School stuff

[grumpycakes]

Aug 27, 2020 17:31:50 GMT -6 milano said:

tj grumpycakes Thank you. Yes, information overload for sure. I am definitely making a visual schedule for him to follow each day which will help, he can check things off as he goes. He did get excited about the Kindergarten workbook thing I picked up for him to do so I think maybe he is just not used to the computer and is more comfortable with papers, like he did in preschool. Once he gets the hang of the computer stuff it will probably be smoother. DEEP BREATHS, MILANO.

I printed and scanned a ton of assignments at first this spring, while E was getting the hang of the computer. It was time consuming, but not nearly as time consuming as babysitting him through every assignment on the computer. 100% made the transition easier.

[tj]

Aug 27, 2020 17:29:45 GMT -6 grumpycakes said:

Karen, did you just call me Nikkipal in your post to Milano? Lol.

Lolno. When I had the same break down a few days ago, nikkipal said not to be trite but it’ll get better.

I tore into her bc I’m an asshole and a pessimist and was like my-unh, not here, not my family, not me.

[nikkipal]

Well I mentioned this might happen. Yesterday we were told that they found new office spaces, and today I was told I need to be back onsite TOMORROW. Again, 1-5 with WFH in the morning. It’s fine, it will be fine. J will have to step up some more, and better (this morning he said, specials don’t have assignments, right? *sometimes they do). I will get to be better at my job and see people and get a break from being home all the time. I will settle into a new routine and it will be fine. I keep telling myself that I have it so much better than some people. I only have one kid, and it’s a two parent household, and my job is making some accommodations for me. But it’s seriously hard right now, and going back in to work tomorrow when I was told it would be October sucks.

[mapleme]

I want to just put it out there for everyone struggling with this whole shitshow. You (and all parents) are not to blame in any of this. The lack of support for families in this country is staggeringly cruel. And then we are told that our failure to succeed at the impossible is our fault for not trying hard enough or having a pretty enough org chart or because we're just not good enough. We are not failing our children. Our government and our lack of social supports are failing our children.

Just surviving this year is enough. All the choices that you make that get you and your kids to the next day are the right choices.

[tj]

Hugs Nikki. Another other word on his job?

[stringy]

I saw a good meme that reminded us all not to set 2019 goals for 2020. Let’s just get through it alive.

[charlotte]

Amen to both mapleme and stringy.

I was up all night last night worrying about this school stuff and all the ways in which I feel like I’m failing my child.

But I know both of you are right. We can only do what we can do with the situation we have been given.

[stringy]

I mean I was in tears this morning about choosing a class for P (see also PMS and feeling shitty). So it’s not like I heed my own wisdom.

[milano]

The fact that we are all stressed and worrying about this means that we are good parents and we care. Our kids will be fine, we will all be fine. Eventually.

I poured wine. Wine always helps.

[pbandj714]

nikkipal, one day notice?? Geeez.

I'm sorry everyone. This all sucks so bad. But milano is right. You're all good parents and you'll get through this. Eventually.

[nikkipal]

tj, he thinks he’ll find out at a meeting he has this morning.

[tj]

Aug 28, 2020 7:11:31 GMT -6 nikkipal said:

tj, he thinks he’ll find out at a meeting he has this morning.

🤞🏻Thinking of you.

[nikkipal]

Aug 28, 2020 8:07:09 GMT -6 tj said:

Aug 28, 2020 7:11:31 GMT -6 nikkipal said:

tj, he thinks he’ll find out at a meeting he has this morning.

🤞🏻Thinking of you.

Meeting went well! He didn’t lose his job. He’s saying “for now,” and I know anything can happen, but for now I’m breathing a huge sigh of relief and I’m excited for the coming weekend.

[pbandj714]

That's such good news nikkipal!

[mc13]

We had R’s kindergarten meet and greet. There’s only 5 kids in her entire class. This makes me feel so good that we chose to go in person. It’s only 2 days a week in person, but I think she’ll be safe and happy.

[tj]

nikkipal

[stringy]

Aug 28, 2020 9:15:28 GMT -6 mc13 said:

We had R’s kindergarten meet and greet. There’s only 5 kids in her entire class. This makes me feel so good that we chose to go in person. It’s only 2 days a week in person, but I think she’ll be safe and happy.

This is one of those silvery linings. P's class is 10 kids and not everyone goes all day every day, so most of the time fewer than that. In a normal year it would be 15-18. Thats a big difference, and still 2 teachers.

Same with elem school, I feel like the same will get learned with 10 kids to a class for 2 days that with 20+ for many days...

[ovenrack]

I need a silvery lining. I’m looking. I’m looking.

[violajack]

We're going into our third year of homeschooling and it's a fight to drag my kids through their work some days here too. But I feel like I have no relevant advice to offer because I have a lot more flexibility. Does it even help for me to say it's a struggle here too, and there are many times I wish I could just send my kids away? Because it is, and I do.

[sarenu]

Okay, Spanish for C is like herding cats. His English teacher is much more active and keeps them moving quickly. Which I'm so thankful for in the afternoon.

Bonus he just did an activity mostly by himself.

I'm waiting for this to fall apart in a week where I need to sit over him and make sure he mutes constantly. He likes to be the funny guy in class....

We had a win today when he counted by 10s without help. This is the kid that didnt know 1-25 last fall when we started this mess.

[charlotte]

Hello. I’m here for validation, I guess.

I’ve been agonizing all week. I felt decent about sending DS1(5) to school in-person when I read the district’s plan.

Poof

So, fuck that. I guess we are homeschooling this year... I can’t send him when there are NO precautions being taken. I am so incredibly stressed about how I will also work whole schooling him. And I feel terribly guilty because DS1 wants to go to school & I essentially jerked him around and got him excited to start K and then took it away.

[mapleme]

Aug 29, 2020 9:16:47 GMT -6 charlotte said:

Hello. I’m here for validation, I guess.

*snip*

That super sucks about the school not taking proper, even minimal precautions. Whatever choice is the closest to making you comfortable is the right choice.

[tj]

Damn it charlotte. I’m so sorry.

[sarenu]

If that was what our district was doing I would be looking for an alternative very quickly.

[nikkipal]

I’m sorry charlotte, that situation sucks.

[snowmoon]

I’m so sorry charlotte. This is what is happening in our district as well.

[stringy]

charlotte, no way I'd be sending my kids if that were the setup (unless you are in the boonies of montana or something, which you aren't). Do you have a remote option or are you having to fully homeschool yourself?

[charlotte]

stringy we have an all-virtual option, but it requires a lot of coached computer time for synchronous “class”. I am planning to just withdraw him and do full homeschooling this year.

[milano]

UGH charlotte that sucks so much. I totally get that you feel bad for having to change things up on your son but he will be ok. I can't believe that is the school's plan! At least plexiglass, geez.

[ovenrack]

OMG. That's awful, Sharlotte.

I just mis-typed that, but I have to leave it. Because what, brain? WHAT?

Hugs.