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Post by duskymonkey on Jul 28, 2017 9:32:36 GMT -6
anything good? Flame retardant free suit day!
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Post by duskymonkey on Jul 28, 2017 9:36:35 GMT -6
All the talk about kid free day made me realize that hubs and I have never ever had a date night or had DS stay overnight anywhere without us. In other words we've never experienced a kid free day ever. Maybe until DS starts school in a few wks. We just never felt the need and love spending time together as a family.
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Post by arimaythea on Jul 28, 2017 10:18:27 GMT -6
duskymonkey, DH and I have gone out to lunch/dinner just the two of us I think three times since DS was born. We've only ever been away from him for a few hours - he has never stayed overnight anywhere either. Mostly the same reason, we are happy to do meals out as a family - DS is great at restaurants. I'm actually a little panicked thinking about what we are going to do when I give birth to #2 since DS can't stay overnight in the hospital. We might just have DH go home at night instead of stay with me, and I'll just tough out the couple night stay (assuming things go smoothly) on my own. It's not for lack of babysitters - my in-laws live in the house next door and my parents are 5 minutes away. Our nights are just so rough and built on specific routines that I get anxiety thinking about leaving him with someone else.
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Post by seventythree on Jul 28, 2017 11:01:55 GMT -6
Was gonna post this as a random, but I guess it's a confession of sorts: I'm waiting for my OB appt at noon. DD naps at 1pm. Even if I'm finishes here in 20 minutes, I'm staying out until I'm sure that MH has put her down.
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Post by mkrupar on Jul 28, 2017 11:45:47 GMT -6
duskymonkey, DH and I have gone out to lunch/dinner just the two of us I think three times since DS was born. We've only ever been away from him for a few hours - he has never stayed overnight anywhere either. Mostly the same reason, we are happy to do meals out as a family - DS is great at restaurants. I'm actually a little panicked thinking about what we are going to do when I give birth to #2 since DS can't stay overnight in the hospital. We might just have DH go home at night instead of stay with me, and I'll just tough out the couple night stay (assuming things go smoothly) on my own. It's not for lack of babysitters - my in-laws live in the house next door and my parents are 5 minutes away. Our nights are just so rough and built on specific routines that I get anxiety thinking about leaving him with someone else. From what my friends have said when having their second kids who sent their husbands home with other kids, they regretted it. I would consider letting DS stay with family. A night or two out of routine won't be too horrible, and even with the easiest deliveries, having the second set of hands overnight is so helpful. My H actually stayed with our nephews when our niece was born. To keep some consistency, can you have someone stay at your house with DS, so his routine may be off, but at least his surroundings may be familiar? |
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Post by danvers on Jul 28, 2017 11:55:53 GMT -6
I've basically just started embracing the massive amounts of pink that have taken over our lives. I tried with DD to get a lot of neutral colored things because I knew we wanted more kids but with baby#2 being a girl I've actually started buying things that are pink.
*I am not trying to say pink is a girl's color - any boys who want pink, go for it. Just more of an observation on my own feelings I suppose that have changed over the last 3 years or so.
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Post by mommabakes on Jul 28, 2017 12:13:29 GMT -6
arimaythea my DD is/was a very schedule-needy kid and I was so nervous about what to do with her during my hospital stay with DS. I ended up having my mom come stay at my house, and wrote out a (probably ridiculously) detailed instructions/schedule for her to follow. This probably sounds super extra to some of you, but I'm not exaggerating when I say that a deviation from the schedule results in a week of awful sleep. Anyway, it worked really well! I wouldn't want to be alone in the hospital personally.
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Post by CoachTsWife on Jul 28, 2017 12:34:49 GMT -6
arimaythea I think my MIL will stay at our house with DS when we're at the hospital. We've never left him overnight and I told DH he could come home to stay with DS but he feels like he should stay with us at the hospital. It is a hard decision, for sure.
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Post by gamergirl on Jul 28, 2017 13:00:07 GMT -6
I guess my FFFC/UO is that I sent my H home at night after we had DS. We live 10 minutes from the hospital, so it wasn't a long drive or anything. I didn't really feel like he needed to stay overnight in the hospital, and he was cool with it. He just came back sometime in the morning. We'll most likely do the same this time around, even though we'll have either my or his parents staying at our place with DS as well.
Also, after thinking about it, we've never had DS stay overnight with anyone else besides us either. I hadn't realized this until now, lol.
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Post by thecatsmeow on Jul 28, 2017 20:01:23 GMT -6
Also probably going to be sending DH home to sleep. My mom will probably be the one staying with DS and at almost 70yrs she will be needing a break by the end of the day too. Plus DH snores sometimes and I remember being so annoyed our second night in the hospital because if the nurse wasn't waking me up it was DH snoring over on his cot where I couldn't nudge him to roll over.
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Post by trinitrotoluene on Jul 28, 2017 20:13:07 GMT -6
I'm definitely sending DH home to sleep. Not because i think he'll be any real help to my mom with DS, but because i know he won't really help me, and that's one less person to keep me awake at the hospital. Plus he'll be more comfortable and better rested to help me during the day that way.
