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Jul 21, 2017 7:20:59 GMT -6
Post by skinandbones on Jul 21, 2017 7:20:59 GMT -6
I'm having "open" office hours. I have $5 bucks that says no one comes to see me. ... and then once they are over, youll get someone. Or maybe that is just my life haha. I imagine people are going to show up the last 15 minutes...
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Friday!
Jul 21, 2017 7:22:51 GMT -6
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Post by flippinchica on Jul 21, 2017 7:22:51 GMT -6
Well I just had to stop the car and puke on the way to daycare. Now I'm getting a Starbucks sandwich which will hopefully help.
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Jul 21, 2017 7:27:03 GMT -6
Post by 45thparallel on Jul 21, 2017 7:27:03 GMT -6
Tl;dr Daycare is complaining about my kid for not listening and they want me to teach him how to behave overnight.
Long version. Ill poof this so pdq. About 2 weeks ago my daycare provider asked to have an after hours meeting with my BF and I to discuss my DS (Aug 15 kid). Long story short, he is not listening to her anymore, he likes to leave the sandbox area of the park, and does not nicely walk beside them during their morning walk. He likes to run she says, and that combined with the not listening, she tells us she is at wits end with him. So we met with her for over 2 hours to hear allll the examples of when he does things wrong. She basically word vomited on us and told us to start parenting.
I'm was super conflicted about this. On the one hand, Id rather know how daycare is going so I can step in and help. On the other, if this has been happening "for a month" why wouldnt she tell us when it started instead of waiting forever, saying he has had great days, and then expect change over night with this "long term problem". In addition, she compared him to DD and the older kids quite a bit - what they can do and what he isn't doing. No shit, hes not even 2 and the other kids are 3+. Shes said DS plays with the big kids, and talks and understands so well she doesn't feel its appropriate to compare him to the 2 other same aged kids. Needless to say, this has put me in a funk trying to appease her while being realistic with my 23 month olds abilities.
Arrg. Anyway, Its a major holiday here for the next two weeks (pretty much everything shuts do) so hopefully having the kids home with me will give her a break and I can "parent" better.
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Jul 21, 2017 7:29:58 GMT -6
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Post by jess213 on Jul 21, 2017 7:29:58 GMT -6
Allo! Doing laundry and packing up the car to head to PA. My brother's wedding is this weekend, hopefully it'll be fun? Confession: I wouldn't say I dislike his fiancé...but I don't like her either. Truthfully she doesn't seem to have much of a personality. It's incredibly hard to talk to her and I'm not sure what she does with her time besides get her nails done...but he's happy so I'm sucking it up and am happy for him. They've been together for 7 years now I think. I just wish I was more excited, you know?
Anywho, DS is spending the week with my parents and they'll bring him back next weekend. He's SO flipping excited. Lots to do before we leave!
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Jul 21, 2017 7:46:28 GMT -6
Post by redandblue on Jul 21, 2017 7:46:28 GMT -6
I don't even know what Descendants 1 is. +1 was thinking the same thing! lol
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Jul 21, 2017 7:48:53 GMT -6
Post by CestLaVie on Jul 21, 2017 7:48:53 GMT -6
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Jul 21, 2017 7:51:11 GMT -6
Post by CestLaVie on Jul 21, 2017 7:51:11 GMT -6
I don't even know what Descendants 1 is. Just googled this haha. It looks like something my mom would watch, she is obsessed with the Family channel. And now that she's here she told my dad "well we have to get it because the kids will be over" LOLOL we know the truth
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Jul 21, 2017 7:54:01 GMT -6
Post by fierymama on Jul 21, 2017 7:54:01 GMT -6
45thparallel - I don't think it is fair that just because your DS plays and talks with the older kids, she expects him to also have the mental age of them in terms of listening/following directions/acting like a 2 year old. Just because he enjoys spending his time with the older kids doesn't mean that he is ready to listen as well as they do. My 2 year old has been wanting to run and not listen at home a lot lately. I'm not sure if it is the same at daycare, but to me, it's an age thing and not a "I hang out with the big kids" thing. I'm sorry that they expect you to change it overnight or say it is your parenting.
