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Post by sweptaway on Jan 27, 2023 13:30:21 GMT -6
I have an unrelated confession. My middle kid had a dentist appt this morning so she was late for school. When I took her in with her excuse there was another parent in the office. I have seen him a few times but never talked to him/ don't know his name or his kid's name. Well I left the building and was getting ready to pull out when he knocked on my window and motioned for me to roll it down. I did and he asked me if he could have a ride to somewhere relatively nearby. I lied and said I was late to an appointment and apologized and he was nice about it and just walked off. But I also feel a little guilty because it is cold. But I also didn't feel comfortable letting a man I don't know into my car when I'm alone? Maybe I'm too paranoid idk Yeah no wtf. How you dropping your kid at school with no plan on how to get to your next destination from there? We live on a busy road and over the summer there was a woman walking by while I was out in the yard. She asked if I'd drive her to the urgent care. I said no. She had a phone. She was walking. It's fucking weird.
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flojo
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Post by flojo on Jan 27, 2023 13:30:29 GMT -6
I do love Carvel ice cream cake though. Perhaps you’re more of a Fudgy the Whale type gal.
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Post by icedcoffee on Jan 27, 2023 13:30:32 GMT -6
Thanks, I just need to release it really cuz I can't change it at this point anyways
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Post by GhoatMonket on Jan 27, 2023 13:30:53 GMT -6
The special order ones are like $10, usually the generic ones are less than that. there are no $5 cakes around here at grocery or walmart 2 slices for $5. single layer round cake maybe $8 And I literally know what's in my store. You can get a $5 cake. Especially at like 9PM. 8" round single layer. Plain frosting. Tis a thing.
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Post by shamycooler on Jan 27, 2023 13:31:06 GMT -6
right. and i'm saying in my marriage neither of us carry the burden of a heavy mental load because we share and split most tasks in the house in a way that works for us. And that's great! I'm not talking about tasks though. We have a great division of tasks as well. If anything I probably do a little less, task-wise. I'm saying tasks & mental load aren't the same thing. and to me it's all part of of the same thing. i don't have to tell H the garbage needs to be taken out, he knows it and does it. I don't have to tell him what DD wants for her birthday, he knows and buys it. and the same for me.
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Post by icedcoffee on Jan 27, 2023 13:31:12 GMT -6
Guys, puss meant face many years ago. It's a cookie face. Relax. TIL
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Post by byjove on Jan 27, 2023 13:32:40 GMT -6
My H and I talk about mental load and physical load a lot. Because I do the mental load and he is for sure the physical load person. He jokingly says "physical load, swept" any time I ask him to do something. So I decided that I'll make the vet appointment for a time he can wrestle the dogs there. I think that's fair. *** TIC and only one example, because THIS PLACE We have a similar dynamic in our house too.
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Post by GhoatMonket on Jan 27, 2023 13:33:16 GMT -6
Guys, puss meant face many years ago. It's a cookie face. Relax. I liked it better when I thought it was code for something else.
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Post by teraiin on Jan 27, 2023 13:33:37 GMT -6
Guys, puss meant face many years ago. It's a cookie face. Relax. I was going to say this but wanted to keep reading until I made sure no one else had said it 😂
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Post by flojo on Jan 27, 2023 13:33:53 GMT -6
Thanks, I just need to release it really cuz I can't change it at this point anyways Definitely release it. And go celebrate your good decision making with a cookie puss.
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Post by icedcoffee on Jan 27, 2023 13:35:19 GMT -6
Thanks, I just need to release it really cuz I can't change it at this point anyways Definitely release it. And go celebrate your good decision making with a cookie puss. 🤣🤣
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Post by Rusty Red on Jan 27, 2023 13:37:39 GMT -6
Let us not forget Fudgie.
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sweptaway
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Post by sweptaway on Jan 27, 2023 13:44:50 GMT -6
Does anyone remember the nanerpuss song? Cookie puss reminded me. I can remember the song but I had to Google to find out it was from a Denny's commercial.
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Post by flojo on Jan 27, 2023 13:48:43 GMT -6
Does anyone remember the nanerpuss song? Cookie puss reminded me. I can remember the song but I had to Google to find out it was from a Denny's commercial. I remember this! MH sings it sometimes when I make banana chocolate chip pancakes, lol.
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Post by lifesaverz on Jan 27, 2023 13:53:19 GMT -6
And that's great! I'm not talking about tasks though. We have a great division of tasks as well. If anything I probably do a little less, task-wise. I'm saying tasks & mental load aren't the same thing. and to me it's all part of of the same thing. i don't have to tell H the garbage needs to be taken out, he knows it and does it. I don't have to tell him what DD wants for her birthday, he knows and buys it. and the same for me. Maybe I'm not explaining myself well, so I will just move on. But I'm not saying I need to remind H of everything he needs to do. Those examples you listed are also things he would do; there's a lot he does without me having to ask. But I feel like @stp explained it best by who is looking out for what is up ahead, looking at all the little needs of the family, & planning how to get those addressed, etc. I don't know. And I'm not saying you guys don't have a good division of mental load, maybe you do. I just feel like we may be talking about different things a bit.
