Night wean/general weaning help

[sunfrogger]

Can anyone give me tips on weaning/night weaning?

Tldr; my toddler has been nursed to sleep forever and now that my supply is shot she is distraught at night when I am done with being a pacifier.

My toddler (20mo) has been pretty good at not nursing as much during the day but my supply is really low at 10wks pg. She only nurses at bedtime and wake up. Wake up is easier to cut short because we can give her breakfast. But, our bedtime nursing is a nightmare. I have been keeping it on a timer (total about 10min) while her stars sing. Once that's over she gets put in her crib. For the last like two weeks it's been a total shit show. Up until now she's been nursed to sleep by me at night (when mh puts her to bed, he just rocks and sings and pats, sometimes it works sometimes not). She eventually (~20 min) goes to sleep once in her crib, but she's really, really distraught for the first 2-3. Normal? I ultimately want to wean her before #2 gets here and we are considering moving her to a toddler bed for her 2nd birthday so even before that would be fab. I really wanted to get to 2 but I'm struggling with it with being pg.

If you made it this far, a pic of my cutie pie who loves her mommy something fierce.

[sunfrogger]

Did I say 20min to fall asleep? 40. 40 and counting.

[tinydancer]

sunfrogger, I have no real advice but you have all my sympathies. My LO still nurses to near sleep most nights and I've been trying to move teeth brushing after nursing with mixed success.

When we night weaned we basically did cry it out. My LO took to it; the first few nights were bad but it got better after a week or so. I think it's normal to be distraught for the first few minutes but hopefully that gets better. The best advice I can give on CIO is hang in there and be consistent. I had to leave the room and stay out when my LO was crying otherwise he got more upset.

I hope it gets better!

[vvvvvfee]

i would try totally cutting out nursing right before bed and have your H be in charge of bedtime while you are in another area of the house. either don't nurse in the evening at all or move it up earlier so that it's not right before bed. if she knows you are around and wants to nurse more that could be contributing to the trouble getting to sleep. your H could offer her warm cow's milk right before bed as a substitute. i would have him do a very specific routine with her every night- like first bath, then milk, then brush teeth, read story, and then bed. same thing every night, with you out of the area.

you definitely have my sympathies!

[yummeecookee]

I agree w the others in letting YH handle this. There's just no way she's going to accept you putting her to bed without nursing.
Go to a totally different area of the house. It will be tough in the beginning, lots of tears. I think 40min might be about how long C went the first night. Each night got to be a little less. Before even a full week, he would let mh put him into the crib and not make a peep.

GL

[yummeecookee]

And fwiw, I still did/do the bathtime and jammies part.