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Post by STP on Apr 11, 2023 14:06:25 GMT -6
I married the guy I was with at 15, we were engaged when I was 19, and married when I was 21. 20 (together) years & 14 (married) years later, I have zero regrets, but also don’t necessarily want it for any of our 3 kids. Yep. I met DH at 19 (him 18) and we were married at 23/22. It's not my recommendation to others, but I have literally not one regret for us. We're an oddly solid match and always have been. If given my druthers, I'd suggest my kids live a little more life before marriage if possible just as a rule of thumb. Obviously if they found their oddly solid match, I'd have to reevaluate.
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Post by willow on Apr 11, 2023 14:24:57 GMT -6
I forgot to mention here that my brother made tacos for Jim Carrey last week. He tried to sneak into his VIP room to see him but his boss said no, lol.
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Post by lucylou on Apr 11, 2023 14:38:23 GMT -6
I forgot to mention here that my brother made tacos for Jim Carrey last week. He tried to sneak into his VIP room to see him but his boss said no, lol. He’s my unusual celeb crush.
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Post by jaygee on Apr 11, 2023 14:41:57 GMT -6
I married the guy I was with at 15, we were engaged when I was 19, and married when I was 21. 20 (together) years & 14 (married) years later, I have zero regrets, but also don’t necessarily want it for any of our 3 kids. Yep. I met DH at 19 (him 18) and we were married at 23/22. It's not my recommendation to others, but I have literally not one regret for us. We're an oddly solid match and always have been. If given my druthers, I'd suggest my kids live a little more life before marriage if possible just as a rule of thumb. Obviously if they found their oddly solid match, I'd have to reevaluate. This is us too. We actually met at 15 (me) / 17 (him) and dated for four years. Then took a 2ish year break (like not even talking, dating other people break) and got back together before moving in together, getting engaged and then married at 24/26. My running joke is “who let those children get married” but luckily it’s worked out for us. Just celebrated 18 years on Sunday. And “oddly solid match” is how I’m going to describe is going forward. It fits.
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Post by Bookshelves on Apr 11, 2023 14:47:08 GMT -6
I need some of you to go respond to this thread on Reddit with the cartoon Robin Hood. This is an entertaining read as it is every time we hit on the embarrassing crush topic. https://www.reddit.com/r/popculturechat/comments/12huq4b/celebrities_that_you_are_embarrassed_to_admit_you/ Omg, this description cracked me up. (I do not find him attractive at all, for the bujo! Cartoon Robin Hood > Posty) “Post Malone. I DO NOT CARE that he looks like a discarded ashtray in a suspicious tattoo parlour in the middle of nowhere.”
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Post by jaygee on Apr 11, 2023 14:47:11 GMT -6
But if a youth asked my opinion I would tell them to cool their jets because marriage is hard and life is a marathon not a sprint. But hey, I doubt they care what this old lady thinks.
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Post by babybean on Apr 11, 2023 14:58:42 GMT -6
I got married at 21. I love my husband and the life we’ve built, but it was a lot of work. I wouldn’t recommend getting married at 19, but she’s rich and has access to resources should she need them. Are they likely to fail? Yeah. Most marriages do though.
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Post by willow on Apr 11, 2023 15:06:22 GMT -6
I have so many opinions on the marriage thing that I don't even know where to start about it. Not about MBB specifically but the broader conversation. It is one of those topics that has so many shades of grey. I would agree with everyone here that if it were my child, I'd try to heavily sway them into waiting a bit to marry the person, and just enjoy being in a relationship without that contractual obligation attached.
I sometimes wonder what I'd have done if my parents expressed more concern about my marrying so young but I probably wouldn't have listened to them anyway. Which is a shame, because the marriage was a fucking disaster.
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Post by babybean on Apr 11, 2023 15:06:58 GMT -6
That sounds cynical lol. I get being young and that life experience is important. I wasn’t going to break up with MH because people thought I needed to hook up with other people or do whatever else. Maybe Millie will have a long engagement, maybe she’ll call it off, maybe she’ll get divorced. Idk, but I wish her well. She looks happy.
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Post by miawallace on Apr 11, 2023 16:07:47 GMT -6
Im not scandalized at people getting engaged or marrying young. MBB has a slew of her own weirdo issues, but I’m not scandalized by her age. I’m laughing at all the Twitter responses bc it’s true. At 19 I had a Cookie Monster Velcro wallet and wore dickies to college. 🙈
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Post by Cher on Apr 11, 2023 16:44:55 GMT -6
MH and I met at 19/20. But we were just each other’s booty calls then. We were at different colleges but the same city. Then we lived in different states so the booty call thing was no more. We really weren’t together until he wanted to get an apt and NY rent was too high to go at it alone. So he called old Cher up. Which is crazy. But people in their 20’s are a little crazy. We did the Live together thing for a while and didn’t get married until closer to 30. 28 maybe? We say the only reason we work (FOR US), is because while we have known each other for so long, we were able to have our own experiences in our younger ages.
Regardless, I don’t think any of our experiences are comparable to MBB. She’s had inappropriate relationships with adults from the time she was a child and parents that encouraged it. So, she prob has some stuff to work through and marriage as a teenager is likely proof that she hasn’t done it yet.
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Post by STP on Apr 11, 2023 16:48:10 GMT -6
That sounds cynical lol. I get being young and that life experience is important. I wasn’t going to break up with MH because people thought I needed to hook up with other people or do whatever else. Exactly. Sometimes it really just is how things work out.
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Post by STP on Apr 11, 2023 16:50:01 GMT -6
My sense of her is that she craves stability and safety, given her childhood (or lack thereof).
Adele will tell you that her marriage - even though it didn't ultimately work out - saved her life and her ex-H is still her hero.
