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Post by nuggetrn on Jul 7, 2017 7:05:38 GMT -6
Ok, so we have had a bunch of intros and not much else. Lets chat!
Who have you told already? Who do you plan to tell and when? How did you tell DH? Did you do anything cute? And anything else that you would like to put into this thread.
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Post by nuggetrn on Jul 7, 2017 7:13:38 GMT -6
I told DH the night before we went for our first betas. I was getting positives at home that I was pretty certain was not the trigger (I tested it out but it never actually went away, just got much lighter then much darker). I gave him some little ninja turtle TY beanie baby type things that I had bought at the gift shop at work just because they were freaking cute. They came in handy though because then I told him the only rules were that he'd share them with the baby.
A couple of girlfriends know because they knew we were going through treatment. I told my mom And her husband and then they told his whole family. Which was not my choice and I am a teensy bit annoyed. I told her she needs to keep quiet about this to anyone else. I am not ready for the whole world to know. She did tell her best friend with my permission. I told my brother, it was perfect timing because he was home on leave from the Navy this week.
We haven't told anyone else and I am kind of holding off on telling other people til our first US/we see a heartbeat. I feel a little bad we haven't told DH's family but I just really want to wait. I also have not wanted to announce it at any sort of big family gathering because I just don't want it to be a big deal. This is definitely PGAL brain. I just don't want to make a big fuss until I feel more sure.
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Post by polson on Jul 7, 2017 8:24:38 GMT -6
i have told my mom and two friends. i did not do anything cute with dh as i was in such disbelief - i was just basically like "do you see a line?" i had some spotting/bleeding last week that lasted a day. i went in for that and they couldn't see anything on the ultrasound, which isn't a surprise since i was only 3w4d at that point. i am going for another ultrasound 8/3, so we will probably wait to see how that goes until we tell other people. i am trying to be optimistic. nuggetrn, i feel you on not wanting a fuss made about it!
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Post by alwayscheese on Jul 7, 2017 8:30:33 GMT -6
Aww nuggetrn what was his reaction? I tested after DH left for work. Told him that night before we went to bed, I had a shoebox sitting on the bed that I'd lined with wrapping paper and had card etc inside. I asked him to help me put clean sheets on the bed so he grabbed the box and opened it to see why it was there. He got this goofy grin on his face and kept saying "cool' like he does when he's impressed but trying to not act like it's a big deal. came to hug me and that goofy grin stayed around for quite a while see if I can post this picture on desktop. if not I'll fix it once tapatalk is back. I will tell my sister soon since she lives in another country and won't get to be involved much with her first niece/nephew so she will at least be the first to know stuff. Then we plan to go visit my family in New Mexico and California this summer and I want to be able to tell them in person. I will PIP the "cards" I'm going to give them whenever I get them made. We will tell my BFFs and DH's family here before we leave. And everyone else when we get back. Eta spoiler because humangous pic
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Post by alwayscheese on Jul 7, 2017 8:34:00 GMT -6
Oh also I feel some sort of way about that mug. I intentionally didn't get one that said only the best husbands because there are great husbands out there that are CLNBC. Still not sure how I feel about this version.
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Post by orangehibiscus on Jul 7, 2017 8:58:21 GMT -6
I got a super squinter, and asked H if he could see it. He couldn't. I sent pics of it to 2 friends to make sure I wasn't crazy.
I told my boss and the doc I work with because I had to (they also know about my fertility journey). In my line of work, there are things I can't do or be around while pregnant.
I told 2 other friends also. One said she bought me Mile's hard lemonade just for me to drink, and I didn't want to lie to her. The other asked how fertility treatments were going, and I didn't want to lie to her either. So far, no family members on either side know. We *might* change that after my US today, but we'll see how that goes.
