Afraid of outing myself

[longhornwino]

So we were all scheduled to leave for a trip to Costa Rica tomorrow, but since finding out that I'm pregnant, we've decided to change our plans because of Zika concerns. The friends we were going with are still going, obviously. But MH and I are now just taking a long weekend in NYC instead.

The problem is, I've told a number of people about the Costa Rica trip. So changing and going to NYC now could out me. I'm also way too active on social media to get away with just not posting pictures.

My mom told family that we just weren't comfortable leaving the country when our LO is still this young (she's almost 10 months). I think that's plausible, especially if I also mention a lack of cell coverage or something. I have diagnosed anxiety, so I can blame it on that. Will that sound like bs, though? I'm particularly worried about outing myself to a friend who has been struggling with IF for years. She and her husband just got some great news about moving forward with their treatment, but she's not ready to hear that I'm *surprise!* pregnant, and especially that I'm pregnant naturally.

Anyone have any thoughts?

[polson]

i have heard several people say how they aren't comfortable leaving the country when they have small kids...i think it's believable/legit excuse. i think the less you defend or explain your decision the less suspicious it is

[longhornwino]

Jul 13, 2017 7:24:58 GMT -6 polson said:

i have heard several people say how they aren't comfortable leaving the country when they have small kids...i think it's believable/legit excuse. i think the less you defend or explain your decision the less suspicious it is

I agree. And MH thinks that if we're just very up-front about it instead of sneakily starting to post from NYC without any explanation, people will just leave it at whatever our explanation is.

[alwayscheese]

Jul 13, 2017 7:30:27 GMT -6 longhornwino said:

Jul 13, 2017 7:24:58 GMT -6 polson said:

i have heard several people say how they aren't comfortable leaving the country when they have small kids...i think it's believable/legit excuse. i think the less you defend or explain your decision the less suspicious it is

I agree. And MH thinks that if we're just very up-front about it instead of sneakily starting to post from NYC without any explanation, people will just leave it at whatever our explanation is.

Ya I don't think it sounds suspicious, so you're probably fine.

My 2 BFFs that live here are both pregnant and it's a constant shut my mouth deal to keep from agreeing with something they say.

[sweetc129]

I agree, totally play up the worried about your baby...because well you are they just don't have to know which baby. You can be all "I know I'm overreacting, but I realized after we planned that my anxiety was getting the best of me about traveling with DD"

[nuggetrn]

I agree with PP. I think that if you frame it in the ways that you mentioned no one is going to bat an eye or do any thinking that you might be pregnant. I highly doubt that would be a thought in their minds.

[longhornwino]

Jul 13, 2017 12:32:18 GMT -6 nuggetrn said:

I agree with PP. I think that if you frame it in the ways that you mentioned no one is going to bat an eye or do any thinking that you might be pregnant. I highly doubt that would be a thought in their minds.

My FIL suggested we just say we decided not to go to a Zika hotspot. Like that wouldn't have been a huge red flag 🙄

[elsiemae]

I think your reason is completely believable. If someone were to post it on my Facebook, I wouldn't even question it

[nuggetrn]

Jul 14, 2017 9:05:05 GMT -6 longhornwino said:

Jul 13, 2017 12:32:18 GMT -6 nuggetrn said:

I agree with PP. I think that if you frame it in the ways that you mentioned no one is going to bat an eye or do any thinking that you might be pregnant. I highly doubt that would be a thought in their minds.

My FIL suggested we just say we decided not to go to a Zika hotspot. Like that wouldn't have been a huge red flag 🙄

Right?!? So helpful, lol!