~*~ PgAL/PAIF check-in week of July 23 ~*~

[muscari]

Welcome to the PgAL and PAIF check-in!

This is a weekly check-in for those of us who are pregnant after loss and/or infertility. Feel free to jump in any time!
The check-in is a safe place to share all things that come with being PgAL and/or PAIF.
Use this thread to ask questions, share your excitement/rage/worries/whatever, or to ask for support!

Please come on in and let us know how you're doing, and know you are always welcome
to come back throughout the week whenever you need to!! ♥

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PgAL Mantras
aplacetomeet.freeforums.net/thread/373/pgal-mantras

PAIF Mantras
aplacetomeet.freeforums.net/post/47020/thread


**Loss/trigger warnings are not necessary here**

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Weekly check-in:

How far along are you?

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)?

Any appointments or milestones coming up this week?

Do you need any thoughts or prayers?

Anything else you'd like to share?

QoTW: For those not going in for a (R)SC - any guesses or premonitions or whatever on whether baby will be early, exactly on time or late? Just for funsies!

[cali]

Thanks for the check in muscari

How far along are you?
35w4d

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)?
Physically, tired and sore and large. Emotionally, same old, same old. I have good days and bad days. On the bad days I'm super anxious.

Any appointments or milestones coming up this week?
Friday I have a growth u/s, NST, and group b strep swabs.

Do you need any thoughts or prayers?
Not at the moment, thanks.

Anything else you'd like to share?
The nursery is pretty much done. If I could ever figure out how to share pics on mobile I will. It turned out so cute, I love it. We also installed the car seat bases in both cars and put the stroller together. I feel like we're pretty set but I do still need to pack a bag for the hospital.

QoTW: For those not going in for a (R)SC - any guesses or premonitions or whatever on whether baby will be early, exactly on time or late? Just for funsies!
I feel like she may be a bit early just because she's been measuring a bit ahead (we'll see on Friday if that's still the case). It could also just be wishful thinking because if she doesn't come by my due date they'll induce me and I'm really scared of that!!

[muscari]

How far along are you?
36w4d

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)?
Physically bone tired, somewhat large (both cause of the evergrowing bump as fluid retention in my feet and hands) and baby keeps pushing on my stomach and blatter. But I have to admit I'm really loving feeling (and seeing) her movements, and I know I'm gonne miss that so badly once she's an outside baby. Good thing it'll be replaced by real life cuddles then!
Emotionally I'm a mess. With my mum being admitted to the hospital due to heart issues during her last days on vacation in Switzerland, I've just been really worried and stressed and it's a smidge to much after all I've had to deal with those past couple of months myself already I guess - especially with all those hormones raging. So I had a lot of apperent random breakdowns this weekend with lots of crying. The one thing I'm currently not too worried about is our babygirl - as she keeps reminding me she's there often:) and I think the weekly appointments also help easing my anxiety.

Any appointments or milestones coming up this week?
Tomorrow MFM appointment. MH's work Fed up his schedule so he can't tag along which sucks cause we were supposed to finalize our birthplan etc. My mum was supposed to come with me instead but yeah, impossible (and the rest of my family is also in S'land sooo). I've asked my aunt - who I am pretty darn close with - to come with me, cause a) I can't drive myself yet and b) I'm just a ditz and don't like doingthese kind of appointments on my own. Guess in the background I'm always worried for bad news or something unexpected and I don't like having to deal with such on my own then I guess.

Do you need any thoughts or prayers?
I'd appreciate it if you could keep my mum in your thoughts. She's doing better every day but I know I won't breath easy until she's actually back home again and I can hug her.

Anything else you'd like to share?
I'm thoroughly overwhelmed and feeling all the stress and anxiety over the nursery and getting the house in order for baby again. I kept thinking these past couple weeks "it'll come together" but everytime we plan on doing something something else (work, family stuff, my health, heatwaves) comes up and delays things. So we're still far from finishing the nursery. Which in itself isn't the worst, but the rest of the house is a mess too.. a true proper pigsty mess and I just can't see through it and how on earth it's going to be tidy before baby arrives. I will hire a professional cleaner in a week or 2 to clean (as I just can't do it myself no more, and MH has to work 12day shifts just prior to my duedate, and I can't ask anyone else to help either) but before that things need to be more or less tidy! I'm tempted to just have someone drag ALL I don't want in my view up 2 flights of stairs and dump it in the attic...... MH keeps telling me when he has a day off "tomorrow I'll do such n so" but then the day comes and he'll sleep in till like 11am, takes 3 hours to wake up and relax, and for some reason hardly anything gets done. It's starting to grate on me!

