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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Aug 9, 2017 9:07:56 GMT -6
I can't find an old thread but I apologize if this is a repeat.
DD just turned two and I'm ready to dump the pacifiers. We're pretty good about keeping them to naps and bedtime ATM. I know this is very very kid dependent but I'd love to hear any tips, tricks, horror stories, etc. my plan is to go cold turkey over a long weekend. Other kids at DC use them so I want to do as many days at home without it before she goes back.
I'm newly KU so I worry waiting will mean waitin a loooong time so we don't theoughbtoo many changes at once with a new baby.
HALP.
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Post by sheilathetank on Aug 9, 2017 9:23:14 GMT -6
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Post by jillywilly on Aug 9, 2017 13:44:43 GMT -6
I was so, so, so, SO scared of ditching the paci. My kid did it like a champ. We actually did it around 18 months, and we were like you, had him down to only getting it for naps and bedtime, and some longer car trips. We actually did it Christmas day because I figured he would be super tired by the end of that day, and I was hoping that would make it easier for him to sleep. So we let him nap with it because we did not want to risk him not napping on Christmas, and then when he woke up, we had bought him a new "big boy" toy - a relatively large stuffed Chase (because he was getting super into Paw Patrol at that time). We told him Santa had brought it for our big boy, but in return, we had to send back all the binky's to the North Pole. At 18 months, I'm not sure exactly how much of it he understood, but we did have him help us round up allllllll the binkies (triple check to make sure you have every single one), and we put them in a container to "send to Santa." We hid the container in a cupboard in case H and I chickened out. I still remember that he screamed the entire 45 minute car ride home from MIL's that night because he was tired and wanted the binky, but when we got home, I think he cried for a minute or two, and then passed out. We reminded him he had this super cool new Chase that was going to sleep in his crib now, and he could chew on his blanky or lovey if he needed. And then we never looked back. So since your DS is a little older, I'd totally try to get him to buy into the "trading up" idea and getting him a new night time comfort object he can have. And definitely try to wear him out as much as humanly possible the first day. Good luck, I hope it's easier than you think it will be also!
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Post by budders on Aug 9, 2017 17:53:52 GMT -6
Once V turned 2, we cut back to paci for sleeping. We told V paci was for sleeping and he understood, which was helpful. We also stopped automatically giving it to him for bed; if he asked, we would. Within a week he just stopped asking at all and now we've been pacifier free for just about 2 months. WAY easier than anticipated.
I will say that I think it wouldn't have gone as well for us if we had done it before he was able to talk to us about it and make sense of it. V's sleep also took a hit for about a month (he was already a dreadful sleeper, so not the end of the world), but recently it's been much better than it's been ever in his life, I think because he's learned to self soothe better.
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Post by sheilathetank on Aug 10, 2017 7:10:16 GMT -6
Leaf 🌱, Please let me know how it goes. K is so paci/binkie focused it makes me dread when we take it away for good. DC only allows it for naps or for when she's hurt/really upset. When I pick K up at the end of the day she's usually yelling "binkie!" at the top of her lungs before we even get to the car. I am hesitant to transition away from it because it's the only thing she is attached to. She could care less about lovies, stuffed animals, or blankets. It's binkie or bust. I don't want to take away her only comfort item and if she walked around all day carrying a lovie or blanket, noone would bat an eye, but for some reason the olds are super against pacis/binkies.
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Aug 10, 2017 8:45:48 GMT -6
Leaf 🌱, Please let me know how it goes. K is so paci/binkie focused it makes me dread when we take it away for good. DC only allows it for naps or for when she's hurt/really upset. When I pick K up at the end of the day she's usually yelling "binkie!" at the top of her lungs before we even get to the car. I am hesitant to transition away from it because it's the only thing she is attached to. She could care less about lovies, stuffed animals, or blankets. It's binkie or bust. I don't want to take away her only comfort item and if she walked around all day carrying a lovie or blanket, noone would bat an eye, but for some reason the olds are super against pacis/binkies. SAME. DD sleeps with her thumbs stuck in her back up pacis 😂😂 They are 100% her comfort items. I think we're going to wait for a long weekend after our trip to the beach and then just go cold turkey. I'm so so scared. She's always been the worst sleep and FINALLY starting STTN a month or two ago. We've talked a lot about how we need to give the pacis to little babies now that she's a big girl so hopefully that works. MIL is coming to watch her for 4-5 days while I'm at a conference and I am SO SO tempted to throw out the pacis that day and let her deal with the aftermath. I wouldn't... but I want to LOLOL |
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Post by sheilathetank on Aug 10, 2017 8:52:42 GMT -6
Leaf 🌱 , Please let me know how it goes. K is so paci/binkie focused it makes me dread when we take it away for good. DC only allows it for naps or for when she's hurt/really upset. When I pick K up at the end of the day she's usually yelling "binkie!" at the top of her lungs before we even get to the car. I am hesitant to transition away from it because it's the only thing she is attached to. She could care less about lovies, stuffed animals, or blankets. It's binkie or bust. I don't want to take away her only comfort item and if she walked around all day carrying a lovie or blanket, noone would bat an eye, but for some reason the olds are super against pacis/binkies. SAME. DD sleeps with her thumbs stuck in her back up pacis 😂😂 They are 100% her comfort items. I think we're going to wait for a long weekend after our trip to the beach and then just go cold turkey. I'm so so scared. She's always been the worst sleep and FINALLY starting STTN a month or two ago. We've talked a lot about how we need to give the pacis to little babies now that she's a big girl so hopefully that works. MIL is coming to watch her for 4-5 days while I'm at a conference and I am SO SO tempted to throw out the pacis that day and let her deal with the aftermath. I wouldn't... but I want to LOLOL I meant to ask this earlier but does DC know your plan? That way they can help reinforce the "big girl's don't need paci's" mindset and help redirect if she goes after them. Also, does she know about the new baby coming? Can you have her wrap them up for her new sibling and then have her give them to the new baby as a welcome home present? |
