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Post by ozziebear on Sept 7, 2021 20:29:10 GMT -6
Praying for your mom elle
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Post by mrsweasley on Sept 7, 2021 21:03:25 GMT -6
Sending prayers and hugs elle ❤
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Post by jaygee on Sept 8, 2021 9:17:43 GMT -6
I think I’m finally cracking. I made a mistake at work and didn’t realize how big of a deal it was until someone told me yesterday. I can’t stop crying and I’m terrified of being fired. I’ve had to terminate 3 people this year due to performance and that really makes one feel vulnerable. I work so hard but I don’t work smart sometimes. I try to do everything myself and eventually it catches up to me.
Everything seems overwhelming right now and I’m so tired of working and living in the same damn place. I was working last night and DS is in his room right next door just yelling for me to come in and read with him and I need some space. This can’t be normal.
I’ll get it together but my gosh I just want like a week long silent retreat with no screens.
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Post by cakewench on Sept 8, 2021 9:22:53 GMT -6
Hugs, jaygee. I have been feeling the same lately, so overwhelmed with no separation between work and home. I never realized how much I needed the (relative) alone time of the commute, where I was leaving one thing behind and moving to another. We don't have that now, and after so long I'm not surprised it's really hitting people hard.
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Post by jaygee on Sept 8, 2021 9:25:58 GMT -6
Hugs, jaygee. I have been feeling the same lately, so overwhelmed with no separation between work and home. I never realized how much I needed the (relative) alone time of the commute, where I was leaving one thing behind and moving to another. We don't have that now, and after so long I'm not surprised it's really hitting people hard. It’s so hard and I feel like a fraud because I’m like rah rah on the work from home thing for lots of reasons. And I thought I hated my commute. I mean I for sure did. But now I’m like….well, this grass feels brown and not green and I’m not sure what I want.
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Post by starbuck on Sept 8, 2021 9:31:00 GMT -6
elle just seeing this. Thinking of your mom and family. I hope she recovers quickly!
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Post by blurnette989 on Sept 8, 2021 9:38:24 GMT -6
Hugs, jaygee. I have been feeling the same lately, so overwhelmed with no separation between work and home. I never realized how much I needed the (relative) alone time of the commute, where I was leaving one thing behind and moving to another. We don't have that now, and after so long I'm not surprised it's really hitting people hard. It’s so hard and I feel like a fraud because I’m like rah rah on the work from home thing for lots of reasons. And I thought I hated my commute. I mean I for sure did. But now I’m like….well, this grass feels brown and not green and I’m not sure what I want. you want space and compassion and a feeling of safety. You want your body not to be constantly in flight mode so that you can do your job properly. You want perfectly normal things that this shit storm has robbed from us. I too am not doing great with work. Basically having an existential crises of why even bother working ? It's hard. It all sucks. Hugs.
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Post by jaygee on Sept 8, 2021 9:41:33 GMT -6
It’s so hard and I feel like a fraud because I’m like rah rah on the work from home thing for lots of reasons. And I thought I hated my commute. I mean I for sure did. But now I’m like….well, this grass feels brown and not green and I’m not sure what I want. you want space and compassion and a feeling of safety. You want your body not to be constantly in flight mode so that you can do your job properly. You want perfectly normal things that this shit storm has robbed from us. I too am not doing great with work. Basically having an existential crises of why even bother working ? It's hard. It all sucks. Hugs. Same. Last night I sat in bed trying to figure out other jobs I could do and what’s the least amount I could get paid and still support my family for an hour. Like just anything that would be easier than this and give me a small amount of money and leave me alone.
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Post by dc2london on Sept 8, 2021 9:53:04 GMT -6
Hugs, jaygee. I have been feeling the same lately, so overwhelmed with no separation between work and home. I never realized how much I needed the (relative) alone time of the commute, where I was leaving one thing behind and moving to another. We don't have that now, and after so long I'm not surprised it's really hitting people hard. It’s so hard and I feel like a fraud because I’m like rah rah on the work from home thing for lots of reasons. And I thought I hated my commute. I mean I for sure did. But now I’m like….well, this grass feels brown and not green and I’m not sure what I want. Well, I think working from home would be a lot easier if you could go other places. If you went to the gym before logging in, went out to dinner at the end of the day, grabbed coffee in a coffee shop mid afternoon. But a lot of us have basically been trapped in our homes for 20 months with all of our family and nowhere to go (or maybe having places to go but feeling unsafe while there). Plus I'd bet not one single one of us chose the homes we were living in in spring of 2020 or even still now with "everyone stay inside for a year like it's the damn zombie apocalypse " in mind so everyone had to adjust and make do on the fly. I think you can prefer working from home but recognize that you need dome boundaries and space making. And I'm really sorry that you're under so much pressure that it is making you fear for your job.
