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Post by klong11 on Feb 10, 2021 10:07:25 GMT -6
vino, that is one of Cadence's favorites!
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Post by nam2013 on Feb 10, 2021 10:08:40 GMT -6
[mention]flamingo [/mention]we get that a lot ‘your kids are just to nice/sweet’ (meant as a positive). I’m not one for inspirational quotes, but I’ve read one a few years ago that struck a cord.
‘It's not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It's our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless.’
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Post by nam2013 on Feb 10, 2021 10:09:04 GMT -6
i'm working from home again. I've already organized the laundry room this morning and got my workout in. Next on the list is banana bread. I need to make some too, tomorrow! |
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Post by lahdeedah on Feb 10, 2021 10:13:05 GMT -6
Last week M had a story for me.
We were getting ready for bed and he tells me that he keeps having the same dream all the time. I ask him what the dream is about. He tells me that he is a grown up- 18 lol- and he has a girlfriend with blonde skin (he says like mine) and blonde hair. He says they have a really big house with a pool and the builder is there and he has to pay the builder the money. Lol. I ask him what kind of work he does to get the money and he says he is in the government. 😂
He freaks out if anyone implies that he likes a girl or a girl likes him, so I was amused that he was just casually telling me about a hypothetical girlfriend in his dream.
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Post by jewels on Feb 10, 2021 10:17:48 GMT -6
I'm so sorry so many of your kids are having such troubles already with other kids. I agree with whoever said we need a N13 school. Our kids wouldn't do that to each other.
I'm thankful that S seems to have a good group of friends, but I see already how their opinions matter so much. I could easily see him getting upset at someone saying not nice things to him.
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Post by vino on Feb 10, 2021 10:21:42 GMT -6
B was bullied a long time ago a daycare, it was bad and came to a blow with a terrible incident. We had a lot of talks about feelings, coming to me with ANYTHING and I will take care of it. That there are adult problems to solve and kids problems to solve, that I want him to put all of his thoughts and worries on me and we can work through who takes care of what, together, as a family.
The other side of this is that after a while, maybe a week or so, we had the talk about bullies and how it made him feel. That he would never make anyone feel that way, he must remember the feeling and go forward in kindness. That's it.
My kids have both had the talk that if they are ever a bully on purpose their lives will be flipped upside down. Not in this house, my children.
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Post by vino on Feb 10, 2021 10:23:06 GMT -6
vino , that is one of Cadence's favorites! it's sooo good! Julia the next day was like I want to wear this and this and this and put my hair like this cause I LIKE IT! lol she is the epitome of #girlpower |
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Post by nam2013 on Feb 10, 2021 10:29:19 GMT -6
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Post by peachsmama on Feb 10, 2021 11:06:14 GMT -6
Kids are also brutal at this age. C came home with a note from his girlfriend that said “you’re a great friend C. I know T (his BFF) hates you right now but I think you are great”. I asked C why T hates him and he says that T told him that he betrayed him. C doesn’t know what he did to betray his friend. I am guessing it has something to do with the girlfriend because T has had a long time crush on her. 1st grade is turning into a soap opera! Kids are so brutal. M's little girl friend R was virtual last semester but went back in January so they ride the bus together. He told my mom "R just completely ignores me, and I was not prepared for that kind of behavior!" |
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Post by flamingo on Feb 10, 2021 12:20:02 GMT -6
[mention]flamingo [/mention]we get that a lot ‘your kids are just to nice/sweet’ (meant as a positive). I’m not one for inspirational quotes, but I’ve read one a few years ago that struck a cord. ‘It's not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It's our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless.’ Well sure, for day to day behavior, absolutely...FTR I don't think the coaches want the kids to be bad sports, just to play with a little more spunk and less passively. Like...if you're dribbling, don't be surprised if someone reaches in and tries to swat/take the basketball. And likewise, it's ok for you to do that...or put your hands up to block a shot vs. giving your opponent all the time he needs because it's 'his turn', haha. |
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Post by nam2013 on Feb 10, 2021 12:29:45 GMT -6
[mention]flamingo [/mention]we get that a lot ‘your kids are just to nice/sweet’ (meant as a positive). I’m not one for inspirational quotes, but I’ve read one a few years ago that struck a cord. ‘It's not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It's our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless.’ Well sure, for day to day behavior, absolutely...FTR I don't think the coaches want the kids to be bad sports, just to play with a little more spunk and less passively. Like...if you're dribbling, don't be surprised if someone reaches in and tries to swat/take the basketball. And likewise, it's ok for you to do that...or put your hands up to block a shot vs. giving your opponent all the time he needs because it's 'his turn', haha. Ohhh I hope you didn’t take that as critic, it was meant as an agreement/comment in light of the all the kids bring mean! And nothing wrong with a little more spunk  ! |
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Post by peachsmama on Feb 10, 2021 12:34:57 GMT -6
