't find the HB with the Doppler which is giving me all kinds of anxiety. I'm 11w3d and apparently I have a slightly backwards tilted uterus. I'm supposed to go back Wednesday so they can try again. She said if they can't find it then they'll do an u/s.
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Post by Rama on Sept 22, 2017 10:06:38 GMT -6
I had an appt this morning for an exam and bloodwork. She couldn't find the HB with the Doppler which is giving me all kinds of anxiety. I'm 11w3d and apparently I have a slightly backwards tilted uterus. I'm supposed to go back Wednesday so they can try again. She said if they can't find it then they'll do an u/s. Wait, they had you LEAVE without doing an ultrasound???????? UHM. NO?????? WHERE ARE MY GODDAMN PITCHFORKS.
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Post by Rama on Sept 22, 2017 10:07:45 GMT -6
Like, I'm legitimately slightly freaking out with/for you, smilesp. That's some bogus ass shit if I've ever heard any. What the fuck kind of provider lets a mom leave without peace of mind when they couldn't find the heartbeat on a doppler??!?!? HELLO?!?!!?!?
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Post by Rama on Sept 22, 2017 10:11:29 GMT -6
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Sept 22, 2017 10:15:47 GMT -6
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Post by katietopaz on Sept 22, 2017 10:15:47 GMT -6
I'm with Rama on this. I'm sorry, smilesp - they should have done the u/s for you then and there. Can you call and ask to come back in? For what it's worth, they couldn't find the heartbeat on the Doppler at 11-12 weeks with my DS because I had a tilted uterus. It can definitely make it much tougher to hear!
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September!
Sept 22, 2017 10:16:51 GMT -6
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Post by leatherpants on Sept 22, 2017 10:16:51 GMT -6
leatherpants my risk w/ DS came back at 1 in 47, and he turned out just fine. It was the worst having to wait for the results, so you have have all my sorries and hair pats for the next week. ((hugs)) These anecdotes have given my life over the past week. Thank you
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Post by whatsit on Sept 22, 2017 10:17:44 GMT -6
leatherpants thinking of you and hoping for good results next week! katietopaz sorry about your sil. What a shitty thing. Why do people think it's their business to say things like that? Anecdote- when H told sil about us expecting G, her first response was "I knew it!" (Instead of, you know, congratulations like a normal person). She had also already told a bunch of people in their town that she thought thats why we were coming to visit. Thanks? We don't talk to her now for other reasons...
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Post by whatsit on Sept 22, 2017 10:18:50 GMT -6
Also, I love Rama coming to everyone's rescue. Rama... defender of MA18!
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September!
Sept 22, 2017 10:19:08 GMT -6
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Post by leatherpants on Sept 22, 2017 10:19:08 GMT -6
JFC smilesp that sounds just awful. I'd be pissed. I'm sure everything is fine and the HB sitch is due to a very good reason and your baby is fine. I would fully support you if you marched back in there and demanded an ultrasound.
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Post by Rama on Sept 22, 2017 10:22:40 GMT -6
Also, I love Rama coming to everyone's rescue. Rama... defender of MA18! Me, to all of these shitty providers:
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Post by cornpop on Sept 22, 2017 10:33:40 GMT -6
smilesp, I agree with calling to see if you can get in for an ultrasound today. That is so stressful to have to wait. But, FWIW, I have a tilted uterus and an anterior placenta, and at 12w1d they couldn't pickup a heartbeat on the doppler. The only reason I didn't freak out was because we had literally just come from an ultrasound. If I hadn't, I would have made them do one before I left.
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Post by auri on Sept 22, 2017 10:35:58 GMT -6
smilesp, I agree, I would call back and see if there's any way they can get you in for the u/s today. 5 days seems like a long time to wait.
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Post by Rama on Sept 22, 2017 10:38:47 GMT -6
smilesp , I agree, I would call back and see if there's any way they can get you in for the u/s today. 5 days seems like a long time to wait. I am in a weird pocket dimension because I swear Wednesday was in two days. Or I can't count. But mostly, I have no idea what day it is today. I just know this is horseshit.