QoTW: For those not going in for a (R)SC - any guesses or premonitions or whatever on whether baby will be early, exactly on time or late? Just for funsies!
I hope she'll be a smidge early and for a while I thought for sure that was going to happen (due to the low fluid and all) but now I'm not too sure. I do have increased BH but only once did they feel like they could be something more. My boobs (or I should say my one boob.. justthe one on the left!) have started leaking regularly but apart from that I don't think I have any signs just yet. I just really hope she won't want to stay past due to long cause for one I think I'm pretty done with being pregnant and just want to meet her and second it would severely screw up MHs time with her after she gets born. Due to work being stupid he had to put in fixed days to take off back in January already and there's no possibility to move things around based on actual birth date, so we put in for the 3 weeks after my due date. If she's late, he'll have to deal with 2 weeks of a 40wk+ pregnant grumphy lady and will only have one week with his lil girl..

[muscari]

cali do you use tapatalk on your mobile or the webbrowser version on mobile? Tapatalk is really quite easy! Assuming you got the pics on your phone *g*

When you type up a post in a thread you'll see a little arrow in a circle on the left of your post.



Click that little arrowthingy and it'll open up a slightly different post editor that looks like this (assuming tapatalk works the same on iPhone as it does on Android!):



Hit the + in the grey box to add a picture, and follow the prompts. It'll ask you whether you want to take a pic or use one from the gallery etc. Find the pic you want to insert, hit SEND and it'll add it to your post. Rinse and repeat if you want to add multiple pics. Type up your text and post and voila, done

Hope this helps!? I would love to see nursery update pics!

[king26]

How far along are you? 35+5

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? Tired, HUGE, swollen feet and hands, up 4 times a night to pee.

Any appointments or milestones coming up this week? Nope. No appointments until August 3rd when I start weekly appointments.

Do you need any thoughts or prayers? No thanks.

Anything else you'd like to share? That the crib is built and the changing table is built and I feel like so much stress is lifted! I plan on totally finishing the nursery this week. I wanted the nursery done by June 30th but now I'm hoping to have it finished by July 31.

QoTW: For those not going in for a (R)SC - any guesses or premonitions or whatever on whether baby will be early, exactly on time or late? Just for funsies! I had a random dream like 2 months ago that baby came on August 8th and I'm going with that. It's about 2 weeks early but I think it might happen since he's head down, super low, and weighing in around 6 pounds already and measuring a week ahead.

cali, I hope your appointments go well on Friday!
muscari, I hope your mom is doing better and I also hope you can get some things done around the house so you feel less stressed. I also have had one leaky boob for the last 3 weeks. Just one and only in the mornings when I'm not wearing a bra which is so weird.

[elliecat17]

How far along are you? 35+5

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? Physically sore. I've been getting lightening crotch when I stand up, my back is starting to hurt again, and eating makes me feel nauseated. Emotionally I'm frustrated with H's family. His grandparents are up here and everything that has been done with them has been a last minute, "how quickly can you get to here?" I have said twice now that the pregnant one NEEDS a plan, but hey who cares right? Also his brother keeps taking over the plans and it's been really inconvenient where everything is ending up. Furthermore because of the lack of plans H did NOTHING this weekend on the nursery. Because I would ask him to, and he would be like yeah but I don't want to start something in case we get called. So he played video games literally all weekend. I give up. Baby will not have a nursery before it's born.

Any appointments or milestones coming up this week? Nope

Do you need any thoughts or prayers? I'm good.

Anything else you'd like to share? I've been having really painful BH. Saturday they ended up being my whole uterus and getting pretty regular so I started timing them. For 3 hours I was having one every 10 minutes that lasted a minute. Then they went away. I was actually kind of sad.

QoTW: For those not going in for a (R)SC - any guesses or premonitions or whatever on whether baby will be early, exactly on time or late? Just for funsies!
I really hope baby is coming early. It looks like baby is starting to drop, and I have been having an easier time breathing. Also since we have been measuring 2 weeks ahead I'd like baby to not decide to hang out past it's due date. And to join the group with leaking breasts, mine have been going like crazy for 2 weeks now. They were leaking every once in a while since week 22, but now it's regular and yelllowish white not clear anymore. While I don't think this is a sign per se I will take it!

[addymac]

🙁 I think I'm the only one without leaky boobs! I hope this doesn't mean I'll have a shit milk supply 😥

Weekly check-in:

How far along are you? 36+3

How are you feeling (physically/emotionally)? E- okay. I just wish he'd come out. But I don't want him early. I'm also stressed about his name. We can't agree. The list we have I don't like 2/3 of the names and I want us both to love his name. It makes me sad to think I'll be a bit ambivalent about it. I need to get over it.

P- ugh. Swollen ankles and feet HURT. My hands are swollen too, I haven't been able to wear my wedding rings in weeks- our anniversary was last week and we went to see Hamilton, so I decided to wear my rings bc, anniversary - and I could barely get them off, I was like NEWP! Not doing that again! My hips and lower back huuuuuurt. But rarely have heartburn, so at least...