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Aug 10, 2017 10:57:50 GMT -6
sheilathetank we have plans to bring in her DC provider once we establish a plan but she's been really good about keeping the paci to naptime only for DD. DD has no idea there will be a new baby as I'm 2.4 seconds KU and I don't want her to spill the beans. I'm concerned giving the baby her pacis will make her hate the baby. She DGAF that "pacis are only for little babies". ...did you mean do it now and just put them up? Bc that might be genius. She's SUPER into presents/birthdays. We probably could give them to literally anyone. Between now and when #2 is born it's my goal to PT, switch her into the guest room, and give up the paci. That's just so much change and I'm nervous that I should just ditch the PT and paci plans now before I drive myself crazy. The paci is 100% my security item too so I'm just making it worse LOL /ramble
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Post by sheilathetank on Aug 10, 2017 11:14:34 GMT -6
sheilathetank we have plans to bring in her DC provider once we establish a plan but she's been really good about keeping the paci to naptime only for DD. DD has no idea there will be a new baby as I'm 2.4 seconds KU and I don't want her to spill the beans. I'm concerned giving the baby her pacis will make her hate the baby. She DGAF that "pacis are only for little babies". ...did you mean do it now and just put them up? Bc that might be genius. She's SUPER into presents/birthdays. We probably could give them to literally anyone. Between now and when #2 is born it's my goal to PT, switch her into the guest room, and give up the paci. That's just so much change and I'm nervous that I should just ditch the PT and paci plans now before I drive myself crazy. The paci is 100% my security item too so I'm just making it worse LOL /ramble If I had to choose which one of those three to focus on accomplishing, it would 100% be PTing because when the new baby is here you aren't going to have the time or energy to deal with it. I would make the switch to the guest room now while simultaneously talking up going on the potty. Then in a few months I would start the PTing process. For me a paci/binkie at bedtime is not a deal breaker. You're right that it is a lot of change at once so I would focus on small steps and prioritize your goals. |
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Post by lildiamondeyes on Aug 11, 2017 5:52:54 GMT -6
It was surprisingly easy to ditch the binks for both my girls.
Dd1 was 2.5 and had actually bit through it. There was no much suction so she knew it was broke. We only to had to say that it was broke. And that was it. She would say constantly for weeks that her bink was broke.
Dd2 was 16 months. She went for a sleepover at Grandma's and I forgot to pack a bink. According to MIL she never even asked for it. If she asked after that night, we distracted. Sure, sometime she steals the baby's bink, but we tell her it's not hers and to give it back. She laughs and hands it back.
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Post by grumpycat on Aug 13, 2017 10:03:08 GMT -6
DS is 2.5. He only get his pacifier in the car, in bed, or if he's super upset. We dont always have one in the car so he is fine without one. We aren't going to do anything until after baby #2 arrives in November. I'm hoping by his 3rd birthday (January) that we will have pacifier only for bed.
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Post by Risscaboobs on Aug 16, 2017 19:02:46 GMT -6
Lexi still gets her paci at naps and bedtime, but only if she asks for it. I'm not sure when we'll get rid of it, but we'll probably just cold turkey it. I'm scared to do it, and not that bothered by the habit, ATM.
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Post by budders on Aug 16, 2017 21:14:52 GMT -6
Lexi still gets her paci at naps and bedtime, but only if she asks for it. I'm not sure when we'll get rid of it, but we'll probably just cold turkey it. I'm scared to do it, and not that bothered by the habit, ATM. We decided to pull the paci at 2 for a few reasons. For us, V was obsessed and CONSTANTLY had his paci. Every picture we have of him from about 15 months to 2 years it was in his mouth, and we were worried it was affecting his speech. He went through a biting phase with teething though, so I wanted to wait until his main teeth were in since it was a good redirection for him. Once the ped confirmed that he had all of his teeth at his two year check up, we started scaling back. I would have been fine to go longer with it for nap and bed, but he let it go so we followed his lead. It did make our life easier once they were gone because we're no longer scrambling to find pacis in the middle of the night or cursing each other for when we forget to pack them on trips. He does sleep better now too, so they may have been a counterproductive tool for him all of this time. So to me, the "when" depends on how much it's interfering with your life/her development. It sounds like not much right now for you, so I would probably KOKO for the time being if I were you, too. |
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Post by cnf on Aug 18, 2017 6:39:49 GMT -6
My kid only gets her at naptime if she asks and at bedtime. I'm thinking we're just going to cold turkey it this weekend. She has a few stuffed toys she snuggles in her bed, so I'm hoping we can reinforce those and use them to in place of the wubbanub. I anticipate a lot of middle of the night screams for wub and I will likely end up in her room a fair bit, but with number two due soon she needs to be off them. And we're so close already I feel like we just need to bite the bullet on this.
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Post by sheilathetank on Aug 21, 2017 8:47:39 GMT -6
My kid only gets her at naptime if she asks and at bedtime. I'm thinking we're just going to cold turkey it this weekend. She has a few stuffed toys she snuggles in her bed, so I'm hoping we can reinforce those and use them to in place of the wubbanub. I anticipate a lot of middle of the night screams for wub and I will likely end up in her room a fair bit, but with number two due soon she needs to be off them. And we're so close already I feel like we just need to bite the bullet on this. How did it go this weekend? and omfg how are you almost due with #2 already? I still remember your GKU grad updates for your DD when you were fighting with prodromal labor! |
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