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Post by polson on Jul 7, 2017 9:08:22 GMT -6
good luck today orangehibiscus, hoping for the best for you! keep us posted
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Post by elsiemae on Jul 7, 2017 9:55:13 GMT -6
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Post by nuggetrn on Jul 7, 2017 10:23:52 GMT -6
alwayscheese I can't see the picture Do you want to know how DH reacted or my brother? Lol. DH was more excited by the stuffed animals than by the actual news. His excitement grew with each beta... And I am sure he will be even more excited if/when we see the heartbeat. My brother was cute because he immediately started counting when I would be due so he could decide where he would be/if he could come home. Sadly it is looking like he may still be deployed on my EDD
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Post by alwayscheese on Jul 7, 2017 10:26:48 GMT -6
alwayscheese I can't see the picture Do you want to know how DH reacted or my brother? Lol. DH was more excited by the stuffed animals than by the actual news. His excitement grew with each beta... And I am sure he will be even more excited if/when we see the heartbeat. My brother was cute because he immediately started counting when I would be due so he could decide where he would be/if he could come home. Sadly it is looking like he may still be deployed on my EDD huh. I'll wait till tapatalk is up and then see if i can fix it. I meant YH because I read too fast and missed about your brother. Hopefully your brother will actually be able to be home.
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Post by orangehibiscus on Jul 7, 2017 10:27:54 GMT -6
Thank you so much polson and elsiemae! I had another beta this morning, and it was 869. It went up 60%, which is the minimum they want it to rise. It didn't double like it had before though. Gah, the US can't come fast enough!
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Post by elsiemae on Jul 7, 2017 11:24:09 GMT -6
So far we have told a few close friends, and that is it. I also ended up telling my mom last week. But that was when my HCG levels weren't looking good. I don't think I would have told her otherwise. It was mainly just a conversation where I was upset and venting.
I don't think I will intentionally be telling anyone else until we are in the 2nd trimester. But I'm also not sure how I am going to get past no drinking in certain social situations. I've got a book club coming up on Monday, and I always order a drink. Maybe I'll lie and say I'm on an antibiotic I can't drink on, or something like that.
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Post by alwayscheese on Jul 7, 2017 11:57:35 GMT -6
Oh! Also the day I took my test DH and I got asked if I was pregnant. I hadn't told DH yet so I was really flustered and said "maybe...." it was the chief of the FD so if I was several months pregnant he'd have reason to need to know. I told him we'd let them know and later told his gf what happened and that I probably left him confused since "I hadn't got my period yet so I didn't want to say I wasn't pregnant". It all felt really stupid and I was not impressed.
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Post by polson on Jul 7, 2017 12:03:06 GMT -6
So far we have told a few close friends, and that is it. I also ended up telling my mom last week. But that was when my HCG levels weren't looking good. I don't think I would have told her otherwise. It was mainly just a conversation where I was upset and venting. I don't think I will intentionally be telling anyone else until we are in the 2nd trimester. But I'm also not sure how I am going to get past no drinking in certain social situations. I've got a book club coming up on Monday, and I always order a drink. Maybe I'll lie and say I'm on an antibiotic I can't drink on, or something like that. i had a family wedding this weekend and just ordered tonic and limes. they didn't have soda water which actually turned out alright - my brother wanted to try my g&t to see how pine-y it was. he said "not too bad" lol. could you do something like that? if you can get away with antibiotic excuse i would go for it.
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Post by nuggetrn on Jul 7, 2017 16:33:48 GMT -6
So far we have told a few close friends, and that is it. I also ended up telling my mom last week. But that was when my HCG levels weren't looking good. I don't think I would have told her otherwise. It was mainly just a conversation where I was upset and venting. I don't think I will intentionally be telling anyone else until we are in the 2nd trimester. But I'm also not sure how I am going to get past no drinking in certain social situations. I've got a book club coming up on Monday, and I always order a drink. Maybe I'll lie and say I'm on an antibiotic I can't drink on, or something like that. i had a family wedding this weekend and just ordered tonic and limes. they didn't have soda water which actually turned out alright - my brother wanted to try my g&t to see how pine-y it was. he said "not too bad" lol. could you do something like that? if you can get away with antibiotic excuse i would go for it. Lol this makes me laugh. Did he not realize there was no alcohol in it?
