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Post by piratecat on Jan 22, 2021 9:22:40 GMT -6
My confession is after bashing my fish all day yesterday, last night I felt guilty and tried to "play" with him by having him follow my finger. I was unimpressed. 😂
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Post by mothafuckinteatime on Jan 22, 2021 9:22:43 GMT -6
I confess after yesterday I watched 2 film adaptations on Wuthering Heights. They weren't all that but one did better than the other. I cried during both. Your love of Wuthering Heights is so unexpected and I absolutely love it. I vaguely remember the plot from high school lit and remember it being fine but just kind of standard English class stuff. Encountering a WH fan girl in the wild is so, so endearing.
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Jan 22, 2021 9:22:56 GMT -6
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Post by ironcorgi on Jan 22, 2021 9:22:56 GMT -6
And furthermore I don't know why anyone went down the path of the quality of the furniture and IKEA this and that when the real issue here is that rather than just getting the shit they talked about and have the money for (as you should), she broke it. So then what? Call the husband with, "OMG this dresser just snapped and gave out. Now we have to order our stuff we talked about." So you can put a bow on it and call it what you want, it's still trifling for me. It's not about the dressers. #NotAboutThePasta Yep. I feel the people annoyed by the response are the ones who turned down that lane in the first place. It is the breakage that annoyed me, not the condition it was in. How privileged are you to break things to get something new?
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Post by apk4 on Jan 22, 2021 9:23:07 GMT -6
My confession is after bashing my fish all day yesterday, last night I felt guilty and tried to "play" with him by having him follow my finger. I was unimpressed. You're the cutest.
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Jan 22, 2021 9:23:09 GMT -6
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Post by 🍍 🍊 Fineapple 🍍 🍊 on Jan 22, 2021 9:23:09 GMT -6
Yes I know what it means Who created the profile lol You created the profile?
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Jan 22, 2021 9:23:19 GMT -6
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Post by Eagles on Jan 22, 2021 9:23:19 GMT -6
And again it isn't that she didn't donate that I am confused about I don't care who donates and who doesn't. It was literally just the fact that they had the money and she didn't just say we are ordering this Not speaking to the specific breaking etc., but I feel like H directs all his motivation into his work. So when things need to be done at home, it falls on me. Every single home improvement or major purchase that has happened in the past 5 years has been because I handled it. That can get really exhausting. I have a job and responsibilities too, but absolutely let me get quotes for our overdue brick pointing and order new furniture.
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Jan 22, 2021 9:24:02 GMT -6
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Post by Dr. Cox on Jan 22, 2021 9:24:02 GMT -6
My confession is after bashing my fish all day yesterday, last night I felt guilty and tried to "play" with him by having him follow my finger. I was unimpressed. So glad to hear he’s toilet-free!
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Post by ironcorgi on Jan 22, 2021 9:24:33 GMT -6
Confession: I wouldn't be with somebody if I had to break something to get a new item. Or if I had to hide purchases. I see people all the time saying "hahaha I had to hide my new shoes in the trunk of my car so SO didn't get mad" Uh no. SO wants to be controlling? Bye Felicia.
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Post by piratecat on Jan 22, 2021 9:24:50 GMT -6
Also, piratecatI was going through a bunch of site photos with my team a few days ago and your H is lurking in the background in a bunch of them like Where’s Waldo. I was cracking up. Haha we did dress up as Waldo characters for Halloween. He was Odlaw though.
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Post by STP on Jan 22, 2021 9:25:00 GMT -6
My confession is after bashing my fish all day yesterday, last night I felt guilty and tried to "play" with him by having him follow my finger. I was unimpressed. Bless your heart.
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Post by fosterlove on Jan 22, 2021 9:25:02 GMT -6
Back to me again, but my therapist showed me that by not using my words in anticipation of some negative reaction from people, I'm engaging in codependent unhealthy relationships. If I want something, and it causes no harm to anyone else, I can say it. It's okay. I don't need to qualify it. It's truly been life changing. I've spent my entire life taking care of people and walking on egg shells to prevent rocking the boat (thanks childhood!), but it doesn't have to be that way. And it will still be okay. It's been fucking MIND BLOWING for me. I had a teen placed with me for this last week and I was struggling to actually use my words and tell DHHS that I wouldn't/couldn't keep her. Once I did, it was like so much weight was lifted. I thought I was confused about my decision, I was actually hesitant because I was worried about the reaction.
