July?!

[pennylane]

Hope everyone is doing well & avoiding COVID!

We are still staying home unless absolutely necessary, but letting the kids play with the couple of neighbor kids outside. Also working on potty training, but this is week 3 and she does not care if she pees herself. Unless I tell her to go sit at regular intervals, she just pees wherever. But it has to be done if we have any hope of her going to preschool 2 days/wk in the fall.

Has anyone started thinking about what to do for upcoming 3rd birthdays? I might just pass out cupcakes to the neighbor kids. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[bsouls]

I was just thinking about making a July thread.

We moved R to a toddler bed Thursday. Her room looks like such a kid room now. She’s done really well in it and seems to like the independence.

R also pees/poops on the potty and hasn’t had an accident in weeks. She woke up three days in a row dry, but then today her diaper was wet - we are getting so close to no diapers.

T started camp at the Y this week and has been beat all week. I also found out that the Y isn’t doing preschool, because they need to use the space for a UPK program since they run pre-k in our district. I’m bummed, but I guess I’ll just get her into swim lessons when they reopen.

I’m not sure what we will do for R’s birthday. The 14th is on a Friday and I was thinking maybe we’d do something at daycare. As far as having family over... I don’t know - WNY is doing good right now but we are in phase four of reopening.

[yellowcat]

Hi everyone! I think J is almost back to normal from his surgery. He only wakea up once a night for meds instead of every 2 hours. For a while it was like having an infant again!

Not sure what we will do for his bday. Maybe take a trip to my sister's house or invite a few kids we know to a playground. Things are ok near us but as more things open I am getting nervous.

[Deleted]

Hello. I’m exhausted, Too much time with family, all siblings for me and DH came home this whole week. So we did everyone’s summer birthday and BBQ. That includes DD’s. No other parties planed. DD has been potty trained for 9 months but yesterday she peed in her underwear 4 times. She just didn’t want to stop playing with her cousins to go to the bathroom. It’s so hard on them with little socialization.

Switching DD to a twin mattress next weekend. Maybe she will sleep in it instead of coming to my room. I’ll skip the toddler bed with DS probably. Wondering if I should just get bunk beds now. Also I want a king size mattress so the 4 of us fit in my bed without me getting a backache. How did I get here?

[king26]

Jul 4, 2020 5:04:36 GMT -6 pennylane said:

Hope everyone is doing well & avoiding COVID!

We are still staying home unless absolutely necessary, but letting the kids play with the couple of neighbor kids outside. Also working on potty training, but this is week 3 and she does not care if she pees herself. Unless I tell her to go sit at regular intervals, she just pees wherever. But it has to be done if we have any hope of her going to preschool 2 days/wk in the fall.

Has anyone started thinking about what to do for upcoming 3rd birthdays? I might just pass out cupcakes to the neighbor kids. 🤷🏻‍♀️

J is the same. He doesnt care if hes wet. He consistently pees before bath and bed if we put him on the potty but otherwise dowsnt care.

[king26]

we are doing pretty well. We finally gave in and drove to my parents for a day and saw ny brother too which was nice. Mostly we are still staying home though which is tiring.

J is still in his crib and still rarely naps which stinks. Im in no hurry to put him in a bed. Hes not potty trained yet.

We hope he will be able to go to school 3 mornings a week in fall but who knows.

Hes now in a big no phase and screaming at the top of his lungs. I hate it. He wont stop until he gets a time out. I need him to be around some other kids but i dont know who .

[jt2378]

Hi Friends! Just plugging along here too. M gives zero fucks to potty train so I'm doing nothing in that regard. Hoping it just clicks eventually like D1.

king26, M is awful with the tantrums too, the screaming and carrying on if she doesn't get her way. It is completely exhausting and so much worse than my first. I hope that tames down eventually.

Other than that, we have been down our beach house in RI a couple of times and updated our phone plan so I have internet access so I can continue to work remotely down there which is nice. It is great to have a change of scenery.

We have been seeing family again for the last month or so.

[yellowcat]

Hey all sorry I have been MIA our daycare shutdown temporarily for cleaning and J still was a mess from surgery. We were supposed to go up north to my sisters last weekend but canceled because I just couldn't...

But J slept through the nighr 3 times this last week! Hoping this is a trend.

Happy birthday to those I missed hopefully things calm down soon. How can things be so crazy now when we are all still mostly stuck at home?

