Fabulous Friday

[tgrimes]

Get out of the Thursday thread y’all.

[nam2013]

Yes ma’am!

[tgrimes]

I took a vacation day to hang out with my sister. We’re going to surprise M with lunch at her school and then the two of us will go someplace for lunch.

I need to make a run to goodwill today and clean out my car. Per my sister “this car is a pig sty.”

[mwhip]

Enjoy your day tgrimes!

I think I should have taken the day off, or need to shut my door. Everyone and everything is annoying me. So many stupid questions.

[nam2013]

tgrimes twins! I too took a vacation day to hang out with my sister . Hope you have a wonderful day.

[tgrimes]

Feb 21, 2020 8:52:58 GMT -6 nam2013 said:

tgrimes twins! I too took a vacation day to hang out with my sister . Hope you have a wonderful day.

You too!

[klong11]

I know we were talking about the book What Should Danny Do the other day. Cadence is learning about stress management in health class, to which mh responded "kids have stress?" I pointed out that just because kids don't have the same stressors as adults, doesn't mean they don't have stress at all. So, of course, fb heard me and posted an article about the best books to teach kids self-regulation. I thought some of you might be interested, so here it is. I'm def. going to be looking for some of these books.
nurtureandthriveblog.com/picture-books-teach-kids-stop-think-handle-emotions-mindful/?fbclid=IwAR3hlabM_FgmTxq7rmuf0V7RBSlHmOWJChfPyQN_z_oXge0wLicNnMT9xDU

[vino]

Have a good day with your sisters nam2013 and tgrimes!

[trtlcrzy]

Morning. I seem to have turned the corner. H didn’t have a fever at all yesterday and was begging to go to school so I let her go. She basically ran out the door without looking back, lol. S and I are hanging at home for the day. My house is a giant mess because I haven’t felt like leaving my bed/couch this week so I’m going to try to get some light cleaning done today. It’s supposed to be in the 40s for the next 3 days so I’m hoping a lot of the snow melts. I’m sick of looking at it. Only 2 more months of winter to go.

vino I wouldn’t let the rude family take away from celebrating your cousin’s family so I would still go and just ice them out.

[sing2phins]

Feb 21, 2020 8:49:35 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

I took a vacation day to hang out with my sister. We’re going to surprise M with lunch at her school and then the two of us will go someplace for lunch.

I need to make a run to goodwill today and clean out my car. Per my sister “this car is a pig sty.”

Mine, too.  It's terrible.  I try, but my kids are slobs - probably because I'm too lazy to make them clean up - and it is a neverending battle.

[nam2013]

vino ooofff that is a lot, I’m so sorry about all of that. I’m with trtlcrzy here, don’t miss something that means a lot to you. If you think it’ll mean something for your cousin to see the kids there or need your kids as a literal barrier (I’ll admit I sometimes do) bring them. Otherwise make it as easy as possible for yourself & and maybe skip the lunch and invite your cousin some other time for One were it’s just you/your family.

[sing2phins]

vino - that sounds like a nightmare to navigate. I wouldn't take the kids, but I would go myself and sit with your cousin-in-law (did I do the family tree right?) and continue to keep your dad's family at bay. I'm sorry they are treating you this way.

[vino]

Feb 21, 2020 10:43:53 GMT -6 sing2phins said:

vino - that sounds like a nightmare to navigate. I wouldn't take the kids, but I would go myself and sit with your cousin-in-law (did I do the family tree right?) and continue to keep your dad's family at bay. I'm sorry they are treating you this way.

This is what I am thinking as well.  It is a privilege to be in my kids lives and I wont have them staring, trying to talk to them etc, cause they, obviously, have no moral compass.

[lahdeedah]

Morning.

Enjoy your day with your sister! tgrimes and nam2013

vino I’m sorry about all the drama. That’s crazy that they try to speak and be all over the kids when they did such a shitty thing in your time of grief. Too little, too late.

I would plan to just attend the church service. Once you’re there, maybe reevaluate to find out who all is going to the lunch and decide if you want to make that or not then. I love a good solo lunch, so maybe treat yourself after the church service.

