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Post by kona on Aug 16, 2017 19:20:20 GMT -6
Has anyone read this? I'm really trying to curb the way I react to the shenanigans of the 3 yo. So far (im only about 1/4 of the way through) I have found a few of the techniques to work well. It really puts the responsibility on the parent to act in a way that suits an immature mind.
Anyone that has read this, any thoughts or comments.
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Post by milano on Aug 16, 2017 19:41:50 GMT -6
Yes! I actually started a few months ago but haven't finished the last couple chapters. I have found it to be helpful for sure. I really need to finish it. I need to give MH some cliff notes on it too.
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kona
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Post by kona on Aug 16, 2017 19:57:34 GMT -6
I agree completely with sharing with SO. I'm hoping to convince M to read it too. Otherwise I feel like we can't be on the same page with parenting.
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Post by tj on Aug 16, 2017 22:03:25 GMT -6
I wonder if this is a book for me.
I'm not a big fan of parenting books... we like to do what feels right to our family. But holy Moses. E has always been hard. But with P suddenly being so.very.three... heaven help me.
And I know that I have anger/depression issues. So I'm sure I don't handle all the shenanigans well.
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Post by sassyq on Aug 17, 2017 5:37:59 GMT -6
I read some of it a while ago and loved it, so I just bought it recently so I can really read it. I found what I read to be super practical and in line with my parenting style
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Post by mapleme on Aug 17, 2017 5:43:47 GMT -6
I read the big kids version of this. Does anyone know if it's notably different? The big kids version has been helpful, but I wonder if I can get more info from the little kids version.
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Post by ovenrack on Aug 17, 2017 5:47:24 GMT -6
Yes. It's great.
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Post by pbandj714 on Aug 17, 2017 6:19:28 GMT -6
I have this and the big kid version on my Amazon shopping list. Might as well pull the trigger.
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kona
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Post by kona on Aug 17, 2017 6:19:51 GMT -6
mapleme it really is different. It's much more focused on little kids.
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Post by charlotte on Aug 17, 2017 6:47:23 GMT -6
I think I should read this. DS is in a relatively easy stage right now, but 3 is a short six months away and I'm scared.
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Post by rugger on Aug 17, 2017 6:56:22 GMT -6
Maybe I should look into this for A. We use lots of emotional awareness language and conscious discipline, but A is hitting 3 like a freaking wrecking ball
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Post by milano on Aug 17, 2017 6:59:21 GMT -6
It is focused on little kids, but until J was 3 I think a lot of it was still over his head. Obviously different kids, different levels of understanding but it didn't click for him until right around the time he turned 3.
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Post by brandiewine11 on Aug 17, 2017 7:44:24 GMT -6
Off to the library....
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Post by mapleme on Aug 17, 2017 8:46:34 GMT -6
Can it help me get M to clean up her toys? That would be worth millions in our house right now. Actually I'm going to go start a thread about this because I needz the help.
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Post by kona on Aug 17, 2017 9:47:23 GMT -6
mapleme One of the techniques that is working well for O right now is to see who can do it faster. 'I bet you can't clean up your toys before I get in there!'' It sounds silly (to me) but O immediately responds and does whatever I ask quickly. And yes I do think there are many other techniques that might help if this one doesn't.
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Post by mapleme on Aug 17, 2017 11:39:32 GMT -6
mapleme One of the techniques that is working well for O right now is to see who can do it faster. 'I bet you can't clean up your toys before I get in there!'' It sounds silly (to me) but O immediately responds and does whatever I ask quickly. And yes I do think there are many other techniques that might help if this one doesn't. These games sometimes backfire when she's all, "I see you and your little tricks Mommy." But I bet if I didn't even involve her and made it a race with C, M would be all over it. |
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Post by jnu76 on Aug 17, 2017 14:07:21 GMT -6
I was skeptical about it, but when I actually read it I loved it and when I remember to use the techniques my kids respond well.
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Post by sassyq on Aug 17, 2017 19:17:42 GMT -6
Oops, misread the title... I had no idea there was a little kids version! Guess I bought the wrong book lol. Now I'll have to see if the library has the little kids book!
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Post by CurlieWhirlie on Aug 21, 2017 10:38:29 GMT -6
Ok I picked the little kids version up over the weekend and I'm two chapters in. So far it's exactly the same as the regular version, except the examples and stories are all about young kids. But the methods are the same.
And the methods really do work, but man it's hard to be disciplined about using them when you're frustrated with your kids.
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Post by mapleme on Aug 21, 2017 13:17:31 GMT -6
Ok I picked the little kids version up over the weekend and I'm two chapters in. So far it's exactly the same as the regular version, except the examples and stories are all about young kids. But the methods are the same. And the methods really do work, but man it's hard to be disciplined about using them when you're frustrated with your kids. I'm barely into it, but I already like the format better than the first. I found the classroom/merged voice scenario of the first one awkward. This seems easy to understand. |
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