Embryo Donation

[yoshijo]

After almost 10 years, I think we need to decide what to do with our 2 frozen embryos. I kept putting off paying this year's storage fee because I didn't want to face it and have to make a decision. I finally did pay it because I had to (threatening collections). I also dont want to pay to store them forever. I know in my heart we are done having kids. I have a 7 year old girl and almost 4 year old boy. I would love more but it's not in the cards for us.

I think it feels best for me to donate them for adoption. I want an open adoption where the kids know each other and we are involved in each other's lives. My husband worries that this would upset me or cause me pain if the transfer doesn't work or if it works and they grow up with another family (which obviously would happen- I 100% know I would not be the parent here and they belong to the other family).

I guess my question is, does anyone have any experience with this in any form? Are there things to consider that maybe I haven't thought about? I am guessing we would need a lawyer from what I've read. Would we have input on the person/people who adopt them?


We have 1 male and 1 female (it doesn't matter but knowing that somehow makes it more real for me).

[beenthere]

If we do go down the donation route (which I don't think we will for personal reasons) we would probably look into matching with Empower With Moxi, I've followed them on IG for a few months now and they seem thorough.

I truly wish you all the best in your way forward. I'm not looking forward to when I *have* to make a decision on our embryos and it'll be sooner rather than later unfortunately.