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Post by polson on Jul 7, 2017 17:20:57 GMT -6
i had a family wedding this weekend and just ordered tonic and limes. they didn't have soda water which actually turned out alright - my brother wanted to try my g&t to see how pine-y it was. he said "not too bad" lol. could you do something like that? if you can get away with antibiotic excuse i would go for it. Lol this makes me laugh. Did he not realize there was no alcohol in it? i think he would have called me out on it if he could tell - he had already been drinking and isn't big on gin. i was so thankful they didn't have soda water at that moment! i can't wait to tell him that story when i finally let my whole family know.
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Post by whatsit on Jul 7, 2017 20:37:21 GMT -6
So far just H and I know. My cousin may have suspicions since I was maid of honour at her wedding last weekend. I don't normally drink anyway but I poured water for toasts... claimed it's because it was so hot in the hall. And she joked about it when I said I had ginger ale in the car. Oops.
We won't tell most people till second tri. Maybe a bit before if things look good.
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Post by babybean on Jul 8, 2017 5:42:08 GMT -6
I told DH before the stick had dried. I told my sisters and mom the next day. I haven't told my in laws because my MIL can't keep quiet and will notify everyone she possibly could before I'd be ready. I'm holding my breath until I see a heartbeat, but feel like if anything happens I'd want support and for family/friends to know, so will be a bit more liberal with sharing after my scan. I was 15 weeks before I made it public knowledge last time, I'll probably wait until then to announce from the rooftops.
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Post by elsiemae on Jul 8, 2017 8:51:10 GMT -6
So far we have told a few close friends, and that is it. I also ended up telling my mom last week. But that was when my HCG levels weren't looking good. I don't think I would have told her otherwise. It was mainly just a conversation where I was upset and venting. I don't think I will intentionally be telling anyone else until we are in the 2nd trimester. But I'm also not sure how I am going to get past no drinking in certain social situations. I've got a book club coming up on Monday, and I always order a drink. Maybe I'll lie and say I'm on an antibiotic I can't drink on, or something like that. i had a family wedding this weekend and just ordered tonic and limes. they didn't have soda water which actually turned out alright - my brother wanted to try my g&t to see how pine-y it was. he said "not too bad" lol. could you do something like that? if you can get away with antibiotic excuse i would go for it. It will be at a restaurant, so I don't think I'll be able to get away with that. But it is hilarious that your brother didn't realize that your drink was alcohol free!
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Post by akwild on Jul 8, 2017 12:08:01 GMT -6
The only person right now that knows is my husband. Although his lips have been a little a loose while he's drinking. Last time we waited for 13 weeks. This time that's right around the start of the school year again, so I kind of just want to wait for our first appointment.
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Post by sweetc129 on Jul 16, 2017 6:40:33 GMT -6
DH knows and some internet friends that I stayed in touch with from TB. I should have my beta results Monday and told DH we can start telling our parents and siblings next weekend. We will wait until after my Mat21 test around 11w (results will come around 12w) to tell anybody else, including our kids.
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Post by sammysam on Jul 19, 2017 20:44:59 GMT -6
I texted SO to let him know (he was in a meeting) and I told my parents because we're with them at the boat and I need someone else to know what's up in case something happens to me up here. With DD we only told my parents and my sister. Other people figured it out near the end when I started to show. I'm not big on sharing my personal life IRL so we probaby won't be telling anyone again...except maybe my sister. I kind of liked keeping it to myself last time. Which is funny because I LOVE hearing about other people's lives.
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Post by cornpop on Jul 20, 2017 7:02:05 GMT -6
We told my ILs yesterday by putting our daughter in a "big sister" shirt. They didn't get it. They even commented on the shirt. Turns out they thought it was a hand me down from my best friend.
