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Post by muscari on Sept 5, 2017 22:19:08 GMT -6
@starzia your baby sister sounds like the perfect visitor!
The first days after coming home from the hospital we had a postpartum caregiver help us both with D as with basic household chores which was great and while OCD me had to refold all the laundry she had done I do miss her help lots. 😊 MH does his best but since I cant do a lot myself yet we are already behind on stuff already again gah. We also have had visitors every day since we came home too except for saturday which has been intense! One of them brought us dinner though 👍 we decided to try space out visitors from now on. I can't imagine having visitors that stay overnight.. let alone stay for days or weeks on end or till December 🤥😫 my sympathies!
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Post by addymac on Sept 6, 2017 3:00:13 GMT -6
First night of baby crying for no reason. Ahhhh That was us from 5p-10p. Nonstop fussy, eating, crying. I finally cried around 9 bc my nipples were so raw from his constant feeding and my back is killing me from holding, rocking, and feeding. He fell asleep on me around 10 and we napped til 2:30. Now I'm pumping after feeding one boob for an hour bc the idea of him near my right nipple makes me want to cry.
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Post by muscari on Sept 6, 2017 3:15:30 GMT -6
Hugs addymac! Those nights are so rough. I am sorry you are still in so much pain on your right side as well. Hopefully it will get better soon now you are on something for it (?).
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Post by muscari on Sept 6, 2017 3:18:04 GMT -6
Y'all I finally pumped my first full 2oz!! Woot! My breasts felt pretty full when I woke up and D. only wanted to nurse on the right side - she was too sleepy to for dessert on the left so that of course helped getting more then usual while pumping but wow. Good boost for my BFing selfesteem and nice for MH to be able to give her a feeding at some point.
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Post by muscari on Sept 6, 2017 3:19:30 GMT -6
Now I just hope D. will sleep a little longer still cause I was hoping to get a bit of a nap in. She s been down for 40 minutes...and I am afraid I already hear her again. Maybr she will go back to sleep 🤞🤞
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 6, 2017 5:44:56 GMT -6
I swear some babies just hate to sleep flat in a bassinet or cosleeper. My first despised it so it makes it so hard when they are dead asleep on you and you put them down and awake in a minute! M does ok so far 🙏 She definitely sleeps better in the rock n play but I'm trying to avoid that for overnight sleep and just using it for naps. DD1 basically would only sleep in a swing or on me for the first 5 months, DNW addymac, sorry your boobs are still so sore. Did they diagnose you with thrush?
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Post by cwbh928 on Sept 6, 2017 6:16:40 GMT -6
I swear some babies just hate to sleep flat in a bassinet or cosleeper. My first despised it so it makes it so hard when they are dead asleep on you and you put them down and awake in a minute! M does ok so far 🙏 She definitely sleeps better in the rock n play but I'm trying to avoid that for overnight sleep and just using it for naps. DD1 basically would only sleep in a swing or on me for the first 5 months, DNW addymac, sorry your boobs are still so sore. Did they diagnose you with thrush? My first would only sleep in rnp or with me. He hated the bassinet even after we angled it. It was rough.
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Post by addymac on Sept 6, 2017 7:39:48 GMT -6
N is only sleeping in the rnp or on us. Tried the pnp once and he had no interest. I know we need to try again but I'd rather get any sleep at this point.
Dr said it sounds like the beginning of thrush so might as well get a head start on treating it. So here I am. We will see how it goes.
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Post by jexxa on Sept 6, 2017 7:45:03 GMT -6
muscari we're just doing baths when it's convenient right now. I'm not worried about routines at this stage. If I remember with DS we didn't start trying to implement a routine until 3-4 months when his sleep patterns became a little more predictable (daycare also really helped get him on a schedule too).