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Post by racegurl87 on Jul 28, 2017 22:02:33 GMT -6
Like gamergirl, thecatsmeow, and @trinitrotolune we decided to have H come home at night to sleep once sequel is here. He had a super tough time sleeping in the hospital when DD was born and I know the recovery rooms here are smaller (and where dad is supposed to sleep is smaller too). I'm fine with him getting sleep and I'm hoping it'll be easier on me to get into a breastfeeding routine and he'll be more help once we're home since he'll be better rested |
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Post by Taitai on Jul 29, 2017 2:20:44 GMT -6
I'm torn on what to do about where H will sleep when baby arrives. My first inclination is to have him stay at the hospital and have our nanny take care of DS at home (I have total faith in her - she knows the routine and how to get DS to sleep). However, DH is a really picky sleeper and I feel like he won't be able to sleep at all in the hospital. Plus, the nursing staff out here are amazing and so, so attentive. None of the "baby friendly hospital" (where they basically abandon the mom and make her do all the baby care) b.s. over here. So...i feel like I would be fine if he went home. Then, he wouldn't be as sleep deprived and could be better equipped to assist during the day.
I guess we'll just wing it and make the decision based on how we're feeling. I might just let it be up to him. I'm kind of whatever either way.
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Post by mkrupar on Jul 29, 2017 4:46:37 GMT -6
Since I'm having a RCS and the odds of me having to be on magnesium again are high, H us staying. I'll be bed bound for 12-24 hours after delivery still hooked up to mag, no way am I doing that solo.
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Post by blackmamba on Jul 29, 2017 5:28:07 GMT -6
I had just assumed that H would stay with me, but y'all got me thinking. DS will be fine with either my mom or MIL. My hospital will bring baby to the nursery at night and bring the baby to the room for feedings. They are pretty helpful. I think H and I might both sleep better if he goes home. I guess it will depend on how I'm feeling, whether I vbac or have a csection, how the baby is doing, etc.
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Post by doodlemommy on Jul 29, 2017 8:08:16 GMT -6
We have a special snowflake situation where we only stay at the birth centre for 3-4 hrs post delivery, so obviously DH will be there that whole time. This is 10000% my preference btw, we left the hospital asap after DD was born too, I had no desire to stay the night (I think i was discharged 8/9ish hrs after with her but I was ready to leave after 4 hrs). DD will be with my parents, the specifics depends on time of day. If she's asleep they'll come to our house, if she's awake we'll drop her off on our way to the birth centre. And whether she comes to the birth centre or meets the new baby at home will also depend on what time of day baby is born
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Post by mkrupar on Jul 29, 2017 10:17:22 GMT -6
I also have to be prepared for another NICU baby, and if I'm bed bound, H is the only person that would be able to visit baby and talk with the doctors on theie rounds down there. I guess this puts us in a snowflake situation as well.
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Post by mommabakes on Jul 29, 2017 11:41:28 GMT -6
We have a special snowflake situation where we only stay at the birth centre for 3-4 hrs post delivery, so obviously DH will be there that whole time. This is 10000% my preference btw, we left the hospital asap after DD was born too, I had no desire to stay the night (I think i was discharged 8/9ish hrs after with her but I was ready to leave after 4 hrs). DD will be with my parents, the specifics depends on time of day. If she's asleep they'll come to our house, if she's awake we'll drop her off on our way to the birth centre. And whether she comes to the birth centre or meets the new baby at home will also depend on what time of day baby is born Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk I so wish there was this option around my area! |
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Post by rebeccabunch on Jul 29, 2017 13:19:55 GMT -6
H will totally stay w me. Even with sending the baby to the nursery it's nice having someone else to help with diapers and just be there. FFC - I've never seen micconium (sp?) H changed all the hospital diapers! With my C section it was 100% necessary bc I needed help getting out of bed. It was just awful. W my VBAC I was still a little sore.
We are sort of special though bc we live 5 mins from the hospital so he can run home easy to shower and feed the cats plus my parents live a block away so the watching of DS1 & 2 isn't complicated.
I also think what time of day you hv the baby may come into play. I had both boys at night so by the time we got to the post partum room I was exhausted.
ETA DH can sleep anywhere/anytime. I'm the high maintenance sleeper.
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Post by rebeccabunch on Jul 29, 2017 13:32:04 GMT -6
All the talk about kid free day made me realize that hubs and I have never ever had a date night or had DS stay overnight anywhere without us. In other words we've never experienced a kid free day ever. Maybe until DS starts school in a few wks. We just never felt the need and love spending time together as a family. I think this is really sweet. H and I do lot if things without our kids. Together and separate. We take trips together each year I'm not pg and he does a guy trip and I do a girl trip. We do date nights too. We've done maybe 3 this new pregnancy but do more when I'm not pregnant bc I like going out for dinner and drinks! We got on the habit early I think bc my parents live so close. I am nervous about how it's going to be harder to leave w 3 kids. |
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