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Post by shamycooler on Oct 27, 2022 17:18:53 GMT -6
That’s where I am. Private thoughts should stay private. I think it’s unrealistic that H finds me the most attractive person in the world. But I would hope he is the most attracted to me, if that makes sense. I think this is what I am saying. I would hope my partner wouldn’t be more attracted to someone else. I don’t care if it’s ridiculous, I would be pretty devastated to learn my partner was more attracted to someone else than me. I’m sorry I used the word ridiculous. I didn’t mean to be hurtful. I think your position and view point is valid, even if it’s not one I share.
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on Oct 27, 2022 17:23:50 GMT -6
I think this is what I am saying. I would hope my partner wouldn’t be more attracted to someone else. I don’t care if it’s ridiculous, I would be pretty devastated to learn my partner was more attracted to someone else than me. I’m sorry I used the word ridiculous. I didn’t mean to be hurtful. I think your position and view point is valid, even if it’s not one I share. It’s all good! I’m clearly in my feels over here for whatever reason!
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Post by armpants on Oct 27, 2022 19:42:46 GMT -6
Just finished the last episode of this release. Without catching up my thoughts before I forget them:
Still hate Cole, he's the worst. Matt has serious anger issues and needs to learn techniques to calm down. My 7 year old can teach him how to take deep breaths. Nancy needs to run, she deserves so much better. Raven annoys me, but it might just be me. Alexis and Brennon are the only couple I think actually have a shot, but the differences in upbringing could be too much.
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Post by imapenguin on Oct 27, 2022 20:00:30 GMT -6
You know what I like to think about when watching this show? If I would choose my H if we were in this show. And we’re both confident neither of us would have ever chosen the other. Solely based on communication style without visual cues, woof! We still, after nearly 8 years together, don’t do well with that. He’s too literal and I’m too…not lol. Would you choose your spouse? This for sure wouldn’t have worked for MH and me. Neither of us are outgoing enough for it. We knew each other for several years before we ever spoke one on one.
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Post by armpants on Oct 27, 2022 20:02:42 GMT -6
I think there are different ways to talk about attraction. There's the purely physical aspect, but really knowing a person is going to raise or lower that attraction. They don't appear (or aren't shown) to talk about levels deeper than physical on the show generally.
H happened to catch part of the last episode and we started talking about finding other people attractive. We both know that we'll find other people attractive, but he also knows telling me some other chick he saw is super hot does nothing great for my self esteem.
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Post by leatherpants on Oct 27, 2022 20:44:45 GMT -6
We’re only on episode 4 but OMG Colleen and Raven are so annoying! If I was dating “Pilates Raven” I’d be so instantly fucking over it. I do not like her
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Post by Wtfshouldmynamebe on Oct 27, 2022 20:57:40 GMT -6
In regards to Raven and SK - I love his mom so much, and I think that is why they became some people’s favorite.
But, I think that between her friends and him leaving for school, it isn’t going to happen.
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on Oct 27, 2022 21:09:03 GMT -6
In regards to Raven and SK - I love his mom so much, and I think that is why they became some people’s favorite. But, I think that between her friends and him leaving for school, it isn’t going to happen. I agree with this. I was a little surprised that someone leaving the state for school so soon would even sign up for this show.
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Post by downwarddog on Oct 28, 2022 6:54:08 GMT -6
Interesting convo.
My DH isn't the most attractive man I've ever seen. But he is absolutely the only man I want to kiss or sleep with and I think he's sexy af.
I actually do think we might have chosen each other in the pods. We have the exact same sense of humor and I love his voice. But who knows under those conditions.
Of all the red flags, I think Matt gets the highest for me. That trigger temper is intense. And he just continued to eat while she sat there crying. That didn't sit right with me. I wonder what he's like off camera.
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Post by unheardof on Oct 28, 2022 6:59:09 GMT -6
Yea, Matt definitely has a temper that is raising a major red flag. I initially liked him and have changed my mind. He said it best himself - He heard one piece of the conversation, his temper got the best of him and he blacked everything else out. That's alarming and he very much needs to work on that.
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Post by nymama917 on Oct 28, 2022 7:31:37 GMT -6
I feel like Coleen and Zanab look similar. I think it's weird Cole keeps talking about them like they have a totally different look and I really don't think they do. Maybe that's just me.