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 6, 2017 7:45:45 GMT -6
N is only sleeping in the rnp or on us. Tried the pnp once and he had no interest. I know we need to try again but I'd rather get any sleep at this point. Dr said it sounds like the beginning of thrush so might as well get a head start on treating it. So here I am. We will see how it goes. Ugh I'm sorry about the thrush, hope you feel better soon ☹️
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Post by jexxa on Sept 6, 2017 7:49:10 GMT -6
First night of baby crying for no reason. Ahhhh That was us from 5p-10p. Nonstop fussy, eating, crying. I finally cried around 9 bc my nipples were so raw from his constant feeding and my back is killing me from holding, rocking, and feeding. He fell asleep on me around 10 and we napped til 2:30. Now I'm pumping after feeding one boob for an hour bc the idea of him near my right nipple makes me want to cry. Oh girl, my heart goes out to you ❤️
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Post by muscari on Sept 6, 2017 7:55:52 GMT -6
Can someone enlighten this silly Dutchie on what an rnp is? 🤔😆
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Post by muscari on Sept 6, 2017 7:57:59 GMT -6
jexxa I somehow missed your bad weather report- sorry you were without power and your dishwasher (and back door) started leaking. No dmg I hope! Hopefully no more trees came down either -scary!
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Post by addymac on Sept 6, 2017 8:00:38 GMT -6
Can someone enlighten this silly Dutchie on what an rnp is? 🤔😆 Rock n play - it rocks and might vibrate or play music. This:
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Post by muscari on Sept 6, 2017 8:00:51 GMT -6
We've only done one bath a week, oops. But now he's starting peeing and pooping everywhere at almost every diaper change so I might have to increase that. I've read not to put lotion on their skin at this age, but his skin looked so sad and dry I put a little non scented baby lotion on it and it looks much better now. D. skin got all sad and flakey looking in places after her last bath (which is also why I postponed bathing for a week after that last bath with the PP nurse!) Today she pooped herself so MH rinsed her off under the shower and I did put a little bit of baby unscented lotion on her.. didnt know you weren't supposed to do so at this age!? Her skin sure liked it tho!
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Post by muscari on Sept 6, 2017 8:04:09 GMT -6
My SIL was supposed to come visit the baby this afternoon but she never showed. My mum also popped by to drop of the veil she made for the wicker bassinet - and without SIL visiting we are having such a nice afternoon. Mum helped fold some laundry, had a lovely cuddle session with D., we all had lunch, and now she s outside in the garden with MH. Once I get out if baby jail (I hope D. will settle for a nap once she finishes this nursing session..) I plan on getting some fresh air too even if tis just 5 minutes. Or nap.... so tired lol.
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Post by muscari on Sept 6, 2017 8:06:04 GMT -6
muscari we're just doing baths when it's convenient right now. I'm not worried about routines at this stage. If I remember with DS we didn't start trying to implement a routine until 3-4 months when his sleep patterns became a little more predictable (daycare also really helped get him on a schedule too). That is good to know.. i was a little worried we were supposed to have some sort of routine already but yeah no thay ain't happening just yet! Unless diaper check/change followed by nursing followed by hopefully sleepy time rinse repeat is a routine 😂
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Post by muscari on Sept 6, 2017 8:07:55 GMT -6
addymac ahhhh! I thought maybe that was it but wasnt sure. Are these sometimes called a rocker or something too? We call these a "wippertje" 😊 tho the ones here usually just rock, no music or such.
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Post by muscari on Sept 6, 2017 8:08:42 GMT -6
Why the 'n play bit I wonder... ditto for the pack'n'plays. Those are basically travel cots imho 😊
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Post by muscari on Sept 6, 2017 8:11:49 GMT -6
addymac I hope your MILs house will survive Irma! Did you hear anything about DHs SS yet?? Sorry your workfriends haven't come by yet. Could it be they are waiting for a cue from you? We had some friends really eager to come visit but waiting to hear from us as they didnt want to disturb us, be an inconvenience or be pushy .
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Post by jexxa on Sept 6, 2017 8:26:30 GMT -6
Can someone enlighten this silly Dutchie on what an rnp is? 🤔😆 Rock n play - it rocks and might vibrate or play music. This: THE BEST. DS slept in one for the first few months of his life until we transitioned to the crib. I actually bought a second one this time around so I have one upstairs and one downstairs.