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Jul 21, 2017 7:54:44 GMT -6
Post by redandblue on Jul 21, 2017 7:54:44 GMT -6
45thparallel,Sorry about the daycare situation. I agree that providers should definitely be letting you know how each day is so that you can have some understanding of what is happening, but the reality is that you cannot control what happens when your children are in her care. Together you can discuss how you each handle different situations, but he is two. How many children does she have? Sounds like maybe she has too many children for her to be able to feasibly manage the different developmental stages (not saying she has too many children by regulations, but just what they need). Hopefully the break will help. I would suggest that maybe keeping a journal of what is happening each day so everyone knows how to handle the situations, but it also will give a good indication of how frequently things are happening and can focus on the antecedent of whatever the 'behaviour' is that she is seeing. I wonder if you haven't been hearing about it for so long because perhaps it actually hasn't been happening that long? Sometimes when children have challenging days it can feel like it lasts FOREVER, but really it's not that long. Anyways good luck!
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Jul 21, 2017 7:58:52 GMT -6
Post by CestLaVie on Jul 21, 2017 7:58:52 GMT -6
45thparallel, dude. he's 2. (directed at the daycare) DD is hitting a stage like this. She kicks me (it doesn't hurt but you can tell she thinks it's hilarious), she takes toys from kids, she throws fits, and she just generally acts like she understands 0% of instructions. I know she understands because if you give her an instruction like "go over there and pick up the toys so you can have a Popsicle" she does it ASAP. its very selective. I think it will pass. I'm personally just KOKO and eventually she will get it. I really really really have a hard time believing that you are "not parenting right." I understand the daycare being like hey be aware this is going on, but their frustration over it is OTT. I hope they can scale it back and you don't feel that guilt!! Like have they seriously never heard of the terrible twos? If they do in fact have the cure.... LMK!
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Jul 21, 2017 8:00:23 GMT -6
Post by fierymama on Jul 21, 2017 8:00:23 GMT -6
I am beyond over work this week. We are having an issue with 2 very specific *and large* payers so I haven't been able to complete probably 1/3 (maybe more) of my work this week which makes my numbers look low. On top of that, they pulled our help to try and get our newly acquired hospitals caught up after some issues after the acquisition. I am ready for a break.
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Jul 21, 2017 8:06:01 GMT -6
Post by skinandbones on Jul 21, 2017 8:06:01 GMT -6
45thparallel, Isn't your background in child development? I think it's super shitty to basically just dump all this on you. Maybe get on the same page as for as reinforcement goes for positive behavior but its not going to be a cure-all or an overnight thing.
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Jul 21, 2017 8:06:53 GMT -6
Post by skinandbones on Jul 21, 2017 8:06:53 GMT -6
I want nachos. I really want to run across the street to get some from Sheetz.
::debate between Sheetz and WaWa ensues::
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Post by layloo on Jul 21, 2017 8:12:18 GMT -6
I'm having "open" office hours. I have $5 bucks that says no one comes to see me. I host online library instruction a few times a semester. I usually wait 15 min before I close it if no one shows up. It never fails that someone comes RIGHT before I am about to log off.
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Post by jedi on Jul 21, 2017 8:15:43 GMT -6
45thparallel I felt like I was having flashbacks. Right now to the "he's having great days" when he wasn't. Also the word vomit of all the wrong things. Ugh I'm sorry. I don't think you are doing anything wrong. Especially since it doesn't seem you are having these problems. I'm guessing DS is just testing limits because you know he's 2 and they do that. How frustrating though
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Post by layloo on Jul 21, 2017 8:18:07 GMT -6
+ eleventy to what everyone said, 45thparallelIs really unfair to your DS that he's being compared to older kids. Terrible twos are real and testing us is their life now. Hope the break helps everyone
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Post by jedi on Jul 21, 2017 8:23:21 GMT -6
Pulled s1 tablet out so he could play on it this morning before the park. It's not working. While at inlaws they (either s1 or them) managed to turn the wifi off and download so many aps (free ones on kindle) that there was zero storage. Like negative storage to the point that even as I deleted aps it was still saying zero storage available. It's was causing the tablet to move so slowly and not load aps. It took forever to fix. I really dislike the kindle (one the make for kids) and I can't believe it's highly rated.
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Friday!
Jul 21, 2017 8:29:21 GMT -6
Post by 45thparallel on Jul 21, 2017 8:29:21 GMT -6
Thanks for the support fierymama, redandblue, CestLaVie, jedi, to me it seems like textbook boundary testing. He does do this at home and I can tell when hes seeing my limits and learning what is ok and not ok. I think she is just expecting WAY to much from him by comparing him to the bigger kids. And I agree redandblue, it couldn't have been happening as long as she said. We get daily written reports for each kid and weekly summaries. These have shown that the day care provider is testing out what works to correct behaviour. But it doesnt show it is as dire a problem as she made it seem. I think it was a particularly bad day all around and she needed to vent somewhere.0 skinandbones, thats what throws me. My background is development - cognitive development at that - so it struck hard. We did learn out of this that my BF is a pushover and the kids get their way with him. So on the plus, him and I are now on a united front. Silver lining?