[mention]flamingo [/mention]we get that a lot ‘your kids are just to nice/sweet’ (meant as a positive). I’m not one for inspirational quotes, but I’ve read one a few years ago that struck a cord. ‘It's not our job to toughen our children up to face a cruel and heartless world. It's our job to raise children who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless.’ Well sure, for day to day behavior, absolutely...FTR I don't think the coaches want the kids to be bad sports, just to play with a little more spunk and less passively. Like...if you're dribbling, don't be surprised if someone reaches in and tries to swat/take the basketball. And likewise, it's ok for you to do that...or put your hands up to block a shot vs. giving your opponent all the time he needs because it's 'his turn', haha. Yes. My nephew sucks at soccer because he keeps waiting for them to give him a turn with the ball. He has no interest in stealing it lol |
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Post by kim22 on Feb 10, 2021 12:48:51 GMT -6
mamabear I had a similar conversation with my husband recently. I don’t know how much of the friend thing is just the pandemic. When I was a kid, I was shy and quiet but I had a few very close friends that I did everything with since preschool. DH had the same. Although I don’t see them often, anyone of them would still show up if I texted them right now and said I needed them. I don’t feel like my kids have that. We were discussing is it us or is it how things are now? Our kids interact with other kids plenty because we do a lot of activities but that closeness of I know everything about you and I have your back no matter what really isn’t there. T has it the most maybe because he has 2 friends whose mom’s have become my best friends. DD gets along with everyone but her closest friends are the gymnastics girls and none live in our town (but most live in the same neighboring town) so although they always include her, we are always a little on the outside. DS1 is more of a loner by choice. I am hoping high school will help with that a bit. He likes his hockey teammates but he is more mature than most of them so he hasn’t made that one bestie.
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Post by wedding on Feb 10, 2021 12:50:50 GMT -6
Any good books for boys about loving themselves? C worries more than I would like about what others think of him and when I tell him to be himself he will say he doesn’t like himself or he is stupid. It kills me. I have spent so much of my life worrying about what others thought of me and still do at times. I want him to have confidence in himself.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Feb 10, 2021 13:01:41 GMT -6
Ugh, heavy day around here. I don’t hear about a lot with H but S, being the sensitive one, complains about kids not wanting to play with her or sit with her. I think she has anxiety. It’s hard seeing my kids go through the awkwardness that I did as a kid. Also, kids being assholes young is not a new thing. When I was a kid, there was a family down the street that had 2 little girls too. The younger one told my little sister that she could only play with her if she paid her a nickel every day. I think she was probably in K or 1st grade. That friendship didn’t last, obviously.
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Post by klong11 on Feb 10, 2021 13:13:45 GMT -6
wedding, not just for boys, but Spaghetti in a Hot Dog Bun is a good book. Spoon. Cadence enjoys Giraffes Can't Dance.
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Post by nam2013 on Feb 10, 2021 13:20:25 GMT -6
wedding, not just for boys, but Spaghetti in a Hot Dog Bun is a good book. Spoon. Cadence enjoys Giraffes Can't Dance. My kids love the giraffe one too! |
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Post by wineallthetime on Feb 10, 2021 13:39:20 GMT -6
I just got my second vaccine dose, waiting out the 15min trying to convince myself that my throat isn't closing up, cause I'm fun like that.
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Post by lahdeedah on Feb 10, 2021 14:55:45 GMT -6
mamabear I had a similar conversation with my husband recently. I don’t know how much of the friend thing is just the pandemic. When I was a kid, I was shy and quiet but I had a few very close friends that I did everything with since preschool. DH had the same. Although I don’t see them often, anyone of them would still show up if I texted them right now and said I needed them. I don’t feel like my kids have that. We were discussing is it us or is it how things are now? Our kids interact with other kids plenty because we do a lot of activities but that closeness of I know everything about you and I have your back no matter what really isn’t there. T has it the most maybe because he has 2 friends whose mom’s have become my best friends. DD gets along with everyone but her closest friends are the gymnastics girls and none live in our town (but most live in the same neighboring town) so although they always include her, we are always a little on the outside. DS1 is more of a loner by choice. I am hoping high school will help with that a bit. He likes his hockey teammates but he is more mature than most of them so he hasn’t made that one bestie. I had kind of the same when I was a kid, but all of my friends from grade school grew apart. We were from a very small town and I wonder if that’s it. Like none of us want to go back there, but I am the only one that lives out of state. They all still live in the state, but I don’t think any of us are close at all. We’ll occasionally comment on IG posts and say hello, but that’s it. I don’t feel like we have had a lot of kids or kids his age in the neighborhoods we grew up with. If there are kids, they don’t play outside much. I remember always being outside when we were kids because that’s what there was to do. Now kids stay inside on video games and screens or just stay inside because it’s not safe without an adult present. With a small town and outside city limits, we didn’t have to have parents outside with us. My kids are outside a lot once it warms up, but we rarely see any other kids outside. A couple kids will come over because we have all kinds of outside toys, but not consistently. |
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Post by nam2013 on Feb 10, 2021 14:55:45 GMT -6
Btw for all those who still have their wedding dress & have girls... Dd saw my wedding dress in my closet a few months back wanted to try it on and I promised her that if we had a mommy/Dd morning she could try it.