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Post by jexxa on Sept 6, 2017 8:28:52 GMT -6
jexxa I somehow missed your bad weather report- sorry you were without power and your dishwasher (and back door) started leaking. No dmg I hope! Hopefully no more trees came down either -scary! No damage! I thought H had fixed the leaky back door a week or so ago but apparently not. It's supposed to rain all day today but we don't seem to get water in unless it's torrentially downpouring.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 6, 2017 9:51:30 GMT -6
Yeah I don't see how there could be a bedtime routine at this age. We struggled with my first too because of colic so hopefully M will be better and like jexxa said starting like 3-4 months
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Sept 6, 2017 9:56:11 GMT -6
Yeah I don't see how there could be a bedtime routine at this age. We struggled with my first too because of colic so hopefully M will be better and like jexxa said starting like 3-4 months I agree with this. I was super rigid with my first and tried to force a schedule from the beginning, but even with all my timing, tears, and effort (and craziness, lol) he didn't sleep through the night till almost 2 years old, so I'm trying to go with the flow for this one.
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Post by cwbh928 on Sept 6, 2017 10:28:34 GMT -6
Our rock n play was a game changer with our first. He had bad reflux and pedi said rock n play might be his best bet for sleep. He hates his bassinet even when we angled it.
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Post by addymac on Sept 6, 2017 12:03:23 GMT -6
Thanks, guys. I am trying to pump to trade offon feeds in hopes my nipples heal quicker but he's eating everything I pump in one sitting! Hungry boy!
Rant: why the hell do they make nursing tops form fitting?? I bought one from pink blush and it's so form fitting around my stomach I feel so fat 😒 And the stuff I ordered from old navy / the gap won't arrive til late next week. I've never felt worse about my body. And I hate feeling this way! I just had a baby! I should be gentle with myself but ugh.
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Post by thinkchocolate05 on Sept 6, 2017 14:57:18 GMT -6
I've been wearing my maternity shirts bc nothing else fits, but it is so depressing. One of dh's Facebook friends is a fitness person and posted a photo of herself two weeks post partum, and she looks great!!! I look five months pregnant. But it's true--we did just have babies and should be nicer to ourselves.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 6, 2017 15:03:54 GMT -6
Yeah I don't see how there could be a bedtime routine at this age. We struggled with my first too because of colic so hopefully M will be better and like jexxa said starting like 3-4 months I agree with this. I was super rigid with my first and tried to force a schedule from the beginning, but even with all my timing, tears, and effort (and craziness, lol) he didn't sleep through the night till almost 2 years old, so I'm trying to go with the flow for this one. Not to scare all the FTMs but my first was also a sleeping disaster and didn't STTN till 14 months. Was a boob magnet and nursing every 2 hours lol. I cannot go through that again
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Post by king26 on Sept 6, 2017 15:52:23 GMT -6
I hope your brother is ok nutmeg, @starzia, Crying for no reason is the worst. We had several days of that when we brougth J home from the hospital but thankfully it hasn't been like that since. thinkchocolate05, I am wearing my maternity pants and shoes though some of my normal tops fit. I've lost a ton of my maternity weight but I definitely still have plenty in the belly and hips and I'm not sure when I'll fit back into regular pants.....if ever. It's annoying. Two questions: 1. When will the cord stump fall off? J is 12 days old and it's driving me crazy, mostly because it keeps getting a little blood on his clothes daily. 2. Does anyone else have pain when pooping? Like it's still really painful for me and it sucks. I've been taking the stool softener they gave me at the hospital but I'm still in pain. We had trouble with J in the bassinet and it's angled. He will sleep in it out in the living room for daytime naps but hates it at night. We finally put the PNP with the bassinet in it in our bedroom and it's so much better. He doesn't love it but he will sleep in it. We did our newborn photos this morning. I was really worried because J was super cranky this morning refusing to sleep. However, the woman was great....so patient, had her studio set at 85 degrees so he was warm, and she got some great shots. I can't wait to seem them edited. FINALLY heard back from the lactation consultant. They said I can come in for a weighted feeding tomorrow. I guess I will though we have a doctors appointment tomorrow so I'll at least know his weight. I'm pretty sure I'm still not producing what I need too and we are supplementing 4 times a day, 1 ounce at a time. I've felt better the last few days giving him the formula and I've made my peace if I'm not able to breastfeed him. I enjoy it and he's really been nursing for LONG periods of time the last 3 days, but if it's not sustaining him I want to do what is best. Plus DH feels worthless because he can't feed him except when it's bottle time and that's only after I've nursed.
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Post by jt2378 on Sept 6, 2017 15:58:02 GMT -6
king26, M's stump just fell off the other day at 3 weeks old so a little later than they originally said.
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