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Post by kellykapow on Oct 28, 2022 8:36:38 GMT -6
Yea, Matt definitely has a temper that is raising a major red flag. I initially liked him and have changed my mind. He said it best himself - He heard one piece of the conversation, his temper got the best of him and he blacked everything else out. That's alarming and he very much needs to work on that. Yes! And this is him at the beginning of a relationship, when people are generally on better behavior. Also there are cameras, so who knows how he'll go off when no one else is around. Yikes.
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Post by downwarddog on Oct 28, 2022 8:43:11 GMT -6
Also, one of the funniest tweets I saw was on a photo of Cole and the caption was "How did Barnett and Amber's kid already get on the show??" lol so true.
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Post by unheardof on Oct 28, 2022 8:58:33 GMT -6
I feel like Coleen and Zanab look similar. I think it's weird Cole keeps talking about them like they have a totally different look and I really don't think they do. Maybe that's just me. I thought the same. Zanab is an older version of Colleen to me (looks wise).
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on Oct 28, 2022 9:03:13 GMT -6
I had the same feeling on Matt as well, that temper is definitely worrisome.
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Post by shamycooler on Oct 28, 2022 9:05:12 GMT -6
My DH isn't the most attractive man I've ever seen. But he is absolutely the only man I want to kiss or sleep with and I think he's sexy af. i think this is it. It's slight, but important, distinction between how we're all using the word "attractive". I guess it's the difference between recognizing there's other more physically attractive people in the world, but I'm not attracted to them because H is the only one i want to be with*. I think that's where Cole and Bartise fuck up. *except Ryan Reynolds. If he came along i may just have to leave my H. Kidding...sort of. lol
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Post by emma on Oct 28, 2022 10:17:05 GMT -6
There’s many people out there that find more attractive than MH, and honestly I’d be shocked if he didn’t say the same about me, and he’d be lying. I’m not being rude or putting myself down but we’re not smoking hot people, we’re both average good looking at best. Now if he started telling me I wasn’t hot enough or didn’t find me attractive we’d have problems. And I tell him all the time I think he’s hot and that’s true but he can also admit he’s no Dwayne Johnson
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on Oct 28, 2022 12:09:47 GMT -6
I’m feeling less sensitive today, so I’m going to give this another shot.
To me, the word attractive goes deeper than just physical appearance. So when I say I want my partner to find me the most attractive i don’t mean that I want them to think I’m the prettiest girl ever. While attraction can often start with an appreciation for a person’s physical appearance, that’s just a stepping stone in the grand scheme of things. To me attraction comes with really knowing who a person is at their core. So for a partner to tell me that they are more attracted to someone else, it would tell me that they value that persons heart, soul and mind more than mine. To me, that would be heartbreaking.
I’m not saying a partner can’t think another person is attractive, they absolutely can and should! People are beautiful for many reasons and it’s acceptable to recognize and acknowledge that.
just to bring it back around, Cole told Zanab that she was a 9 and said Colleen and Raven were 10s. Yes Zanab asked Cole to rate her which is immature and really highlights her lack of self confidence. But he was immature, and I’ll argue disrespectful, with his response. She was clearly looking for reassurance and he completely missed the mark.
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Post by jubilantsquirrel on Oct 28, 2022 12:11:33 GMT -6
Also if I never type out the words attractive and attracted again, it’ll be too soon 😂
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Post by downwarddog on Oct 28, 2022 12:51:50 GMT -6
I’m feeling less sensitive today, so I’m going to give this another shot. To me, the word attractive goes deeper than just physical appearance. So when I say I want my partner to find me the most attractive i don’t mean that I want them to think I’m the prettiest girl ever. While attraction can often start with an appreciation for a person’s physical appearance, that’s just a stepping stone in the grand scheme of things. To me attraction comes with really knowing who a person is at their core. So for a partner to tell me that they are more attracted to someone else, it would tell me that they value that persons heart, soul and mind more than mine. To me, that would be heartbreaking. I’m not saying a partner can’t think another person is attractive, they absolutely can and should! People are beautiful for many reasons and it’s acceptable to recognize and acknowledge that. just to bring it back around, Cole told Zanab that she was a 9 and said Colleen and Raven were 10s. Yes Zanab asked Cole to rate her which is immature and really highlights her lack of self confidence. But he was immature, and I’ll argue disrespectful, with his response. She was clearly looking for reassurance and he completely missed the mark. I think you're looking at it far more maturely than these man-children on the show It is absolutely true that someone's personality and values make them more or less attractive. I think the problem that the show spurred is that the men (or at least Cole and Bartise) are truly speaking solely to the physical aspect and the women are getting upset because they are assuming that the men are including the whole package, as they have gotten to know each other. Maybe it's a male v female perspective? Or maybe it's just that the producers chose older, more established women and very young, not as experienced men. I mean, it does make better TV, but half of these guys are on the wrong show.