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Jul 21, 2017 8:29:59 GMT -6
Post by 45thparallel on Jul 21, 2017 8:29:59 GMT -6
CestLaVie the cure is time and LOTs of wine haha.
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Jul 21, 2017 8:32:26 GMT -6
Post by 45thparallel on Jul 21, 2017 8:32:26 GMT -6
+ eleventy to what everyone said, 45thparallel Is really unfair to your DS that he's being compared to older kids. Terrible twos are real and testing us is their life now. Hope the break helps everyone I think "the terrible two are real" would make a great t-shirt.
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Jul 21, 2017 8:43:50 GMT -6
Post by fierymama on Jul 21, 2017 8:43:50 GMT -6
I want nachos. I really want to run across the street to get some from Sheetz. ::debate between Sheetz and WaWa ensues:: I can't debate because of those two, I only know of Sheetz food. I've never stepped into a WaWa.
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Jul 21, 2017 8:44:14 GMT -6
Post by Betweenthelines on Jul 21, 2017 8:44:14 GMT -6
45thparallel, I agree with everything that's been said to you already, so I don't need to beat a dead horse. But I just wanted to say that I do think it's kind of BS that she expects that much from an almost 2 year old.
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Jul 21, 2017 8:44:54 GMT -6
Post by fierymama on Jul 21, 2017 8:44:54 GMT -6
Pulled s1 tablet out so he could play on it this morning before the park. It's not working. While at inlaws they (either s1 or them) managed to turn the wifi off and download so many aps (free ones on kindle) that there was zero storage. Like negative storage to the point that even as I deleted aps it was still saying zero storage available. It's was causing the tablet to move so slowly and not load aps. It took forever to fix. I really dislike the kindle (one the make for kids) and I can't believe it's highly rated. We have this one, but it is for K. We are currently still under the one year free Amazon whatever it is. Not sure how I'll like it when we open it up more because I don't know if I'll continue to pay for it.
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Post by amberlie on Jul 21, 2017 8:50:22 GMT -6
Send me links to your baby gates. We have never had need for them since we lived in such a small space. But the doors in this apartment don't close properly so E can pull them open. I don't want her leaving the room while I'm sleeping (which she did this morning). I need 2 - 1 to block her into the bedrooms/hallway if she wakes up and walks out of the room & 1 to block her from the laundry room since the litter box is her new favorite toy. So tell me what you have!!
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Jul 21, 2017 8:50:30 GMT -6
Post by 45thparallel on Jul 21, 2017 8:50:30 GMT -6
45thparallel , I agree with everything that's been said to you already, so I don't need to beat a dead horse. But I just wanted to say that I do think it's kind of BS that she expects that much from an almost 2 year old.
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Jul 21, 2017 8:52:03 GMT -6
Post by 45thparallel on Jul 21, 2017 8:52:03 GMT -6
THanks for listening. I think I needed to get that out into the world. Now I can release it and enjoy two weeks home with my kids.
well as much "enjoying" as solo parenting for extended periods of time can be lol.
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Jul 21, 2017 8:53:06 GMT -6
Post by Betweenthelines on Jul 21, 2017 8:53:06 GMT -6
Send me links to your baby gates. We have never had need for them since we lived in such a small space. But the doors in this apartment don't close properly so E can pull them open. I don't want her leaving the room while I'm sleeping (which she did this morning). I need 2 - 1 to block her into the bedrooms/hallway if she wakes up and walks out of the room & 1 to block her from the laundry room since the litter box is her new favorite toy. So tell me what you have!! Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk I love love love ours. It's retractable so it's very discreet when not in use. smile.amazon.com/dp/B00TI62Z9Q/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_dp_T2_VtHCzbEPAHX88
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Jul 21, 2017 8:55:08 GMT -6
Post by 45thparallel on Jul 21, 2017 8:55:08 GMT -6
^^ what is this contraption that I now neeeed. Can kids open it?
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Jul 21, 2017 9:05:14 GMT -6
Post by Betweenthelines on Jul 21, 2017 9:05:14 GMT -6
^^ what is this contraption that I now neeeed. Can kids open it? DD (4) hasn't figured it out yet.
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Jul 21, 2017 9:06:00 GMT -6
Post by Betweenthelines on Jul 21, 2017 9:06:00 GMT -6
Fully open:
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