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Post by flojo on Jan 27, 2023 14:21:06 GMT -6
We also get a Cookie o’Puss for St. Patrick’s Day Why are his arms coming out of his cheeks???? ITS PART OF HIS CHARM
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Post by sterling on Jan 27, 2023 14:21:28 GMT -6
Has the username changing quandary gone answered? Why does it change all the time? Is socks in witness protection?
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Post by brux on Jan 27, 2023 14:21:47 GMT -6
Oh right. I remember learning cookiepuss here before. I do see why it’s something I don’t choose to keep in my forever memory though. I really thought you were suggesting it as the perfect solution. I heart cookiepuss.
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Post by sterling on Jan 27, 2023 14:21:56 GMT -6
brux you inspired me to put more care into myself on my day too! For my 40th I want to throw a big murder mystery bash. I want everyone dressed up and in character. Anyone who doesn’t want to honor the theme can just stay home 🤷🏾♀️ It’s what I want. 2029 will be a jam packed year for me lol. This young bitch.
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Post by piratecat on Jan 27, 2023 14:22:04 GMT -6
But why is it called a cookie puss? I'm so lost on that lol I thought it was code for something else tbh 🤣 Puss means face, so cookie face. The most concerning part is his sideburns. I don’t understand their inclusion Apparently they are arms.
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Post by lifesaverz on Jan 27, 2023 14:22:57 GMT -6
I feel like shamycooler is saying she and her H share the mental load and the task list? Why is this hard to believe? Why is it assumed she’s not the mental load bearer? I mean I actually said maybe they do share both, & that I'm not saying they don't. Just that with the examples given I felt like we were talking about different things.
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Post by brux on Jan 27, 2023 14:24:11 GMT -6
brux you inspired me to put more care into myself on my day too! For my 40th I want to throw a big murder mystery bash. I want everyone dressed up and in character. Anyone who doesn’t want to honor the theme can just stay home 🤷🏾♀️ It’s what I want. 2029 will be a jam packed year for me lol. can I get an invite and hopefully be the murderer? Pretty please?
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Post by flojo on Jan 27, 2023 14:24:30 GMT -6
brux you inspired me to put more care into myself on my day too! For my 40th I want to throw a big murder mystery bash. I want everyone dressed up and in character. Anyone who doesn’t want to honor the theme can just stay home 🤷🏾♀️ It’s what I want. 2029 will be a jam packed year for me lol. I will send you a murder mystery themed cookie puss if you’d like!
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Post by flojo on Jan 27, 2023 14:25:34 GMT -6
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Post by nevertoomanyshoes on Jan 27, 2023 14:26:19 GMT -6
But why is it called a cookie puss? I'm so lost on that lol I thought it was code for something else tbh 🤣 I really thought we were heading into a NSFW situation when the link was posted
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Post by piratecat on Jan 27, 2023 14:26:20 GMT -6
brux you inspired me to put more care into myself on my day too! For my 40th I want to throw a big murder mystery bash. I want everyone dressed up and in character. Anyone who doesn’t want to honor the theme can just stay home 🤷🏾♀️ It’s what I want. 2029 will be a jam packed year for me lol. I will send you a murder mystery themed cookie puss if you’d like! It already looks like a serial killer.
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Post by brux on Jan 27, 2023 14:27:08 GMT -6
My sweet angel husband has been in between jobs this week, aka at home with nothing to do. And yet he still has texted me each afternoon, asking what he should make for dinner.
The man literally texted me "do we have sour cream at home?" I DON'T KNOW BECAUSE I'M NOT AT HOME.
I can only assume that he was at the grocery store, wondering if we had sour cream in the fridge. But sweet baby jesus, out of the two of us, I was not the one best suited to answer that question at 2pm on a Tuesday.
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Post by justbecause on Jan 27, 2023 14:27:15 GMT -6
I’m just happy that there isn’t any large piece of furniture or appliances where they shouldn’t be right now.
Indoors at least.
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Post by flojo on Jan 27, 2023 14:27:42 GMT -6
I will send you a murder mystery themed cookie puss if you’d like! It already looks like a serial killer. I was going to send you a pirate cookie puss, but forget it now!
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Post by justbecause on Jan 27, 2023 14:28:57 GMT -6
Thanks, I just need to release it really cuz I can't change it at this point anyways You made the right call. One time a coworker I didn’t know well asked me to drive him to the garage by work to pick up his car and he was a fucking old creeper the entire way. Never again.
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Post by miawallace on Jan 27, 2023 14:31:29 GMT -6
Has the username changing quandary gone answered? Why does it change all the time? Is socks in witness protection? It’s like getting bangs because you need a change but you’re really not okay.
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Post by miawallace on Jan 27, 2023 14:32:54 GMT -6
I just tell my husband I’m going to start sending him a bill for Every time I use my brain instead of him using his.
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Post by sweptaway on Jan 27, 2023 14:37:27 GMT -6
Going from the full (and then some as a single mom) mental load bearer to a partial mental load bearer is also truly life changing. Recommend, 10/10.
