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Post by STP on Jul 26, 2023 13:47:51 GMT -6
This is why I don't care for PMs when it's something like this, and not a deeper conversation. It allows too much speculation about what actually happened.
And is exactly why I wouldn't do it with her when I am perfectly willing with others. And I told her that, in that frank language. She was aware.
The goal was for her to not do it, not to do it so I could post a thread like this.
If she had a problem, absent her being disgustingly hurtful in the immediate conversation previously, the first time, it would have gone differently. I may not have agreed, but I would have considered it.
Not what happened, and here we are.
eta yes yes there's speculation bc I made the thread. I really am not lost on any nuance here, friends.
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Post by McBenny on Jul 26, 2023 13:48:18 GMT -6
I don't think posting your own side of a PM is against TOU, nor should it be. BUT that has nothing to do with why Philo insists on PMing people who hate her. Jump off Scout's jock, Phil. I agree and had the first screenshot been just her side, there would have been a discussion with the other admins about it. Even though the part from STP isn't full of personal information, it still was something sent privately. This may seem a small thing to draw the line over, but protecting posters' privacy is important and sharing a screenshot of another poster's share of a PM (no matter the content) is crossing the line. I would like TOU to specify any part of a me, your part, don't post other people part. For clarity. Just a thought.
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Post by jaygee on Jul 26, 2023 13:50:03 GMT -6
To ME, pulling together screenshots of different posts and PMing and not just saying in public “bitch you’re a hypocrite” is more work. I think she acts like a troll so I wanted to hear from her what she was doing other than being a weird troll. The posting of screenshots is excessive to say the least and she should know how it would go with this group. However my post to you was about you repeating "what were you looking to accomplish?" and your "but why?" Clearly she had an issue with scout so... She took it to scout. 🤷🏻♀️ Nothing is clear when it comes to that poster. I went to her with my questions. As usual she didn’t answer.
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Post by McBenny on Jul 26, 2023 13:50:11 GMT -6
I'm cool with philo getting banned for posting both parts of a PM. I don't follow at all why STP made a thread about the content of the message being offensive in the first place. Was there more to the PM was was offensive? Or was it offensive that she PMed you when you asked her not to? It doesn't really matter, I suppose, I'm just curious because I'm fully lost in the woods over here. Yes this is where I am. STP said the timing of the pm and what was being said in a thread at the time made it more so offensive? 🤔
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Post by McBenny on Jul 26, 2023 13:51:10 GMT -6
I'm cool with philo getting banned for posting both parts of a PM. I don't follow at all why STP made a thread about the content of the message being offensive in the first place. Was there more to the PM was was offensive? Or was it offensive that she PMed you when you asked her not to? It doesn't really matter, I suppose, I'm just curious because I'm fully lost in the woods over here. I told her previously that my boundary was that she not PM. I also said that if she did, I would bring the conversation back to the main board bc I will not converse with her in private for exactly the reason shown here - I was not going to have my words that couldn't be shared twisted around and manipulated. I think when you lay a boundary, you need to follow through with it or it's meaningless. There was nothing precipitating that PM, which was absolutely mean, and frankly Brux I don't think you'd appreciate something like that out of the blue either. If you are talking about the initial PM from awhile ago, again you don't have the full context and can't bc she deleted what led up to it. technically you did converse with her in private if you told her all that. Just saying. �
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Post by STP on Jul 26, 2023 13:51:40 GMT -6
If I need to apologize for calling Kristen Bell’s fan club wack, I STG I will GBCHIH. Just listen to four hours of Dax’s podcast and your sins will be commuted. Well this is just mean.
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Post by angelashly on Jul 26, 2023 13:51:58 GMT -6
The real one that STP was talking about yes she knows what she was doing So again it is being implied that something was fake. Which was my point. Which Phil reacted to But then you said she couldn't read So then I said well you called it real so... Phil knows what she is doing and I’m fine with my post especially after her posting today. She knew what I was saying and she wants to do just this have people arguing semantics
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Post by McBenny on Jul 26, 2023 13:52:59 GMT -6
I’m just super excited we outed Kristen on the board. Someone call TMZ. This is my main take away.
