athn64
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Post by athn64 on Apr 11, 2020 11:44:25 GMT -6
goldenlove, I hope you can go home soon! That sounds so stressful.
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Post by enchanted on Apr 11, 2020 11:59:45 GMT -6
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Post by enchanted on Apr 11, 2020 12:00:16 GMT -6
I know there are likes on posts that one wouldn't "like." They are there to acknowledge I see you and hear you. ❤️
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Post by flippinchica on Apr 11, 2020 12:07:42 GMT -6
Add me to the climbing toddler club. He also constantly asks "what's that?" And "Why?". It is adorable and annoying all at once. All in all we are ok though. It is a hard balance to stay informed but not get overwhelmed with everything. Oh and Ds1 keeps telling me who he wants to invite to his birthday party. I really hope by August we can have a birthday party.
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Post by blurnette989 on Apr 11, 2020 12:20:20 GMT -6
Something I've noticed is my memory has gone to shit lately. I know it's likely my brain's way of dealing with the stress, but with a family history of Alzheimer's and dementia, it makes me edgy and then I start doing memory games. You are not alone in this front. I am struggling to focus. Forget things quickly and forgetting words even. www.nytimes.com/2020/04/09/us/quarantine-mental-health-gender.html
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Post by jkjacq on Apr 11, 2020 12:33:27 GMT -6
Something I've noticed is my memory has gone to shit lately. I know it's likely my brain's way of dealing with the stress, but with a family history of Alzheimer's and dementia, it makes me edgy and then I start doing memory games. Not alone I had to go into the office last week to get mail another monitor and had to buy an adapter cord for it. Got dressed, put on a real bra and clothes and forgot actual shoes. I keep forgetting passwords that I’ve had for YEARS to my work computer It’s the rote simple tasks that keep tripping me up
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Post by dc2london on Apr 11, 2020 13:43:10 GMT -6
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Post by dc2london on Apr 11, 2020 13:48:30 GMT -6
Oh goodness goldenlove I had no idea you had all of that going on. Is there anything we can do?
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Post by jaygee on Apr 11, 2020 13:51:01 GMT -6
Oh goodness goldenlove I had no idea you had all of that going on. Is there anything we can do? This. Holding you in my thoughts goldenlove.
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Post by Dr. Cox on Apr 11, 2020 13:52:41 GMT -6
Oh, goldenlove, I cannot imagine how hard that must be. I’m sending you and your family all my love and hope that you are able to be home soon. I agree with dc2london, please let us know if we can help in any way.
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Post by lemondrop on Apr 11, 2020 13:58:41 GMT -6
Something I've noticed is my memory has gone to shit lately. I know it's likely my brain's way of dealing with the stress, but with a family history of Alzheimer's and dementia, it makes me edgy and then I start doing memory games. Oh I understand this: I’ve started getting really upset at my waning memory. I’m 34 but constantly forget simple words and phrases. It’s really freaking me out. I started playing sudoku and doing crossword puzzles at night. It’s been happening over the course of a few years, but it’s getting worse with stress/ less sleep.
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Post by lemondrop on Apr 11, 2020 13:59:49 GMT -6
goldenlove, I’m thinking of you and your family <3
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Post by AmyG on Apr 11, 2020 14:09:28 GMT -6
I know there are likes on posts that one wouldn't "like." They are there to acknowledge I see you and hear you. ❤️ I think we should change likes to say something else right now. I acknowledge you is a bit long though
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Post by coconutbacon on Apr 11, 2020 14:13:20 GMT -6
goldenlove, I’m sorry your family is going through all that. I hope you’re back at home and reunited soon.
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Post by doublestuf on Apr 11, 2020 14:13:47 GMT -6
goldenlove, so sorry lady. That is a lot in the best of times. Thinking of you.
