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Post by wineallthetime on Jul 19, 2021 12:43:31 GMT -6
Oh, mwhip. Those poor kids. I also cried reading that.
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Post by wineallthetime on Jul 19, 2021 12:45:49 GMT -6
mwhip, did she have history of drug use before this boyfriend?
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Post by mwhip on Jul 19, 2021 12:52:27 GMT -6
mwhip , did she have history of drug use before this boyfriend? Not that I'm really aware of, but for H to mention a few years ago that her weight loss as attributed to drugs, I guess she may have. I just never asked more about it because I naively choose to believe people I know, aren't associated with drugs. Everytime I've been around her, which is really just holidays or family events, she's always seemed 'normal.' I would never have labelled her a drug user. I'm kind of floored by the entire situation.
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Post by wineallthetime on Jul 19, 2021 12:57:17 GMT -6
mwhip , did she have history of drug use before this boyfriend? Not that I'm really aware of, but for H to mention a few years ago that her weight loss as attributed to drugs, I guess she may have. I just never asked more about it because I naively choose to believe people I know, aren't associated with drugs. Everytime I've been around her, which is really just holidays or family events, she's always seemed 'normal.' I would never have labelled her a drug user. I'm kind of floored by the entire situation. Wow, I would be too. I know many people are functional addicts but you just really think if someone is using meth that regularly you'd just know they were on something. But I also don't hang with heavy drug users so I'm probably really naive.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jul 19, 2021 13:15:32 GMT -6
The big girls had their first day of swimming lessons this morning. Since we’ve been home we have eaten lunch and I’ve started cleaning the house and doing dishes. My house always looks like a bomb went off after my work weekends, I hate it. DH knows it too. I have laundry to put away after V is down for her nap. I also started the first day of my diet today. So far so good. I’m very hopeful I can loose 10-20lbs before my bff’s wedding in oct by eating healthy and exercising. I’m going to barre 3 tonight if dh gets home in time. The big girls will be at VBS but V will still be home. That’s hard mwhip. I feel so bad for those poor kids.
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Post by wineallthetime on Jul 19, 2021 13:24:38 GMT -6
C's tutor is here so I have the other 2 in the basement trying to keep A quiet. After we are going to my sister's. H is coming home and loading a bunch of stuff in the truck to take to his new house. He doesn't have it yet because the owner is still finishing floors but he can move stuff into the garage now.
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Post by nam2013 on Jul 19, 2021 13:30:59 GMT -6
C's tutor is here so I have the other 2 in the basement trying to keep A quiet. After we are going to my sister's. H is coming home and loading a bunch of stuff in the truck to take to his new house. He doesn't have it yet because the owner is still finishing floors but he can move stuff into the garage now. How did the kids take it? And how are you holding up?
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Post by wineallthetime on Jul 19, 2021 13:39:23 GMT -6
C's tutor is here so I have the other 2 in the basement trying to keep A quiet. After we are going to my sister's. H is coming home and loading a bunch of stuff in the truck to take to his new house. He doesn't have it yet because the owner is still finishing floors but he can move stuff into the garage now. How did the kids take it? And how are you holding up? They don't know! The therapist we are working with recommended we wait until he has the house set up to tell them so they can walk through and see where they'll sleep, play, ect with some familar items. He gets the house sat but we are going on vacation sat-Tues (bad timing). So he will spend next week painting, setting up bunk beds, ect. We will tell them Fri and he will officially move out Sun I think. Sorry, that was long.
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Post by nam2013 on Jul 19, 2021 13:43:32 GMT -6
wineallthetime that must be very hard for you. We’re here if you need to talk, anytime.
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Post by lahdeedah on Jul 19, 2021 14:28:17 GMT -6
Unbelievable and awful. mwhip Those poor kids. That is so so sad. I’m sorry.
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Post by lahdeedah on Jul 19, 2021 14:30:00 GMT -6
A lot of changes for all of you soon. wineallthetime We’re here for you if you need anything. Hope it all goes well. That counselor sounds great for the transition.
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Post by mwhip on Jul 19, 2021 14:58:03 GMT -6
wineallthetime I'm glad for your mental well being, there is an end in sight with him officially moving out. I hope the kids handle it well. Kids are resilient so even though their initial reaction may be difficult, over time, they will adapt to the change.
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Post by kim22 on Jul 19, 2021 15:02:41 GMT -6
mwhip that story keeps getting sadder and sadder. I hope the surviving kids gets the support they need. lahdeedah hope your first day is going/went well. wineallthetime thinking of you as you move forward.
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Post by kim22 on Jul 19, 2021 15:05:35 GMT -6
It was too windy for Home Alone last night so it is tonight instead. Water was perfect today and T and C kept me in for over 2 hours. DD has soccer in a bit but for now I’m hiding out in the boy’s room keeping C quiet while DH finishes work.
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Post by peachsmama on Jul 19, 2021 20:01:16 GMT -6
That's awful mwhip. Alot of chronic drug users are good at hiding it. My cousin that died in October had apparently been using again for a year. We thought they were clean. My other cousin who used to use has consistently been gaining weight and A mentioned it. I'm like "I love it, I know she's clean if she's heavier"
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Post by tallb on Jul 19, 2021 21:46:01 GMT -6
Ugh mwhip my heart is aching reading that. That poor 10 year old trying to get them out. I had assumed it was at night, but this is even worse.
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Post by tallb on Jul 19, 2021 21:48:05 GMT -6
wineallthetime I'm glad your therapist is helping plan it, that has to be hard to work through. I think my dad moved out while we were at church and Sunday school..I was 3, so I don't remember it though. Hugs to you, this has to be hard💗
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