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Jan 22, 2021 9:25:48 GMT -6
Post by McBenny on Jan 22, 2021 9:25:48 GMT -6
Particle board is really low quality, in the sense it breaks down super easy and then becomes unusable. No one here is sledge hammering solid oak furniture to buy a new set. I assume not at least. I'm smart enough to know what particle board is. You would be surprised at what families will do/can do to repurpose/reuse things if they have no other choice. 🤷♀️ When we moved to TX, I put a long dresser out that had been wet with flooding so the particle board stuff at the bottom was warped. We still used it but didn't think it would make the move and I just plain didn't want it.
We put it on the curb.
FF I am packing and taking trash outside and I find a couple loading said dresser. I go and talk to them and the man was a carpenter and assured me he could replace the particle board with wood. He was elated because his daughter's birthday was coming up. I told him I had the matching pieces and he could have them too.
I was going to use them until we got to TX but seeing how excited he was about it I asked if he could come back (I had to empty the furniture) and they did.
(ANYWAY I AM NOT SAYING ANYONE NEEDED TO RECYCLE OR REUSE ANYTHING. IT'S THE LACK OF COMMUNICATION FOR ME).
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Jan 22, 2021 9:26:56 GMT -6
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Post by 🍍 🍊 Fineapple 🍍 🍊 on Jan 22, 2021 9:26:56 GMT -6
Confession: I wouldn't be with somebody if I had to break something to get a new item. Or if I had to hide purchases. I see people all the time saying "hahaha I had to hide my new shoes in the trunk of my car so SO didn't get mad" Uh no. SO wants to be controlling? Bye Felicia. Some people are very bad with money. It paints their spouse as controlling but truly it can go the other way. I’d hate to worry about my spouse spending what we don’t have. Either to keep up with the Jones or because they can’t control impulses
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Post by Rusty Red on Jan 22, 2021 9:27:55 GMT -6
OK, all, to be fair here, because me actually highlighted, I think she's just wondering who actually owns that profile.
Or I'm the stupid one. Who knows.
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Post by STP on Jan 22, 2021 9:28:40 GMT -6
Confession: I wouldn't be with somebody if I had to break something to get a new item. Or if I had to hide purchases. I see people all the time saying "hahaha I had to hide my new shoes in the trunk of my car so SO didn't get mad" Uh no. SO wants to be controlling? Bye Felicia. Some people are very bad with money. It paints their spouse as controlling but truly it can go the other way. I’d hate to worry about my spouse spending what we don’t have. Either to keep up with the Jones or because they can’t control impulses My H has to reign me in. I discuss all purchases over an agreed upon amount. It’s not permission but it’s kind of permission. Bc I have an impulse spending problem. But that’s the point. We talked about as married people and agreed.
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Post by thatgolfb on Jan 22, 2021 9:28:48 GMT -6
Score one for being single. If I want something I don't have to hide that I bought it. TBF people in relationships also shouldn’t have to be hiding what they bought. It’s odd.
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Post by elodin on Jan 22, 2021 9:29:19 GMT -6
Specifically, she said breaking down. So I assume there were already broken parts, but they didn’t affect the functionality. So tell yourself H you’re ordering the new piece you agreed on and saved for. I already said I would have just had a conversation and bought the new ones.
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Post by 🍍 🍊 Fineapple 🍍 🍊 on Jan 22, 2021 9:29:22 GMT -6
A true FFFC: I bought MH gun paraphernalia and back ordered another gun for his birthday.
He also got an Apple Watch and a new knife 🔪 but I’m leaning into him being a gunnist
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Post by McBenny on Jan 22, 2021 9:30:02 GMT -6
I confess after yesterday I watched 2 film adaptations on Wuthering Heights. They weren't all that but one did better than the other. I cried during both. Your love of Wuthering Heights is so unexpected and I absolutely love it. I vaguely remember the plot from high school lit and remember it being fine but just kind of standard English class stuff. Encountering a WH fan girl in the wild is so, so endearing. I have really reflected on this and I think for me it's that more than anything Heathcliff wanted to be loved. He then finds love with Mr. Earnshaw and Cathy. He feels the love from them and he loves them back. Mr. Earnshaw then dies and Cathy later deems him to lowly for her love.
I guess I find it all rather relatable.
It is very dark and I can see why so many do not like it.
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Post by STP on Jan 22, 2021 9:30:11 GMT -6
OK, all, to be fair here, because me actually highlighted, I think she's just wondering who actually owns that profile. Or I'm the stupid one. Who knows. The tag doesn’t show up in Tapa as an assigned account. It looked like PO was just making a comment like don’t talk to me about it. So likely part of it.
