Since it's Wednesday

[mwhip]

Morning ladies!

[mwhip]

Evie gets out of school at 110 today and is out tomorrow, Friday and Monday. We took her tablet away until Saturday, so it's going to be a long week.

I'm not sure what is going on with my kid. When I picked her up from school yesterday, she said school was terrible. At recess, she was playing with 2 other girls on their iPads (inside due to cold weather) and they told her what game they were playing, then switched games without telling her and laughed at her. She was pretty upset by it. At dinner, I looked at her sleeve and she had cut it in multiple places. One cut is about 1/2", then there are probly 10 other 1/4" cuts. She first lied to us and told her one of her friends told her to do it, but later told me she did it because she was bored. We had more talks about how people are not always going to be nice to us and we need to ignore those people. I have a feeling she will ignore everyone today. I also emailed her teacher so she could watch for this as well, but not to call her out, unless it's a normal discussion she would have.

[wedding]

Omg mwhip. What is she cutting herself with? Where did she even get that idea?

[wedding]

These kids are definitely having big feels lately! Last night I made up a stupid song and dance. I do this a lot. I told C I was offended that he didn’t even look and he said it wasn’t good. I took him (jokingly) that when he is older I’m going to chaperone a school dance and show off my moves. The kid bursts into tears saying No mom! You’ll embarrass me! What if someone has a camera and records you and everyone knows your my mom?! I explained I was joking and I would likely never chaperone a dance but I’m certain I will unintentionally embarrass him at some point. I’m a bit offended that my dance moves are that bad🤣

[mwhip]

Feb 10, 2021 8:06:30 GMT -6 wedding said:

Omg mwhip . What is she cutting herself with? Where did she even get that idea?

I'm sure it was just scissors because the cuts were all clean.  I have no idea where she would have gotten this idea.  And I don't want to be 'that' mom who escalates situations, but if she's cutting her shirt now, does this lead to cutting herself if we don't address is now?  

My guess is it was related to the 2 girls being mean to her and she was sad, sitting by herself.  

The entire situation just broke my heart for her yesterday.  

[mwhip]

Feb 10, 2021 8:09:34 GMT -6 wedding said:

These kids are definitely having big feels lately! Last night I made up a stupid song and dance. I do this a lot. I told C I was offended that he didn’t even look and he said it wasn’t good. I took him (jokingly) that when he is older I’m going to chaperone a school dance and show off my moves. The kid bursts into tears saying No mom! You’ll embarrass me! What if someone has a camera and records you and everyone knows your my mom?! I explained I was joking and I would likely never chaperone a dance but I’m certain I will unintentionally embarrass him at some point. I’m a bit offended that my dance moves are that bad🤣

Evie already tells us not to sing, so apparently my singing is right up there with your dance moves.

[wedding]

Feb 10, 2021 8:09:36 GMT -6 mwhip said:

Feb 10, 2021 8:06:30 GMT -6 wedding said:

Omg mwhip . What is she cutting herself with? Where did she even get that idea?

I'm sure it was just scissors because the cuts were all clean.  I have no idea where she would have gotten this idea.  And I don't want to be 'that' mom who escalates situations, but if she's cutting her shirt now, does this lead to cutting herself if we don't address is now?  

My guess is it was related to the 2 girls being mean to her and she was sad, sitting by herself.  

The entire situation just broke my heart for her yesterday.  

Ohh! I read it that you saw cuts under her sleeve, not on it! I thought she was cutting herself. Phew!! In that case I’d see how it plays out. I could see doing that out of boredom.

[wedding]

Kids are also brutal at this age. C came home with a note from his girlfriend that said “you’re a great friend C. I know T (his BFF) hates you right now but I think you are great”. I asked C why T hates him and he says that T told him that he betrayed him. C doesn’t know what he did to betray his friend. I am guessing it has something to do with the girlfriend because T has had a long time crush on her. 1st grade is turning into a soap opera!

[nam2013]

I’m so sorry for all kids that are struggling. Such big feelings all around. These days are so hard for all our kids. Stressed out parents, home school/intermittent school, less time / no time with family or friends. I was talking with my friend this morning about the toll it takes on kids/adolescents and how long we can justify all of the measures that are being taken...

