milano
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Post by milano on Aug 24, 2017 7:35:00 GMT -6
J has been doing excellent about peeing in the potty with only a couple accidents since Saturday. He's had no pants on though. Today I decided to introduce underwear and he instantly peed through 2 pairs in about 20 mins. Which, I kind of expected so I had prepped the couch that he was sitting on. I had him practice taking him off and he can do that no problem. You keep put them back on by himself and pull them up but I didn't expect him to be able to do that yet.
He starts preschool in about 2 weeks, in blank orientation a couple nights ago and he loved it and he's very excited about going so I've been hyping up the preschool means underwear, going in the potty thing. He's all about it.
How many days do I go before I have him start wearing underwear? He's back to be naked now since he peed through the first two pairs I didn't want him to get frustrated. I'm going to try a pair of loose Pants next. We're also going on a 10 hour car trip in a week. I have no trips or outings planned between now and then for him so he's got plenty of time to be home working on pottying. I plan on taking one of his potties and just keeping it in the car, and putting some sort of puppy pad under his butt. Depending on how he's doing all either put him in a pull up or underwear I don't know.
Basically this is a word vomit / curious how your kid transitioned from naked butts to underwear if that's the method you used to potty train. Or if you did another method feel free to share that. All anecdotes/advice/opinions welcome.
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Post by brandiewine11 on Aug 24, 2017 8:28:38 GMT -6
Do the going commando under pants before you introduce undies. Continue to prompt him to go. Also start going on small outings - a walk, quick car trip, etc so he gets used to that. Staying home gets so tedious.
For the car - we did an 8 hour trip about 2 weeks after PT. It was totally fine! I gave him the choice of wearing undies or "sleeping undies" as we decided to call pull ups. He chose pull-ups for the ride out, but kept them dry as we made sure to stop regularly and remind him to tell us if he needed to go. On the way back (5 days later), he chose undies except at his nap time when I put him in the pull up.
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Post by milano on Aug 24, 2017 9:15:00 GMT -6
Do the going commando under pants before you introduce undies. Continue to prompt him to go. Also start going on small outings - a walk, quick car trip, etc so he gets used to that. Staying home gets so tedious. For the car - we did an 8 hour trip about 2 weeks after PT. It was totally fine! I gave him the choice of wearing undies or "sleeping undies" as we decided to call pull ups. He chose pull-ups for the ride out, but kept them dry as we made sure to stop regularly and remind him to tell us if he needed to go. On the way back (5 days later), he chose undies except at his nap time when I put him in the pull up. I like the idea of giving him a choice what to wear in the car for the long trip. We did do a small outing yesterday and I put him in a blueberry trainer, we did two bathroom breaks in the hour we were out and he peed a lot during those but there was still a little bit of pee in his trainer when we got home. I'll keep up some small outings to keep him practicing out of the house. I just put pants on him with no undies so we will see how that goes. |
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Post by milano on Aug 24, 2017 9:25:46 GMT -6
And, the pants lasted about two minutes before he peed in them.
Is keeping him naked at home too long going to ruin him? Or do I just keep trucking through with putting pants on and he'll get it eventually?
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Post by stringy on Aug 24, 2017 9:59:21 GMT -6
And, the pants lasted about two minutes before he peed in them. Is keeping him naked at home too long going to ruin him? Or do I just keep trucking through with putting pants on and he'll get it eventually? Is he upset at it like he knows what to do and is missing it or is he like whatever I'll pee where I want? If he's trying then keep at it. If not- come sit on my bench and drink. |
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Post by milano on Aug 24, 2017 10:34:20 GMT -6
And, the pants lasted about two minutes before he peed in them. Is keeping him naked at home too long going to ruin him? Or do I just keep trucking through with putting pants on and he'll get it eventually? Is he upset at it like he knows what to do and is missing it or is he like whatever I'll pee where I want? If he's trying then keep at it. If not- come sit on my bench and drink. He doesn't get upset when he pees in them (we've gone though 2 pairs now) but he gets upset when I make him put the pants on. He also seems extra emotional and whiny today so I don't know if it's due to the potty training or totally unrelated and it's just a bad day. |
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Post by brandiewine11 on Aug 24, 2017 10:35:26 GMT -6
Yeah, give him a few more chances with the pants. If he's happy about the process, definitely keep at it! If he pees in the pants, remind him that pee goes in the toilet - not our pants. Have him change himself (at least as much as he can) and go from there. If he gets it naked, he can get it with pants on - just don't expect perfection right away.
While R PT'd pretty easily (for which I'm forever grateful), every kid has their quirks. My kid decided he was NOT going to tell us he had to use the toilet verbally for about 4-5 months? He'd go on his own if he had access, and go if you prompted him. But if neither of those things happened, he'd pee his pants. That happened once a day for a week or so until we figured out a good schedule, then once a week or so for another few weeks. There was another month or so when he'd go in the toilet just fine, but his undies would have the slightest bit of pee from him waiting too long. My point it, it's a process and you'll figure out what works for your kid.
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Post by milano on Aug 24, 2017 10:36:25 GMT -6
And I'm not like pressuring him or threatening him, I don't really care that he's not potty trained and just want to make sure he's not the only kid at daycare that's not at least able to get his pants down and pee, some of the time. So I'm being (outwardly) very kumbaya about it, and trying to keep him from getting flustered.