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Post by mothafuckinteatime on Jan 22, 2021 9:30:47 GMT -6
I had like no money for the majority of my adult life and I get uncomfortable spending more than $100 on an item without talking to my H. Like I need to tell him about it and get his okay to spend that kind of money.
H is always like... yea just buy it? But to me it’s Big Deal Money.
I don’t expect him to check in about $100 purchases but I get squirrelly like I’m hiding something if I don’t talk to him about spending.
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Post by 🍍 🍊 Fineapple 🍍 🍊 on Jan 22, 2021 9:30:51 GMT -6
OK, all, to be fair here, because me actually highlighted, I think she's just wondering who actually owns that profile. Or I'm the stupid one. Who knows. The tag doesn’t show up in Tapa as an assigned account. It looked like PO was just making a comment like don’t talk to me about it. So likely part of it. It’s a new account. Nov 23 created. 🤔
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Post by Deleted on Jan 22, 2021 9:31:36 GMT -6
OK, all, to be fair here, because me actually highlighted, I think she's just wondering who actually owns that profile. Or I'm the stupid one. Who knows. Yes, someone had to create a proboards account for meGreen olive did not create it. I'm wondering who did
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Post by STP on Jan 22, 2021 9:32:02 GMT -6
The tag doesn’t show up in Tapa as an assigned account. It looked like PO was just making a comment like don’t talk to me about it. So likely part of it. It’s a new account. Nov 23 created. 🤔
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Jan 22, 2021 9:32:40 GMT -6
Post by McBenny on Jan 22, 2021 9:32:40 GMT -6
Score one for being single. If I want something I don't have to hide that I bought it. I wanted to say the other day but I didn't know how it would come across on IG - but you posted a selfie of yourself and you looking very happy. You were glowing and shit. I am glad to see it.
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Post by ironcorgi on Jan 22, 2021 9:32:48 GMT -6
Confession: I wouldn't be with somebody if I had to break something to get a new item. Or if I had to hide purchases. I see people all the time saying "hahaha I had to hide my new shoes in the trunk of my car so SO didn't get mad" Uh no. SO wants to be controlling? Bye Felicia. Some people are very bad with money. It paints their spouse as controlling but truly it can go the other way. I’d hate to worry about my spouse spending what we don’t have. Either to keep up with the Jones or because they can’t control impulses I understand that, but I also cannot be with somebody who has a problem with spending too money. I need to be as financially stable as possible and I need a partner who also knows how to be responsible financially. If you can work with them on their spending, kudos. But that isn't something I'm willing to work on in a relationship. To clarify: Having a lot of money isn't important to me, but financial responsibility is.
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Post by mothafuckinteatime on Jan 22, 2021 9:33:05 GMT -6
Your love of Wuthering Heights is so unexpected and I absolutely love it. I vaguely remember the plot from high school lit and remember it being fine but just kind of standard English class stuff. Encountering a WH fan girl in the wild is so, so endearing. I have really reflected on this and I think for me it's that more than anything Heathcliff wanted to be loved. He then finds love with Mr. Earnshaw and Cathy. He feels the love from them and he loves them back. Mr. Earnshaw then dies and Cathy later deems him to lowly for her love.
I guess I find it all rather relatable.
It is very dark and I can see why so many do not like it.
Truthfully, your love of it makes me want to reread the book. I think I would appreciate it more as an adult, especially with estranged relationships with my parents.
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Post by STP on Jan 22, 2021 9:33:38 GMT -6
So tell yourself H you’re ordering the new piece you agreed on and saved for. I already said I would have just had a conversation and bought the new ones. Good. That’s the adult approach. We were of course talking about the OP, who did not?
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Post by sweptaway on Jan 22, 2021 9:33:38 GMT -6
Our dining table was picked from the curb a few blocks over last year. The chairs are from marketplace. It's not what I would have picked new but it's in good shape, solid wood. For $50 total it is light years better than what we had before.
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Post by sarahandben108 on Jan 22, 2021 9:34:40 GMT -6
Please share when you figure it out. But also which one? I’ve been slacking off on my briefings. When the reporter asked after the Pisquatiquis county meeting where they said masks cause respiratory illness. Shah deep sighed, held back an eye roll, stared right into the camera, “every word in that sentence you just uttered is completely false.” Om my god. I actually think I have seen this made already. I feel like someone posted it under the Pisquatiquis County Commissioners Facebook page.. I'm going to need to go look.
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