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Post by alwayscheese on Jul 27, 2017 7:22:34 GMT -6
lol akwild ya I really wonder how some of my family will catch on to our "announcements" only a few weeks to find out
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Post by auri on Aug 1, 2017 17:17:28 GMT -6
I'm currently out of town visiting family with DD. I took DD out today and bought her a big sister shirt and took a picture of her wearing it to DH while he was at work. I also sent the picture of the test to make sure he got the message (he can be a little oblivious). I haven't told anyone else yet and I'd like to wait until our confirmation ultrasound at 8 weeks. I'm hosting a baby shower for my sister on Sunday...so we'll see if my resolve will hold firm. We are going crazy here at baby central,
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Aug 1, 2017 20:11:23 GMT -6
My mom is out of town for a bit so I'll throw DD in a "awesome sister" shirt we got at target before dinner one day next week. I had to ask DH if he could see a squinter so there's no big surprise there. He doesn't have big reactions to stuff so any thoughtful surprise announcement is a waste on him. He was REALLY excited when he saw the line though which was a hiusand times better.
My closest IRL and HIH know. I have one close coworker at work I'd like to tell - mostly bc I want one person to know in case of emergencies or if I need some one to back up my lame excuses for missing happy hour.
I think we'll wait until we're ready to tell the world (12-15 weeks maybe) before really talking to DD about it. She's just turned 2 so you never know what info she holds onto/repeats and I don't want her to blow our cover.
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Post by smilesp on Aug 1, 2017 21:21:30 GMT -6
I told my mom today. I know my work BFF is going to ask me when I see her on Friday because I've been telling her how badly I want another and that we'd started trying. I don't want to lie and I know she won't tell anyone. ETA And I'll need her to help cover for me when my coworkers ask me to go out after work! Leaf 🌱 I hadn't even thought of that!
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Post by richaroo on Aug 6, 2017 8:08:33 GMT -6
I'm going to try and keep this pregnancy a secret for a while. I'm not a fan of the attention or the questions.
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Post by sammysam on Aug 6, 2017 9:05:39 GMT -6
I'm going to try and keep this pregnancy a secret for a while. I'm not a fan of the attention or the questions. I'm the same way. I never announced my first pregnancy and just let people speculate until it was obvious. I'll do the same this time around with the exception of my family. I always tell my family because they know not to talk about it unless I bring it up.
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Post by whatsit on Aug 6, 2017 9:37:04 GMT -6
I'm going to try and keep this pregnancy a secret for a while. I'm not a fan of the attention or the questions. This is me too. Last time I didn't want to announce on Facebook (because why?). DH was the one who did and it wasnt until 20ish weeks. I hate small talk so all the questions (how are you feeling? Have you felt the baby yet?) drive me crazy.
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Post by smilesp on Aug 6, 2017 11:25:00 GMT -6
+1 to not liking repeated questions and small talk. I'm a bartender so I interact with a lot of different people. During my last pregnancy, I remember telling DH I wish I could not look pregnant because I was so sick of every single person saying something or asking a question! I was also surprised at how early people started asking if I was pregnant. I totally looked like I could have just gained some weight at that point.
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Post by polson on Aug 7, 2017 4:20:05 GMT -6
last time i kept mine a secret at work until about 25 weeks. i worked in a lab and wore a fleece jacket and lab coat everyday. my boss and one other coworker knew. i kind of enjoyed having it to myself. i had grand plans of just walking in with my bump and not saying anything just to see how long it took someone to say something, but it ended up just coming out in conversation one day. people were shocked i was that far along, but of course there was the one person who was like "i thought you were looking hip-py"🙄. i sah now, so at least i get to avoid that!
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Post by auri on Aug 7, 2017 6:44:58 GMT -6
Yesterday I hosted a baby shower for my sister. She's dues Sept 25. Of course I had some people asking me when we were going to have another one. I kinda avoided answering the question. I'm not ready to share with non family yet.
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Post by mirabelle on Aug 8, 2017 6:50:22 GMT -6
We shared with all my family this weekend, there is just so few times we are ALL together at one time and I have in-laws that get really sensitive about the way in which you tell them things so it was a timing thing. Emails, texts and phone calls do not suffice wit these people. I am glad the cat is out of the bag and now the word of mouth wildfire will spread and I can relax in my blumpy state and stretchy pants. It's kind of nice w/ the 2nd baby people care, but they don't seem to be as nosy...yet (i.e. was this planned?).
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Post by cornpop on Aug 8, 2017 7:30:01 GMT -6
So I need opinions in regards to telling my extended family. I'll be 12 weeks on 9/12 and I just got a bridal shower invite for my cousin on 9/16. I don't want to take any focus away from her on that day. I was thinking of just not saying anything until afterwards but I'm guessing I'm already going to be showing since this is the second pregnancy (and I already feel huge) and I don't want it to come out at the shower.
