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Post by tgrimes on Jul 14, 2017 10:31:19 GMT -6
wedding that sounds like the place I worked before I had H. It was awful working with 3 people who are hostile to you all the time. One of the girls I worked with would complain to my supervisor about me, I think she was trying to get me fired. That's why I got a different job after mat leave. tgrimes what time is H's appt? Can you stop home and grab your phone before going back to work? Yes. My house is just down the street from the church. His appt is at 3:30. But....I'll be leaving work at 1 to run errands...don't tell my boss.
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Post by peachsmama on Jul 14, 2017 10:32:18 GMT -6
tallb call your Dr and get some hydrocortisone suppositories. Gross to put something up there but highly/quickly effective. Godspeed. Those things are a god send. I horde them when I have to get a script.
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Post by peachsmama on Jul 14, 2017 10:34:32 GMT -6
I've been on the phone all morning and have about 20 calls left to make of the 73 I had. I'm going to take my lunch though and run some errands. About half I left voice mails and will come back to tons on Tuesday.
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Post by wedding on Jul 14, 2017 10:35:30 GMT -6
tallb call your Dr and get some hydrocortisone suppositories. Gross to put something up there but highly/quickly effective. Godspeed. Those things are a god send. I horde them when I have to get a script. Me too. tallb if you're too embarrassed I can bring some Sunday Not creepy at all!
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Post by slenle on Jul 14, 2017 10:37:10 GMT -6
Happy Friday
N has been super clingy and shy lately at drop offs and this week with swimming lessons. Maybe I'm being too hard on her, but it is so frustrating because I feel she is just doing it for the attention. Some days she almost has a smirk on her face when she is whining for me not to go.
So Tuesday I started a sticker chart and if she get's 10 stickers by the end of the month she can pick out any toy she wants. She got her sticker Tuesday for happily going in the pool at swimming and doing good at daycare dropoff. She hasn't gotten a sticker since. We talk about it in the car on the way and she says shes going to do it, but then doesn't. And she usually doesn't act this way for DH, just me. Her teacher says she is fine 2 seconds after I leave. I don't know what else to do. I'm thinking of taking her to the store to pick out the toy she will want to use that as more motivation.
Am I being too hard on her?
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Post by tallb on Jul 14, 2017 10:39:32 GMT -6
Those things are a god send. I horde them when I have to get a script. Me too. tallb if you're too embarrassed I can bring some Sunday Not creepy at all! Lol please let this be gone by Sunday! I don't have a PCP, but I could call my ob I guess.
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Post by tgrimes on Jul 14, 2017 10:41:04 GMT -6
Happy Friday N has been super clingy and shy lately at drop offs and this week with swimming lessons. Maybe I'm being too hard on her, but it is so frustrating because I feel she is just doing it for the attention. Some days she almost has a smirk on her face when she is whining for me not to go. So Tuesday I started a sticker chart and if she get's 10 stickers by the end of the month she can pick out any toy she wants. She got her sticker Tuesday for happily going in the pool at swimming and doing good at daycare dropoff. She hasn't gotten a sticker since. We talk about it in the car on the way and she says shes going to do it, but then doesn't. And she usually doesn't act this way for DH, just me. Her teacher says she is fine 2 seconds after I leave. I don't know what else to do. I'm thinking of taking her to the store to pick out the toy she will want to use that as more motivation. Am I being too hard on her? I don't think you're being too hard on her. They're smart and know exactly what they're doing.
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Post by yummeecookee on Jul 14, 2017 10:44:59 GMT -6
Those things are a god send. I horde them when I have to get a script. Me too. tallb if you're too embarrassed I can bring some Sunday Not creepy at all! OMG I am dying at the thought of you 2 passing suppositories around
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Post by csho on Jul 14, 2017 10:47:48 GMT -6
Happy Friday N has been super clingy and shy lately at drop offs and this week with swimming lessons. Maybe I'm being too hard on her, but it is so frustrating because I feel she is just doing it for the attention. Some days she almost has a smirk on her face when she is whining for me not to go. So Tuesday I started a sticker chart and if she get's 10 stickers by the end of the month she can pick out any toy she wants. She got her sticker Tuesday for happily going in the pool at swimming and doing good at daycare dropoff. She hasn't gotten a sticker since. We talk about it in the car on the way and she says shes going to do it, but then doesn't. And she usually doesn't act this way for DH, just me. Her teacher says she is fine 2 seconds after I leave. I don't know what else to do. I'm thinking of taking her to the store to pick out the toy she will want to use that as more motivation. Am I being too hard on her? I don't think you're being too hard on her. They're smart and know exactly what they're doing. Agree. V is the master. His SLP went to work with him at daycare for the first time today. She just called me to let me know V pretends he can't talk much, and today his teachers found out his can speak in full 5-7 word sentences. Surprise!