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Post by dc2london on Sept 8, 2021 9:53:27 GMT -6
elle how's your mother doing? I'm sending good thoughts your way.
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Post by klw on Sept 8, 2021 9:55:11 GMT -6
you want space and compassion and a feeling of safety. You want your body not to be constantly in flight mode so that you can do your job properly. You want perfectly normal things that this shit storm has robbed from us. I too am not doing great with work. Basically having an existential crises of why even bother working ? It's hard. It all sucks. Hugs. Same. Last night I sat in bed trying to figure out other jobs I could do and what’s the least amount I could get paid and still support my family for an hour. Like just anything that would be easier than this and give me a small amount of money and leave me alone. I had these same thoughts at 4:00 this morning. I am a para working with preschoolers. 6 of thr have IEPS. There is no social distancing and very little mask wearing. I love my job, but it is so scary and stressful right now.
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Post by overboard on Sept 8, 2021 9:58:46 GMT -6
jaygee I’m so sorry. I hope everything turns out ok. It sounds like you really need some time off. Thinking of you ❤️
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Post by jaygee on Sept 8, 2021 10:00:03 GMT -6
Same. Last night I sat in bed trying to figure out other jobs I could do and what’s the least amount I could get paid and still support my family for an hour. Like just anything that would be easier than this and give me a small amount of money and leave me alone. I had these same thoughts at 4:00 this morning. I am a para working with preschoolers. 6 of thr have IEPS. There is no social distancing and very little mask wearing. I love my job, but it is so scary and stressful right now. Oh man. That’s really hard. I hope you stay safe and will be thinking of you.
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Post by richard on Sept 8, 2021 10:02:49 GMT -6
hugs jaygee. We are having some big changes at work and those on top of the school year starting have kind of thrown me for a loop. I deeply regret not taking more time off in August. And I'm not good at change in general. I really like my job and my boss and feel very lucky overall. But there will be some big climbs ahead and I do not feel like I have it in the tank right now to tackle more change.
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Post by richard on Sept 8, 2021 10:04:48 GMT -6
I also know about these changes when most do not yet so that's always fun too. :/
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Post by elle on Sept 8, 2021 10:20:28 GMT -6
elle how's your mother doing? I'm sending good thoughts your way. We got good news yesterday, she's recovering well and expected to be released tomorrow. Hoping for continued good or even better news today. It's hard because my parents live in NorCal while I'm in SoCal and I really wish I were closer right now. I will say I'm incredibly thankful that our hospitals have room still, I cannot imagine what the outcome might have been had there been no beds left in the ICU.
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Post by enchanted on Sept 8, 2021 10:25:04 GMT -6
Hugs, friends. Work/life balance is hard enough without adding the insane stress of the past year and a half.
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Post by jaygee on Sept 8, 2021 10:35:31 GMT -6
elle how's your mother doing? I'm sending good thoughts your way. We got good news yesterday, she's recovering well and expected to be released tomorrow. Hoping for continued good or even better news today. It's hard because my parents live in NorCal while I'm in SoCal and I really wish I were closer right now. I will say I'm incredibly thankful that our hospitals have room still, I cannot imagine what the outcome might have been had there been no beds left in the ICU. Sending you love and good thoughts. Let me know if your need anything up here in NorCal.