Wel this morning ds was at school, Dh was working, it was just us girls. It grabbed the dress, did her hair in a bun with bows and a flower (‘because you had a bun at the wedding mommy’) gave her some little flowers & my necklace, hoisted her in the dress and put her on a stool so that the dress could be full length. I pinned the dress so it would stay up.
She had the best time, she looked so cute and proud! We had so much fun & I can highly recommend it!
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Post by mwhip on Feb 10, 2021 14:57:05 GMT -6
Evie had a much better day today. One of the girls that laughed at her yesterday, apologized to her today. Evie said she told her it hurt her feelings yesterday, so they worked it out on their own.
Her teacher sent me an email that she is giving her the quarterly character award, which made me cry.
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Post by lahdeedah on Feb 10, 2021 14:58:36 GMT -6
wedding That breaks my heart. I’m sorry he feels that way. nam2013 Well that’s sooooo adorable. What a special moment.
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Post by mwhip on Feb 10, 2021 14:59:41 GMT -6
One of my best friends asked me to take a heating pad to her daughter, who is home not feeling well after her 2nd covid vaccine. She is a senior in HS and works at a nursing home.
I was not expecting her to be as bad as she was. She was laying on their steps crying because her body hurt so bad. It took me 40 minutes to get her from the stairs back to the sofa. I let their dogs out for her.
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Post by mwhip on Feb 10, 2021 15:00:40 GMT -6
Damn wedding. That's tough. I wish I could give him a hug and tell him how special he is. |
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Post by nam2013 on Feb 10, 2021 15:07:18 GMT -6
mwhip glad E had a better day today! Sorry about your friend’s daughter that sound terrible...
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Post by jewels on Feb 10, 2021 15:23:05 GMT -6
mwhip, I'm so glad she had a better day. And that's tough for your friend's daughter wedding I worry about how much S cares what people think too. I struggled a lot to make friends as a kid, and I feel like, so far, he has not. But he is not athletic and we live in a town that seems to center around sports so I worry a bit about that as his friends get older and their social life revolves around sports. On the flip side of what you guys are saying, S is SOOOO wrapped up in his friends, I feel that's not healthy either. He's in class with his BFF (who we've been seeing since May or so) and every time the teacher asks to share something it's " I did this with R, R is coming over tomorrow, etc." then I hear R share and it's not about S at all. I feel like S almost obsesses with his friends.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Feb 10, 2021 15:34:53 GMT -6
Btw for all those who still have their wedding dress & have girls... Dd saw my wedding dress in my closet a few months back wanted to try it on and I promised her that if we had a mommy/Dd morning she could try it. Wel this morning ds was at school, Dh was working, it was just us girls. It grabbed the dress, did her hair in a bun with bows and a flower (‘because you had a bun at the wedding mommy’) gave her some little flowers & my necklace, hoisted her in the dress and put her on a stool so that the dress could be full length. I pinned the dress so it would stay up. She had the best time, she looked so cute and proud! We had so much fun & I can highly recommend it! I put my wedding dress on H when she was 4. It was cute. I need to do that with S.  |
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Post by trtlcrzy on Feb 10, 2021 15:36:01 GMT -6
One of my best friends asked me to take a heating pad to her daughter, who is home not feeling well after her 2nd covid vaccine. She is a senior in HS and works at a nursing home. I was not expecting her to be as bad as she was. She was laying on their steps crying because her body hurt so bad. It took me 40 minutes to get her from the stairs back to the sofa. I let their dogs out for her. Poor girl. Is she taking ibuprofen and Tylenol? |
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Post by lfig on Feb 10, 2021 16:14:31 GMT -6
Hey! We are froze in here. But the Amish community we have sure knows how to make the best of it! This was taken down the road from us.😂 /?d=n |
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Post by flamingo on Feb 10, 2021 16:19:43 GMT -6
mwhip Glad E had a better day. Congrats to her (and you guys!) for the character award, that is awesome. DH got dose 1 of the vaccine last week and said he felt like death warmed over for a day or so. He bounced back but said the first 24 hours was rough. Sorry your friend's daughter was similar, I'm sure she and her mom were happy you could be there.
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