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Post by sammysam on Jul 25, 2017 19:05:18 GMT -6
Alright, I'll try this and see if anyone is interested.
This will be a weekly check in for all mamas 35+ who already have a little one or have one on the way or even who are trying for one. Everyone come and play.
How is everyone doing this week?
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Post by sammysam on Jul 25, 2017 19:09:57 GMT -6
Maybe we could start with a quick intro for anyone who is interested and then just go from there?
I'm 38. SO is 50. We've been together for 16 years. We have a 3 year old DD and I'm currently 4 weeks (based on LMP)/5 weeks (based on O date) with number 2.
Anyone else feel like playing over here with me?
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Post by kam3100 on Jul 25, 2017 21:35:28 GMT -6
I'll play! I'm 35, hubby is 45. We have a 3 year old daughter and I'm TFAS. Hopefully I won't be too far behind you sammysamSent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Post by sammysam on Jul 26, 2017 4:47:38 GMT -6
kam3100 I hope you're not far behind either! Did you guys always want a second or is it a relatively new idea if you don't mind my asking? I'm always curious when I see age gaps like ours. DD will be just over 4 when this LO arrives.
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Post by kam3100 on Jul 26, 2017 7:54:47 GMT -6
kam3100 I hope you're not far behind either! Did you guys always want a second or is it a relatively new idea if you don't mind my asking? I'm always curious when I see age gaps like ours. DD will be just over 4 when this LO arrives. We always wanted two and then DD was born. It went a lot differently than I imagined. I was very hesitant to have another. Now that she is three, I can picture having another one. I'm still super scared to have a second. But I just lie to myself and say that a second baby will be easier. |
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Post by MauLoaM0M on Jul 26, 2017 8:04:33 GMT -6
I'll join! ***TW m/c and death mentioned*** Hi ladies! I'm 35, DH is 33. We have been together for 17 years, married for 7. We have a 4 yo DS. Prior to conceiving DS we had a m/c. I always knew I wanted another but the anxiety of caring for 2 and the possibility of having another m/c held me back until just recently. But we are now TFAS!!! DH's grandmother recently passed away and we were not sure how to go about telling DS. We were so afraid to say the wrong thing and scare him. We finally told him the other night and watching him collapse in my lap and sob literally broke my heart. I didn't expect him to fully understand but I really think he does. My heart hurts for my baby. Parenting is tough  |
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Post by sammysam on Jul 26, 2017 8:15:02 GMT -6
kam3100 That sounds like me exactly!
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Post by sammysam on Jul 26, 2017 8:17:27 GMT -6
MauLoaM0M That is one if my most feared moments...when the time comes that I have to explain the death of a loved one to DD. I'm so sorry for your loss and for how heart wrenching it must be to see your son's reaction.
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Post by kam3100 on Jul 26, 2017 8:36:56 GMT -6
MauLoaM0M I'm so sorry for your loss. Our child's grief is devastating too. Hugs Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by MauLoaM0M on Jul 26, 2017 10:57:32 GMT -6
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Post by caer on Jul 26, 2017 12:30:29 GMT -6
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Post by caer on Jul 26, 2017 12:40:27 GMT -6
Hi! I'll play. I'm 37, DH is 41.
*TW*
We have two sons. DS1 is 3.5. DS2 is 4 months. I participated on the other site while we were TFAS. It took us 16 months and a femara/injectable TI cycle to get pregnant with DS2. We also had a MMC at 8.5 weeks in between the boys.
We're 99% sure we're two and through but agreed we would revisit the issue in a few months to make sure we're both still on the same page.
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Post by sweetc129 on Jul 26, 2017 12:57:42 GMT -6
sammysam , ::waves hi:: Good luck TFAS kam3100 and MauLoaM0M . Also, I'm sorry for your loss MauLoaM0M . I worry about having to explain this to our kids as well. All of our grandparents have passed, but my mom is battling cancer and I don't know how it'll end so I think about this topic often. I'm 37 DH is 39. We are currently KU w/ #3, I'm 5w5d. I'm nervous because after this one is born I'm going to SAH and I just don't have the energy I once did so I hope I can keep up with 3 very young kids. I'll still have 1.5 years before my oldest starts kindergarten so I'll be crazy for awhile. ETA: Fixed spacing because I'm OCD.
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Post by sammysam on Jul 26, 2017 13:53:33 GMT -6
sweetc129 How is your mom doing? Cancer is the absolute worst and I'm so sorry your family has been affected. We lost my FIL to lung cancer just before DD was born. I hope your mother has many more happy years ahead of her.
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Post by sammysam on Jul 26, 2017 13:54:39 GMT -6
caer How are you finding the age gap between kiddos?
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Post by sweetc129 on Jul 26, 2017 14:06:17 GMT -6
sammysam, Thanks for asking. She is currently in a round of chemo. She has been almost completely bed/couch bound since her surgery in May. She is looking at 50/50 chance so only time will tell. She is struggling mentally more than physically, so hoping she'll be able to get up and about more in the next month or so, unless Chemo physically drains her too much. She did pretty well last time she was on Chemo, but this is a different cocktail.