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Post by bunnyfungo on Apr 11, 2020 19:50:14 GMT -6
TBH, I’m not doing well. At all. I’m so stressed with four kids with so many big, scary feelings lashing out. I’m sick of people thinking that because we homeschooled already that this is nothing for us. Not true. I didn’t sign up for schooling them at home in complete isolation while the world is burning. We’re all crisis schooling. I just happened to have a chance to choose the curriculum myself 6 months ago. DH is still going to work, so I have no help at home and nobody to talk to. Ever. I spend all day everyday cooking and then doing dishes. Do you have any idea how many dishes a family of 6 makes in a day 😩 I’m just....tired. So, yeah. Not great.
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Post by athn64 on Apr 11, 2020 20:30:43 GMT -6
I'm sorry bunnyfungo. I got so mad at the SAHM and homeschool memes early on about "now you'll never question what we do all day again" because, yes I stay and work at home, but no this is not my normal routine. We GO places and DO things just like everyone else. This is very isolating, and even video chats and phone calls only help so much. I'd totally video chat with you some evening if you wanted though. Just to get some adult conversation that's not MH.
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Post by bunnyfungo on Apr 11, 2020 20:41:45 GMT -6
I'm sorry bunnyfungo. I got so mad at the SAHM and homeschool memes early on about "now you'll never question what we do all day again" because, yes I stay and work at home, but no this is not my normal routine. We GO places and DO things just like everyone else. This is very isolating, and even video chats and phone calls only help so much. I'd totally video chat with you some evening if you wanted though. Just to get some adult conversation that's not MH. I’d like that. I was sad I didn’t get to join the Politics zoom. I think that’s more my speed than the GD one. But DH has been closing every single night because that’s the shift that people are calling off of so I need to find the one day he’ll be home and hope that works for other people lol.
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Post by oreobitsy on Apr 11, 2020 20:51:10 GMT -6
bunnyfungo I'm sorry. You have a lot on your plate right now. I feel you on the dishes, it's nonstop here too. I'm always up later it seems. If video doesn't work some nights, feel free to send me a PM to chat or we can do a thread of just mindless adult talk.
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Post by blurnette989 on Apr 11, 2020 23:16:05 GMT -6
Also if anyone wants to use my zoom I'm happy to share. I can make you the host and just give you the link to share. This is if you'd like to chat for more than 40 mins.
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Post by lemondrop on Apr 12, 2020 5:12:56 GMT -6
Man, I’m really feeling for everyone in here (and out there *gestures wildly*)
We all truly have our own shit to deal with, and this is so tough on everyone. My struggles might not be yours, but yours aren’t mine, and if that doesn’t really describe life.. everyone’s struggles have value. If it’s a struggle; it’s not a easy shrug and move on. It’s just so amplified and scary.
You’re all in my thoughts. <3
(And my H and I talked (and I cried) and I don’t want to beat him with a shovel anymore so it’s all good. I’ll be home for the next month, he’ll go shopping, and by the grace of whatever God is up there, we’ll all make it out of this).
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Post by byjove on Apr 12, 2020 6:26:09 GMT -6
Giant hugs everyone!
Sending hope and strength ❤️❤️❤️🌸🌸🌸🌈🌈🌈☀️☀️☀️
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Post by blurnette989 on Apr 12, 2020 6:28:33 GMT -6
MH and I had a bit of an explosion today. I've really been struggling and he apparently thought I was being selfish not trying to cover up the struggle and tbf I am usually the calm cool collected head in stressful situations. But this is just more than what we usually deal with.
I think he finally got it when he was sort of apologizing for blowing up. He said "this is hard" and I was like yeah it is hard and started sobbing in front of him. He came over and I apologized to not being able to do enough and he was like you are doing better than you think and it clicked for me. I stepped back and was like, no I am doing worse than you think. And then we hugged for like 5 minutes. I think he gets it.
This shit is hard.