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Post by flamingo on Jul 14, 2017 10:47:57 GMT -6
So this is something. My sister and BIL are coming in this weekend for a wedding, and so BIL can interview with an OBGYN practice here, which just so happens to be where I go.
I have an appt Monday to have an IUD placed. Just compared notes with my sister and the doctor I see (who is one of the partners) will be in on the interview not 3 hours after seeing me.
It's going to take everything I have not to blurt out something awkward, or be like, "vote for [BIL]!"
:don't be a weirdo, flamingo, don't be a weirdo:
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Post by yummeecookee on Jul 14, 2017 10:48:50 GMT -6
Happy Friday N has been super clingy and shy lately at drop offs and this week with swimming lessons. Maybe I'm being too hard on her, but it is so frustrating because I feel she is just doing it for the attention. Some days she almost has a smirk on her face when she is whining for me not to go. So Tuesday I started a sticker chart and if she get's 10 stickers by the end of the month she can pick out any toy she wants. She got her sticker Tuesday for happily going in the pool at swimming and doing good at daycare dropoff. She hasn't gotten a sticker since. We talk about it in the car on the way and she says shes going to do it, but then doesn't. And she usually doesn't act this way for DH, just me. Her teacher says she is fine 2 seconds after I leave. I don't know what else to do. I'm thinking of taking her to the store to pick out the toy she will want to use that as more motivation. Am I being too hard on her? I have a rewards chart for B. She has to get 20 stars in a week (out of a possible 28). I dont know if that was too hard - I was trying to be realistic and even had some "easy" goals on there that I thought would be gimme stars. It took her 3 weeks to get to that first 20. I am sticking with it. I really want to see some improvement on her part. And like you said, I also think she act out more w me than mh or school.
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jul 14, 2017 10:51:41 GMT -6
H just walked out of her room wearing her white winter fairy costume that MIL gave her and informed me she's getting married. I'm not sure to whom but I guess I get to be a MIL 😂
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Post by trtlcrzy on Jul 14, 2017 10:55:26 GMT -6
Happy Friday N has been super clingy and shy lately at drop offs and this week with swimming lessons. Maybe I'm being too hard on her, but it is so frustrating because I feel she is just doing it for the attention. Some days she almost has a smirk on her face when she is whining for me not to go. So Tuesday I started a sticker chart and if she get's 10 stickers by the end of the month she can pick out any toy she wants. She got her sticker Tuesday for happily going in the pool at swimming and doing good at daycare dropoff. She hasn't gotten a sticker since. We talk about it in the car on the way and she says shes going to do it, but then doesn't. And she usually doesn't act this way for DH, just me. Her teacher says she is fine 2 seconds after I leave. I don't know what else to do. I'm thinking of taking her to the store to pick out the toy she will want to use that as more motivation. Am I being too hard on her? She is playing you like a fiddle. I would not play into her dramatics and hopefully it'll improve.
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Post by csho on Jul 14, 2017 10:56:55 GMT -6
H just walked out of her room wearing her white winter fairy costume that MIL gave her and informed me she's getting married. I'm not sure to whom but I guess I get to be a MIL 😂 I guess congratulations are in order!
