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Post by scorpioscuba on Aug 20, 2017 15:32:08 GMT -6
Do any of you have any experience with antidepressants? This has been on my mind for quite awhile now. I went through a rough patch in my early 20's and went to a therapist and took antidepressants for a short period. Since that time I've been fairly against them FOR ME personally. I felt like there wasn't anything I couldn't power through on my own.
Lately, I am realizing that "powering through" isn't working. I have very little patience for anything or anyone. I have to literally force myself to get out of the house and do things with the kids. I feel miserable with myself most all of the time. I hate work. I always feel overwhelmed with life in general. And then there is how unhappy I am with how I look. I have never weighed this much not pregnant but I have ZERO motivation to do anything about it.
I'm wondering if taking an antidepressant will help with all this? But I'm scared. I don't want it to make my weight worse and also don't want it to negatively affect my sex drive which is already a struggle as we've discussed in the past.
Thoughts? Commiseration? Experiences? I just want to feel normal again, whatever that is.
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Post by kcrkcs on Aug 20, 2017 18:30:53 GMT -6
Hey, I have also taken them in the past and "powered through" at other times. I haven't taken anything in a while. The most recent was for anxiety more than depression a few years ago. There are so many options available now and they can even do testing to see what will work best with your particular body chemistry. Anyway I definitely think a talk with a good psychiatrist (not just your primary) would be a good idea. Depression is a real thing and sometimes just powering through isn't an option. If you have been able to in the past and not now, that probably means it's time to get some support. Whether that's chemical or not a good psych can give you lots of options and combinations of options. And in reality the things you worry about the meds affecting negatively (weight, sex drive etc) realistically aren't going to get better if you are depressed, you know what I mean? Anyway big hugs. I have this internal battle regularly and I get it. Let us know if there is anything we can do to support you.
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Post by dizzycooks on Aug 20, 2017 19:03:55 GMT -6
I have no experience, but talking to someone about options and your concerns can never hurt. Hugs! We are here if we can help
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Post by nellieoleson on Aug 20, 2017 20:47:55 GMT -6
I have taken Wellbutrin in the past. It doesn't affect your sex drive and actually can make you lose weight. I don't know if it was the best for helping my depression and anxiety, though. I second what kcrkcs said - see a psychiatrist or mental health nurse practitioner instead of your primary care doctor. It will make a huge difference. Also, have you looked into therapy? That can be a big help, too.
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Post by nellieoleson on Aug 20, 2017 20:51:47 GMT -6
And plus also - it's hard to be motivated to get the kids out for adventures when you are up at 3:45 am and it's a bazillion degrees outside. Not saying you shouldn't look into getting some help, but maybe give yourself some recognition that things aren't so easy and you are doing the best you can!
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Post by scorpioscuba on Aug 20, 2017 21:04:29 GMT -6
And plus also - it's hard to be motivated to get the kids out for adventures when you are up at 3:45 am and it's a bazillion degrees outside. Not saying you shouldn't look into getting some help, but maybe give yourself some recognition that things aren't so easy and you are doing the best you can! Thanks for this! Though this has been going on way longer than the summer. At least since January? Maybe longer? I felt like I wasted the spring away and am worried I'll do the same with fall. I want to get out running again, hiking, biking, etc. I also always tell myself that others (in general, no one specific) have it way worse than me so get over it, whatever "it" is and move on. But things just seem so hard when I feel like they shouldn't be? I don't know. Maybe I need to start a grateful journal. I also know I should probably talk to someone but I seriously don't know where I'd find the time. 😔
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Post by Deleted on Aug 20, 2017 22:17:01 GMT -6
Hope you can find help in some form and feel better soon. I think online counseling can be an option although I'm sure that's hard to fit in too. You are awesome lady. Sending you support.
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Post by dizzycooks on Aug 21, 2017 7:39:28 GMT -6
And plus also - it's hard to be motivated to get the kids out for adventures when you are up at 3:45 am and it's a bazillion degrees outside. Not saying you shouldn't look into getting some help, but maybe give yourself some recognition that things aren't so easy and you are doing the best you can! Thanks for this! Though this has been going on way longer than the summer. At least since January? Maybe longer? I felt like I wasted the spring away and am worried I'll do the same with fall. I want to get out running again, hiking, biking, etc. I also always tell myself that others (in general, no one specific) have it way worse than me so get over it, whatever "it" is and move on. But things just seem so hard when I feel like they shouldn't be? I don't know. Maybe I need to start a grateful journal. I also know I should probably talk to someone but I seriously don't know where I'd find the time. 😔 It's great to be grateful for your blessings, but sometimes I feel like that isn't enough. It's normal feel crappy and there are actual reason you feel down. Just because you have a good life doesn't mean you're immune to having issues. It's a start, but don't dismiss the need for other help too. I say all of this as someone who feels similar and hasn't done a darn thing about it....
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Post by scorpioscuba on Aug 21, 2017 9:16:49 GMT -6
Spending time today looking up mental health nurse practitioners. Never heard of this and since I haven't been to a PCP in ages (mostly just by OB) this sounds like a much better option!
Also, online counseling? Who knew! Looking that up to.
You all are THE BEST!
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Post by lollipop on Aug 21, 2017 10:26:32 GMT -6
I've been on antidepressants on and off since S was 1. I started on cypralex, and when that stopped working I moved to Cymbalta, which gave me horrible withdrawal if I was even an hour late taking my pill. I stopped just before I got pregnant with M, because I felt like I didn't need them anymore. And now I've been on wellbutrin since not long after am was born.
They've helped a bit. When I'm not on them I never have motivation or energy and I feel angry and upset most of the time. On the drugs I sometimes have motivation and energy, and I'm less angry and sad. I've never really noticed a change in my sex drive on any of the pills. And I don't think they've affected my weight, but I tend to assume that my weight issues are my own fault
But remember that it can be trial and error to find what works for you. My BIL can't take wellbutrin because it actually makes him extremely angry.
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Post by lollipop on Aug 21, 2017 10:31:22 GMT -6
And plus also - it's hard to be motivated to get the kids out for adventures when you are up at 3:45 am and it's a bazillion degrees outside. Not saying you shouldn't look into getting some help, but maybe give yourself some recognition that things aren't so easy and you are doing the best you can! Thanks for this! Though this has been going on way longer than the summer. At least since January? Maybe longer? I felt like I wasted the spring away and am worried I'll do the same with fall. I want to get out running again, hiking, biking, etc. I also always tell myself that others (in general, no one specific) have it way worse than me so get over it, whatever "it" is and move on. But things just seem so hard when I feel like they shouldn't be? I don't know. Maybe I need to start a grateful journal. I also know I should probably talk to someone but I seriously don't know where I'd find the time. 😔 I saw a quote the other day that pointed out that just because other people may have it worse, doesn't mean that things aren't hard for you, you're allowed to feel however you feel regardless of others situations. And if you look at the flip side of that: I'm not allowed to be happy because other people have it better, it looks kind of silly, so why would the opposite make any more sense.
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Post by theoprah on Aug 21, 2017 20:08:55 GMT -6
Sending you big hugs mama! I have seen therapists in the past and it just feels so good to talk to someone and get a plan of action together for feeling better! Lots of happy vibes heading your way.
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