I have my GD test at 28ish weeks, factors because of DS being a big baby (didn't have it with him though) and my BMI is 2% higher than they like it to be.
Not looking forward to it, as the bloody waiting room doesn't have any wifi/signal
My sex drive has been through the roof lately, but H isn't into it. With all of the issues we've had and how long it's taken is to get to this point, he gets in his own head during sex, and it doesn't work out. He's afraid to do anything that could jeopardize the pregnancy even though he knows sex is totally safe.
I have my GD test at 28ish weeks, factors because of DS being a big baby (didn't have it with him though) and my BMI is 2% higher than they like it to be.
Not looking forward to it, as the bloody waiting room doesn't have any wifi/signal
Mine either! The lab is the basement of the building, and there's zero signal.
When we told MIL I was pregnant we said the baby may not be at Christmas Eve dinner. Backstory: MIL hosts her family on Christmas Eve, it's normally an 8 hour ordeal, there are 5 school aged children ages 8-17, 1 trauma room nurse (among others), and the day after Christmas every year we get the call that someone is sick. I'm not talking a cold sick, I'm talking strep throat, bronchitis, pneumonia.
So originally she agreed with us, but when I shared an article with her yesterday about a poor 3 week old baby dying from meningitis because someone kissed her (hoping it would reinforce my position) she went off the walls trying to prove me wrong. Giving me facts about antibodies and breastfeeding and saying that every baby will have up to 7 colds in the first year. Also she said if someone doesn't feel well they won't come (while in the past they have felt fine enough to come and still ended up sick 2 days later). The whole situation really makes my blood boil because when MH said it there was no question but when it comes from me I'm the crazy overprotective parent that knows nothing and she raised a child and knows everything.
ETA: There have been some other things too like when my mom told her she was ordering a crocheted blanket MIL decided she's going to make a blanket (which I feel like you can't have too many blankets, it's the one upping that bothers me). Oh and 20 minutes after I give birth is a sufficient enough amount of time for her to have to wait to see the baby because "while you (points finger at me) have been waiting for this little miracle, I've (points to herself) have been waiting longer!"
laurensc927, I want to start this off by stating that I am in NO way WKing your MIL, she seems to be full on crazy. But I do want to address the meningitis thing. (Please don't skin suit me anyone)
I live nearish to where the baby that died from meningitis is from. The story has been EVERYWHERE here. Some very prominent pediatricians and neonatal doctors have come through trying to lay some calm to the crazy. It is extremely, extremely rare for this to occur at this magnitude. They said only about 10 babies per year contract meningitis from kissing/the herpes simplex virus and out of those 10 only about 1/4 get anything near to this severe. While I agree that newborns shouldn't be kissed, for a multitude of reasons, I just want to make sure that people aren't way overreacting due to this story. We have local moms just totally flipping their shit and it is driving me insane. Proper handwashing and no direct mouth to mouth contact and there is basically no way this will occur.
Ok. Rant over I guess. I just need to get it out there when stories like this get super sensationalized. Yes, it can happen but man, it is so rare you probably should just keep on keeping on.
Post by laurensc927 on Jul 19, 2017 9:31:24 GMT -6
roloma I'm not by any means thinking what happened to that baby would happen at her house on Christmas Eve. I only sent her that article hoping it would scare her into continuing to agree with us.
My concern is the baby catching something a lot less severe but still serious for a newborn based on numerous past years. I don't want to have to watch everyone around the baby to make sure they are acting properly. And I know I am probably being uber protective but I want her to respect that I am a fist time mom that waited 4.5 years to get pregnant and if I think my baby shouldn't be passed around like a hot potato on Christmas Eve then so be it.
Post by laurensc927 on Jul 19, 2017 9:32:46 GMT -6
spacecadet that's my plan. I only fear she'll be watching us like a hawk those last few weeks since she lives across the street. And yes ever since I got pregnant I've regretted that decision every day.
roloma I'm not by any means thinking what happened to that baby would happen at her house on Christmas Eve. I only sent her that article hoping it would scare her into continuing to agree with us.