[mwhip]

OMG wedding, it is. I didn't realize kids were so mean this young. I know there are going to be plenty of times when she gets made fun of...we all went through it, it sucks. I don't remember it happening this young though. But if I remember right, the girl that lived next door to me was the same age as me and we had a lot of fun together, friends at school, so I already had that friendship. Evie doesn't have that person yet, and I know she just needs to find it, and she will.

When she told me about the 2 girls laughing at her, I asked her why she doesn't play with someone else, a little girl she tells me is her best friend. She said because she plays with another little girl. Okay, why don't you play with them. Because they won't let her play with them. Like, WTF to these kids. So I asked why she always wants to have a play date with this little girl if she doesn't let her play with her at recess. She said because when she ignores her, then she wants to play with her and they have fun.

[wineallthetime]

So many big feelings! We have them in our house too. I'm sorry, but wedding, your story made me laugh even though I feel bad he was so upset! It reminds me of when I was an intern there was a young patient who had been in the hospital for over a year so I had set times to see her a few times a week. She always wanted everyone to sing and I kept telling her I wasn't a good singer. She kept insisting and so I did and she covered her ears and yelled, "STOP!". Every time I went into her room after that she'd say, "No sing!". She asked everyone to sing and I think I'm the only one she did not enjoy.

[nam2013]

Kids are so brutal. I mean even Dd (4yo) comes home sad at least once a week. It’s always the same kid who is mean and somehow Dd really wants to be her friend, this girl for example wouldn’t play with her because dds dress is too ugly 😳.

[nam2013]

[mention]mwhip [/mention] we’re in the same boat! Why would you want be friends with someone who is mean to you?! I do not get it!

[wineallthetime]

Over the summer C was playing with some neighborhood boys and they were so mean to him! I kept telling him he didn't need to be friends with people who were mean to him but he wanted to be friends with them SO BAD. One day they told C they were never playing with him again and C was so desperate he was yelling after them, "You can pick any toy out of my garage to keep!" hoping it'd make them want to be friends with him. Broke my heart!

[mwhip]

Feb 10, 2021 8:42:13 GMT -6 nam2013 said:

[mention]mwhip [/mention] we’re in the same boat! Why would you want be friends with someone who is mean to you?! I do not get it!

I told Evie that too when I was laying in bed with her last night...that there are plenty of other kids in her class she can play with.  It's definitely easier to understand on this side of things, that you are not going to be friends with everyone and there are plenty of people in this world, that WILL be your people.  But they have such little worlds right now, especially with Covid where they aren't even interacting with anyone outside of their classroom, and we are fortunate that we are in person.  

I just hate this for all of them.  Childhood is supposed to be so fun and free.  Life sucks when you have responsibilities and bills.

[mwhip]

Feb 10, 2021 8:44:41 GMT -6 wineallthetime said:

Over the summer C was playing with some neighborhood boys and they were so mean to him! I kept telling him he didn't need to be friends with people who were mean to him but he wanted to be friends with them SO BAD. One day they told C they were never playing with him again and C was so desperate he was yelling after them, "You can pick any toy out of my garage to keep!" hoping it'd make them want to be friends with him. Broke my heart!

Poor C.  And fuck those little boys.

[slenle]

Oh man, I never would’ve guess 1st grade to be so complicated and emotional! Sorry for everyone else who is struggling.

N went in to school with no tears today! She woke up sad and crying but I found making her do big cheesy smiles in the mirror really helped. Random, but I’ll take it. And she was so excited for her party so let’s hope it’s a good day!

[flamingo]

Feb 10, 2021 8:32:04 GMT -6 nam2013 said:

I’m so sorry for all kids that are struggling. Such big feelings all around. These days are so hard for all our kids. Stressed out parents, home school/intermittent school, less time / no time with family or friends. I was talking with my friend this morning about the toll it takes on kids/adolescents and how long we can justify all of the measures that are being taken...

My friend is a school counselor back in VA and has seen...*a lot* since this all started. She's posted so many good articles/studies about kids and Covid and how the stress and anxiety and being home/isolated is terrible for them, moreso than the risk of the virus. I have a lot of feelings on this topic but I realize it's very personal to everyone and people come at this from different angles. 

[tgrimes]

I'm so sorry to hear all these stories about our kids. It makes me want to punch some of those little mean fuckers in the throat.

