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Post by mc13 on Sept 9, 2021 7:44:02 GMT -6
For the first time since January 2015, I have NO kids at home with me. 🎉🎉 I thought I’d be sad but totally enjoying the quiet and cleaning without someone making a mess right behind me.
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Post by charlotte on Sept 9, 2021 10:21:33 GMT -6
Omg mc13 this is monumental
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milano
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Post by milano on Sept 9, 2021 11:25:07 GMT -6
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Post by sarenu on Sept 9, 2021 12:18:26 GMT -6
Omg guys.
A house down the street just went on the market.
4 bedroom 2 1/2 bath, super cheap to sell.
It is full of dolls, like in every room.
I’d post the listing, but it is seriously just down the street.
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Post by charlotte on Sept 9, 2021 12:21:48 GMT -6
🤣 I hope the dolls come with sarenu
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Post by sarenu on Sept 9, 2021 12:43:29 GMT -6
🤣 I hope the dolls come with sarenu
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Post by sarenu on Sept 9, 2021 13:13:33 GMT -6
Well my husband is not excited (they had a cat and it smells, plus the master is too small for a king).
He’s debating because we could have the redo the carpet and pull the wallpaper out.
Bonus one of the bathrooms has carpeting 🤢
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Post by pbandj714 on Sept 9, 2021 13:14:04 GMT -6
Omg guys. A house down the street just went on the market. 4 bedroom 2 1/2 bath, super cheap to sell. It is full of dolls, like in every room. I’d post the listing, but it is seriously just down the street. Can't wait to see it on Zillowgonewild. If you don't follow that Instagram, you should. There are some hilarious/scary/ridiculous homes.
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Post by charlotte on Sept 9, 2021 13:18:54 GMT -6
Well my husband is not excited (they had a cat and it smells, plus the master is too small for a king). He’s debating because we could have the redo the carpet and pull the wallpaper out. Bonus one of the bathrooms has carpeting 🤢 Carpet and wallpaper seems reasonable! I helped my mom strip sooooo much damn wallpaper in the 90’s….
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Post by sarenu on Sept 9, 2021 13:23:18 GMT -6
Well my husband is not excited (they had a cat and it smells, plus the master is too small for a king). He’s debating because we could have the redo the carpet and pull the wallpaper out. Bonus one of the bathrooms has carpeting 🤢 Other things: 1. Wind chime in the bathroom? 2. Window half covered by a shower wall 3. Rolling pin as a porch decoration 4. Basket of flowers hung from an old grocery scale 5. Wallpaper in every room 6. Beanie baby collection 7. Very into Wizard of Oz (including the red slippers and nutcracker collection 8. 4th bedroom is not a legal room and is in the basement
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Post by sarenu on Sept 9, 2021 13:32:39 GMT -6
Well my husband is not excited (they had a cat and it smells, plus the master is too small for a king). He’s debating because we could have the redo the carpet and pull the wallpaper out. Bonus one of the bathrooms has carpeting 🤢 Carpet and wallpaper seems reasonable! I helped my mom strip sooooo much damn wallpaper in the 90’s…. The king not fitting and the 4th bedroom not having and egress window to make it a bedroom is the real problem.
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Post by mintyblueair on Sept 9, 2021 13:44:14 GMT -6
Carpet and wallpaper seems reasonable! I helped my mom strip sooooo much damn wallpaper in the 90’s…. The king not fitting and the 4th bedroom not having and egress window to make it a bedroom is the real problem. Our "4th bedroom" currently has no window but we're putting one in eventually. You can always add an egress window or make the existing window bigger. But the king bed not fitting would be a deal breaker for me.
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Post by sarenu on Sept 9, 2021 13:50:19 GMT -6
The king not fitting and the 4th bedroom not having and egress window to make it a bedroom is the real problem. Our "4th bedroom" currently has no window but we're putting one in eventually. You can always add an egress window or make the existing window bigger. But the king bed not fitting would be a deal breaker for me. Agreed, but it should not be listed as 4 bedroom. That is what annoys me. The description even said bonus room.
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Post by charlotte on Sept 9, 2021 14:00:58 GMT -6
The wind chime in the bathroom is killing me. 🤣 very breezy in there??