My concern is the baby catching something a lot less severe but still serious for a newborn based on numerous past years. I don't want to have to watch everyone around the baby to make sure they are acting properly. And I know I am probably being uber protective but I want her to respect that I am a fist time mom that waited 4.5 years to get pregnant and if I think my baby shouldn't be passed around like a hot potato on Christmas Eve then so be it.
I agree with you. I guess I wasn't super clear that I wasn't directing my comment towards you, just trying to clear some things up about the meningitis stuff. I tried to make that clear by saying I wasn't WKing MIL.
Oh and 20 minutes after I give birth is a sufficient enough amount of time for her to have to wait to see the baby because "while you (points finger at me) have been waiting for this little miracle, I've (points to herself) have been waiting longer!"
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I think avoiding big family events with a 3-4 week old baby is reasonable.
To the quoted....holy shit. I'd lose it completely if my MIL said that to me.
I've just been feeling really run down and emotional lately. I'm not sure what to do about it. I am not able to get comfortable at night and then DS has been a bit of a terror in the evenings, I just keep telling myself that I need a break, but then I feel bad because I don't see him all day while at work, etc. I think I just need a good long nap or something maybe. Blah.
Post by laurensc927 on Jul 19, 2017 9:40:51 GMT -6
roloma you made yourself clear, I just wanted to make sure people didn't think I thought that would happen to me. I understood from the article that it was extremely rare for something like that to happen. I may be uber protective already but I can be reasonable lol.
Oh and 20 minutes after I give birth is a sufficient enough amount of time for her to have to wait to see the baby because "while you (points finger at me) have been waiting for this little miracle, I've (points to herself) have been waiting longer!"
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I think avoiding big family events with a 3-4 week old baby is reasonable.
To the quoted....holy shit. I'd lose it completely if my MIL said that to me.[/quote][/p]
Right! And she was completely serious. Then later in the conversation when I mentioned an epidural she shot me a look and said "you need to try it without the drugs", I told her I wasn't taking anything off the table. Who knows how long I will be in labor, who knows if I will end up with a C-section, I am leaving all my options open. Not her body not her decision, just like not her baby not her decision.
When we told MIL I was pregnant we said the baby may not be at Christmas Eve dinner. Backstory: MIL hosts her family on Christmas Eve, it's normally an 8 hour ordeal, there are 5 school aged children ages 8-17, 1 trauma room nurse (among others), and the day after Christmas every year we get the call that someone is sick. I'm not talking a cold sick, I'm talking strep throat, bronchitis, pneumonia.
So originally she agreed with us, but when I shared an article with her yesterday about a poor 3 week old baby dying from meningitis because someone kissed her (hoping it would reinforce my position) she went off the walls trying to prove me wrong. Giving me facts about antibodies and breastfeeding and saying that every baby will have up to 7 colds in the first year. Also she said if someone doesn't feel well they won't come (while in the past they have felt fine enough to come and still ended up sick 2 days later). The whole situation really makes my blood boil because when MH said it there was no question but when it comes from me I'm the crazy overprotective parent that knows nothing and she raised a child and knows everything.
ETA: There have been some other things too like when my mom told her she was ordering a crocheted blanket MIL decided she's going to make a blanket (which I feel like you can't have too many blankets, it's the one upping that bothers me). Oh and 20 minutes after I give birth is a sufficient enough amount of time for her to have to wait to see the baby because "while you (points finger at me) have been waiting for this little miracle, I've (points to herself) have been waiting longer!"
Massive nope to all of that. My blood is boiling for you.
How DARE somebody tell you how to raise your own baby that YOU have been waiting for not her!!!!
