Monday Randoms

[bootsorhearts1]

thatgirlrachel, my LC suggested Belibea bras. They are nursing bras that also double as hands free pumping bras.

[riverraine]

I'm a little discouraged and could use some PT advice/reassurance. So this week (today through Wed) DS is at a backup daycare place because his regular place is closed for summer break. Not ideal for PT but I went for it. Well, today did not go well. He had multiple accidents including poop and I am assuming they gave up on trying to deal with it because they had him in a diaper when I picked him up. I don't even know if he had any successful potties while he was there. A bummer after what I thought was a good first weekend of progress.

I don't know how much they are willing to work with me/him on it because he's not a regular student there and it seems like most of the kids are much younger, so it's not something they are really doing on a regular basis. I don't feel like forcing it either, but everything I read is like "you must commit 100%!" So will it be the worst if he ends up wearing diapers there the next few days? We have another long weekend coming up and then he's back to his regular daycare next week where I know they will be super helpful.

[cythe]

WWO17D?

So, my BFF and her husband aka likely godparents live about 4 hours from us, and are planning to come see us in the hospital or shortly thereafter.

They're both pro-vaccine but I just found out that he was allergic to the pertussis vaccination as a child and so will not be getting the tdap. I have already had mine, so baby has ...
.5 of a vaccination.

Wwyd?

[cythe]

I have no advice riverraine but I just want to offer some hugs, that seems like a hard spot to be in.

[riverraine]

Aug 28, 2017 19:17:17 GMT -6 cythe said:

WWO17D?

So, my BFF and her husband aka likely godparents live about 4 hours from us, and are planning to come see us in the hospital or shortly thereafter.

They're both pro-vaccine but I just found out that he was allergic to the pertussis vaccination as a child and so will not be getting the tdap. I have already had mine, so baby has ...
.5 of a vaccination.

Wwyd?

I personally would be ok with him visiting if I trusted him (you obviously do) and he was in good health before and at the time of the visit, but totally understand those who would not be comfortable with it.

[rebeccabunch]

Aug 28, 2017 19:23:18 GMT -6 riverraine said:

Aug 28, 2017 19:17:17 GMT -6 cythe said:

WWO17D?

So, my BFF and her husband aka likely godparents live about 4 hours from us, and are planning to come see us in the hospital or shortly thereafter.

They're both pro-vaccine but I just found out that he was allergic to the pertussis vaccination as a child and so will not be getting the tdap. I have already had mine, so baby has ...
.5 of a vaccination.

Wwyd?

I personally would be ok with him visiting if I trusted him (you obviously do) and he was in good health before and at the time of the visit, but totally understand those who would not be comfortable with it.

Me too and I'm batshit over baby germs. As long as he's not sick (and anyone sick shouldn't be visiting anyway) you are fine.

[rebeccabunch]

riverraine I think you hv special circumstances. If temp daycare isn't on board (I don't really blame them) it's likely not going to work out this week. I think back and forth into diapers will just make it worse.

You know your regular daycare better and if they will give it their all it may be a better option. Or, I'd wait until the later part of mat leave when things aren't so crazy and keep him home a few days from daycare so you can string like 5 or 6 in row.

I really do buy into the underwear too early feels like a diaper thing. I know not everyone is into commando but I think it messes with their muscle memory.

PT is hard. I've been super on edge since we started. I really want wine.

[August Blooms]

riverraine That was Friday for us, then Saturday she had zero accidents but by then she had been a week in already. I would say depending on how well he did during the weekend that maybe keep at it and send a bunch of clothes. I know drop off and pick up can be chaotic, is there anyway you could have a conversation with them during the day to make sure everyone is on the same page. FWIW I was feeling very defeated Friday night but everyone here was so supportive and said keep at it. I'm glad we did.

Oh and she had 3 accidents today when she was home with me but was perfect all weekend.

[August Blooms]

cythe What Riverraine and Rebeccabunch said.

[mkrupar]

cythe I'd still let him visit. If he's not sick prior to or during the visit, you should be ok.

[cythe]

Thank you, my friends. I wasn't sure how up in arms to be about this. I can't really blame the man for an allergic reaction, you know?

