Kind of a Poll? TFAS

[jftb]

For those who are TFAS, how long did you wait until you decided it was time? 

For those who went through IVF, did you have frozen embryos when you decided to start TFAS? If not, did that play into your decision about timing?

I don't even know if I'm asking the right questions. I'm definitely not ready for #2 right now, but my mind is constantly on overdrive thinking about timing if we decide to have another. Part of this has to do with the fact that we have no embryos, so we'd have to go through the whole process all over again (A was the only embryo out of two IVF cycles).

[mellyknu]

I'm not there yet, but we have frozen embryos when the time comes. I'm just wondering... have you thought of doing a retrieval soon even if you wait to transfer? That way they're there when you're ready for them. Or is that a bad idea?

[flaviadeluce]

We had to do a fresh cycle every time we tfas. We rushed into the first one as we wanted to cycle where our sperm was before a cross country move. It was a bfn but I want ready anyway (s1 was 8m...but I'd had to start on meds when he was about 5m). We then did our next cycle about 16m later and I was ready then. I was much happier with whatever outcome came of that when I felt ready. I'd say you sort of have to go with your gut.

[jftb]

Jul 10, 2017 8:18:09 GMT -6 mellyknu said:

I'm not there yet, but we have frozen embryos when the time comes. I'm just wondering... have you thought of doing a retrieval soon even if you wait to transfer? That way they're there when you're ready for them. Or is that a bad idea?

It has crossed my mind, but I'm not even sure where to start with the pros and cons of that. 

[danib]

We didn't do IVF so I had different factors to consider. But we started TFAS when C was 13 months old. It tooks us 4 years to get him, so we didn't want to wait too long just in case. Surprisingly enough I got pregnant right away, but unfortunately that ended in a loss. It then took another year and a half to get pregnant again.
H is 8 months old now, and we already know we will not be TFAS again for at least 15-2 years (if at all). I've had some additional health issues come up, and pregnancy is just too hard on my body (I have lots of complications + high risk) so I know I can't handle that until H is a little bigger.

[westiemom]

We decided to TFAS when our DD was 11 months. We won't do IVF for another year though.

[baymare]

We've known all along we'd like to have two. DS is 2 and a half now, and we are getting ready to do another IVF cycle, hopefully this year. If there were no other factors I might wait a little longer, but age is a factor (I am 35 and 3 years ago I was a poor responder. Also, DH is 48 now). Our chances of success go down the longer we wait. We still haven't entirely figured out the financial piece (we are OOP for IVF). It took two cycles last time, with nothing left to freeze, so we are kind of assuming it might take a couple attempts this time too. Basically, we have reached the point where if we're going to do another cycle, it's kind of now or never.

[grover]

A came pretty much 4 years to the day of when we started to TTC. I know I can't go another 4 years of trying for another. I knew I didn't want to go back on bcp (my migraines haven't occurred as much off the pill), and H would rather not do condoms. OB said she highly doubts we'll get pg on our own, and RE won't see us til 6 months of trying. So we basically started trying on our own to start the clock for the RE.


A has been STTN since 6 or 7 weeks, and I don't know that we'd be trying already if she wasn't. She's also been a super easy baby.

[ketchup]

We started TFAS when TT was a year. We had a unique circumstance in that we only had a certain number of months to try before we'd be benched for a prolonged period of time due to my H's job. Still, the decision to try then would have likely been the same regardless, because we knew we wanted two kids around 2-3 years apart, and we knew it could take time.

That said, we were successful our first treatment cycle. Our RE said that isn't uncommon, as they already have an idea of what has and has not worked for you in the past. This is non-IVF based, though.

Honestly, I would look at it from the angle of both IF being a factor and IF not being a factor; how long would you ideally want age gap wise and when would you start trying if IF wasn't a factor? I'd start there, and then adjust your timeframe accordingly. It also never hurts to shoot your RE an email and ask what they'd recommend, provided you had a good relationship with them and trust their guidance.

[mnj05]

I knew I wanted my kids two years apart (give or take) so we went in for another fresh IVF when DS1 was just over 2. Now we're going for a third and money/timing played the biggest factor. DH has a business in addition to his Mon-Fri job and he's getting ready to go full time with his business, so we wanted to go for a third before he made that leap. We have frozen embryos this time around.