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Post by lucilleaustero on Jul 26, 2023 13:55:05 GMT -6
Who knew Kristen Bell was such a hot topic? Had no idea she was so disliked, I have always been a fan.
Early UO, I guess.
I wonder what socks will come back as.
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Post by STP on Jul 26, 2023 13:55:37 GMT -6
Who knew Kristen Bell was such a hot topic? Had no idea she was so disliked, I have always been a fan. Early UO, I guess. I wonder what socks will come back as. SHE DOESN'T CLEAN HERSELF. SOMETHING WITH A SMOOTHIE THAT I DON'T WANT MORE DETAILS ABOUT.
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Post by McBenny on Jul 26, 2023 13:56:26 GMT -6
I don’t even think it was so much about the contents, per se, but the idea that any conversation remain on the main board. So if philo wanted to get up in arms that STP thinks Kirsten Bell would make a lovely addition to the blinds thread makeup, she should say that before God and others. Am I following? I’ve got time between deadlines. 😂 I really couldn't care less about the content but when someone says nasty and I'm looking for nasty and then the person is like uh no I wasn't nasty and posts a not nasty pm then it makes it look like someone was embellishing. 👀 Then I'm in it cause that's messy That's messy.
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Post by lucilleaustero on Jul 26, 2023 13:56:39 GMT -6
Who knew Kristen Bell was such a hot topic? Had no idea she was so disliked, I have always been a fan. Early UO, I guess. I wonder what socks will come back as. SHE DOESN'T CLEAN HERSELF. SOMETHING WITH A SMOOTHIE THAT I DON'T WANT MORE DETAILS ABOUT. As long as I don't have to smell her, she can keep a dirty ass.
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Post by STP on Jul 26, 2023 13:58:42 GMT -6
SHE DOESN'T CLEAN HERSELF. SOMETHING WITH A SMOOTHIE THAT I DON'T WANT MORE DETAILS ABOUT. As long as I don't have to smell her, she can keep a dirty ass. Smoothie. In a mattress. NO MORE DETAILS
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Post by lucilleaustero on Jul 26, 2023 14:00:37 GMT -6
As long as I don't have to smell her, she can keep a dirty ass. Smoothie. In a mattress. NO MORE DETAILS Maybe a smoothie is the Dax Bells version if chocolate syrup in the bedroom? I don't know here. I have no idea how to link smoothies and mattresses.
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Post by McBenny on Jul 26, 2023 14:02:42 GMT -6
So again it is being implied that something was fake. Which was my point. Which Phil reacted to But then you said she couldn't read So then I said well you called it real so... Phil knows what she is doing and I’m fine with my post especially after her posting today. She knew what I was saying and she wants to do just this have people arguing semantics Now you're making it weird. You just told her she couldn't read and you didn't say she faked the pm. I said in all fairness you used the word real. So that implies something here is fake. You won't follow or can't. And now it's Phil knew what she was doing? Omg I don't give a flying fuck about Phil or scout. They can bump uglies for all I care. I was only responding to you telling her oh you can't read. You said real. You used that word. That makes it seem like you're saying she faked some shit. So my point was then and is now.... You're you can't read post makes no fucking sense. Either follow the trail or don't. But don't make it about something else. Everytime you switch the topic you holler semantics. It's not semantics. You said scout can't post the real so again YOU SAYING LIKE PHIL POSTED FAKE SHIT. You said that. Don't raise your hackles cause someone addressing what you said. Take it or don't but then to say I'm OK with what I said and Phil know what she's doing.... 🤦🏻♀️
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Post by McBenny on Jul 26, 2023 14:04:59 GMT -6
I've been telling y'all for years I get pms all the fucking time. It's not weird or unhinged. Scout gets one and sound the alarm? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I think passive aggressive or rude pms are weird. Whoever they're sent to. I don't think folks should be sending them to you either. I don't respond 90% of the time. I don't think pms are passive aggressive though. 🤷🏻♀️ It's direct and to the point in my opinion.