I have a very short fuse when it comes to people telling me how to parent (especially family, they have learnt over the past 2.5 years to not comment as they get snapped hard at or ignored for a couple days while I calm down)
I would say it sounds like you need to have a serious conversation with her, but to be honest, she sounds like but of an ass that won't listen (bit like my Nan) so I feel for you
Post by laurensc927 on Jul 19, 2017 10:09:23 GMT -6
beefinch yeah, she's like an overbearing Italian Grandma but unfortunately she's the mom. I told MH that everything goes through him now because she doesn't push back as hard. He's on my side so at least I have that going for me.
fancy I am! 15-30 carbs for breakfast, 45-60 for lunch/dinner and no more than 15 carbs for snacks. I also have a friend who sells Plexus and swears by the pink drink to help regular blood sugar so I've been taking that too.
laurensc927 god bless you. I'd have flipped a shit on my MIL by now. We will have our own issues very soon but that's another story.
Post by blabbermouth on Jul 19, 2017 10:23:20 GMT -6
spacecadet, maybe you need an evening out with some friends and let DH put your son to bed etc. Sometimes it doesn't take much to feel refreshed! I kind of feel a bit of anxiety ramping up too, but I have no idea why!
laurensc927, man, she sounds so difficult to deal with, it's like you can't say anything to her without her flying off the deep end! And eww to the "I've been waiting even longer", wtf. I don't think I have any advice. I guess don't 'tell' her anything. If she asks a question, respond, but just don't offer up info on what your mom is doing etc. It seems nice that you're reaching out to her and including her, but it certainly seems to be backfiring!
Post by laurensc927 on Jul 19, 2017 10:28:13 GMT -6
That's exactly it blabbermouth both my mom and I were trying to include her in things and she just totally takes it and runs. She either does her own thing because she doesn't like what was mentioned, tries to one up the other person, or just pushes back. I told H she's only going to ruin this for herself, if she wants to make me uncomfortable then she won't get any info from me and won't see her grandchild as much. I am determined to not let her ruin this for me.
laurensc927 it sounds like your MIL is gonna have a come to jesus moment when baby is born. I had quite a few tense moments with my mom about giving me parenting advice. She's finally realized (2.5 years later) that we are going to parent the way that we feel is best and IF we want her suggestions, we will ask. But it's taken awhile to get there and she had some pretty hurt feelings for awhile. My MIL keeps her comments to herself 98% of the time.
Trust me, this doesn't stop my mom from commenting on other people's parenting and I'm sure she talks about our parenting with other people. But I've made it abundantly clear that her suggestions are only welcome when I ask. She was on a long kick about getting DS' hair cut. I told her no like a million times and she finally dropped it about a month ago. "Mom, I love you and I know this comes from a place of love. But I do not want to get his hair cut at this time. I will let you know when we decide to get it cut. Please stop pushing the issue."
Post by paperbagliz on Jul 19, 2017 11:40:00 GMT -6
My sex drive has been high, and the sex has been amazing. BUT. The NP put me on pelvic rest at my appointment on Monday!! I'm 24w2d- isn't that early even for a twin pregnancy?? I'm abiding by it, of course, until I see the high risk doctor tomorrow. Awkward.
Oh and 20 minutes after I give birth is a sufficient enough amount of time for her to have to wait to see the baby because "while you (points finger at me) have been waiting for this little miracle, I've (points to herself) have been waiting longer!"
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I think avoiding big family events with a 3-4 week old baby is reasonable.
To the quoted....holy shit. I'd lose it completely if my MIL said that to me.[/quote]Agreed. That is fucking crazy pants assanine shit to say.
jules1614 my DS has been acting the same way. He's been such a mommas boy lately. He wants me, and only me, to put him to bed. Fine with me because DH offered to do chores every night while I do bedtime.
jules1614 my DS has been acting the same way. He's been such a mommas boy lately. He wants me, and only me, to put him to bed. Fine with me because DH offered to do chores every night while I do bedtime.
Oooh that's a nice trade off!!!
Heck yes! I choose to do bedtime while DH walks the dog and washes dishes.