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Post by notblanche on Mar 22, 2021 11:13:58 GMT -6
The appointment went well. I'm sort of traumatized by well checks since we got J's first diagnosis at four months; the doctor was patient and understanding, and he told me I didn't even ask that many questions. LOL. I think we're in good hands.
He also had on a Black Lives Matter bracelet.
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Post by enchanted on Mar 22, 2021 11:30:51 GMT -6
Oh RajahMD ๐ I am so so sorry. I wish I could offer more than e-hugs, but you're getting as many as you can stand.
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Post by clucky on Mar 22, 2021 11:37:56 GMT -6
Oh RajahMD, I wish I could give you a big hug while you fell apart. I am so sorry it wasnโt better news. Fuck cancer in all the ways.
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Post by lemondrop on Mar 22, 2021 11:39:30 GMT -6
Oh RajahMD... I'm so so sorry, friend. Is there anything we can do?
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Post by RajahMD on Mar 22, 2021 11:56:01 GMT -6
Oh RajahMD... I'm so so sorry, friend. Is there anything we can do? I honestly don't know. At this point, I'm just making a list of people I need to call, appointments to make. And hoping my brother and I can convince him to move in with me and my family, so that we can take care of him.
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Post by RajahMD on Mar 22, 2021 11:56:52 GMT -6
Unless there's someone here who's licensed to practice law in VA. He wants to get his will setup and make me a POA.
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Post by lemondrop on Mar 22, 2021 12:00:33 GMT -6
Oh RajahMD ... I'm so so sorry, friend. Is there anything we can do? I honestly don't know. At this point, I'm just making a list of people I need to call, appointments to make. And hoping my brother and I can convince him to move in with me and my family, so that we can take care of him. That's completely understood. <3
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Post by jkjacq on Mar 22, 2021 12:05:28 GMT -6
Unless there's someone here who's licensed to practice law in VA. He wants to get his will setup and make me a POA. I dont know anyone but look for estate and elder law.
I had a trust set up for my dad that I'm POA as well as for medical (if I'm unavailable, my youngest brother is next)
Also you'll probably need a POST document along with his wishes on DNR/DNI.
Those were the most overwhelming conversations I had to have with my dad and his docs/lawyer.
Again so many hugs your way
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Post by cakewench on Mar 22, 2021 12:09:11 GMT -6
Unless there's someone here who's licensed to practice law in VA. He wants to get his will setup and make me a POA. Could you try legal zoom? We did our wills through them, it was pretty easy. I donโt know if they do POA stuff, though. Is there a council on aging or something where your dad lives? They may have resources that can help out. I will PM you some other stuff.
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Post by Sundae on Mar 22, 2021 12:53:38 GMT -6
I'm so sorry, RajahMD. Sending love and hugs your way.
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Post by blurnette989 on Mar 22, 2021 13:06:00 GMT -6
I'm so sorry RajahMD. And i am a licensed VA attorney. I haven't drafted a medical POA but can do a bit of research and am happy to help with that.
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Post by notblanche on Mar 22, 2021 13:07:59 GMT -6
RajahMD look up the Geller Law Group/ Rebecca Geller. Idk her personally but sheโs active in the Fairfax community and is frequently recommended for wills and other family law. She offers a discounted rate for people who mention the NoVa Parents group. I know youโre not here but that group is how I know to recommend her - so may not hurt to ask
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Post by gymngemini on Mar 22, 2021 19:04:15 GMT -6
RajahMD I'm so sorry to see your update. Sending you hugs and love, and thinking of your whole family.
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Post by notblanche on Mar 23, 2021 7:31:55 GMT -6
The daycare/ preschool situation I mentioned before fell through. There turned out not to be enough space after all and/or the other families didn't want to bring more kids into the bubble. Which I can't be mad about. I am tired though. But! I signed M up for a once-a-week drop-off STEAM class, so we'll all get a little break. And he'll get to play with his beloved friend, katespade's daughter, in the class. I haven't told him that part yet.
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Post by addymac on Mar 23, 2021 7:40:53 GMT -6
Oh RajahMD. Iโm so sorry. I hope you guys get all the paperwork and shit in order and then donโt even end up needing to worry about it. I hope he responds well to the treatment plan and surprises the hell out of everyone and says HEYO to 2022. I know being medical makes things worse because you know how bad it is and how bad the outlook is. But also try to remember - thereโs still hope and there are still those small groups in the statistics that beat it. And hereโs to hoping your dad is in that small percent. Huge, huge hugs. The realization and slap in the face that our parents are so incredibly mortal and aging and dying sooner than we ever imagined is really fucking hard. ๐
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Post by addymac on Mar 23, 2021 7:41:25 GMT -6
Sigh. I have so many things to do and I just want to lay in bed and take a fucking nap. Ugh.
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Post by katespade on Mar 23, 2021 7:52:17 GMT -6
The daycare/ preschool situation I mentioned before fell through. There turned out not to be enough space after all and/or the other families didn't want to bring more kids into the bubble. Which I can't be mad about. I am tired though. But! I signed M up for a once-a-week drop-off STEAM class, so we'll all get a little break. And he'll get to play with his beloved friend, katespade's daughter, in the class. I haven't told him that part yet. She is going to be so, so excited to see him!!
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Post by origami on Mar 23, 2021 8:41:34 GMT -6
I'm so sorry rajah โค
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Post by blurnette989 on Mar 24, 2021 4:21:07 GMT -6
I'm at my dad's house working today. We are getting new solar panels installed and it was too loud at my house. Excited for solar savings!
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