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Post by pbandj714 on Sept 10, 2021 13:34:37 GMT -6
tj so I guess the whole thing was that he was standing at the urinal and at home he was used to just pulling his pants down instead of doing the whole zipper fly thing. I felt bad, like I hadn’t prepared him for school. Anyway, then he was afraid to use the bathroom at school so yeah I had to talk to his teacher. Such a wtf 😞 Funny you say this because G pulls his pants to his ankles on the rare occasion he stands. He typically prefers to sit, which is another thing kids could make fun of I suppose. Eyeroll. The K rooms have private bathrooms but I should probably inform him of social norms for when he uses the restroom by the cafeteria.
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Post by pbandj714 on Sept 10, 2021 13:36:04 GMT -6
milano, I'm so sorry that happened. J is handsome and that kids mom needs punched.
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Post by jnu76 on Sept 10, 2021 14:27:31 GMT -6
Ugh sorry milano and sorry to J. As a person and former child who was often mis-gendered (I realize not exactly the same thing, but as a kid it was) - be sure to tell him how mad it made you as well. Because then he knows you are on his team if he is (or isn't) mad inside. I know I never showed my anger/shame when that happened, nor told my parents about it. But it stuck w/me for sure. (though I have related, other issues lol) But also eff that mom. I'd want to say something but if you know she's *that* type, its probably beyond. Except I guess modeling for J. But still..now I'm rambling. +1. I was always mistaken for a boy growing up and I felt like I had to pretend it didn’t bother me. I grew my hair down to my waist in high school just to make it stop. I agree with stringy- it might help him to know that you were mad, too. Not the woman-shame thing, but that the kid was a jerk.
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Post by milano on Sept 11, 2021 13:08:34 GMT -6
Update on my situation from yesterday: I talked with J last night and asked him about the comment the neighbor had made at the bus stop. At first he had no idea what I was talking about so I had to repeat the comment/conversation. He had forgotten about it, and said the comment made him feel a little good and a little bad - so I asked him what made him feel good about it and he said because his friend liked his hair. So I told him that I felt that the kid was being mean and I didn't like the way he spoke to J. He didn't get it and was getting mad at me for insinuating his friend would say something mean to him, because "friends don't say mean things to each other, why would he say something mean?!" We talked a couple more minutes but he was getting agitated, insisting the kid wasn't being mean so I ended up dropping it and told him if anyone ever said anything that made him feel uncomfortable or hurt his feelings I would love for him to tell me.
I got the impression from our conversation that he didn't consider being called a girl or a woman as an insult (which it is not, of course!!) so he didn't think this kid was being mean because girls and women are great. And he does get mistaken for a girl alllll the time, but handles it well and politely corrects people that "Actually, I am a boy and my name is Jack" so I guess he is fine at this point.
I'm still mad about it though, and will continue to eagle eye that kid and his family anytime we are around them.
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Post by tj on Sept 11, 2021 16:32:41 GMT -6
milano that is truly amazing. I mean, obviously being called a woman isn’t an insult! J is the best.
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Post by charlotte on Sept 14, 2021 16:17:49 GMT -6
I got a job offer!!! Financially, it’s really going to change things for us.
Also, I’m just so emotional about it (in a good way). So many days I worked toward this goal without knowing if I would reach it. Even when I was sick and felt like absolute scum, I pushed through as many classes as I could handle. I remember waking up at 4am to take a semi-final online before leaving at 7a for my initial tumor biopsy procedure. 😭😭😭
This is such an AW post but damn I’m so happy to be here right now.
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Post by sarenu on Sept 14, 2021 17:04:18 GMT -6
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Post by tj on Sept 14, 2021 18:06:55 GMT -6
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Post by mapleme on Sept 14, 2021 18:08:13 GMT -6
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Post by Speedy on Sept 14, 2021 18:58:05 GMT -6
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Post by mc13 on Sept 14, 2021 19:30:17 GMT -6
Congratulations charlotte! That is amazing and I am so happy for you!! 🎉
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Post by mintyblueair on Sept 14, 2021 19:41:19 GMT -6
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Post by stringy on Sept 15, 2021 7:12:36 GMT -6
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Post by rhymeswithdisco on Sept 15, 2021 7:20:15 GMT -6
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Post by pbandj714 on Sept 15, 2021 7:23:32 GMT -6
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Post by ovenrack on Sept 15, 2021 7:38:03 GMT -6
Charlotte! You rock! Congratulations.
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Post by mapleme on Sept 15, 2021 19:25:07 GMT -6
Lol, C's teacher just sent an email to all of the parents and I noticed that one of the email addresses (with numbers and domain removed) is dyslexicdogess. I love it.
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Post by mapleme on Sept 15, 2021 20:03:09 GMT -6
I'm hiring for both an Office Admin as well as a Hot Sauce Production Lead. I've been getting crickets on the kitchen position (except for a dude who google said was cited for drunk driving behind a school bus multiple times just 4 months ago). But I am overwhelmed with admin applications. It feels like olden days. I have 5 interviews tomorrow and two more on Monday (I usually send our a bunch of requests and get only a small handful of replies, but every single person replied). But today I interviewed someone who is basically perfect. Like if I described exactly who would be the best fit for the job, it would be this person. Their ideal pay is even $1.50 less than I currently pay! I am just hoping that no one else snatches them up before I get through the rest of the process. Now I just wish that I could find the comparable kitchen person!
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Post by nikkipal on Sept 16, 2021 6:42:14 GMT -6
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Post by rugger on Sept 16, 2021 17:51:04 GMT -6
A hasn't had a fever all day (so, like 20hrs fever free) so she's at Lacrosse practice. I brought a beer in a can cooler to be discreet. It's so hard to watch her play (mostly just goof around) so I thought a beer was appropriate. And it's a Raspberry Blonde, so def appropriate for the hot weather
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Post by mapleme on Sept 17, 2021 11:53:12 GMT -6
I have officially started my solo weekend! I saw the girls off on the bus, then started the day at a new local coffee shop that I hadn’t had a chance to go to yet. The I just putzed around town because I could. Got some work done. Drove closer to my Airbnb. Walked along the waterfront, found a bike rental place, rented a bike to ride on the bike path. Now I’m waiting for my food outdoors at a restaurant that DH hates, so I never get to go to. Enjoying a very tasty iced tea. I have zero plans for the weekend except to do what I feel like doing.
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Post by rhymeswithdisco on Sept 17, 2021 11:55:05 GMT -6
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Post by charlotte on Sept 17, 2021 12:13:45 GMT -6
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Post by sarenu on Sept 17, 2021 17:02:31 GMT -6
My husband had volleyball finals last night. I decided I would watch Cruella. Something he would never pick.
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Post by sarenu on Sept 17, 2021 17:56:52 GMT -6
I asked F what she wanted for her birthday. She is officially in the doesn’t stop talking stage. I think she went on to describe her cake, candles, and presents she wanted.
I still don’t know what we are getting her.
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Post by charlotte on Sept 17, 2021 18:10:46 GMT -6
sarenu will F be 4? My youngest is turning 3 next month and I have no idea what to get him 🤷🏻♀️
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Post by sarenu on Sept 17, 2021 18:18:44 GMT -6
sarenu will F be 4? My youngest is turning 3 next month and I have no idea what to get him 🤷🏻♀️ Yes, she wants a Batman toy 🤷🏻♀️ And a bath bomb. And she wants a cupcake with 2 candles and a lollipop with chocolate.
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