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Post by milano on Aug 24, 2017 10:39:34 GMT -6
@brandiewine he never verbally tells us when he has to go, he just stops whatever he's doing and takes off to the bathroom. The only time he tells me is if he's running around and I grab him or something then he'll tell me he has to go and he's trying to go to the potty.
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Post by ovenrack on Aug 24, 2017 13:00:59 GMT -6
And I'm not like pressuring him or threatening him, I don't really care that he's not potty trained and just want to make sure he's not the only kid at daycare that's not at least able to get his pants down and pee, some of the time. So I'm being (outwardly) very kumbaya about it, and trying to keep him from getting flustered. Wait, how old is he? H is the only kid at daycare that isn't potty trained. I mean, do I wish it were different? Yeah. But... I dunno. |
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Post by stringy on Aug 24, 2017 13:07:13 GMT -6
And I'm not like pressuring him or threatening him, I don't really care that he's not potty trained and just want to make sure he's not the only kid at daycare that's not at least able to get his pants down and pee, some of the time. So I'm being (outwardly) very kumbaya about it, and trying to keep him from getting flustered. Wait, how old is he? H is the only kid at daycare that isn't potty trained. I mean, do I wish it were different? Yeah. But... I dunno. Yea pretty sure M is in the same place - she tells me one other kid wears diapers but thats it. Though I plan on sending her in underwear next week. Prayers welcome. |
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Post by milano on Aug 24, 2017 13:24:49 GMT -6
And I'm not like pressuring him or threatening him, I don't really care that he's not potty trained and just want to make sure he's not the only kid at daycare that's not at least able to get his pants down and pee, some of the time. So I'm being (outwardly) very kumbaya about it, and trying to keep him from getting flustered. Wait, how old is he? H is the only kid at daycare that isn't potty trained. I mean, do I wish it were different? Yeah. But... I dunno. He turned 3 in June. And I think 3 is early to expect that all kids be potty trained. I'm not 100% sure that he's ready. I think I'm anxious, slightly, just because while the preschool program requirements never said anything about requiring the kids to be potty trained, at orientation she talked about the kids using the bathroom, and to show them where it was before we left, and to dress them in easy clothes for them to pull up and down, etc, so I feel like he should be at least mostly trained since she made it seem like she expected them all to be. I could have totally assumed her meaning, and I probably should have just talked to her about it. Honestly, pull-ups are way easier than having to take him in public bathrooms during every single outing so I can't say that I personally am in a rush for him to be trained. Maybe I do need to relax a bit. He's in a class of 3 year olds. The main purpose of the year, according to his preschool teacher, is to help them all become more independent- and learning to use the bathroom is part of that I guess. |
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Post by sarenu on Aug 24, 2017 13:24:55 GMT -6
Wait, how old is he? H is the only kid at daycare that isn't potty trained. I mean, do I wish it were different? Yeah. But... I dunno. Yea pretty sure M is in the same place - she tells me one other kid wears diapers but thats it. Though I plan on sending her in underwear next week. Prayers welcome. You have all my positive thoughts. The first time I drove E and C to daycare in underwear was so stressful (for me). Good luck. One of the last kids in the 3's (a lot of them are now close to 4) to potty train, the dad asked how we got C to use the potty so fast. We just shrugged, because really we have no idea how we did it. He kind of finally trained on his own. |
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Post by DGM on Aug 24, 2017 16:40:41 GMT -6
My MIL was a preschool director for 20 years. When L was potty training and some days wanted to wear a diaper instead of underwear for me (L isn't in preschool), my MIL said she would recommend to parents to just have the kids wear underwear to school. Usually after a couple accidents, they'd fully PT.
Not sure if this makes sense but basically your preschool too sounds like they're ok with him coming in underwear.
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Post by rugger on Aug 24, 2017 18:36:33 GMT -6
So much of this sounds like A. I honestly think cotton underwear and pants feel so similar to cloth diapers, that it doesn't bother them as much as kids who wore only disposables. So the naked/commando thing provides a different sensation. But yeah, A (3 in May) still hates to stop what she's doing to take a potty break. Even with promoting, we get "I don't have to go" and then peed-in pants 1 minute later.
She wears sposies to bed and REFUSES to wear diapers during the day. She's convinced she doesn't need them and acts offended if we offer them so she doesn't have to worry about potty breaks.
She starts preschool next week and I'm praying she doesn't pee through all her spare clothes the first day. I bought pullups just in case.
So, all of that to say you're not alone and every kid is different and one day they'll figure it out.
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Post by brandiewine11 on Aug 24, 2017 19:05:14 GMT -6
So much of this sounds like A. I honestly think cotton underwear and pants feel so similar to cloth diapers, that it doesn't bother them as much as kids who wore only disposables. So the naked/commando thing provides a different sensation. But yeah, A (3 in May) still hates to stop what she's doing to take a potty break. Even with promoting, we get "I don't have to go" and then peed-in pants 1 minute later. She wears sposies to bed and REFUSES to wear diapers during the day. She's convinced she doesn't need them and acts offended if we offer them so she doesn't have to worry about potty breaks. She starts preschool next week and I'm praying she doesn't pee through all her spare clothes the first day. I bought pullups just in case. So, all of that to say you're not alone and every kid is different and one day they'll figure it out. I have high hopes for you that she will be totally fine at school. R had very few accidents at school, even when he was having them at home. They have a pretty set potty schedule and all the kids line up and go. There isn't really an option and they don't have play time until they go. It seemed to really set them up for success. Hopefully A's school is similar. |
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