And for the teachers here, power to you it looks like the fall is a hotmess. My college is a shitshpw and these are supposed adults we are dealing with!

[yellowcat]

Jul 8, 2020 9:45:30 GMT -6 jt2378 said:

Hi Friends! Just plugging along here too. M gives zero fucks to potty train so I'm doing nothing in that regard. Hoping it just clicks eventually like D1.

king26, M is awful with the tantrums too, the screaming and carrying on if she doesn't get her way. It is completely exhausting and so much worse than my first. I hope that tames down eventually.

Other than that, we have been down our beach house in RI a couple of times and updated our phone plan so I have internet access so I can continue to work remotely down there which is nice. It is great to have a change of scenery.

We have been seeing family again for the last month or so.

Sorry about potty training. Some days J gives a shit but mostly no. I am hoping when he and his big sister start at the daycare center in late August he will change his ways. But the way we are going with covid we will be in another lockdown by then i am sure...

[addymac]

Hey ladies!
Same old here. I feel weird sometimes because my life hasn’t been so drastically changed by covid in the way most peoples’ has. DH and I both still go to work, our nanny still comes whenever we need her, and we aren’t near family for that to be an issue (mostly).

But work is busy. So busy. Wearing masks 24/7 was an adjustment. Freaking out about covid moms and then we take the babies isn’t fun but it hasn’t been as bad as if I worked on a real covid floor so I count my blessings.

N is a threenager. His attitude is insane lately, so is his lack of listening, and his tantrums. He’s so manipulative- he cries and comes up to you with big puppy eyes and says “mommy I’m so sad and crying”. Cool bro. I’m over it, go sit in time out. But he’s also insanely sweet and cuddly when he wants to be and so smart it blows my mind. He’s so damn tall and has lost most of his chub- I cry when I look at old pics and see my super fat baby and now see my tall lean boy. He’s not even tall and stocky, but not skinny either. I’m so sad he’s not fat anymore lol.

We’re still planning on preschool in the fall and within the last month I’ve started to question my OAD stance thanks to some stupid baby fever. Of course this comes right after I had a huge talk with DH and listed every single reason why I am OAD and he’s been struggling with the realization that we may be OAD. So I feel a bit confused. But he got pissed at me when I mentioned my baby fever and I agreed not to talk about it unless I still feel that way in like 3 months.

I am enjoying summer warmth and miss having scheduled activities for N. I am sort of grateful for the SIP because I still see my friends at work and I don’t have to drop $$$$ going to the delicious but trendy aka $$$$ restaurants with them once a month. Silver linings?

My current anti-anxiety meds seem to be working most days. Of course there’s always the “is this bc my meds aren’t good enough or is it because there’s a fucking PANDEMIC in the world?” But most days are good days. Thank goodness I or Ben DONT work on covid units.

I’ve missed you all but also I know I’ve sucked at updating here.

[Deleted]

I’m nodding along to most of your post addymac

I feel like my life hasn’t changed too much aside from seeing only a few people socially. It made me decide who is important.

DH and I are both still working. Thank goodness we both have all our jobs. But now during the week I am strictly from home. I have my babysitter always coming.

Mask required on the weekend job is an adjustment I don’t love. I use office space away from people so I’m not in a mask 18 hours.

DD was SO chubby we called her the Michelin baby. She went from 75% to 50%

DD screams and says mom I’m crying ! All the time. It’s hard not to go to an automatic “stop it!” Response. I grew up and still deal with emotionally unhealthy family. It’s ok to cry. But I love all the other emotions she describes to me. She is bright!

Same thoughts on meds. I don’t want to up mine. If the environment/crisis is making you feel worse the medication can’t fix it.

The day DS was born I thought about having a third. I banished the thought. After DH vasectomy I became sad about being done. But I know I made the right choice. We can’t afford 3 kids. I couldn’t work with3 kids. I can’t believe I made it this last year with two. It’s so fucking hard. I do not like being pregnant, or trying to get pregnant.

I’ve decided if DD doesn’t get into the head start program ( she won’t because her need areas aren’t academic ) than I’ll home school preschool years and hopefully things are better kindergarten time. When EI ends 10/15 I’ll start homeschooling. My days off are T/TH and we have sessions both days. T group is long and is like a day at preschool TH is 1:1. By October I need to have figured out a curriculum to follow. There are many free programs out there.

If my babysitter moves on I will have to quit my job during the week because my daycare closed and I’m not starting someplace new with the policy that parents aren’t allowed in the building. If it was a provider I trusted I could do it. It has always been hard to find part time daycare. It feels impossible now.