Would it be better to post something on FB on Monday/Tuesday to give it a few days to become NBD or should I just keep mum until afterwards and hope no one says anything?
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Post by Leaf 🌱 on Aug 8, 2017 9:03:48 GMT -6
cornpop I'd just play it by ear and do what you feel comfortable with. A 12 week bump can still be hidden if you *WANT* to hide it. I would personally hide it bc I wouldn't want to deal with a billion questions at the shower.
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Post by smilesp on Aug 8, 2017 9:20:38 GMT -6
cornpop I would wait until after the shower. If you announce it a few days before then I'm assuming the shower will be the first time you'll be seeing most of those people and they'll be all squeeeee which might take away from your cousin's day.
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Post by richaroo on Aug 8, 2017 12:23:41 GMT -6
So I need opinions in regards to telling my extended family. I'll be 12 weeks on 9/12 and I just got a bridal shower invite for my cousin on 9/16. I don't want to take any focus away from her on that day. I was thinking of just not saying anything until afterwards but I'm guessing I'm already going to be showing since this is the second pregnancy (and I already feel huge) and I don't want it to come out at the shower. Would it be better to post something on FB on Monday/Tuesday to give it a few days to become NBD or should I just keep mum until afterwards and hope no one says anything? I would wait until after. If someone asks I'd answer honestly but ask them to keep it quiet so it doesn't take away from your cousin's day.
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Post by Rama on Aug 8, 2017 13:07:10 GMT -6
So I need opinions in regards to telling my extended family. I'll be 12 weeks on 9/12 and I just got a bridal shower invite for my cousin on 9/16. I don't want to take any focus away from her on that day. I was thinking of just not saying anything until afterwards but I'm guessing I'm already going to be showing since this is the second pregnancy (and I already feel huge) and I don't want it to come out at the shower. Would it be better to post something on FB on Monday/Tuesday to give it a few days to become NBD or should I just keep mum until afterwards and hope no one says anything? If you're comfortable with it, I'd ask your cousin. Tell her that you don't want to take away from her day and ask her if she has any thoughts about it. If that's not something you'd like to do, I'd wait until after. Even if you announce beforehand, if any of those people come to the shower, they'll be all over you asking questions instead of celebrating your cousin's upcoming nuptials.
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Post by Rama on Aug 8, 2017 13:09:49 GMT -6
We told our families pretty much immediately. After suffering alone through my first loss, I promised I would never hide it again. They are wonderful and supportive, so I don't have any anxiety about letting them know exactly where we are. The unfortunate side effect is that now they all (mostly my FIL) have PGaL brain and are super cautious/worried and have a hard time getting excited. But they all wish us the best and this baby deserves every second of love it gets while it's here with us. <3
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Post by cornpop on Aug 8, 2017 13:11:04 GMT -6
So I need opinions in regards to telling my extended family. I'll be 12 weeks on 9/12 and I just got a bridal shower invite for my cousin on 9/16. I don't want to take any focus away from her on that day. I was thinking of just not saying anything until afterwards but I'm guessing I'm already going to be showing since this is the second pregnancy (and I already feel huge) and I don't want it to come out at the shower. Would it be better to post something on FB on Monday/Tuesday to give it a few days to become NBD or should I just keep mum until afterwards and hope no one says anything? If you're comfortable with it, I'd ask your cousin. Tell her that you don't want to take away from her day and ask her if she has any thoughts about it. If that's not something you'd like to do, I'd wait until after. Even if you announce beforehand, if any of those people come to the shower, they'll be all over you asking questions instead of celebrating your cousin's upcoming nuptials. I was thinking of that but I think it's a surprise so I don't want to ruin it. I guess I'll try and hide it. The shower is at a winery though so that's another wrench thrown in. The only reason I was going to do it before hand because then I figure even if people congratulate me at the shower, they'll do it when they say hi and it'll be not a big deal. Where as if they find out at the shower, it would probably be made a bigger deal of.
