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Post by Dramaphile on Aug 28, 2017 14:10:37 GMT -6
I'm feeling like maybe it's time at 21 months, and it's probably going to be a struggle, but I am ready to have my body back for at least a little while still we start TFAS. Nugget's down to nursing twice on weeknights, usually when I get home and during the bedtime routine (before we read books). last night when she woke up, instead of nursing her, I cuddled her till she calmed down and eventually she went to sleep. She loses her mind if Daddy tries to comfort her MOTN recently.
I know there's that Nursies when the Sun Shines book, but we don't nurse that much during the day, is it better to transfer to earlier nursing and then cut that out? How did you do it? I don't know if I need advice or just cheerleading so I can stick to my guns and weather the likely pathetic sobbing when I deny her the boob. I'm ok with doing it slowly, over a month or so, but she doesn't show any signs of giving it up on her own any time soon. Oh, and we don't cosleep. I feel like most of the toddler weaning resources are for people who bed share.
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Post by ovenrack on Aug 28, 2017 17:05:22 GMT -6
I'm a fan of sticking it out and weathering the tears. Especially MOTN.
Also, letting your spouse take some of the brunt. No one will die from the tears or screaming. He'll go through worse, and so will she.
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Post by loony on Aug 28, 2017 17:11:52 GMT -6
I am in this boat, for the second time, only ER still nurse many times a day.
DS is way less verbal than DD was, so it was easier to reason with her and know she understands. (He was a preemie also, so I was determined to go longer).
I definitely have been wearing turtlenecks and buttoned up flannels when I do middle of the night comforting.
Ultimately, I had to send DD to my mom's for two nights to completely wean. We have a wedding to go to in about two weeks and he'll be staying with her at my mom's.
Thus far, he's fine with dad or my mom, as long as he doesn't think I'm an option. If he hears or sees me, it's game over.
Good luck.
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Post by snowmoon on Aug 28, 2017 17:17:12 GMT -6
I'm here. I'm no help though because I've been trying to end it for months (and month, and months.) Maybe you could try letting dad do her bedtime routine then you can at least cut out that session.
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Post by Dramaphile on Aug 29, 2017 6:32:49 GMT -6
Possible progress, I distracted her enough when I got home that we only nursed at bedtime and she STTN. Hopefully this is good news going forward? Eventually I know I'm going to have to have J do bedtime.
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Post by Dramaphile on Aug 29, 2017 6:34:40 GMT -6
Is anyone interested in doing some kind of ongoing weaning accountability/support thread? Since there are a few of us thinking about it and/or night weaning. Not that I want to pressure anybody into weaning, but if people are interested and need support in the process...
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Post by rockies on Aug 29, 2017 7:23:59 GMT -6
For what it is worth, with my oldest I found it easiest to drop the night feeding verses the one after I got home from work. He was more dependent on that one. But the distraction tactic is a good way to go.
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Post by stringy on Aug 29, 2017 7:37:36 GMT -6
My "toddler" is a bit younger at 14 months - but I'm also wanting to wean. Although generally too tired and busy to implement any strategies. So yes to a check in.
Like as soon as I walk in from work, 4 days a week - she shrieks, "runs" to me, signs milk, and generally clings, whines and signs until she gets some. So....while she goes 6-10 hours w/o nursing - she's not gonna give that up easily. The rest are mostly MOTN. When I don't work she doesn't nurse much more than 3x a day, usually morning, nap and bed - maybe an extra late afternoon if she has access to be climbing on me (vs out and about).
So I don't even know where to start. The opportunities to distract with cup and snack seem few and far between.
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Post by stringy on Aug 29, 2017 7:38:48 GMT -6
I'm a fan of sticking it out and weathering the tears. Especially MOTN. Also, letting your spouse take some of the brunt. No one will die from the tears or screaming. He'll go through worse, and so will she. Can I just borrow A for a week or so? I'm sure P would take to him and he seems good at this. |
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Post by ovenrack on Aug 29, 2017 7:57:20 GMT -6
I'm a fan of sticking it out and weathering the tears. Especially MOTN. Also, letting your spouse take some of the brunt. No one will die from the tears or screaming. He'll go through worse, and so will she. Can I just borrow A for a week or so? I'm sure P would take to him and he seems good at this. I'm sure a bearded man wouldn't be at all terrifying to her MOTN... Maybe he can wear a mask. |
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Post by ovenrack on Aug 29, 2017 7:57:49 GMT -6
and yes, he is good at it. His unrelenting patience is a virtue, even though it makes me feel inadequate often.
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Post by stringy on Aug 29, 2017 8:05:10 GMT -6
and yes, he is good at it. His unrelenting patience is a virtue, even though it makes me feel inadequate often. well hey - you guys as a team have successfully sleep trained about....3-4 more times than we have. I think I got 3 hours of sleep last night. |
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Post by mapleme on Aug 29, 2017 17:02:59 GMT -6
Can I just borrow A for a week or so? I'm sure P would take to him and he seems good at this. I'm sure a bearded man wouldn't be at all terrifying to her MOTN... Maybe he can wear a mask. C LOVES beards. To which Brandie's R1 can attest. #notuseful |
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