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Post by notblanche on Sept 8, 2021 12:41:39 GMT -6
Same. Last night I sat in bed trying to figure out other jobs I could do and what’s the least amount I could get paid and still support my family for an hour. Like just anything that would be easier than this and give me a small amount of money and leave me alone. I had these same thoughts at 4:00 this morning. I am a para working with preschoolers. 6 of thr have IEPS. There is no social distancing and very little mask wearing. I love my job, but it is so scary and stressful right now. My littlest will be one of those preschoolers in a year or two. The work you do matters so much, but I know it's hard too. I'm sorry it's harder now. :/
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Post by carmensandiego on Sept 8, 2021 12:44:27 GMT -6
jaygee, I am sorry you're having a rough time. I was too, and it was all starting to seem overwhelming. Camping for 5 days with little accessibility was a great relief for us all. Take care of yourself.
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Post by notblanche on Sept 8, 2021 12:46:29 GMT -6
Love and socially distant hugs for all who need them. I'm glad to hear your mom's prognosis is good, elle
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Post by LaRo422 on Sept 8, 2021 14:04:12 GMT -6
So, we're officially buying our house. It's my dad's house and we've been renting it from him since 2018. MH met with my dad and the mortgage broker this past Saturday and it looks like our closing date is October 4th. We have to get an appraisal done asap, which means I have to get my house in order asap. I'm so not ready for that. I'm excited but damn it's so fast! I told my dad that I don't know how I'm supposed to work FT, take care of regular responsibilities, and get the house ready for appraisal. He said "well, it's not just your job." LOL my dude. My husband works 12+ hours 5 days a week, so it'll mostly be on me. Nice thought though. The problem is I have been pretty much bedridden since 2016. I just got clearance from my neurosurgeon in June and started my job 4 weeks later, so I'm trying to play years worth of catch-up on housework. It's a lot of organizing and deep cleaning that needs to be done. I know that isn't factored into the appraisal, but I don't want anyone to think I'm a slob lol. Also, my dad is selling it to us way under market value, so we're going to have a decent amount of equity right away Pretty awesome for first time homebuyers! AND my raise goes into effect on Friday! AND my boss is going to bid on a job for a state lab in Tennessee next week, and if he gets it (which he likely will) that will be my first commission since I'm the one who found the job. Also, hugs all around <3
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Post by fatpony on Sept 8, 2021 14:06:11 GMT -6
I brought my baby to pre-school for the first time today. *sobs*
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Post by leahcar on Sept 8, 2021 14:13:41 GMT -6
So, we're officially buying our house. It's my dad's house and we've been renting it from him since 2018. MH met with my dad and the mortgage broker this past Saturday and it looks like our closing date is October 4th. We have to get an appraisal done asap, which means I have to get my house in order asap. I'm so not ready for that. I'm excited but damn it's so fast! I told my dad that I don't know how I'm supposed to work FT, take care of regular responsibilities, and get the house ready for appraisal. He said "well, it's not just your job." LOL my dude. My husband works 12+ hours 5 days a week, so it'll mostly be on me. Nice thought though. The problem is I have been pretty much bedridden since 2016. I just got clearance from my neurosurgeon in June and started my job 4 weeks later, so I'm trying to play years worth of catch-up on housework. It's a lot of organizing and deep cleaning that needs to be done. I know that isn't factored into the appraisal, but I don't want anyone to think I'm a slob lol. Also, my dad is selling it to us way under market value, so we're going to have a decent amount of equity right away Pretty awesome for first time homebuyers! AND my raise goes into effect on Friday! AND my boss is going to bid on a job for a state lab in Tennessee next week, and if he gets it (which he likely will) that will be my first commission since I'm the one who found the job. Also, hugs all around <3 I work in the mortgage industry and I promise- a perfectly kept house (or NOT having one!) does not impact your appraisal. Focus on making sure the appraiser can get into all the spaces to take pictures. They will ask you if you're aware of any improvements. Making a list in advance will help a lot with this- flooring upgraded in bathroom in 2020, etc. Despite 20 years (!!!) of banking, I absolutely scrubbed my whole house for the appraisal too though. That's courtesy of my friend, anxiety. She's a rude one.
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Post by overboard on Sept 8, 2021 14:14:36 GMT -6
Congrats LaRo422! Don’t hurt yourself trying to get ready for the appraisal. You can only do so much, and you don’t want to injure yourself.
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Post by starbuck on Sept 8, 2021 14:17:54 GMT -6
uhhh did y'all know the American Rescue Plan increased dependent care FSA limit from $5,000 to $10,500 this year? I had no idea until this morning.