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Post by Uncaripswife on Apr 12, 2020 6:50:43 GMT -6
I'm sorry bunnyfungo. I got so mad at the SAHM and homeschool memes early on about "now you'll never question what we do all day again" because, yes I stay and work at home, but no this is not my normal routine. We GO places and DO things just like everyone else. This is very isolating, and even video chats and phone calls only help so much. I'd totally video chat with you some evening if you wanted though. Just to get some adult conversation that's not MH. I’d like that. I was sad I didn’t get to join the Politics zoom. I think that’s more my speed than the GD one. But DH has been closing every single night because that’s the shift that people are calling off of so I need to find the one day he’ll be home and hope that works for other people lol. Bunny I would chat with you any day.
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Post by Ls2012 on Apr 12, 2020 9:54:45 GMT -6
Sending love and strength to everyone. ❤
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Post by Dr. Cox on Apr 12, 2020 10:35:11 GMT -6
bunnyfungo, that is a lot. I’m also a SAHM and we were gone everyday, meeting up for play dates, the children’s museum, zoo, the grocery store, etc. I feel you. I’m sorry.
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Post by oreobitsy on Apr 12, 2020 10:35:42 GMT -6
Something must have been in the air this weekend because my H and I also had a discussion. I'm feeling trapped in this monotony of childcare/school and disconnected to our families. I am jealous of our families that live in the same city and feel sad to think it will be months before my kids have that interaction. We've mostly been working as a team but chores and all those emotions put me on edge.
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Post by Minerva on Apr 12, 2020 14:44:15 GMT -6
bunnyfungo, that is a lot. I’m also a SAHM and we were gone everyday, meeting up for play dates, the children’s museum, zoo, the grocery store, etc. I feel you. I’m sorry. Yes. Even though I SAH, this is very different from our regular life. We’re usually out of the house for at least 2-3 hours a day and I usually get a couple hours to myself several days a week. I already struggle with dx’d anxiety and depression and this shit isn’t helping. I broke down on Friday and ended up telling H how badly I was struggling emotionally. He had no idea (he has the emotional capacity of a teaspoon sometimes) and it felt good to be heard.
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Post by byjove on Apr 12, 2020 16:41:50 GMT -6
It swings wildly on the spectrum from me. There are times I’m really enjoying the slow pace and just being. So thankful that we moved last fall and have more space inside and out. I have two hours back per day I’m not commuting and doing child care pick up/drop off- though that is a mixed blessing since it takes me longer to get in a work day with the kids at home. I’m getting more exercise in though! It’s so incredibly stressful trying to work, trying to educate, and parent at the same time. You guys all know it. Nothing new. Also the default for childcare since I can somewhat multitask while DH can not.
My girls are really struggling though- it’s amazing how the anxiety gets to them. We are having behavior out bursts from DD1 and both seem to be chronically tired, just like us. DH’s dad died almost a year ago and things were very bad and stressful for DH through the fall until after we settled from our move. He wasn’t sleeping and grumpy and just struggling. We had a great few months and now all the stress is back and he isn’t sleeping again. He works for a very small company and things are uncertain more than one to two months out, since they are dependent on clients paying their bills. Right now we are ok, but it seems like everything that could possibly be an issue is. I am really struggling with staying motivated for work and I have a couple of very big milestones coming up and I’m worried I’m going to blow it.
Mostly trying to not worry that my children and myself have asthma, I have an AI, DH has high blood pressure and who knows what is unexplained SCA means for him.
I really need to know what happens beyond April. With school, summer camps, life.
We’ve been through so much unreal shit together the last 8 years, I know we’ll be ok. We have this resiliency thing mostly figured out.
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Post by hawkeye2015 on Apr 12, 2020 18:50:00 GMT -6
bunnyfungo, that is a lot. I’m also a SAHM and we were gone everyday, meeting up for play dates, the children’s museum, zoo, the grocery store, etc. I feel you. I’m sorry. So much this. Not to mention, my children deserve a better teacher* than me. *That is just me. I am not passing judgment on anyone who chooses to homeschool their children. It's not for me; that's why I don't do it in non-pandemic times. +1 to this. Ds gets OT and speech and I am a very poor substitute for the trained professionals. He's already regressed so much. I really hope that we're able to safely go back by summer, he's supposed to have continued school over the summer.
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