Not really, but damn.

[flamingo]

mwhip Poor E. I hate that 2 against 1 dynamic. I remember it from growing up. Someone *always* gets left out, and I think it's esp. bad with girls.

I'm sorry for all the kid-issues lately. We've been seeing it here with B, as well. Of course we're in school and activities so that aspect of his life is pretty normal, but I do think part of it is DH being gone, and part of it just the age. I need to pull out a couple of my child development books for tips. 

Ex: We got an email night-before-last that the school resource officer from our local sheriff's dept. is leaving, and a new officer will be starting. The outgoing guy wrote this really lovely email to the school community about how much he'd enjoyed getting to know the kids/families, would miss everyone, etc. etc. I read it to B--thinking, we've only been at this school for 6 months and I have no idea if B would even know this guy--and B burst into tears! Apparently EVERYONE Knows "Officer Tony" and he is beloved. Whoops.

[tgrimes]

slenle I'm glad she's having a better day so far.

[flamingo]

Good morning.

Both kids are at school here, so I'm having the last piece of king cake (hahaha sorry kids!) before starting to tidy up, etc. I really need to mop the kitchen.

It's Teacher Appreciation Week at the elementary school, and today is the 100th day...plus with Valentines stuff on Friday, seems like there has been *something* every single day. Looking forward to the 3-day weekend.

B had basketball practice last night and the coaches were definitely a bit harder on them, which I think is a good thing. One of them told us, "You've all raised very NICE kids", lol. We need some more aggression, b/c other teams have been walking all over us lol. B's teacher reached out and asked if she could come to one of his games, so she's coming this Saturday. Bless her. I told her to keep her expectations low!

[klong11]

Get ready. I keep seeing articles about how girls start having self-esteem issues around age 8. It sounded young to me until reading about all the brats your kids go to school with. We need an N13 school. I feel like they will all just "get" each other. In the meantime I'll just keep my kid home and not let her interact with anyone.

[klong11]

I was going over Cadence's drafted school assignments with her last night. There was one where she was recording herself reading some words she had sorted. Then there's mh on the recording yelling that she got a word wrong and he already told her what the word was, why is she still saying it wrong.....
I contemplated letting her turn it in that way so her teacher can see what she's having to deal with at home, but Cadence asked to re-record it. I'll be talking to him about it tonight since I didn't see him yesterday.

[lahdeedah]

Morning.

Sorry to all the kids having a rough go of it. Breaks my heart for these kids.

Glad N had a better morning. slenle

It’s our last day of decent weather. I need to think about any errands I need to run so I can stay home and chill while it rains tomorrow.

[vino]

Feb 10, 2021 8:47:38 GMT -6 mwhip said:

Feb 10, 2021 8:44:41 GMT -6 wineallthetime said:

Over the summer C was playing with some neighborhood boys and they were so mean to him! I kept telling him he didn't need to be friends with people who were mean to him but he wanted to be friends with them SO BAD. One day they told C they were never playing with him again and C was so desperate he was yelling after them, "You can pick any toy out of my garage to keep!" hoping it'd make them want to be friends with him. Broke my heart!

Poor C.  And fuck those little boys.

+1 to this. Little shits.

[vino]

Ugh That's hard to hear mwhip, those little girls are mean girls, words matter and hopefully E knows that she's a kick ass chick that'll find her people, it might take some time but it'll be worth the wait. I hope things get better.

[tgrimes]

i'm working from home again. I've already organized the laundry room this morning and got my workout in. Next on the list is banana bread.

[vino]

Feb 10, 2021 8:40:24 GMT -6 nam2013 said:

Kids are so brutal. I mean even Dd (4yo) comes home sad at least once a week. It’s always the same kid who is mean and somehow Dd really wants to be her friend, this girl for example wouldn’t play with her because dds dress is too ugly 😳.

Oh goodness! Terrible.

The kids got Stephanie's Ponytail by Robert Munsch for Christmas and it's such a funny book with a good lesson of 'do whatever makes you happy' kind of confidence.

[flamingo]

Feb 10, 2021 9:52:29 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

i'm working from home again. I've already organized the laundry room this morning and got my workout in. Next on the list is banana bread.

This reminds me to get walnuts, I have some over-ripe bananas, too.