[jewels]

Feb 21, 2020 9:01:10 GMT -6 klong11 said:

I know we were talking about the book What Should Danny Do the other day. Cadence is learning about stress management in health class, to which mh responded "kids have stress?" I pointed out that just because kids don't have the same stressors as adults, doesn't mean they don't have stress at all. So, of course, fb heard me and posted an article about the best books to teach kids self-regulation. I thought some of you might be interested, so here it is. I'm def. going to be looking for some of these books.
nurtureandthriveblog.com/picture-books-teach-kids-stop-think-handle-emotions-mindful/?fbclid=IwAR3hlabM_FgmTxq7rmuf0V7RBSlHmOWJChfPyQN_z_oXge0wLicNnMT9xDU

these are great klong11

Similarly I got in an argument w/ MH today about school lunch.  For some reason S gets really nervous about it and MH just doesn't get it.  Last night S said he wanted to buy today and then this morning he started freaking out.  I tried to talk him into buying and it literally brought him to tears.  MH was adamantly opposed to giving in - I'm like - if it's stressing him out this much, we can throw a cheese sandwich and some carrots in a lunch bag and call it a day, it's not worth the stress.  And MH just didn't get why something so simple for us could be so stressful for a kid.

Maybe I should look into some books for him instead

[jewels]

Feb 21, 2020 10:39:33 GMT -6 sing2phins said:

Feb 21, 2020 8:49:35 GMT -6 tgrimes said:

I took a vacation day to hang out with my sister. We’re going to surprise M with lunch at her school and then the two of us will go someplace for lunch.

I need to make a run to goodwill today and clean out my car. Per my sister “this car is a pig sty.”

Mine, too.  It's terrible.  I try, but my kids are slobs - probably because I'm too lazy to make them clean up - and it is a neverending battle.

i've mentioned it before here - I can't even blame the kids.  I'm a slob in my car.  S tells me to throw my trash out daily.

[jewels]

vino, I would probably go and not bring the kids. You can always leave the lunch if it's awkward. But since you love your cousin and wife, it would suck to not be a part of the day because of those assholes.

[jewels]

Feb 21, 2020 10:45:59 GMT -6 vino said:

Feb 21, 2020 10:43:53 GMT -6 sing2phins said:

vino - that sounds like a nightmare to navigate. I wouldn't take the kids, but I would go myself and sit with your cousin-in-law (did I do the family tree right?) and continue to keep your dad's family at bay. I'm sorry they are treating you this way.

This is what I am thinking as well.  It is a privilege to be in my kids lives and I wont have them staring, trying to talk to them etc, cause they, obviously, have no moral compass.

wow @ vino.  This is a powerful line.  I like it. 

[mwhip]

vino Initially I was thinking I wouldn't go. I don't need the drama in my life. But I like lahdeedah's idea of reevaluating after you arrive. That way you can be there to show support and just leave whenever you feel like it. I'm sorry you have to deal with this bullshit.

I can't have a dirty car. My H is a tyrant about our vehicles looking nice. His car sometimes sits parked all week. He has a work truck and if the weather is bad, I don't drive his. Weeks like that, he gets it out on the weekend, drives it to the carwash, then parks it. He gives me a hard time about my Jeep being dirty sometimes. It's really close to the bottom of my priority list, with everything else I have going on.

tallb I sent you a PM.

[klong11]

Feb 21, 2020 10:51:45 GMT -6 jewels said:

Feb 21, 2020 9:01:10 GMT -6 klong11 said:

I know we were talking about the book What Should Danny Do the other day. Cadence is learning about stress management in health class, to which mh responded "kids have stress?" I pointed out that just because kids don't have the same stressors as adults, doesn't mean they don't have stress at all. So, of course, fb heard me and posted an article about the best books to teach kids self-regulation. I thought some of you might be interested, so here it is. I'm def. going to be looking for some of these books.
nurtureandthriveblog.com/picture-books-teach-kids-stop-think-handle-emotions-mindful/?fbclid=IwAR3hlabM_FgmTxq7rmuf0V7RBSlHmOWJChfPyQN_z_oXge0wLicNnMT9xDU

these are great klong11

Similarly I got in an argument w/ MH today about school lunch.  For some reason S gets really nervous about it and MH just doesn't get it.  Last night S said he wanted to buy today and then this morning he started freaking out.  I tried to talk him into buying and it literally brought him to tears.  MH was adamantly opposed to giving in - I'm like - if it's stressing him out this much, we can throw a cheese sandwich and some carrots in a lunch bag and call it a day, it's not worth the stress.  And MH just didn't get why something so simple for us could be so stressful for a kid.

Maybe I should look into some books for him instead
*stuck in the box*Is it possible that he say someone drop their tray or he has dropped his tray. I used to HATE buying my lunch. The fear of someone questioning the food I purchased or having to walk all the way to the table without dropping something. The idea of something happening and becoming the center of unwanted attention gives me crazy anxiety.

[jewels]

klong11, he told me they don't have a lot of time for lunch and when he buys he sometimes doesn't have time to finish everything. That makes sense as something that could stress a little kid out.