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Post by hugsfordrugs on Oct 28, 2022 20:28:38 GMT -6
Seeing Cole’s apartment…the toilet 🤮🤮
No girl, not all 26 year old guys are disgusting pigs. Want and expect more - love yourself you gorgeous woman!
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Post by normadix on Oct 29, 2022 6:52:33 GMT -6
Ok low key I’m starting to feel bad for Colleen. The show is all over my FYP and everyone has the same thoughts that Zanab is gorgeous while she is sort of plain/average
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Post by thatgolfb on Oct 30, 2022 7:51:03 GMT -6
I just got to Nancy and Bartise’s abortion conversation and 🤮 to Bartise.
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Post by downwarddog on Oct 30, 2022 9:33:15 GMT -6
I just got to Nancy and Bartise’s abortion conversation and 🤮 to Bartise. I don’t understand why he brought that up with his family when she met them, knowing how they feel about it. That was just inviting conflict. And frankly, it doesn’t matter what his family thinks, that decision is between a couple, OR the woman’s choice for her own body. Not for the in laws to weigh in. I was impressed with how Nancy advocated for herself.
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Post by imapenguin on Oct 30, 2022 10:10:03 GMT -6
I just got to Nancy and Bartise’s abortion conversation and 🤮 to Bartise. I don’t understand why he brought that up with his family when she met them, knowing how they feel about it. That was just inviting conflict. And frankly, it doesn’t matter what his family thinks, that decision is between a couple, OR the woman’s choice for her own body. Not for the in laws to weigh in. I was impressed with how Nancy advocated for herself. I think it’s family dynamic for some people. MH used to bring up all kinds of shit with his parents that was none of their business, and it took a year or so of us fighting about that for him to learn it was better to keep somethings between us. Even buying our first house, which was many years into our marriage, I remember specifically telling him that his parents didn’t need to know how much we were spending.
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Post by downwarddog on Oct 30, 2022 11:46:00 GMT -6
I don’t understand why he brought that up with his family when she met them, knowing how they feel about it. That was just inviting conflict. And frankly, it doesn’t matter what his family thinks, that decision is between a couple, OR the woman’s choice for her own body. Not for the in laws to weigh in. I was impressed with how Nancy advocated for herself. I think it’s family dynamic for some people. MH used to bring up all kinds of shit with his parents that was none of their business, and it took a year or so of us fighting about that for him to learn it was better to keep somethings between us. Even buying our first house, which was many years into our marriage, I remember specifically telling him that his parents didn’t need to know how much we were spending. Yeah I do get that, but Bartise was saying how worried he was that his family would like Nancy. Why bring up something so controversial at the first meeting then? Probably all scripted but still.
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Post by Shoshana on Oct 30, 2022 23:26:07 GMT -6
Just finished the last episode of this release. Without catching up my thoughts before I forget them: Still hate Cole, he's the worst. Matt has serious anger issues and needs to learn techniques to calm down. My 7 year old can teach him how to take deep breaths. Nancy needs to run, she deserves so much better. Raven annoys me, but it might just be me. Alexis and Brennon are the only couple I think actually have a shot, but the differences in upbringing could be too much. 100% agree! I could NOT with all the talk about Cole and Bartise not feeling it physically with Zenab and Nancy?!?! Like wtf?!
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Post by Shoshana on Oct 30, 2022 23:27:24 GMT -6
I am 1000% convinced that Raven has zero feelings for SK and only went on this show for social media following. No chemistry at all.
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Post by normadix on Oct 31, 2022 6:51:08 GMT -6
GDI I accidentally (lol) read who actually goes through with it since the licenses and marriage certs leaked. Damn it!
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Post by normadix on Oct 31, 2022 6:52:07 GMT -6
I am 1000% convinced that Raven has zero feelings for SK and only went on this show for social media following. No chemistry at all. I do like how she flat out turned down Barista though. She gave him nothing in that convo.
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