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Post by coolbeans on Jan 27, 2023 13:55:09 GMT -6
We also get a Cookie o’Puss for St. Patrick’s Day Why are his arms coming out of his cheeks????
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Post by klw on Jan 27, 2023 13:57:04 GMT -6
Is it delicious? It doesn’t even look delicious. Its ice cream cake with crunchies. How could it not be delicious?? The crunchies are my favorite part of an ice cream cake. Luckily DD feels the same way so H picked up the football carvel cake for her birthday on Monday. It’s covered in them.
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Post by sweptaway on Jan 27, 2023 14:00:08 GMT -6
Its ice cream cake with crunchies. How could it not be delicious?? The crunchies are my favorite part of an ice cream cake. Luckily DD feels the same way so H picked up the football carvel cake for her birthday on Monday. It’s covered in them. I was so disappointed the first time I had an ice cream cake without the crunchy bits.
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Post by sweptaway on Jan 27, 2023 14:00:36 GMT -6
You folks are taking the structure of cookie puss way too literally
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Post by wasabi on Jan 27, 2023 14:00:49 GMT -6
Oh right. I remember learning cookiepuss here before. I do see why it’s something I don’t choose to keep in my forever memory though.
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Post by kittyriot on Jan 27, 2023 14:04:30 GMT -6
No crunchy bits in my ice cream cake, please.
Also pretty sensitive about birthday as mine always got brushed aside because my parents were in the middle of farm work. Summer birthday.
As a result I default became the social planner of the family, if I didn’t organize shit, no birthday, anniversary, mothers/Father’s Day got celebrated. Years ago I had to give it up though, I had become so resentful of making sure everything was taken care of.
So now I tell my Dad, once you know what you’re doing for Mom’s birthday, give me a call and let me know and if I can be there, I’ll be there.
And then I try to travel on my birthday to avoid being disappointed by my parents.
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Post by sterling on Jan 27, 2023 14:06:28 GMT -6
I feel like shamycooler is saying she and her H share the mental load and the task list? Why is this hard to believe? Why is it assumed she’s not the mental load bearer?
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Post by loony on Jan 27, 2023 14:08:07 GMT -6
Carvel makes me not so irrationally angry, even though I’ve never actually seen one.
My horrendous ex cheated on me (I found out later) for years with someone who worked at one. I went down a rabbit hole after I left him and her picture was all over the website.
Bitch new about me and still flew in to town multiple times while we were together.
Cookiepuss will always be ruined for me.
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Post by sterling on Jan 27, 2023 14:08:27 GMT -6
Also an update for all those who care, an albertson’s cake has been ordered (for more than $5-$10) and big 1-0 balloons have been ordered for pick up. I’m going to run to a store on my lunch break and pick up a few presents. I can’t believe my baby is almost ten. Sob.
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Post by Nonniedee on Jan 27, 2023 14:08:48 GMT -6
But why is it called a cookie puss? I'm so lost on that lol I thought it was code for something else tbh 🤣 Puss means face, so cookie face. The most concerning part is his sideburns. I don’t understand their inclusion
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Post by sterling on Jan 27, 2023 14:12:08 GMT -6
Going from the full (and then some as a single mom) mental load bearer to a partial mental load bearer is also truly life changing. Recommend, 10/10.
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Post by Nonniedee on Jan 27, 2023 14:12:45 GMT -6
I see I’m not the only one who speaks old. Have y’all never been called a sourpuss by a nosy aunty? Must be nice.
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Post by YakkityYak on Jan 27, 2023 14:14:57 GMT -6
I would find it a serious mental load to keep changing my SN name instead of just accepting that people think I suck and finding something else to do with my time. But hey. Man I know I really should get some help for hours I spend here and thinking about here and coming up with usernames. My life is just falling apart from my obsession
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Post by angelashly on Jan 27, 2023 14:16:55 GMT -6
No crunchy bits in my ice cream cake, please. Also pretty sensitive about birthday as mine always got brushed aside because my parents were in the middle of farm work. Summer birthday. As a result I default became the social planner of the family, if I didn’t organize shit, no birthday, anniversary, mothers/Father’s Day got celebrated. Years ago I had to give it up though, I had become so resentful of making sure everything was taken care of. So now I tell my Dad, once you know what you’re doing for Mom’s birthday, give me a call and let me know and if I can be there, I’ll be there. And then I try to travel on my birthday to avoid being disappointed by my parents. My mom’s birthday is 4 days before mine and she celebrates herself all month so I’m with you. My 40th I’m making it a me only celebration because I’ve never had one that was just me. Even my 30th which was a surprise party my sil came back to town for and her birthday is the day after mine so it became joint basically. If that makes me sound too much 🤷♀️🤷♀️ I own it I will be too much in April of 2024
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Post by Nonniedee on Jan 27, 2023 14:20:27 GMT -6
brux you inspired me to put more care into myself on my day too! For my 40th I want to throw a big murder mystery bash. I want everyone dressed up and in character. Anyone who doesn’t want to honor the theme can just stay home 🤷🏾♀️ It’s what I want. 2029 will be a jam packed year for me lol.
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