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Post by caer on Jul 26, 2017 14:06:40 GMT -6
caer How are you finding the age gap between kiddos? I'm actually liking it. I had my heart set on 2u2, which would have only happened if we got KU right away and obviously that didn't work out. I very much dislike age 3 in general but with regards to the baby, it's ok. It's nice that my older boy is more independent, can follow instructions and has a better understanding of what I want/expect from him. Are you excited about a 4 year gap between your kiddos? My DH and his sister have that age gap and my MIL said it was nice. |
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Post by sammysam on Jul 26, 2017 14:18:50 GMT -6
sweetc129 I'm sorry she's having a hard time. I can't imagine what it must be like mentally or physically to be the one going through it. Hopefully once this round of chemo is done she'll start feeling a bit stronger which might help.
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Post by sammysam on Jul 26, 2017 14:26:49 GMT -6
caer I was actually thinking we were going to be OAD after DD was born. I initially wanted either 2 or 4 but after DD I didn't feel like I needed another. Then SO decided he wanted another and once DD was almost 3 I was ready to try again. I always wanted kids closer together in age but looking at it now I think I'm happy with a 4 year gap. My sister and I are almost 4 years apart and it was enough space that we weren't getting in each other's way socially but close enough that we're really good friends.
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Post by kam3100 on Jul 26, 2017 14:46:54 GMT -6
caer I was actually thinking we were going to be OAD after DD was born. I initially wanted either 2 or 4 but after DD I didn't feel like I needed another. Then SO decided he wanted another and once DD was almost 3 I was ready to try again. I always wanted kids closer together in age but looking at it now I think I'm happy with a 4 year gap. My sister and I are almost 4 years apart and it was enough space that we weren't getting in each other's way socially but close enough that we're really good friends. We really are identical except I don't have a sister. I hope that DD is less crazy when the second is born. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Post by sammysam on Jul 26, 2017 14:53:54 GMT -6
kam3100 I've already seen a huge difference in DD over the past 6 months so I'm hoping that by the time she's 4 she'll be ready to share me. I think that is going to be the hardest adjustment for her.
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Post by MauLoaM0M on Jul 26, 2017 15:50:13 GMT -6
sweetc129 I'm sorry to hear about your mom. Cancer is the absolute worst! I lost my dad to cancer. I'm sending positive healing thoughts to her and your family.
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Post by flippinchica on Jul 28, 2017 16:11:58 GMT -6
Haiiii!
I am 40 and DH is 47. DS is almost 2 and I'm 16 weeks with #2 another boy. I had a mmc before DS. Pregnancy with a toddler is definitely a new ballgame. I posted for a bit when TTC both kids on tb and tcf. I recognize some of you!
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Post by sammysam on Jul 28, 2017 17:07:48 GMT -6
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Post by sammysam on Jul 28, 2017 17:13:45 GMT -6
Is anyone else stupidly tired or is just me?
DD threw a bit of a fit on the boat this morning so I packed everything up and drove home. She is now running around like a kid in a candy store (the boat is small so she hasn't had much freedom the past while...and it shows) and I am exhausted. I just want to curl up and go to bed.
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Post by kam3100 on Jul 28, 2017 18:30:20 GMT -6
Is anyone else stupidly tired or is just me? DD threw a bit of a fit on the boat this morning so I packed everything up and drove home. She is now running around like a kid in a candy store (the boat is small so she hasn't had much freedom the past while...and it shows) and I am exhausted. I just want to curl up and go to bed. I'm stupidly tired and I'm not even pregnant. I feel for you, I hope you get to squeeze a nap in. |
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Post by flippinchica on Jul 29, 2017 5:39:11 GMT -6
Is anyone else stupidly tired or is just me? DD threw a bit of a fit on the boat this morning so I packed everything up and drove home. She is now running around like a kid in a candy store (the boat is small so she hasn't had much freedom the past while...and it shows) and I am exhausted. I just want to curl up and go to bed. Girl, yes. Unless I nap when DS naps I am an exhausted heap by bedtime routine. DH is out of town this week and I am struggling so I hired a sitter for today just to help me. I guess it might me a little better than first tri but no "energy burst", |
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Post by sammysam on Jul 29, 2017 9:35:21 GMT -6
Is anyone else stupidly tired or is just me? DD threw a bit of a fit on the boat this morning so I packed everything up and drove home. She is now running around like a kid in a candy store (the boat is small so she hasn't had much freedom the past while...and it shows) and I am exhausted. I just want to curl up and go to bed. Girl, yes. Unless I nap when DS naps I am an exhausted heap by bedtime routine. DH is out of town this week and I am struggling so I hired a sitter for today just to help me. I guess it might me a little better than first tri but no "energy burst", I wish DD was still taking naps...but no such luck. She cut them out really early. And we won't be in our house until closer to the end of August so I don't have SO around to help out. He is here today though so I plan on sleeping. Only problem is no matter how tired I am I just can't seem to fall asleep. I am up for like 3 hours now in the middle of the night. Every night. Gah. |
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Post by beachdreamer on Jul 29, 2017 22:03:45 GMT -6
I'll play. I finally found everyone again, and I'd like to remember to check in more often. I am 39 (for a few more months), and DH is 42. I had severe pre-e with DS1 and had to deliver at 24 weeks 6 days. He spent 5.5 months in the NICU. He turned 3 in April and is doing pretty well. DS2 is 6 months old. He was born at 35 weeks 5 days. I didn't have pre-e again, but my blood pressure was creeping up so the doctors didn't want to take a chance due to my history. We had said complications with the 2nd would mean we were done, but I don't know. I just don't feel done. I'm trying to enjoy DS2 while he's little -- it's going by sooo fast this time -- but we plan to revisit the conversation this winter instead of DH getting snipped this summer like we originally talked. I love seeing what buddies the two boys are already!!
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