Any appointments or milestones coming up this week? Weekly appt on Thursday. Not excited bc I tested + for group b strep so now I need antibiotics during labor and I am sad. I know it's nothing I did, it just happens, it's just a bummer and makes me nervous- what if labor happens too quickly and I don't get enough abx and baby needs an IV and abx? I don't want him poked a lot and fat babies have harder times with IVs.

Do you need any thoughts or prayers? Nah I'm okay.

Anything else you'd like to share? Our pack n play was supposed to be delivered today- UPS left a "we missed you" on our mailbox - but I was home all day and they never rang the buzzer! I was asleep but I sleep like crap and any noise wakes me up, and the phone for the buzzer is on my nightstand- so I know they just didn't ring the buzzer! Made me so mad!! Once that comes and we can set it up in our room I think I will feel like we are ready to go! Oh and install the car seat in the car.

QoTW: For those not going in for a (R)SC - any guesses or premonitions or whatever on whether baby will be early, exactly on time or late? Just for funsies!
-- I think he's going to be a little early or on time. Just like 1-3 days early or 1-2 days late. I don't think I'll be late. But who knows. I'll probably be wrong like I've been wrongn about almost everything this pregnancy 😂

[jt2378]

addymac, no leaky boobs here either and I know I said it before but I'm small chested and BF my first for 18 months successfully so don't stress about supply. Don't worry, they will be leaky before you know it 😂
Also I tested positive for group b too this time and have the same feelings but everyone I talked to say it's no big deal. Just wanted you to know your not alone

[king26]

addymac, We don't have a name either. This morning DH asked what names I liked. I have 4 that I like ok. None that are screaming YES! He has 2 he likes but one of them I hate (it was the name of one of my teachers which just weirds me out) so that leaves us with 5 that we like ok. We also have 2 additional names that we both like ok for a middle name. Poor kid will be baby no name.

elliecat17, The nursery has been a major stresser for me as well. We finally got the crib built this weekend and I have the crib sheets and bedding on now but I still have things to do. It just sucks that we can't do it by ourselves at this point.

[thinkchocolate05]

addymac no leaky boobs here either! I did have a crappy supply with DS and am expecting the same for this one, but we still nursed with supplementation up to two years (longer than I wanted, lol!)

Also, hopefully to make you feel better, I was GBS+ with DS and it was much less scary than I feared, although my water broke at home. They just put me on IV antibiotics shortly after I was admitted and he was fine. The only bummer was that it limited my mobility, but maybe some hospitals would be more flexible about disconnecting from the IV once antibiotics were in place.

[kristyw]

I don't usually go here (though technically I had a loss before DS so maybe I could? I don't really know.) But addymac, I did leak before DS and my supply was crap so it really means nothing with regards to what your supply will be like after baby gets here. And we also have no names we both love.

[muscari]

Jul 25, 2017 13:28:52 GMT -6 kristyw said:

I don't usually go here (though technically I had a loss before DS so maybe I could? I don't really know.) But addymac , I did leak before DS and my supply was crap so it really means nothing with regards to what your supply will be like after baby gets here. And we also have no names we both love.

This check-in was started in the early days of this BMB to give those with a loss and/or IF background a bit of a safe space next to the general BMB check-in to navigate the difficulties of PgAL and PAIF brain throughout the pregnancy. Even if you haven't posted in the check-in before you're most welcome to do so whenever you feel like it!

[cali]

addymac, no leaky boobs here and also no name yet. Solidarity!

[muscari]

cali, GL with your appointments on Friday. You haven't had a U/S in a while right? Will be neat to see the baby again! Even if they hardly fit on the screen no more these days haha. Also, saw you figured out posting pics, yay!

king26, it really weirds me out it's just the one leaking (the other has leaked maybe like twice??) haha - though I read something that that may be cause I mostly lay on my left side? For me tis also mostly when not wearing a bra (though can be at any time of day, yes I've been braless a lot lately haha).. I need a good nursing bra so I can wear it comfortably and stick in a nursing pad LOL! Keeping my fx that you'll be able to finish the nursery this weekend and make your end of July "deadline" (though don't feel too bad if it doesn't happen k?)!

Oh elliecat17, I'm sorry you're feeling so down and overwhelmed esp about the nursery not being done in time. I hope YH will get his act together and you can make some good progress still. I totally get the feeling though, I honestly didn't think we were going to make it (and still not sure) BUT I did manage to push MH to get going again and we made some nice progress the other day. Still got some ways to go but the worst is almost done. How long will YHs grandparents still be around? Wishing you patience and strenght *hugs*

Ahh gah I totally lost track of time and really need to get some sleep, been feeling a little rough and hope I'm not getting sick - will come back to tag the rest tomorrow!

[cali]

muscari, I have monthly ultrasounds, so my last one was a month ago. Still always good to see baby though!

[elliecat17]

muscari they leave on Thursday morning. I know he will get stuff done, it's just that I am such a type A personality, and I can't control when baby comes, so I think that controlling the nursery being ready has been my mental health solution.