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Post by STP on Jul 26, 2023 14:06:54 GMT -6
I just don't like people who talk about how awful their marriage is, how much they fight, and how much they don't like each other like it's cute and quirky.
I am not talking about normalizing the reality of marriage and parenting, and that sometimes he doesn't close a cabinet and you think yep, this is the day. This will be the day it happens. Those conversations have value and are relatable to many people.
That's not what they do. They're just really tedious with all of it.
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Post by brux on Jul 26, 2023 14:10:53 GMT -6
Do we really think Socks and Philo are the same people? 'Cause I don't.
Do I think they're actually long lost goblin sisters? Yes, I do.
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Post by angelashly on Jul 26, 2023 14:12:06 GMT -6
Phil knows what she is doing and I’m fine with my post especially after her posting today. She knew what I was saying and she wants to do just this have people arguing semantics Now you're making it weird. You just told her she couldn't read and you didn't say she faked the pm. I said in all fairness you used the word real. So that implies something here is fake. You won't follow or can't. And now it's Phil knew what she was doing? Omg I don't give a flying fuck about Phil or scout. They can bump uglies for all I care. I was only responding to you telling her oh you can't read. You said real. You used that word. That makes it seem like you're saying she faked some shit. So my point was then and is now.... You're you can't read post makes no fucking sense. Either follow the trail or don't. But don't make it about something else. Everytime you switch the topic you holler semantics. It's not semantics. You said scout can't post the real so again YOU SAYING LIKE PHIL POSTED FAKE SHIT. You said that. Don't raise your hackles cause someone addressing what you said. Take it or don't but then to say I'm OK with what I said and Phil know what she's doing.... 🤦🏻♀️ Ok and you and I will have to agree it disagree because yes I said real because again philo picked a PM that wasn’t what STP was talking about and posted it as see I’m not mean she is being weird knowing that scout said she wouldn’t post the actual PM so yes you are correct the PM she posted is real but but the one that is posted. She knew what I was talking about she chose to go a different route. This isn’t even a I’m standing up for scout it’s a I have history of philo doing this studs with both me and scout and it always ends up with something like this happening. Im following what you are saying and sure I could have and probably should have used a different word but I stand by the fact that she can’t understand or chooses to not understand is more like it
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Post by Pistol on Jul 26, 2023 14:15:04 GMT -6
OMG a call out thread. So vintage. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Figures it would be when I was eyeball deep in work and missed all of it. I'm catching up still but I'm assuming it is resolved.
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Post by babybean on Jul 26, 2023 14:15:22 GMT -6
Socks once messaged me for calling her out on the board. I told her to suck my dick and not PM me drama. I found out after it was her birthday. It’s a real sickness to not even take your birthday off to rest from such useless, exhaustive behaviour.
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Post by Pizzaslut on Jul 26, 2023 14:15:42 GMT -6
If I need to apologize for calling Kristen Bell’s fan club wack, I STG I will GBCHIH. I’m feeling very threatened right now. Don’t worry, I have screenshots of everything and will piece it all together and PM it to you later.
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Post by STP on Jul 26, 2023 14:16:02 GMT -6
Socks once messaged me for calling her out on the board. I told her to suck my dick and not PM me drama. I found out after it was her birthday. It’s a real sickness to not even take your birthday off to rest from such useless, exhaustive behaviour. You're like the nicest human on these forums. That's so bizarre of her.
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Post by hawkward on Jul 26, 2023 14:18:26 GMT -6
Socks once messaged me for calling her out on the board. I told her to suck my dick and not PM me drama. I found out after it was her birthday. It’s a real sickness to not even take your birthday off to rest from such useless, exhaustive behaviour. You're like the nicest human on these forums. That's so bizarre of her. If this is not a unity horse, I don’t know what is. Hi. I picked a good day to get off early.