I'm good with some germs and I know kids need exposure, but I'd like her to not be so new before I throw a lot of them at her ha.

[riverraine]

rebeccabunch and August Blooms Thank you for the pep talk. It just helps to vent and talk it through with people who are dealing with the same thing. Pickup today was def chaotic so that contributed to my frustration about not being able to have a conversation with them about it. So yeah tomorrow morning I'm going to ask if they can try their best to prompt/remind him, but if it's not working then they can use diapers and I'm not going to stress about it. We'll have a 5 day stretch coming up with my mom watching him Thurs then he's with us Fri-Mon so I'm optimistic we can make more progress then.

So glad to hear your DD had a good weekend August Blooms even if today was rough. My next door neighbor who PTed his daughter last month also gave me a pep talk today and reminded me it's not going to be exactly linear.

rebeccabunch I completely agree with you about undies. DS has been way better when he can be naked or commando.

[Taitai]

riverraine That sucks the daycare gave up and had him back in a diaper when you picked him up. Could you maybe ask that they take him to the potty once every 2 hours during the day to see if that helps? It just seems really crappy that they don't seem on board.

If the response you get is less than helpful, you might want to just suck up the diapers during daycare for this week, and then do another training session over the weekend - that way he will be all set for the normal daycare next week. Sorry you are dealing with this

cythe That's a tough one. Maybe you could ask your OB or pedi what they think? I honestly am not sure about how much of a risk it is for him to be around your baby, provided he is not sick. Sorry I can't be of more help.

ETA - just saw the other responses and I agree that if it were me, I'd be fine with him visiting, as long as he wasn't sick. I probably wouldn't want him to hold the baby though. I would also still ask the pedi and OB for advice, just because I'm weird like that.

[duskymonkey]

I am on board with everything Taitai, said....except for her love of raw cookie dough

[duskymonkey]

riverraine, how long more is your DS going to be in the temp daycare? It will be really hard and confusing for him if they aren't on board and also make it so much harder for him and you too. Like Taitai, said could you ask them to periodically take him and I would say even less like every 1-1.5 hrs? DS in the beginning could never hold it for 2 hrs. We started off with every 30 then increased every 15 mins then transitions of activity i.e. before going out, before and after meals, before naps etc.. Or if he's going back to his normal DC soon and you know they'll be on board, maybe wait until then? I am just afraid both of you would end up getting frustrated with the back and forth scenario like rebeccabunch, said. Regressions will also happen. When we started DS last year just as he turned 2, we did great over the summer and then he got really ill in October and it all went downhill from there but we just kept on it and and it took us like 2 months! to get back on track. There were other scenarios happening during then which didn't help either. We also had another regression this yr in February when again DS got sick but was back on track much faster ~ maybe 2 weeks after his sickness. The one thing we were lucky with is we only had to deal with pee, he's been really good on the poop part ever since he was 20 months and we've never had any poopcident since then (we also did EC for poop earlier on and never enforced the pee - maybe we should've done both together but who knows ). I can see how cleaning up poopidents is just so much harder. If you decide to continue training, just persevere, some kids take a longer, DS was slow on the pee end but we stuck to it and it's amazing not having to deal with diapers...well except for naps and nighttime. BTW we still have the occasion peecident but they're really small so don't assume you've failed after months of no accidents. They're kids and they will have accidents periodically many years down the road I would think. Whatever it is don't beat yourself up.

[duskymonkey]

I need to hit the sack but today was a busy day between drop off and pick up with DS and my OB appt. and since I was out in town for a good chunk of the day, I stopped at Target to get a pack of new undies for DS and I also picked up a 3 set of NB footies with foldover cuff thingy! They're not side buttoned but I was so excited about the folded cuff cos I remember how DS was such an Edward Scissorhands! and those blooming mitts never stayed on and he would end up with scratches like a wild animal. If anyone is looking this is what I got
www.target.com/p/baby-3pk-sleep-n-play-set-cloud-island-153-mint-oatmeal/-/A-52376061#lnk=sametab
The image doesn't show the folded cuffs but the ones I got had them...so excited!

[August Blooms]

riverraine Sounds like a good strategy, good luck today! I have to keep reminding myself it's not linear and I don't have a magic baby that is instantly going to be PT and that their will be accidents.