milano
Emerald
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Post by milano on Feb 4, 2022 19:47:02 GMT -6
Sadness: my oldest is into wearing scrunchies on his wrist lately. Today at school he was teased and laughed at for it. It’s not the first time he’s been teased for being perceived as “too feminine” and it just hurts my heart. I don’t know the right things to say other than to reiterate that everyone can wear whatever they like. I don’t want him to dim his own light because of others. I'm sorry. I've dealt with this with J, mostly due to his hair but also because he loves pink and purple. I keep reminding him that it doesn't matter what other kids think, if he likes it and it makes him happy then that is all that matters. I tell him that it takes most people until they are grown ups to figure this out but that we will keep working on it so he can be a confident kid. I'm also very quick to shut down any conversations of "girl colors" or "boy toys", etc, whether it is my kid saying it or someone else's kid. I keep it light and casual, but am quick to remind them that girls/boys can wear all the colors and play with all kinds of toys.
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rugger
Amethyst
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Post by rugger on Feb 4, 2022 21:08:28 GMT -6
Sadness: my oldest is into wearing scrunchies on his wrist lately. Today at school he was teased and laughed at for it. It’s not the first time he’s been teased for being perceived as “too feminine” and it just hurts my heart. I don’t know the right things to say other than to reiterate that everyone can wear whatever they like. I don’t want him to dim his own light because of others. I hate that kids are so quick to pick on others 😞 There's a really sweet book called "Angus All Aglow" that might be worth reading together. Angus loves sparkly things and gets picked on at school for it until a nice girl befriends him and helps him feel confident again.
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Post by charlotte on Feb 5, 2022 7:42:17 GMT -6
Thank you rugger! I hadn’t heard of it.
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