But somehow he'll always buy on deconstructed taco day, lol. The heart wants what the heart wants

[vino]

jewels B has had some stress around lunch as well, we had a really good talk about him focusing in the moment on why he feels stressed, then he needed to come and tell me so I can help fix it. I really explained to him that I want to help but am not there to know the actual problem so i was depending on him to be responsible and think about it. It took about a week but he finally came back and said 'Mom i figured out why I'm not eating my lunch...". I chatted with the teacher and it was fixed within a couple days.


ETA: It's been answered while writing the post.

[slenle]

Morning. I had a chiro appt this morning then we went to the children’s museum. I wanted to get a car wash after that since it’s finally above 20, but the lines were super long and L was on the verge of a meltdown. So I’ll try again another day. I don’t think I’ve washed it all winter and it’s driving me nuts.

[lahdeedah]

Feb 21, 2020 11:45:27 GMT -6 slenle said:

Morning. I had a chiro appt this morning then we went to the children’s museum. I wanted to get a car wash after that since it’s finally above 20, but the lines were super long and L was on the verge of a meltdown. So I’ll try again another day. I don’t think I’ve washed it all winter and it’s driving me nuts.

I want to go to the car wash so bad, too. It’s been raining more days than not all month, so I don’t want to spend the money if it will just be raining the next day.

Next time we have 3 or more dry days, I am putting the works on it.

[lahdeedah]

Hi!

Busy morning at work. Almost time to leave. I have to finish up the bags after I pick up M, then grab M2 so we can leave as soon as Mh is done at work. The high this weekend is just below 60, so I’m not looking forward to being outside a lot this weekend for the parades and fair.

[flamingo]

Feb 21, 2020 12:54:05 GMT -6 lahdeedah said:

Feb 21, 2020 11:45:27 GMT -6 slenle said:

Morning. I had a chiro appt this morning then we went to the children’s museum. I wanted to get a car wash after that since it’s finally above 20, but the lines were super long and L was on the verge of a meltdown. So I’ll try again another day. I don’t think I’ve washed it all winter and it’s driving me nuts.

I want to go to the car wash so bad, too. It’s been raining more days than not all month, so I don’t want to spend the money if it will just be raining the next day.

Next time we have 3 or more dry days, I am putting the works on it.

I’m here, too. I keep the interior pretty tidy (clutter-free, throw out trash etc) but the exterior is what needs help. But our weather stinks this time of year and it seems like such a waste to spend $20+ and get caught in the rain a day later! #FWP, I know.

[flamingo]

vino I’m sorry for the family drama. I’m late but agree with others I would go solo to the church, then opt in or out of the lunch depending. It’s crappy that y’all have been treated so poorly. My dad’s sister died a few years back, and her husband and their grown kids are still very much included in all family events (which is the way it should be, IMO...)

[flamingo]

Hi!

Schools and military installations were on a 2-hour delay this morning (no snow to speak of, just cold), so DH’s CO said to not bother coming in. After B left for school DH and I took C shopping for new sneakers at Dillard’s. She was bummed when we ended up having to order something and she didn’t get a bag to bring home with her 😂

I already put together a pan of lasagna for dinner so I’m going to do some tidying up and then relax for the rest of the afternoon.

[mwhip]

I just lot my shit on a Lenovo customer service person. I actually told her that their service was 'bullshit.' I did say that I know it's not her fault and she's telling me what she's being told to, but I want an answer. I got off the phone with her and emailed a contact I have from there. I also did a live chat with someone else.

I returned a laptop on 12/23 and haven't received credit to my card. On 2/2, I was told the credit would be processed in 24-48 hours. I keep asking people how they would feel if this was their credit card. And it's my company card, so it isn't effecting me personally. But damn!

and to top it off, I got a call from card services today, on this card, that I have had fraudulent charges going back to 2/4, 3 different international airlines, multiple UK shopping charges, Poshmark and Dominoes Pizza this morning. Someone has had a damn good time with my company credit card!

[vino]

Feb 21, 2020 13:12:27 GMT -6 flamingo said:

vino I’m sorry for the family drama. I’m late but agree with others I would go solo to the church, then opt in or out of the lunch depending. It’s crappy that y’all have been treated so poorly. My dad’s sister died a few years back, and her husband and their grown kids are still very much included in all family events (which is the way it should be, IMO...)

Exactly.  And this is why I'm past the anger stage of it.  I'm sad that they aren't taking the opportunity to take us under their wings and have my kids know the extended family of a grandfather they never had the chance to meet.