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Post by mintyblueair on Sept 9, 2021 14:04:09 GMT -6
Our "4th bedroom" currently has no window but we're putting one in eventually. You can always add an egress window or make the existing window bigger. But the king bed not fitting would be a deal breaker for me. Agreed, but it should not be listed as 4 bedroom. That is what annoys me. The description even said bonus room. Yes, it definitely should not be called a bedroom!
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Post by milano on Sept 9, 2021 14:17:37 GMT -6
Our "4th bedroom" currently has no window but we're putting one in eventually. You can always add an egress window or make the existing window bigger. But the king bed not fitting would be a deal breaker for me. Agreed, but it should not be listed as 4 bedroom. That is what annoys me. The description even said bonus room. When we sold our house, the realtor listed it as a 4br/3bath even though the 4th "bedroom" and 3rd bathroom were above the detached garage. Seemed sketch to me but it sold quickly so 🤷♀️
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Post by mc13 on Sept 9, 2021 14:27:13 GMT -6
Agreed, but it should not be listed as 4 bedroom. That is what annoys me. The description even said bonus room. When we sold our house, the realtor listed it as a 4br/3bath even though the 4th "bedroom" and 3rd bathroom were above the detached garage. Seemed sketch to me but it sold quickly so 🤷♀️ We had the opposite happen! We bought our house as a 4 bedroom and when we sold, our realtor would only let us list as a 3bedroom+bonus room because the 4th bedroom was in the finished attic - somehow that makes it different for code in NJ.
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Post by sarenu on Sept 9, 2021 14:43:54 GMT -6
Agreed, but it should not be listed as 4 bedroom. That is what annoys me. The description even said bonus room. When we sold our house, the realtor listed it as a 4br/3bath even though the 4th "bedroom" and 3rd bathroom were above the detached garage. Seemed sketch to me but it sold quickly so 🤷♀️ This seems reasonable. You could totally use that as a fully function office or a grand parent’s suite. Not conventional for a bedroom, but a lot more functional than the bonus room that in this house.
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Post by milano on Sept 10, 2021 7:01:13 GMT -6
I really struggle when kids say hurtful things to other kids, and their parents are right next to them and do nothing to correct it. This morning at the bus stop, a kid (not one of J's close friends, just an acquaintance that we occasionally see at the pool) told me and J that "J looks like a woman with his hair like that". So I kindly said "No, he doesn't, we call it his surfer hair and he really likes it like that". And the kid got right in J's face and said "You look just like a woman", but his tone of voice made it sound like woman was a horribly offensive thing to call someone. It was right as the bus was pulling up so I only had a second to hug J and say "you ok?" and I *think* he just shrugged it off, but I seriously saw red. And the kid's mom was right next to him and said nothing - I realize that maybe she wasn't paying attention but he said it twice and she wasn't talking to anyone else.*
So I'm big mad now. And now wondering if there are any other little asshole kids giving him a hard time at school. One of the reasons he likes his hair long is because he says his friends always tell him how awesome his hair is, and he likes that they like it too.
*I won't tell you the political affiliation of this child's parents but I am sure you can guess, they are the ones always hollering at the pool, being loud and proud.
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Post by charlotte on Sept 10, 2021 7:18:43 GMT -6
milano I can’t believe his mother said nothing… I’m pissed just reading about it. It was obviously really rude/mean on the child’s part, and his mother’s lack of reaction leaves no question about why he thinks it’s ok to behave that way.🙄
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Post by ovenrack on Sept 10, 2021 7:19:46 GMT -6
Milano, I’m sorry that happened. That kid is parroting idiotic ideas.
I’m sure if you talk to J more tonight, you can explain that and say that if anyone is ever too rough or says stupid things at school, he can talk to a teacher or come home and tell you about it.
H doesn’t have long hair but he also somehow has made it to 2nd grade being very unaware of a lot of cultural things (thanks, pandemic!) and I’ve been trying to give him lots of opportunities to talk/ask if he wants.
He wore a pink mask yesterday (it’s got a fruit print that is super fun) and I didn’t hear about any reaction, which makes me glad.