Let us hope that if this marriage is not a forever thing, it is a positive phase at least.
I always cringe (wrong word, just feel like oh dear) more at very young people having babies than marriage though. Marriages can end, without it being more than the close of one chapter. Parenthood is forever.
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Post by elle on Apr 11, 2023 16:57:47 GMT -6
I think it's also likely that since Jake's (I looked up his name, lol) parents were high school sweethearts and while they didn't marry as teens, they've had a long and lasting relationship, becoming partnered early in life seems normal/natural.*
The parental model for him is you can find your match early in life and make it work long term. Combine that with MBB's childhood, I can see why both are ready to commit to each other early in life.
*no doubt with infidelities in there somewhere because rock star and all that
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Post by jaygee on Apr 11, 2023 17:38:35 GMT -6
I forgot to mention here that my brother made tacos for Jim Carrey last week. He tried to sneak into his VIP room to see him but his boss said no, lol. He’s my unusual celeb crush. I have never been able to under the character where he sticks his lip over his teeth and for some reason that face gives me a queasy reaction. Like I can’t look at it, I immediately turn my head. So he would not be on my list.
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Post by elle on Apr 11, 2023 17:57:34 GMT -6
He’s my unusual celeb crush. I have never been able to under the character where he sticks his lip over his teeth and for some reason that face gives me a queasy reaction. Like I can’t look at it, I immediately turn my head. So he would not be on my list. I bet that's his O face. 😈😆
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Post by Cher on Apr 11, 2023 18:27:55 GMT -6
March 13, 2023
Oscars
The only reason this A list mostly movie actress who is an Oscar winner/nominee wore a certain accessory last night, was because she knew it would get her attention she might normally be able to get without the controversial attention grabber.
Jessica Chastain
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Post by Bookshelves on Apr 11, 2023 18:28:53 GMT -6
I have never been able to under the character where he sticks his lip over his teeth and for some reason that face gives me a queasy reaction. Like I can’t look at it, I immediately turn my head. So he would not be on my list. I bet that's his O face. 😈😆
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Post by jaygee on Apr 11, 2023 18:36:27 GMT -6
I have never been able to under the character where he sticks his lip over his teeth and for some reason that face gives me a queasy reaction. Like I can’t look at it, I immediately turn my head. So he would not be on my list. I bet that's his O face. 😈😆 Bookshelves beat me to it. That was my exact reaction.
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Post by beatch on Apr 11, 2023 19:00:33 GMT -6
I sometimes wonder what I'd have done if my parents expressed more concern about my marrying so young but I probably wouldn't have listened to them anyway. You can't tell a kid anything at 19. Probably even less so if they're famous and independently wealthy.
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Post by Cher on Apr 11, 2023 19:03:34 GMT -6
March 13, 2023
Oscars
This former host turned media mogul who wants his empire even larger hosted a big party last night. He kept bragging that the wealthy bookseller would be attending. Nope. The bookseller hit up other parties, but not our mogul's party.
Byron Allen/Jeff Bezos
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Post by willow on Apr 11, 2023 19:27:33 GMT -6
I sometimes wonder what I'd have done if my parents expressed more concern about my marrying so young but I probably wouldn't have listened to them anyway. You can't tell a kid anything at 19. Probably even less so if they're famous and independently wealthy. I was 21 but yes very much I agree.
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Post by motherofdachshunds on Apr 11, 2023 19:46:23 GMT -6
I don’t think there's a right or wrong age to get married, but young + Hollywood just seems like a recipe for failure.
I think a lot of y’all got lucky, I had terrible taste in men until my frontal lobe was done developing 😆
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Post by bobyn on Apr 11, 2023 19:59:15 GMT -6
I think getting married at 19 is ridiculous and they’ll almost certainly end up divorced but I really don’t care about these people I was engaged at 20 and married at 21 and we're coming up on 15 years this month. Buuuut I'm not a celebrity in Hollywood, so that probably means squat.
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Post by marygracerich on Apr 11, 2023 20:09:29 GMT -6
March 13, 2023 Oscars This former host turned media mogul who wants his empire even larger hosted a big party last night. He kept bragging that the wealthy bookseller would be attending. Nope. The bookseller hit up other parties, but not our mogul's party. Byron Allen/Jeff Bezos Calling Bezos a bookseller made me laugh.
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Post by jenna on Apr 11, 2023 20:34:49 GMT -6
oof I should have known the anecdotes I would unleash; my bad
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Post by Cher on Apr 11, 2023 21:11:36 GMT -6
March 16, 2023
It is just like old times with the parents of the alliterate actress trying to sell stories to the tabloids about the life event of the actress.
Lindsay Lohan
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Post by angelashly on Apr 12, 2023 6:23:02 GMT -6
oof I should have known the anecdotes I would unleash; my bad I mean yes because they sweeping they will get divorced for getting married so young will cause that
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Post by flojo on Apr 12, 2023 6:48:26 GMT -6
My sense of her is that she craves stability and safety, given her childhood (or lack thereof). Adele will tell you that her marriage - even though it didn't ultimately work out - saved her life and her ex-H is still her hero. Let us hope that if this marriage is not a forever thing, it is a positive phase at least. I always cringe (wrong word, just feel like oh dear) more at very young people having babies than marriage though. Marriages can end, without it being more than the close of one chapter. Parenthood is forever. This is exactly why I don’t think it’s odd. I think she wants stability and a sense of normalcy, and she sees marriage as that. Also, based on absolutely nothing but Jersey anecdotes, Bon Jovi’s family seems very nice and down to earth. And they better play “Living on a Prayer” at their wedding, as is required if you’re NJ-adjacent.
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Post by microworm on Apr 12, 2023 7:21:32 GMT -6
oof I should have known the anecdotes I would unleash; my bad Anecdote city
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