I hope gymnastics opens soon

I can’t remember all the August kids bdays, except for the ones with the same DD
Happy birthday to the early rebellious Aug babies. 3 year olds, It happened so fast.

[yellowcat]

Jul 12, 2020 19:43:58 GMT -6 addymac said:

Hey ladies!
Same old here. I feel weird sometimes because my life hasn’t been so drastically changed by covid in the way most peoples’ has. DH and I both still go to work, our nanny still comes whenever we need her, and we aren’t near family for that to be an issue (mostly).

But work is busy. So busy. Wearing masks 24/7 was an adjustment. Freaking out about covid moms and then we take the babies isn’t fun but it hasn’t been as bad as if I worked on a real covid floor so I count my blessings.

N is a threenager. His attitude is insane lately, so is his lack of listening, and his tantrums. He’s so manipulative- he cries and comes up to you with big puppy eyes and says “mommy I’m so sad and crying”. Cool bro. I’m over it, go sit in time out. But he’s also insanely sweet and cuddly when he wants to be and so smart it blows my mind. He’s so damn tall and has lost most of his chub- I cry when I look at old pics and see my super fat baby and now see my tall lean boy. He’s not even tall and stocky, but not skinny either. I’m so sad he’s not fat anymore lol.

We’re still planning on preschool in the fall and within the last month I’ve started to question my OAD stance thanks to some stupid baby fever. Of course this comes right after I had a huge talk with DH and listed every single reason why I am OAD and he’s been struggling with the realization that we may be OAD. So I feel a bit confused. But he got pissed at me when I mentioned my baby fever and I agreed not to talk about it unless I still feel that way in like 3 months.

I am enjoying summer warmth and miss having scheduled activities for N. I am sort of grateful for the SIP because I still see my friends at work and I don’t have to drop $$$$ going to the delicious but trendy aka $$$$ restaurants with them once a month. Silver linings?

My current anti-anxiety meds seem to be working most days. Of course there’s always the “is this bc my meds aren’t good enough or is it because there’s a fucking PANDEMIC in the world?” But most days are good days. Thank goodness I or Ben DONT work on covid units.

I’ve missed you all but also I know I’ve sucked at updating here.

J just has straight up fits but his 4 yearold sister accuese us of making her cry. The toddlertude is strong with her.

I was just stressing the other day because eveny 18 month is becoming a skinny kid. But we are done! addymac I never wanted kids to one random night when I was on my couch grading papers. I literally stopped and said to no one because MH lived abroad at the time that I wanted a baby. It is all so weird.

[bsouls]

R says “you’re making me mad!” or “you’re making me sad!” And, she says “I’m going to slam my door” while running to her room to slam her door. She also throws herself on her floor or bed to sob.

If anything has an R in it then she says it’s hers and anything with a T is her sisters.

And, I just got scolded for not being dressed because she wants to get to Nikki’s house (what she calls daycare).

[king26]

Jul 12, 2020 19:01:41 GMT -6 yellowcat said:

Hey all sorry I have been MIA our daycare shutdown temporarily for cleaning and J still was a mess from surgery. We were supposed to go up north to my sisters last weekend but canceled because I just couldn't...

But J slept through the nighr 3 times this last week! Hoping this is a trend.

Happy birthday to those I missed hopefully things calm down soon. How can things be so crazy now when we are all still mostly stuck at home?

And for the teachers here, power to you it looks like the fall is a hotmess. My college is a shitshpw and these are supposed adults we are dealing with!

Yay for J sleeping through the night! Thats awesome! Yes, teaching is going to be a shit show and we have no idea what we are doing yet.

[king26]

addymac sometimes i struggle with being OAD but its not like i can snap my fingers and get pregnant. I am still struggling with what to do with my one remaining embryo. Some days i just want to use it and then ill know. If it takes great if not we are for sure done. But with it still frozen there is always hope. Its hard. Plus ill be 40 in 2 weeks so im not sure i need another baby at this rate.

[king26]

im just so tired so the whole covid thing. Im tired of being home and not seeing anyone. My brother is coming to visit for my birthdat and im really excited abiut it. In 4 months my parents have been here once and weve been there ince. Thats it. At least the weather has been better so weve been walking everyday. It helps break up the day. Now they are doing a ton of construction on campus so we just go sit and watch. Im ok with it