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Post by Rama on Aug 8, 2017 13:17:41 GMT -6
If you're comfortable with it, I'd ask your cousin. Tell her that you don't want to take away from her day and ask her if she has any thoughts about it. If that's not something you'd like to do, I'd wait until after. Even if you announce beforehand, if any of those people come to the shower, they'll be all over you asking questions instead of celebrating your cousin's upcoming nuptials. I was thinking of that but I think it's a surprise so I don't want to ruin it. I guess I'll try and hide it. The shower is at a winery though so that's another wrench thrown in. The only reason I was going to do it before hand because then I figure even if people congratulate me at the shower, they'll do it when they say hi and it'll be not a big deal. Where as if they find out at the shower, it would probably be made a bigger deal of. In my (admittedly limited) experience, people get so gushy about pregnant ladies. Hell, I just went to my husband's work BBQ last Friday and people were ALL UP IN MY BIZ when I'm approximately 13 seconds pregnant (we didn't hide the fact, but ugh). They've known for weeks already at this point. Also, if any family is there that does know, they might be overbearing (if your family is like that). My mom is constantly asking me if I'm hungry or thirsty or telling me to sit down and all sorts of things when I'm trying to function as a normal adult. Pregnancy makes people act weird. But I digress. You know your audience better than I do, so you'd probably be able to gauge their reaction better. If you think earlier would work better, then go for it! It just wouldn't work for my peeps, hehe.
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Post by ovenrack on Aug 8, 2017 18:34:35 GMT -6
I told a bunch of friends who I rarely see because we were all getting together and it's very abnormal for me to turn down a beer. Ha ha. Also, I'm so nauseated I legit can't look at certain foods without gagging. So I'm fun at parties.
I told my aunt and uncle because they visited and I turned down wine. Hah. I sense a theme...
Also my sister. That's it so far (parents are gone). My husband hasn't told his dad because he can't keep a secret until 12w.
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Post by whatsit on Aug 8, 2017 18:38:30 GMT -6
I told my little sister today. It's her birthday and I know she won't say anything. Plus she gets left out of a lot of news in my family ( who knows why? My dad thinks he tells all of us something but only tells 2 of us?). So I wanted her to be the first to know.
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Post by nuggetrn on Aug 9, 2017 16:25:59 GMT -6
We told our families pretty much immediately. After suffering alone through my first loss, I promised I would never hide it again. They are wonderful and supportive, so I don't have any anxiety about letting them know exactly where we are. The unfortunate side effect is that now they all (mostly my FIL) have PGaL brain and are super cautious/worried and have a hard time getting excited. But they all wish us the best and this baby deserves every second of love it gets while it's here with us. <3 I struggle with that so much... Families who now have PGal brain. It's painful for me to know that now instead of just being excited they are also waiting with baited breath for us to tell them if something is going wrong.
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Post by smilesp on Aug 9, 2017 20:13:02 GMT -6
One of my co-workers, who is my good friend and is the only person who knows besides my mom, just texted me that our other co-worker just took a test at work and is pregnant. And telling everyone. This bitch announced her pregnancy the week before I did last time. Our EDDs were 3 weeks apart. And here we go again. I kind of think it's funny but I'm also annoyed...maybe irrationally, maybe a little justified.
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Post by alwayscheese on Aug 10, 2017 5:10:50 GMT -6
Oh my smilesp kinda funny but I'd be a little annoyed also
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Post by auri on Aug 10, 2017 6:24:27 GMT -6
smilesp I would probably be annoyed too. I also wouldn't personally want to announce to work that I'm pregnant that early.
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Post by babybean on Aug 10, 2017 7:05:51 GMT -6
smilesp Being annoyed is definitely irrational but I suppose I get it. Her pregnancy doesn't take away from yours, just think how fun it'll be to tell your coworkers being further along. My boss and I were due 11 days apart last time, it was nice.
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Post by mrsmonogrammed on Aug 10, 2017 7:18:34 GMT -6
smilesp I'd be slightly annoyed too, but mostly for the fact that she seems a little attention whore-y. Who takes a pregnancy test in their work bathroom?!
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Post by sammysam on Aug 10, 2017 7:27:38 GMT -6
smilesp She obviously likes the attention (since she tested at work and told everyone). She doesn't know you're pregnant so she's not deliberately trying to annoy you but it is pretty funny that your timing has been so similar twice, especially if it's someone you don't particularly care for. Last time I was pregnant 6 of my coworkers were also pregnant. None of us announced it so it became just a funny situation with who was most obviously showing first and who would go off work first.
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Post by cornpop on Aug 10, 2017 7:36:48 GMT -6
smilesp I'd be slightly annoyed too, but mostly for the fact that she seems a little attention whore-y. Who takes a pregnancy test in their work bathroom?! LOL have done. When I test with FMU my tests were never dark so I would wait until later in day which was likely when I was at work. I never told anyone though and it was easy enough to hide it.
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Post by sammysam on Aug 10, 2017 7:41:58 GMT -6
smilesp I'd be slightly annoyed too, but mostly for the fact that she seems a little attention whore-y. Who takes a pregnancy test in their work bathroom?! LOL have done. When I test with FMU my tests were never dark so I would wait until later in day which was likely when I was at work. I never told anyone though and it was easy enough to hide it. I tested once at work too (when we weren't trying and I thought I was super late because I wasn't tracking) but nobody ever knew. Nobody. Well, until right now:)
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