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Post by yianna on Sept 22, 2017 11:34:41 GMT -6
katietopaz i really hope it's a girl then so you can tell your sil to shove it. and HELL NO to waiting for the sono. Get in now. You need your sanity smilesp. I'm not going to lie. I researched hand held ultrasounds last time to see if I could afford one. What can I say? I'm NEUROTIC.
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Sept 22, 2017 11:56:05 GMT -6
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Post by smilesp on Sept 22, 2017 11:56:05 GMT -6
Ok, I thought it was kind of normal if they couldn't find it to have you come back? I'm not one to make a big stink about things and just suffer internally. I might call and see if I can get my appt moved to Monday. She kind of made a big deal about telling me she might not find it and that would be ok at this point even before she tried. I'm just trying to remember that the odds are definitely in my favor since we saw a healthy baby 2 weeks ago.
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Post by Rama on Sept 22, 2017 12:10:04 GMT -6
Ok, I thought it was kind of normal if they couldn't find it to have you come back? I'm not one to make a big stink about things and just suffer internally. I might call and see if I can get my appt moved to Monday. She kind of made a big deal about telling me she might not find it and that would be ok at this point even before she tried. I'm just trying to remember that the odds are definitely in my favor since we saw a healthy baby 2 weeks ago. From my experience, this is absolutely abnormal. Especially since she is the one that suggested the doppler in the first place. You can't reliably and easily find a heartbeat with a doppler until around 13w and that's without a tilted uterus. I'm also IRL not the type to make a scene (hard to believe, I know), but I've learned that no one is going to stand up for me when it comes to my medical care and I need to be my own advocate. It's really easy to rage on the internet and a much different story to have to do in person, I understand. But you should know that you were completely due an ultrasound, right then, right there. Letting a mom go, even if you were told that they might not hear a heartbeat (why they would even try if they weren't confident is beyond me), so that she can fret and be anxious and stressed for nearly a week is without a doubt unacceptable in my book. I don't care what your history is or if you have a "legitimate reason" or not, you don't let a mom go for five days to deal with that shit on her own. That's bad fucking practice. Period.
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September!
Sept 22, 2017 12:45:57 GMT -6
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Post by ArielMermaid on Sept 22, 2017 12:45:57 GMT -6
leatherpants I missed this. I suck at keeping up with GD board. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you. The waiting is awful.
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Sept 22, 2017 12:49:44 GMT -6
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Post by ArielMermaid on Sept 22, 2017 12:49:44 GMT -6
smilesp this is very ?????? To me. I live in a teeny tiny rural area but even my doctor has a little rickety u/s machine she rolls out that day if something like this happens. Wth to your doctor.
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September!
Sept 22, 2017 12:53:13 GMT -6
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Post by mattsgirl2004 on Sept 22, 2017 12:53:13 GMT -6
leatherpants lots of hugs. I hope the CVS brings nothing but reassuring news. smilesp When my OB couldn't find the heartbeat with the doppler at 10w2d, I got a quick u/s. They told me there was a chance they wouldn't be able to find it via doppler, but that didnt help my ambient any. Even with that knowledge, the NP told me they'd never send a pg woman home to worry about it and that a quick u/s is for peace of mind for mom-to-be. Your OB most definitely should have offered the same. I'm sorry that wasn't the case and that you have to wait. I am with the other PP's when it comes to calling and trying to get in sooner. Hang in there hun! Thinking of you!
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Sept 22, 2017 12:53:36 GMT -6
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Post by katietopaz on Sept 22, 2017 12:53:36 GMT -6
Ok, I thought it was kind of normal if they couldn't find it to have you come back? I'm not one to make a big stink about things and just suffer internally. I might call and see if I can get my appt moved to Monday. She kind of made a big deal about telling me she might not find it and that would be ok at this point even before she tried. I'm just trying to remember that the odds are definitely in my favor since we saw a healthy baby 2 weeks ago. From my own experience with my OB office and anecdotes from friends and here/TCF/TB, I don't think it's completely abnormal for them to have you come back and try later. But I think it's unusual enough that at your point in pregnancy, it wouldn't be considered making a stink to push for an ultrasound. The odds are absolutely in your favor, but that's not a worry you should have to have. Even this week when my OB was having a little trouble finding the heartbeat, she was very quick to say that if she couldn't find it, they'd do a quick ultrasound to make sure all is well. My impression is that that's more the norm.
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