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Post by STP on Jul 26, 2023 14:19:11 GMT -6
The thing is, if I found it nasty, that's all that matters. It's immaterial if anyone else agrees. She could have said "you're swell and pretty" and if I replied don't PM me, that's it. I made it clear that I did not wish to be contacted by PM by her, and that if she did, I would continue the conversation publicly bc I didn't trust her.
I know the entertainment capital is wearing off quickly, so I apologize, but that's all there is to it for me.
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Post by McBenny on Jul 26, 2023 14:19:17 GMT -6
Now you're making it weird. You just told her she couldn't read and you didn't say she faked the pm. I said in all fairness you used the word real. So that implies something here is fake. You won't follow or can't. And now it's Phil knew what she was doing? Omg I don't give a flying fuck about Phil or scout. They can bump uglies for all I care. I was only responding to you telling her oh you can't read. You said real. You used that word. That makes it seem like you're saying she faked some shit. So my point was then and is now.... You're you can't read post makes no fucking sense. Either follow the trail or don't. But don't make it about something else. Everytime you switch the topic you holler semantics. It's not semantics. You said scout can't post the real so again YOU SAYING LIKE PHIL POSTED FAKE SHIT. You said that. Don't raise your hackles cause someone addressing what you said. Take it or don't but then to say I'm OK with what I said and Phil know what she's doing.... 🤦🏻♀️ Ok and you and I will have to agree it disagree because yes I said real because again philo picked a PM that wasn’t what STP was talking about and posted it as see I’m not mean she is being weird knowing that scout said she wouldn’t post the actual PM so yes you are correct the PM she posted is real but but the one that is posted. She knew what I was talking about she chose to go a different route. This isn’t even a I’m standing up for scout it’s a I have history of philo doing this studs with both me and scout and it always ends up with something like this happening. Im following what you are saying and sure I could have and probably should have used a different word but I stand by the fact that she can’t understand or chooses to not understand is more like it I'm not trying to argue with you. I'm not. I just feel you get tunnel vision and are not hearing/reading what's being said. If Phil posted the wrong conversation than what scout was talking about then I would have said wrong. Wrong and not "the real one." You keep saying Phil knew what you were talking about. I don't think that's fair. She already has one person saying she sent a nasty pm. She felt she needed to prove that issue even to the point of violating tou. Then you come in saying not real and you really feel like she can't speak to that? When she does you said she can't read?. You say she's choosing to not understand but you're doing the same thing. My post wasn't about Phil or scout or none of that. It was about you straight up said not the real post and then you told her she couldn't read when she took issue with that? Anyone here would take issue with someone saying not real. 🤷🏻♀️
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Post by hawkward on Jul 26, 2023 14:20:08 GMT -6
I read this whole damned thread thinking there would be something more than one-sided PMs happening when I saw the ban hammer.
I’m disappointed in you all.
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Post by hawkward on Jul 26, 2023 14:22:05 GMT -6
STP you and I have a mutual cracker eating poster who used to send me nasty PMs. I banned her and moved on, but I definitely get your point here. It’s weird and kind of upsetting to get a PM from someone who clearly is just being a weirdo and not trying to accomplish anything else.
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Post by STP on Jul 26, 2023 14:22:17 GMT -6
They are all Socks. None of them are Socks.
The circle will hold.
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Post by McBenny on Jul 26, 2023 14:25:30 GMT -6
The thing is, if I found it nasty, that's all that matters. It's immaterial if anyone else agrees. She could have said "you're swell and pretty" and if I replied don't PM me, that's it. I made it clear that I did not wish to be contacted by PM by her, and that if she did, I would continue the conversation publicly bc I didn't trust her. I know the entertainment capital is wearing off quickly, so I apologize, but that's all there is to it for me. I support you saying don't pm me. I don't agree that now it's because you found it nasty. That's bullshit. You literally made it out to be more than it was. As much as I can't stand you most days I would be ready to tear her a new asshole. However, don't make it more than it was. You're the queen of throwing the stone and hiding your hand but even this was a lot for you. You know saying she sent you a nasty pm was going to get you a reaction from all of us. This is not a all that matters is i felt it was nasty moment. 🙄
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