We're telling my parents/brother tomorrow the same way. Hopefully that goes smoother. Although, my parents are both blind so not only do we need to put her in the shirt, we're going to try and get her to tell them what it says which probably won't work.
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Post by polson on Jul 20, 2017 8:29:38 GMT -6
We told my ILs yesterday by putting our daughter in a "big sister" shirt. They didn't get it. They even commented on the shirt. Turns out they thought it was a hand me down from my best friend. We're telling my parents/brother tomorrow the same way. Hopefully that goes smoother. Although, my parents are both blind so not only do we need to put her in the shirt, we're going to try and get her to tell them what it says which probably won't work. that's so funny! the same thing happened to my sil and bil when they put their daughter in one of those shirts. i'm planning on doing the same thing only because it makes it easier to spread the news. i dunno but for some reason i'm too shy/embarrassed to just say "i'm pregnant!". i realize how weird that makes me sound. good luck with the next go around!
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Post by snowmoon on Jul 20, 2017 12:53:44 GMT -6
I'm going to have to tell my co-workers sooner rather than later because there are certain things I can't do anymore. I think they're already suspicious though.
We're sharing a house with my parents until we can buy a house (hopefully this winter 🙏🏻) so it's really just a matter of how long I can hide it. My mom has been asking for a long time now.
Otherwise we'll tell our families at the end of the summer.
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Post by cp3 on Jul 20, 2017 16:05:51 GMT -6
I freaked out about after I got BFP and didn't tell him until 11 at night even though I tested early morning. He came to bed and I handed him the test without saying anything and he was ecstatic.
I'm only 4 weeks tomorrow but I broke down and told my co-workers today. It's a small office and I'm really close with them. I want to wait until our first appt to tell our families but it's not until 8/7 so I may break down and tell them early. I want to order a custom shirt on Etsy to announce but that won't come in for two weeks.
With DD, I told MH by putting a FRER and digital test on the dresser with a card I made and a daddy's girl bib because I had a feeling she was a girl. And we told our parents with an ultrasound framed with a poem about becoming grandparents.
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Post by mirabelle on Jul 22, 2017 15:09:50 GMT -6
I would be happy if this time around no one knew until baby arrives, I am so shy and do not like the attention and inquiries that come along with announcing. So far my husband knows and a few close friends. Waiting to tell family as long as possible, although I am so bloated already so I'm sure it will be obvious soon.
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Post by sammysam on Jul 22, 2017 17:24:15 GMT -6
mirabelle We didn't really tell anyone last time around and I loved it. I'm not into attention either so it worked well for us. And because we didn't announce it, even when it became obvious people didn't really comment because they figured I wanted to keep it private. My grade 12 students threw me a surprise baby shower at work which is probably the most attention I got during my last pregnancy.
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Post by mrsklm on Jul 24, 2017 15:47:39 GMT -6
I ended up texting DH a picture of the positive test. I had tested on Saturday and it was negative and I was really upset so I couldn't believe it when it turned on Tuesday. I tried to call him and when he didn't answer, I texted him the photo. I told my nanny since she's always around and will notice if things are crazy (I work from home) and I ended up telling my two BFFs this weekend. I wasn't drinking and one kind of called me on it indirectly. For family, I want to take a photo of my girls with the Bearenstain Bears book "Baby Makes Five". We did photos to announce both their pregnancies so I want to keep up the tradition. I haven't decided about telling my parents yet because I won't see them for a while but I'm guessing we'll tell my inlaws when we go there in vacation in 3 1/2 weeks if we have a good appointment right before we leave.
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Post by akwild on Jul 26, 2017 22:40:07 GMT -6
We told my mom today. We signed her birthday card love me, the H, DD and baby. She just closed the card and went on with dinner . So when we were leaving I made her read the card again. She had to read it like 5 times before she saw.
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