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Post by LaRo422 on Sept 8, 2021 14:24:46 GMT -6
So, we're officially buying our house. It's my dad's house and we've been renting it from him since 2018. MH met with my dad and the mortgage broker this past Saturday and it looks like our closing date is October 4th. We have to get an appraisal done asap, which means I have to get my house in order asap. I'm so not ready for that. I'm excited but damn it's so fast! I told my dad that I don't know how I'm supposed to work FT, take care of regular responsibilities, and get the house ready for appraisal. He said "well, it's not just your job." LOL my dude. My husband works 12+ hours 5 days a week, so it'll mostly be on me. Nice thought though. The problem is I have been pretty much bedridden since 2016. I just got clearance from my neurosurgeon in June and started my job 4 weeks later, so I'm trying to play years worth of catch-up on housework. It's a lot of organizing and deep cleaning that needs to be done. I know that isn't factored into the appraisal, but I don't want anyone to think I'm a slob lol. Also, my dad is selling it to us way under market value, so we're going to have a decent amount of equity right away Pretty awesome for first time homebuyers! AND my raise goes into effect on Friday! AND my boss is going to bid on a job for a state lab in Tennessee next week, and if he gets it (which he likely will) that will be my first commission since I'm the one who found the job. Also, hugs all around <3 I work in the mortgage industry and I promise- a perfectly kept house (or NOT having one!) does not impact your appraisal. Focus on making sure the appraiser can get into all the spaces to take pictures. They will ask you if you're aware of any improvements. Making a list in advance will help a lot with this- flooring upgraded in bathroom in 2020, etc. Despite 20 years (!!!) of banking, I absolutely scrubbed my whole house for the appraisal too though. That's courtesy of my friend, anxiety. She's a rude one. Thank you for this! It's definitely the anxiety for me. There's clutter in closets, especially one of them. I call it my Monica closet lol. We're getting the garage cleaned out this weekend and getting some boxes/totes and going to put the clutter in the garage to go through later. I'm sure most of it needs to be thrown out, but my anxiety won't just let me chuck it. It's not that big of a place, so it shouldn't take too long to clean. I'm just picky. And thank you overboard! MH said the same thing. I have a bad habit of overdoing it, so I'll definitely try to pace myself.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2021 14:36:33 GMT -6
I work in the mortgage industry and I promise- a perfectly kept house (or NOT having one!) does not impact your appraisal. Focus on making sure the appraiser can get into all the spaces to take pictures. They will ask you if you're aware of any improvements. Making a list in advance will help a lot with this- flooring upgraded in bathroom in 2020, etc. Despite 20 years (!!!) of banking, I absolutely scrubbed my whole house for the appraisal too though. That's courtesy of my friend, anxiety. She's a rude one. Thank you for this! It's definitely the anxiety for me. There's clutter in closets, especially one of them. I call it my Monica closet lol. We're getting the garage cleaned out this weekend and getting some boxes/totes and going to put the clutter in the garage to go through later. I'm sure most of it needs to be thrown out, but my anxiety won't just let me chuck it. It's not that big of a place, so it shouldn't take too long to clean. I'm just picky. And thank you overboard! MH said the same thing. I have a bad habit of overdoing it, so I'll definitely try to pace myself. Can you hire a housekeeper for a day to do some of the deep cleaning? Like you can declutter and organize, and then let them do the scrubbing. Good luck, that’s exciting!
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Post by LaRo422 on Sept 8, 2021 14:42:48 GMT -6
Thank you for this! It's definitely the anxiety for me. There's clutter in closets, especially one of them. I call it my Monica closet lol. We're getting the garage cleaned out this weekend and getting some boxes/totes and going to put the clutter in the garage to go through later. I'm sure most of it needs to be thrown out, but my anxiety won't just let me chuck it. It's not that big of a place, so it shouldn't take too long to clean. I'm just picky. And thank you overboard ! MH said the same thing. I have a bad habit of overdoing it, so I'll definitely try to pace myself. Can you hire a housekeeper for a day to do some of the deep cleaning? Like you can declutter and organize, and then let them do the scrubbing. Good luck, that’s exciting! That's a good idea! I got notice that our taxes are FINALLY about to credit this week after waiting for 7 months, so I may spring for that. It's worth my mental health, for sure.
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