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Post by Eagles on Jan 27, 2023 14:37:49 GMT -6
I see I’m not the only one who speaks old. Have y’all never been called a sourpuss by a nosy aunty? Must be nice. My olds would say "get that puss off your face" if you were sulking or giving dirty looks. Yes, it sounds dirty now. I had no frame of reference at the age of 7 for the other way that could be interpreted.
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Post by lucilleaustero on Jan 27, 2023 14:38:19 GMT -6
brux you inspired me to put more care into myself on my day too! For my 40th I want to throw a big murder mystery bash. I want everyone dressed up and in character. Anyone who doesn’t want to honor the theme can just stay home 🤷🏾♀️ It’s what I want. 2029 will be a jam packed year for me lol. That sounds fantastic and I am kind of local to you...just saying.
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Post by sweptaway on Jan 27, 2023 14:38:20 GMT -6
I just tell my husband I’m going to start sending him a bill for Every time I use my brain instead of him using his. I told my H last night that I stopped answering him when he is in the kitchen and asks me where something is. I just take a deep breath and count to 20 and by then he's gone "oh nevermind there it is" and we can all carry on with our lives
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Post by sweptaway on Jan 27, 2023 14:39:11 GMT -6
We got free tickets to the auto show and my H is excited and wants to go this weekend. I .... had other things in mind for the weekend but he never wants to do anything so I guess we're going to the auto show
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Post by sterling on Jan 27, 2023 14:40:51 GMT -6
I do think women get stuck with the whole ass mental load WAY more often than men, and I know there aren’t easy ways to offload it. But I think being the 90-100% mental load bearer is unsustainable no matter how helpful your partner might be.
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Post by Eagles on Jan 27, 2023 14:41:07 GMT -6
He wasn't ignored. He got a thoughtful dinner. It's been life on the mental struggle bus at Casa Eagles for a few months, so on our most recent birthdays we each gave a small gift to the other in the morning before work and said I love you. We've put in more effort in the past but we understand that we're both overwhelmed af and hopefully next year we can do something more special. No one is saying she sucks or did nothing but she even said it was less than normal and it was because she was done keeping the mental load so subconsciously he probably felt that. Which of course she has that right and of course even if it wasn’t done subconsciously and she was petty I can’t fault her to much but without having a conversation it can seem like a slight I get it, but if she's feeling overwhelmed and has communicated that in some way, even if it wasn't a calm and rational discussion, I would hope he'd have it on his radar that she's struggling.
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Post by Nonniedee on Jan 27, 2023 14:43:11 GMT -6
brux you inspired me to put more care into myself on my day too! For my 40th I want to throw a big murder mystery bash. I want everyone dressed up and in character. Anyone who doesn’t want to honor the theme can just stay home 🤷🏾♀️ It’s what I want. 2029 will be a jam packed year for me lol. can I get an invite and hopefully be the murderer? Pretty please? But of course
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Post by sweptaway on Jan 27, 2023 14:46:14 GMT -6
I do think women get stuck with the whole ass mental load WAY more often than men, and I know there aren’t easy ways to offload it. But I think being the 90-100% mental load bearer is unsustainable no matter how helpful your partner might be. I think it's really difficult to break the pattern. My H and I have talked about it a lot but I don't know how to get him to make his brain work the same way mine does- I'm not sure it ever could, quite frankly. In reality someone kind of has to be the schedule keeper, etc- it's just the way it works. But partners can to varying degrees make things harder or easier on one another by how they interact and ask for and offer help in carrying all the loads. I don't think sharing an equal mental load means it's equal at all times. It means sometimes one of us is doing more and we trade off. IDK. It's complicated
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Post by sweptaway on Jan 27, 2023 14:47:56 GMT -6
My sweet angel husband has been in between jobs this week, aka at home with nothing to do. And yet he still has texted me each afternoon, asking what he should make for dinner. The man literally texted me "do we have sour cream at home?" I DON'T KNOW BECAUSE I'M NOT AT HOME. I can only assume that he was at the grocery store, wondering if we had sour cream in the fridge. But sweet baby jesus, out of the two of us, I was not the one best suited to answer that question at 2pm on a Tuesday. I laughed out loud.
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Post by sweptaway on Jan 27, 2023 14:48:27 GMT -6
I’m just happy that there isn’t any large piece of furniture or appliances where they shouldn’t be right now. Indoors at least.Wait what?
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Post by Bookshelves on Jan 27, 2023 14:55:20 GMT -6
”10 things I love about you” taped up on his door or hidden around the house? Well I love this idea. Ds2 turns 10 in the spring. Someone remind me of my brilliant idea in a year (!!) when my oldest turns 10. I will forget. 😉
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Post by angelashly on Jan 27, 2023 14:57:17 GMT -6
No one is saying she sucks or did nothing but she even said it was less than normal and it was because she was done keeping the mental load so subconsciously he probably felt that. Which of course she has that right and of course even if it wasn’t done subconsciously and she was petty I can’t fault her to much but without having a conversation it can seem like a slight I get it, but if she's feeling overwhelmed and has communicated that in some way, even if it wasn't a calm and rational discussion, I would hope he'd have it on his radar that she's struggling. I get that and I’m sure he did which is why I think he felt slighted not because he didn’t get a cake. I’m sure I’m not making sense, but I do in my head
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