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Post by cagoldi on Jul 14, 2017 10:57:28 GMT -6
Happy Friday N has been super clingy and shy lately at drop offs and this week with swimming lessons. Maybe I'm being too hard on her, but it is so frustrating because I feel she is just doing it for the attention. Some days she almost has a smirk on her face when she is whining for me not to go. So Tuesday I started a sticker chart and if she get's 10 stickers by the end of the month she can pick out any toy she wants. She got her sticker Tuesday for happily going in the pool at swimming and doing good at daycare dropoff. She hasn't gotten a sticker since. We talk about it in the car on the way and she says shes going to do it, but then doesn't. And she usually doesn't act this way for DH, just me. Her teacher says she is fine 2 seconds after I leave. I don't know what else to do. I'm thinking of taking her to the store to pick out the toy she will want to use that as more motivation. Am I being too hard on her? You know her better than we do, but for Dude this wouldn't work. If he stalls and clings it's because he genuinely needs a little more connection during the day. My guess is that if that is the case for her, the chart wouldn't be much help. If the chart does work, then you're going to have your answer. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by cagoldi on Jul 14, 2017 11:04:30 GMT -6
My BFF is visiting from FL so we're going out to dinner tonight. I'm more excited than I should be. We have no plans this weekend so maybe I'll try to do some batch cooking and take the kids to the museum. Not sure yet. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Have fun!! What museum are you thinking about? Maybe the Cube in Santa Ana. We have to renew our membership. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by slenle on Jul 14, 2017 11:13:21 GMT -6
Happy Friday N has been super clingy and shy lately at drop offs and this week with swimming lessons. Maybe I'm being too hard on her, but it is so frustrating because I feel she is just doing it for the attention. Some days she almost has a smirk on her face when she is whining for me not to go. So Tuesday I started a sticker chart and if she get's 10 stickers by the end of the month she can pick out any toy she wants. She got her sticker Tuesday for happily going in the pool at swimming and doing good at daycare dropoff. She hasn't gotten a sticker since. We talk about it in the car on the way and she says shes going to do it, but then doesn't. And she usually doesn't act this way for DH, just me. Her teacher says she is fine 2 seconds after I leave. I don't know what else to do. I'm thinking of taking her to the store to pick out the toy she will want to use that as more motivation. Am I being too hard on her? You know her better than we do, but for Dude this wouldn't work. If he stalls and clings it's because he genuinely needs a little more connection during the day. My guess is that if that is the case for her, the chart wouldn't be much help. If the chart does work, then you're going to have your answer. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Right. Which has me starting to think she isn't playing me since it's been 3 days without getting a sticker. And now I feel like a jerk being like "no sticker today. suck it up. you're fine. bye" because I thought she just doing it for attention. I don't think any amount of extra hugs and kisses will make her happy so I don't know what to do next. She has such a complex, confusing personality... I can't figure the girl out. lol.
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Post by wineallthetime on Jul 14, 2017 11:29:20 GMT -6
Haaaaapppy Friday! I'm getting through the day and then eating all the food and drinking all the drink before I start a pretty intense 6 week workout/diet challenge at my gym on Monday. What's the workout/diet plan? It's a boot camp gym so those classes are the workouts. The diet is basically low carb, high protein, healthy fats and nothing delicious haha.
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Post by cagoldi on Jul 14, 2017 11:33:48 GMT -6
You know her better than we do, but for Dude this wouldn't work. If he stalls and clings it's because he genuinely needs a little more connection during the day. My guess is that if that is the case for her, the chart wouldn't be much help. If the chart does work, then you're going to have your answer. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Right. Which has me starting to think she isn't playing me since it's been 3 days without getting a sticker. And now I feel like a jerk being like "no sticker today. suck it up. you're fine. bye" because I thought she just doing it for attention. I don't think any amount of extra hugs and kisses will make her happy so I don't know what to do next. She has such a complex, confusing personality... I can't figure the girl out. lol. I know it's not appealing, but our mornings go more smoothly if I wake Dude about 5 minutes early and pet his hair, offer snuggles, play cars for a couple minutes. If you can't do it in the morning, maybe try to linger a little more at bedtime. Dude was genuinely upset about going to school because a boy has "been taking toys right out of his hands." It took about a week of me spending more time with him and asking a few times a day if there is anything he wants to talk about before he finally wanted to discuss it. Maybe the currency isn't working? What if you told her that if she cooperates for drop-off today, she gets an extra book at bedtime? If she cooperates all week, she gets a special mom date for ice-cream? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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Post by tallb on Jul 14, 2017 11:33:56 GMT -6
So this is something. My sister and BIL are coming in this weekend for a wedding, and so BIL can interview with an OBGYN practice here, which just so happens to be where I go. I have an appt Monday to have an IUD placed. Just compared notes with my sister and the doctor I see (who is one of the partners) will be in on the interview not 3 hours after seeing me. It's going to take everything I have not to blurt out something awkward, or be like, "vote for [BIL]!" :don't be a weirdo, flamingo, don't be a weirdo: Lol it is all about who you know...granted are you a favorite patient? That could be a deciding factor;)(I'm sure you are!)