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Post by tj on Sept 10, 2021 7:47:27 GMT -6
Ugh milano. I would be big mad too. I totally agree that he is parroting words he is hearing at home. Which is so sad for him. And I won’t lie, I have definitely parented other kids before in that situation. Just a simple “we don’t taunt” or “let’s be kind please.” I would make sure J knows that it is ok to defend himself and how to do so respectfully (which you did a great job of demonstrating for him.) I think this is also an important age to start teaching our kiddos that there will be kids out there for the rest of our lives who won’t like our hair or our clothes or our eyebrows or our nose. Even if we were almost perfect, they would still find something about us to criticize. And their opinions mean nothing. All that matters is that you do you and you love it. We like to quote TSwift and talk about how the haters are gonna hate, but we’re just gonna shake it off. Especially if a kid has hurt feelings, we play the song and make a big show of shaking it off and go from sad to silly. I think it’s also important not to make a bigger deal out of something than your kid is. So it’s hard sometimes when you witness it. But I would def be curious about how that made him feel. I hope he shook it off.
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Post by rugger on Sept 10, 2021 8:13:55 GMT -6
milano I think you handled it perfectly. I hope that kids stops giving him trouble. I never know what to say to other kids. I've never heard another kid tell A she looks like a boy b/c of her pixie cut, but this little old grandma (not native English speaker) has asked me a couple times of A is a boy. Right in front of her. 🤦
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Post by charlotte on Sept 10, 2021 8:19:00 GMT -6
DS1 told me that in the bathroom at school, some other kids saw his butt and made fun of him. I have no idea who they were (they may have been older) but I was enraged. My DS1 remembers shit like that forever and really lets it impact him. I am going to work harder on the “shake it off”, lessons so thank you for that tj
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Post by milano on Sept 10, 2021 8:22:02 GMT -6
tj we have actually been listening to that song a lot and it never occurred to me to explain the lyrics to them - great idea. I am looking forward to discussing with him tonight and getting a read on how he felt about it.
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Post by tj on Sept 10, 2021 8:37:04 GMT -6
DS1 told me that in the bathroom at school, some other kids saw his butt and made fun of him. I have no idea who they were (they may have been older) but I was enraged. My DS1 remembers shit like that forever and really lets it impact him. I am going to work harder on the “shake it off”, lessons so thank you for that tjE is like that. She is so sensitive. A kid cheated at dodge ball the other day and she took it so personally like he was cheating “at” her. We’ve been working on shaking it off for a while. It is more of a lifelong practice I think. I mean, I still have to work at shaking it off. But if we can teach it to our kids at a younger age and they can start practicing sooner than me…. 🤞🏻🤞🏻. But also, like, wth. Why did a kid see his butt? And what on earth is there to make fun of? We all have one. That is like major inappropriate. I would have probably called the school NGL. But I might have a tendency to be a bit of a Karen when it comes to my kids getting hurt at school.
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Post by charlotte on Sept 10, 2021 10:20:35 GMT -6
tj so I guess the whole thing was that he was standing at the urinal and at home he was used to just pulling his pants down instead of doing the whole zipper fly thing. I felt bad, like I hadn’t prepared him for school. Anyway, then he was afraid to use the bathroom at school so yeah I had to talk to his teacher. Such a wtf 😞
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Post by charlotte on Sept 10, 2021 10:20:59 GMT -6
But also, yeah what is there to make fun of? IT’S A BATHROOM
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Post by stringy on Sept 10, 2021 11:40:51 GMT -6
Ugh sorry milano and sorry to J. As a person and former child who was often mis-gendered (I realize not exactly the same thing, but as a kid it was) - be sure to tell him how mad it made you as well. Because then he knows you are on his team if he is (or isn't) mad inside. I know I never showed my anger/shame when that happened, nor told my parents about it. But it stuck w/me for sure. (though I have related, other issues lol) But also eff that mom. I'd want to say something but if you know she's *that* type, its probably beyond. Except I guess modeling for J. But still..now I'm rambling.
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Post by tj on Sept 10, 2021 12:54:57 GMT -6
Ugh sorry milano and sorry to J. As a person and former child who was often mis-gendered (I realize not exactly the same thing, but as a kid it was) - be sure to tell him how mad it made you as well. Because then he knows you are on his team if he is (or isn't) mad inside. I know I never showed my anger/shame when that happened, nor told my parents about it. But it stuck w/me for sure. (though I have related, other issues lol) But also eff that mom. I'd want to say something but if you know she's *that* type, its probably beyond. Except I guess modeling for J. But still..now I'm rambling. I’m sorry that happened to you as a kid strings. Thank you for sharing that with us and telling us how it made you feel. Love your face.
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