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Post by wineallthetime on Jul 14, 2017 11:42:24 GMT -6
wedding, I'm sorry about the bitches. @klongoria, why paint the house at all if it's going to be demoed?
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Post by klong11 on Jul 14, 2017 11:43:39 GMT -6
wineallthetime, I don't know for a fact it will be demoed. It all depends on who ends up buying it and what they choose. It was just speculation.
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Post by wineallthetime on Jul 14, 2017 11:44:34 GMT -6
wineallthetime , I don't know for a fact it will be demoed. It all depends on who ends up buying it and what they choose. It was just speculation. Goooootcha.
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Post by klong11 on Jul 14, 2017 11:56:04 GMT -6
wineallthetime , I don't know for a fact it will be demoed. It all depends on who ends up buying it and what they choose. It was just speculation. Goooootcha.
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Post by tgrimes on Jul 14, 2017 11:57:22 GMT -6
Of course one of my mayors calls my cell phone today when I don't have it. Because of course he does.
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Post by guster on Jul 14, 2017 12:27:51 GMT -6
Happy Friday N has been super clingy and shy lately at drop offs and this week with swimming lessons. Maybe I'm being too hard on her, but it is so frustrating because I feel she is just doing it for the attention. Some days she almost has a smirk on her face when she is whining for me not to go. So Tuesday I started a sticker chart and if she get's 10 stickers by the end of the month she can pick out any toy she wants. She got her sticker Tuesday for happily going in the pool at swimming and doing good at daycare dropoff. She hasn't gotten a sticker since. We talk about it in the car on the way and she says shes going to do it, but then doesn't. And she usually doesn't act this way for DH, just me. Her teacher says she is fine 2 seconds after I leave. I don't know what else to do. I'm thinking of taking her to the store to pick out the toy she will want to use that as more motivation. Am I being too hard on her? You know her better than we do, but for Dude this wouldn't work. If he stalls and clings it's because he genuinely needs a little more connection during the day. My guess is that if that is the case for her, the chart wouldn't be much help. If the chart does work, then you're going to have your answer. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk This is also the case with Josie. Either way, I hope the drop offs improve.
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Post by kim22 on Jul 14, 2017 12:29:39 GMT -6
wedding I'm sorry you have to put up with those women. melaniesue I hope your search is going well. flamingo is your BIL an OB/GYN? My friend that is moving to where you are leaving heads down tomorrow. They were kind enough to gift us their snowblower since they won't have a use for it. They are going to try to meet us in Disney next month. Cher hope your offer gets accepted. Spent the past few hours at Chuck E Cheese with friends. I have so much food at home and didn't really cook all week so I need to get motivated to make dinner tonight.
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Post by klong11 on Jul 14, 2017 12:30:19 GMT -6
peachsmama I'm so happy to see the hippo family back together at the Cincinnati zoo!
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Post by guster on Jul 14, 2017 12:30:46 GMT -6
I'm re-organizing a china cabinet, and in the bottom cabinets, I have my mom's wedding china. I don't know what to do with it. I like it, but I won't use it because we have our own fancy china, but I feel heartless getting rid of it.
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Post by jewels on Jul 14, 2017 12:35:10 GMT -6
guster- is it in good shape? Would you save it for one of your kids? MH mom passed away when he was a kid and his dad remarried. Their China was sitting in storage. He gifted it to us so we didn't register for any when we got married. It's not what I would have picked out myself, but it's nice enough, and I like the connection that it was his mom's. Just a thought
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